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Fit-fat, bearcubs, "stocky", etc...

What do you think of this body type? Not obese, not [italics]really[/italics] fat, 32-38ish waist waist, some moobage, a "gut", love handles, etc...

Are you genuinely attracted to guys like this? Or do you just settle for them? Is there an age when this body type becomes more acceptable?

Who are some famous guys with this body type?

by Anonymousreply 11310/18/2013

A 32 inch waist is considered "fit-fat"?


by Anonymousreply 110/07/2013

I like a guy who doesn't really think about his weight- sculpting his body, counting carbs, etc. I think it's unmanly and a turn-off.

I also like the feel of manflesh in my hands. Manboobs are particularly erotic to me (though a lot of guys are uncomfortable with someone playing with their tits).

And I like the fact that if a guy has some extra weight I might "have a chance" with him; no one wants a world where you're never perfect enough to get laid.

by Anonymousreply 210/07/2013

I am on the thin side of this type, and hate being this type, and dislike guys who are this type, and feel hideous and unsexy. When I find guys who are very into me physically, sometimes I am revolved by the fact.

by Anonymousreply 310/07/2013

Some husky men are very insecure about it - you can tell right away, because they are always covered up, even in warm weather.

I prefer a nice 'meaty' man, but only if he is comfortable in his skin.

by Anonymousreply 410/07/2013

Maybe you revolve because you emit a magnetic field.

by Anonymousreply 510/07/2013

I'm indifferent. Too muscular and lean is a huge turnoff to me, and indicative that said person's life likely revolves around the gym.

As you get older, OP, you'll come to appreciate personality far more than body type, even though body type is nice to look at. Give me a guy who takes care of himself (but not fanatically, with moobs or whatever), but with a sparkling personality any day over a gym rat.

by Anonymousreply 610/07/2013

Google Henning Baum. My ideal fit-fat. He has man tits, a huge ass, thick thighs. He's perfect.

by Anonymousreply 710/07/2013

I agree with R4. Some guys are very comfortable with a little extra weight and it looks incredibly sexy on them. And, they are the ones who carry it off really well.

by Anonymousreply 810/08/2013

The stocky fit fat bears are the hottest. But been to a few bear gatherings and dated some and many seem insecure. Too bad, if closes them off.

by Anonymousreply 910/08/2013

Sean Astin. Cute and sexy.

by Anonymousreply 1010/08/2013

My partner is this type, I think it's natural and warm and appealingly sexy, but - BUT - only if the man in question just carries it forward with self confidence. For me this body type, coupled with an easy self-confidence, is irresistible.

Sadly my partner is not like that these days. I am trying to get him to stop fucking moaning about "I'm fat" and associated negative self-talk. I mean, Jesus, you're 43 and have a 34 inch waist, but are otherwise athletic/fit more or less. Hardly a reason to beat yourself up psychologically.

by Anonymousreply 1110/08/2013

I am a "superchub" (which most of you would call "morbidly obese") in relationship with a bear (6'4" and 315 lbs). I think he's the hottest thing on the planet, and he finds me, in his words, "devastatingly handsome."

by Anonymousreply 1210/08/2013

Before Barney's was an upscale store, the "Husky" department was for fat boys up to their teens.

by Anonymousreply 1310/08/2013

OP here. First, sorry for my stupid formatting error.

I ask this because (of course) this is my body type. I'm in my early 40s and have had the same body type since I was a teenager: slight moobs, a gut and love handles. I have muscle tone as well (and a cute face and a great ass too), but when I first came out in my early 20s, guys my age would largely ignore me. All young gay guys seem to fit the "twink" mold and I was never a twink. I would rarely encounter young guys with my body type, and young guys never were interested in my body type. Bears (full-blown bears, not bearcubs) and old dudes always hit on me, though.

As I got older and dated more, I had better luck, but the guys I dated always seemed like they were settling for me; they liked my personality, my face, my ass and my cock, but they either ignored my soft middle section or made subtle putdowns about it. One bf told me point blank that I needed to hit the gym more. I do workout but I'm just not a gym bunny and never will be. I love good food, good drinks and naps far too much to ever have a perfect body.

When I turned 30, I met the guy who would turn out to be the love of my life. We're still together and the love is real and mutual. Of course he's built just like me. I'm blissfully happy in this relationship, but for many reasons we decided to open it up a few years ago. Neither of us was the jealous type and we both get off on the idea of having a husband who's considered hot and desirable by others. We rarely act on it though, do for the most part we're very boring and monogamous, but we both like flirting with other guys occasionally.

