OP here. First, sorry for my stupid formatting error.
I ask this because (of course) this is my body type. I'm in my early 40s and have had the same body type since I was a teenager: slight moobs, a gut and love handles. I have muscle tone as well (and a cute face and a great ass too), but when I first came out in my early 20s, guys my age would largely ignore me. All young gay guys seem to fit the "twink" mold and I was never a twink. I would rarely encounter young guys with my body type, and young guys never were interested in my body type. Bears (full-blown bears, not bearcubs) and old dudes always hit on me, though.
As I got older and dated more, I had better luck, but the guys I dated always seemed like they were settling for me; they liked my personality, my face, my ass and my cock, but they either ignored my soft middle section or made subtle putdowns about it. One bf told me point blank that I needed to hit the gym more. I do workout but I'm just not a gym bunny and never will be. I love good food, good drinks and naps far too much to ever have a perfect body.
When I turned 30, I met the guy who would turn out to be the love of my life. We're still together and the love is real and mutual. Of course he's built just like me. I'm blissfully happy in this relationship, but for many reasons we decided to open it up a few years ago. Neither of us was the jealous type and we both get off on the idea of having a husband who's considered hot and desirable by others. We rarely act on it though, do for the most part we're very boring and monogamous, but we both like flirting with other guys occasionally.
So I've noticed since I turned about 35, I get a LOT more attention from other guys. I get cruised more, hit on more, and flirted with more, and often it's from very attractive men with great bodies. I've even noticed 20-somethings pay a lot more attention to me. My body hasn't changed at all; if anything, it's all sagging more, but I still look "fit fat". Guys of the sort that, in my 20s, would never give me a second look are now cruising me, smiling at me, flirting at me and more.
It's so odd to me that I had to age 20 years to get this kind of attention. Is it more acceptable on older men? I've been called a "hot daddy" lately, which I'll take since at no point in my youth was I ever called a hot anything.
Anyway, just wondering. I'm shocked DL's manorexics have descended on this thread yet. R1 I'd kill for a 32 inch waist (it seems permanently stuck at 34), I only put that in for the manorexics!