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Wasting Time

Lately I've been feeling like I've wasted huge chunks of time over the past few years. I'm not getting anything accomplished because I seem to have really stopped caring and feel like I've slipped permanently into slug mode.

I have a huge list of projects I want or need to do around the house, yet rather than do them I end up wasting entire afternoons on the computer or in front of the TV.

I dropped cable a while back and switched to Netflix streaming to save money, but I also thought I'd spend less time watching TV. Now I find myself binge watching TV series all the time.

Yesterday I deleted my Facebook page since that is a huge time suck. So is this place.

Any suggestions for making time more productive?

by Anonymousreply 2610/20/2013

Stop posting on DL.

by Anonymousreply 110/20/2013

Stop using all of those devices (TV, internet) at home. Once you have to pay for an internet connection you'll realise you don't use much more of it.

Start with some house cleaning, if needed.

And get started on those projects! Pick one first.

by Anonymousreply 210/20/2013

watch more porn

by Anonymousreply 310/20/2013

Go outdoors and do sports, also (run, walk, bike is already a pretty good start).

Travel some place you've never been for the weekend, spend 1 or 2 nights there, go back to yours and you'll see a bunch of things you'll want to change.

by Anonymousreply 410/20/2013

Smoke copious amounts of pot, silly!

by Anonymousreply 510/20/2013

Plus, you're lucky: if you're male, you won't be stopped by that dreadful cyclic time when you get your period. I always have lots of energy for stuff, start doing projects etc, then I get my period and everything gets held off for a week.

In my case it also gets me down and makes me super-aggressive and gives me zero patience.

Cannot wait for menopause.

Sorry guys, know you don't want to hear about this, but you have no idea what it is to have all your energy sucked out of you every 3 weeks. It is exhausting. I'm not surprised guys always get more (personal) things done.

by Anonymousreply 610/20/2013

Starting something can be the toughest. Once you do, and in a week or two when you see your accomplishments, it gets easier. Something else that may help is to give yourself a day in the week where you can sit back and enjoy a movie or some computer time.

by Anonymousreply 710/20/2013

Meth always gets me in the house cleaning mood.

by Anonymousreply 810/20/2013

Assuming you're getting enough sunlight during the day, I'd advise you to make yourself put a hold on projects and leave the house. If you're broke, it's difficult - very "Loitering With Intent". If you're not broke, it's the threesome/spiral ham/volunteer schedule you need to kickstart your activity. Actual people can't click you into oblivion - yet.

As far as projects, we all have projects that seemed wonderful at first, but became too time consuming/difficult to accomplish to justify the end result.

Be cut-throat; rate each from easiest (1) to most difficult (10). Then, rate each project from most value added by your efforts (1) to least valued (10). Average the two and donate the high numbered projects and set deadlines for the lower numbered deadlines.

I had to get rid of antiques that could be worth something if I had the skill needed. Someone else inherited those projects. I also had to paint false brick in my kitchen because the shit would not come off.

We should start an "I'm Lost On This Shit; You Take It" exchange.

by Anonymousreply 910/20/2013

I have this problem too, and it's gotten much worse since I retired. I guess I'm just a born procrastinator, and now that I have unlimited free time, it's even easier to say, "I'll do that tomorrow."

by Anonymousreply 1010/20/2013

Same here OP. I have no advice because I'm the same way. The amazing thing is, in the rare instance I do complete a minor project (ex., cleaning out the garage) I feel a great sense of accomplishment. But I've become a huge procrastinator.

by Anonymousreply 1110/20/2013

They sell all kinds of things to help you spend your way to productivity and each helps you think you're accomplishing something while reading the book or learning the app.

Like dieting, anything works if you want it to work.

by Anonymousreply 1210/20/2013

I used to work full-time and never had time for anything other than work, work work. I could barely sleep. For the past two weeks I've switched to part-time (until January) and I haven't accomplished much more so far. But I don't feel tired all the time, have the luxury to sleep late in bed, and it feels great.

by Anonymousreply 1310/20/2013

Welcome to my life OP. Or rather, I know exactly what you're talking about.