So I've noticed since I turned about 35, I get a LOT more attention from other guys. I get cruised more, hit on more, and flirted with more, and often it's from very attractive men with great bodies. I've even noticed 20-somethings pay a lot more attention to me. My body hasn't changed at all; if anything, it's all sagging more, but I still look "fit fat". Guys of the sort that, in my 20s, would never give me a second look are now cruising me, smiling at me, flirting at me and more.

It's so odd to me that I had to age 20 years to get this kind of attention. Is it more acceptable on older men? I've been called a "hot daddy" lately, which I'll take since at no point in my youth was I ever called a hot anything.

Anyway, just wondering. I'm shocked DL's manorexics have descended on this thread yet. R1 I'd kill for a 32 inch waist (it seems permanently stuck at 34), I only put that in for the manorexics!

by Anonymousreply 1410/08/2013

I much prefer this kind of look to the lean, six-packed "ideal." For example, football player John Matuszak as seen in Playgirl:

by Anonymousreply 1510/08/2013

R12, no offense, but the thread isn't about "superchubs" or bears. I was very specific in both the thread title and the opening post. I'm talking about guys that are, at most, 25-30 lbs overweight. Again, no offense meant.

by Anonymousreply 1610/08/2013

I find this type the very best. Muscular guys who have a belly and are not "cut" at all drive me wild. IT's just a whole lot more masculine to have a guy who isn't so paired back like an underwear model - a type that leaves me cold

by Anonymousreply 1710/08/2013

[quote]into me physically, sometimes I am revolved by the fact.

oh, honey, your problems don't begin with your body type. . . . . .

by Anonymousreply 1810/08/2013

Joe.My.God. gay blogger is this type.

by Anonymousreply 1910/08/2013

I've always though joe my god was hot!

by Anonymousreply 2010/08/2013

I am attracted to men with a few extra pounds. A stomach or big ass are a turn non.

by Anonymousreply 2110/08/2013

OP, you only now realized that 20-year-old gay males are vapid cunts, that's all

by Anonymousreply 2210/08/2013

With this comment, R16, you've proven to be as superficial and judgmental as the people who either made fun of you or wouldn't fuck you in your twenties.

by Anonymousreply 2310/08/2013

I like a bigger guy. The Doughboy threads here have some of the hottest men, in my opinion.

by Anonymousreply 2410/08/2013

[quote]you've proven to be as superficial and judgmental as the people who either made fun of you or wouldn't fuck you in your twenties.

Really? I said nothing against bears or chubs, R23. I just said that this thread isn't about them. I specified twice that I didn't mean any offense, either. We're just discussing different body types, nothing insulting or hurtful is meant by that.

I'm glad that R12 feels sexy and has a boyfriend that he's attracted to who also thinks that he's sexy. But this thread isn't about bears or chubs, it's about a very specific body type as explained in both the headline and the subsequent posts.

If you or R12 would like a thread about bears and chubs I would gladly use my paid membership to start it for you. Tell me what you'd like it to say and I'll post it right away.

by Anonymousreply 2510/08/2013

It seems to me that half of the men on this board like men who look like men and the other half like men who have bodies more equivalent to women's. They even us terminology for male body parts that is similar to what is used to describe women's bodies. This surprises me especially since so many of you seen to hate women. I would think that gay men would always prefer manly looking men. I would never describe a man's "chest" as boobs or moobs or use those other feminized terms. They're a turnoff. I'm not attracted to a man with a huge round butt or curves even remotely resembling a woman's because I think a man should look like a man not a substitute for a woman. I would think gay men would think the same way. So I don't get it.

OP, young people in general have no tolerance for any extra weight. Someone with an extra 10 pounds seems extremely obese to them. I think attitudes adjusts or becomes more realistic with age. That could explain why you feel your body type is more accepted now than when you were 20.

by Anonymousreply 2610/08/2013

R3 I am deeply sad for you.

Please. Seek. Therapy.

by Anonymousreply 2710/08/2013

But that doesn't explain why 20-somethings NOW find me attractive. And no one has ever described my body as womanly, but I can understand why someone not attracted to this body type might see it that way.

by Anonymousreply 2810/08/2013

I think a lot of men get better looking with age. Maybe that's it, OP.

by Anonymousreply 2910/08/2013

I think that with the endless amount of internet porn that exists today, involving every body type and sex act imaginable, younger guys get to see more types of people having different types of sex and this can inform their tastes and help them find what really turns them on.

I'm in my mid 30s and when I was younger, what porn I could find was main stream muscly waxed gay guys fucking pretty robotically. I tended to be attracted to boring looking hot guys.

Now I find myself chasing bearish and fit fat guys more often...and watching that kind of porn. I would say my body type is pretty boring, 5'7" and 135lbs with a 30inch waist. Blah...

by Anonymousreply 3010/08/2013

I love fit-fat guys too. My only thing is, I am attracted to the combo, FIT/fat, but not attracted to slumpy bodies with zero/poor muscle tone. So my advice for guys who just can't lose those last 10-20 lbs, I would say fuck it and just lift weights twice a week. If you have good overall basic muscle alongside the soft belly, a lot of us will want to do you!

by Anonymousreply 3110/08/2013

R30 I can relate. I started out overrelying on porn and being wired to be attracted to generic/hot muscle dudes. Actual sex with them was so-so, the few times I "got lucky." But once you have had your first "Oh whoa this is INCREDIBLE" sex with a handsome 40ish guy who knows what he's doing, even if his body is not 25 and smooth/buff, it can really widen the sexual appetite in a good way. Similar with me re: race, I was conditioned to be "white seeking white" and then I got more open/adventurous and discovered attractions to just about every ethnicity/race.

I pity the gay men who have not yet discovered this, and are pining away wanting only the men who look (and who copulate) like store-window mannequins.

by Anonymousreply 3210/08/2013

Chunky Hunkies

by Anonymousreply 3310/08/2013

Fit fat is rather silly, but I understand the silliness. I'm 3 score and 11 years old, and I have a 32 inch waist. I'm only 6' tall, so it's about right I'm guessing. I don't see what age has to do with one's body measurements. As we age over the years from our nincompoop 20's to our baby maturity years in our 30's on up to my own wealthy but antique-ish 70's our weight fluctuates due to many factors beyond our emotional control. Those who enjoy being beaten take the DL attitude and those with a head on their shoulders just direct the badgering dummy wannabes out of our lives.

by Anonymousreply 3410/08/2013

On a hot, hairy daddy, yeah, the extra meat is expected and sexy. On young guys fat is just sad.

by Anonymousreply 3510/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 3610/08/2013

Really what?

by Anonymousreply 3710/08/2013

young fat guys being sad?

by Anonymousreply 3810/08/2013

That's just one queen's opinion.

by Anonymousreply 3910/08/2013

It's also the opinion of most physicians and dieticians.

by Anonymousreply 4010/08/2013

Like this?

by Anonymousreply 4110/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 4210/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 4310/08/2013

In many parts of the US, "fit fat" is now what is considered "skinny."

by Anonymousreply 4410/08/2013

It's my absolute favorite type of guy. Fit fat, masculine. Perfect.

by Anonymousreply 4510/08/2013

R42 is a real hottie

by Anonymousreply 4610/08/2013

I hope that this is the OP

by Anonymousreply 4710/08/2013

Love this fit fat Brazilian guy.

by Anonymousreply 4810/08/2013

R48 that pic gave me instant wood - are Brazilians getting fat, or fit-fat now as well?

by Anonymousreply 4910/08/2013

Only someone with an eating disorder would use the word "fat" to describe the guy at R48.

by Anonymousreply 5010/09/2013

I think there's a difference between "fit-fat" and just plain "fat" seeing some of the posts on this thread.

Fit-fat men in regular, frau-ridden straight world would land a significant portion of women.

Fit-fat men in gay world, appeals only to those who desire that aspect of our rainbow. We are a selective, specific bunch of gays.

by Anonymousreply 5110/09/2013

[quote]oh, honey, your problems don't begin with your body type. . . . . .

R18 that may be true, but for background, i was much heavier as a child, and it was a constant source of scorn from other kids up until puberty, when I transitioned to merely slightly overweight. But the hormones that made me lose some fat also made me very hairy, something that also made me different from everyone else and, when coming of age and becoming sexually active, became another sort of "take it or leave it" thing with guys and sexual acceptance.