Just no desire on my part to change it.

Depression sucks, doesn't it?

by Anonymousreply 1410/20/2013

I'm not sure it is depression as much as laziness.

I'm not depressed, but I'm lazy about getting things done.

Like the OP, I spend large amounts of time on the internet and watching TV rather than accomplishing household tasks, exercising, and returning to doing watercolor paintings and learning new painting techniques.

Cooking or food preparation is another big time suck. I get so sick and tired of preparing food!

by Anonymousreply 1510/20/2013

Sometimes depression manifests itself in laziness though; I was really lazy for a while, uncharacteristically so, and I didn't realize it was really a smoldering depression that has become full-blown lately. I find that it's the loneliness that really prevents me from getting things done. If I can get a friend to come over and just keep me company, or even talk on the phone with a hands-free, I'll get things done. But when I feel really lonely I just become paralyzed on the couch in front of 70s childhood television.

by Anonymousreply 1610/20/2013

Yeah, I don't think I'm depressed either. I just can easily waste hours watching bad TV, or playing games online. Sporcle has become a major timesuck.

by Anonymousreply 1710/20/2013

Yes, lonely and lazy.

my life

by Anonymousreply 1810/20/2013

"Clinical Depression" doesn't mean you're sad and moping around crying all the time.

It means you're in a state of not caring. Apathy. Nothing matters. Why bother.

by Anonymousreply 1910/20/2013

R19 is right, all of us not doing anything are actually depressed. Perhaps we don't feel like shit all the time, but we certainly can't be feeling that great if all we can do is the equivalent of spending entire days inside a blanket (which is what TV, Internet is).

by Anonymousreply 2010/20/2013

R20, I disagree. I am not depressed, just slow to complete household tasks.

When I'm on the internet I am reading lots of different things, learning, and keeping up with current events too.

I do not have apathy and do not feel "why bother".

And TV can be educational along with being a source of entertainment.

by Anonymousreply 2110/20/2013

My need to keep up with listsicals on current events has become unsatisfying. All my internet news has become one big USA Today and it's not doing me one damn bit of good.

It occurred to me during the debt showdown that there's absolutely nothing I can do about it. Yet, I compulsively clicked from news site to news site to keep informed.

I live in a boring-ass part of the country and don't keep up with my own local news. Why did I allow myself to be pulled into this bullshit?

by Anonymousreply 2210/20/2013

It's not a "why bother" attitude for me. It's:

Would I rather spend the next half hour vacuuming, or guessing TV Show themes on Sporcle?

Would I rather re-paint the bathroom, or watch two hours of TV stored on my DVR, from what I couldn't watch all week because of work?

And I know the vacuuming and painting will get done. It will just take me a couple of additional days (or weeks) to get to it.

by Anonymousreply 2310/20/2013

I am pretty much the same R21, but it sure is different from the time when I used to draw all the time, or even from when I used to "write" (okay, I never wrote that much).

What I mean is those are all pretty passive activities, even if reading stuff on the internet or watching movies is interesting. It's still not productive. And you're not that much in control, other people produce content for you.

I stopped being too productive, going out much or interacting with people outside of workplace interactions, simply because I wasn't very good at dealing with the repercussions. I don't know what to do about the proposals I get from people, whatever they are. I don't know how to sort the good from the bad, the time-watsers from the truly inspired, and I'm not good at using people or sharing projects. Hence why I prefer to have "passive" activities. But I'm pretty sure my life would be much richer if I interacted more.

by Anonymousreply 2410/20/2013

OP, I also have this problem at various times of the year. The most helpful thing for me is to make lists of what I need to do, even the most menial of tasks. Start with one thing a day and cross it off your list. It's very satisfying and gives you a sense of accomplishment.

by Anonymousreply 2510/20/2013

Serious question to everyone posting here. How much porn do you watch and how often do you masturbate to climax? There is something called "nofap" where men abstain from jacking it and they suddenly gain all this energy and drive to accomplish things. Google it. But I want to know how much the lazy/depressed guys on here are jacking it.

by Anonymousreply 2610/20/2013
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