Would much, much rather be thin, hairless, and just have an average, unremarkable body, than the stocky, hairy, love-handled, barrel-chested, love-handled thing I have now. I hate it!

by Anonymousreply 5210/09/2013


by Anonymousreply 5310/09/2013

Most of them are revolting.

by Anonymousreply 5410/09/2013

r47 Thanks for that post, that boy is a real hunk.

by Anonymousreply 5510/09/2013

R53 that is fit, not fat.

by Anonymousreply 5610/09/2013

R14 - You'll never convince the DL that getting older can mean getting hotter (in the eyes of your beholders). When I was young, I had my fair share of admirers (and the obligatory creepy old man that would cop feels and mash on me.) But when I hit 40 and more, the young men started propositioning ME left and right instead of what you would think would be the other way around. Here's a secret you may know - if you are older, wear expensive and age appropriate clothes. Good casual shoes, fine leather coats and jackets, well fitting (but not tight) jeans, expensive watch. Basically, if you look like you walked off the pages of a Ralph Lauren or LL Bean catalog, carry yourself with grace and dignity like you don't give a FUCK, wear a five o'clock shadow or just a bit of scruff, a very subtle earthy cologne - you will be scraping the guys off of you. NOTE - ALWAYS AVOID SWEATER VESTS!!! :)

by Anonymousreply 5710/09/2013

True R56 (Sorry) - But he is "curvy" and OMG hot - couldn't resist! :)

by Anonymousreply 5810/09/2013

A man can be up to 60lbs overweight and still be hot as hell if he exudes confidence and has a flattering haircut.

by Anonymousreply 5910/09/2013

No...R59 he can't be hot. He can be 'attractive when dressed' but not hot.

by Anonymousreply 6010/09/2013

R60 can't find a decent barber.

by Anonymousreply 6110/09/2013

What the hell is "fit" fat? Sounds like an American cop-out to me. I am 6feet tall, 31 inch waist and weigh 162 lbs. I am also 68 years old and am told I look in my forties. I feel good. Am attracted to men with similar body types. Guts, moobs and love handles do not turn me in. However, when you live in a society where two out of three guys over 35 look like they're pregnant with triplets, you learn to love it and call it fit-fat. .. Sad.

by Anonymousreply 6210/09/2013

"I am also 68 years old and am told I look in my forties."

Keep telling yourself that, gramps.

And you represent a niche just like this category. So while it may "feel good" to spew venom on the subject, just remember: you are *old* and most gay guys wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole.

by Anonymousreply 6310/09/2013

68! My god, I've never heard of a gay that old. I didn't think they lived that long.

Actually I did see a posting on CL one time by a guy in his 70s, the title said he was looking for a LTR!

by Anonymousreply 6410/09/2013

[quote]Guts, moobs and love handles do not turn me in.

That works out well, since delusional, judgemental grandpas don't turn most of us in, either.

by Anonymousreply 6510/09/2013

R62: I feel ya brah. Always getting asked if I graduated college yet.

by Anonymousreply 6610/09/2013

[quote]am 6feet tall, 31 inch waist and weigh 162 lbs. I am also 68 years old and am told I look in my for

You sound hideous! I hope that your post is a joke

by Anonymousreply 6710/09/2013

[quote]That works out well, since delusional, judgemental grandpas don't turn most of us in, either

Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 6810/09/2013

a perfect mix of chub and muscle to me

by Anonymousreply 6910/09/2013

R68, read the quoted post you moron.

by Anonymousreply 7010/09/2013

Good example R69

by Anonymousreply 7110/09/2013

I can't think of an example of a fit-fat type I find attractive.

by Anonymousreply 7210/09/2013

R69, he's wearing two tee-shirts to control the fatness. There isn't the slightest hint of muscle tone.

That's not "Fit-fat"; that's Fratboy gone to pot.

by Anonymousreply 7310/09/2013

I think that he's cute

by Anonymousreply 7410/09/2013

Fit fat make the best bottoms. Meaty ass

by Anonymousreply 7510/09/2013


by Anonymousreply 7610/09/2013

" Of course he's built just like me. I'm blissfully happy in this relationship, but for many reasons we decided to open it up a few years ago. Neither of us was the jealous type and we both get off on the idea of having a husband who's considered hot and desirable by others. We rarely act on it though, do for the most part we're very boring and monogamous, but we both like flirting with other guys occasionally."

Okay, I am not starting the "open relationships," debate..but it seems you and your partner use other people for your own self-validation. You both seem to need other guys to tell you your "husband," is hot, and of course, you have to post a thread to DL asking if your type is hot, etc.

by Anonymousreply 7710/09/2013

r77 so why are you slathered in Maybelline and Clairol?

by Anonymousreply 7810/09/2013

I really like the way powerlifters and the biggest guys in rugby look. The heftier the better.

by Anonymousreply 7910/09/2013

My once very thin boyfriend has put on a few pounds recently and I must admit I enjoy the extra weight when he crawls on top of me. Something about a not so toned and muscled body just seems sexy to me. The gym bunny look just seems contrived. I do hope he doesn't gain much more because that is a turn off.

by Anonymousreply 8010/09/2013

Type 2 Diabetes, so hot.

by Anonymousreply 8110/09/2013

R78 = OP..

by Anonymousreply 8210/09/2013

The DL obsession with "fit fat" is another instance of your tragic body fascism and your refusal to live independently of the terrible masculinist heterocentricity that infects our entire culture.

Free yourselves, motherfuckers. You're gonna be dead one day, why live in chains?

by Anonymousreply 8310/09/2013

Some of us (the fat ones) will be dead sooner than others.

by Anonymousreply 8410/09/2013

[quote]The DL obsession with "fit fat" is another instance of your tragic body fascism and your refusal to live independently of the terrible masculinist heterocentricity that infects our entire culture.

Tragic and terrible! Yes. Duly noted. Here's another fine specimen:

by Anonymousreply 8510/09/2013

He'll be dead in a year from diabetes, r85! HISSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!

by Anonymousreply 8610/09/2013

[quote]Some of us (the fat ones) will be dead sooner than others.

skinny people die more easily from disease later in life.

by Anonymousreply 8710/09/2013

{85} Yes, he is cute. I am loving that slight gut. All so sexy. The tats do take away from his beauty.

by Anonymousreply 8810/09/2013

Because they live longer to get diseases, R87.

by Anonymousreply 8910/09/2013

This cute fit-fat boy needs to be dickslapped, hard, for shaving off his pubes. He's adorable otherwise.

by Anonymousreply 9010/09/2013

Wouldn't the guy in R90's link be considered too thin for "fit fat?"

by Anonymousreply 9110/09/2013

fit-fat and lost in the library!

by Anonymousreply 9210/09/2013

Fair point R91. Maybe this guy is more your type -

by Anonymousreply 9310/09/2013

The country has never been fatter...or living as long as it is now. Stop with the fat hate. It's unattractive.

by Anonymousreply 9410/09/2013

Chuck Hughes

by Anonymousreply 9510/09/2013

R94, stop the nylon stretchy culottes and I'll stop the fat hate.

by Anonymousreply 9610/09/2013

That guy at R92 is gorgeous.

by Anonymousreply 9710/09/2013

my partner is quintessential fit fat. 6'3 240lbs, barrel chest, a little thick in the middle.

i have to beat the twinks away with a stick.

by Anonymousreply 9810/09/2013

I am done with you counts on DL. These are mens for Christ sake. Take your prissy queens and stick them up your arse! If I wanted a "woman" I'd sleep with a woman. You so don't know what your missing here, (and that's fine with me) less competition.

by Anonymousreply 9910/09/2013

R94, let me fix that for you:

[quote]The country has never been fatter.... It's unattractive.

by Anonymousreply 10010/09/2013

No R97, the guy at R92 is creepy.

by Anonymousreply 10110/09/2013

There are several categories. From most desirable to least:


Out of season bodybuilder

Fit Fat


by Anonymousreply 10210/09/2013

An interesting read on male body attractiveness

by Anonymousreply 10310/09/2013

Who would be a good female example of fit-fat?

by Anonymousreply 10410/09/2013

The older I get, the more I'm attracted to stockier guys. I just think older men look better with a bit more meat on their bones. Otherwise, if they're scrawny, they look older than their years, usually.

by Anonymousreply 10510/09/2013

I'll say it...they look like the aids.

by Anonymousreply 10610/09/2013

I agree, skinny people look unhealthy and like they're on chemo

by Anonymousreply 10710/09/2013

Jean-Louis Coulloc'h from "Lady Chatterley's Lover" NSFW

by Anonymousreply 10810/12/2013

R102, very good! It is my list as well.

by Anonymousreply 10910/18/2013

r108: I'd hit it. Lovely nips but ugly willy.

by Anonymousreply 11010/18/2013

My favorites are powerlifters, the type featured on tumblr blogs like RealThick and JustBulls.

Most bodybuilders are too prissy looking for my taste, unless they are off-season.

by Anonymousreply 11110/18/2013

This is the platonic ideal of fit-fat.

by Anonymousreply 11210/18/2013

Oh sweet jesus. The BEST r112. THE BEST. Thanks for the link!!!

by Anonymousreply 11310/18/2013
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