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Dan Savage: Anal sex and rimming should not be first date behavior

So, wait--she's a prude?

by Anonymousreply 8512/11/2013

Yes, but a prude who admits to threeways with the husband.

by Anonymousreply 110/02/2013

HE LOOKS GOOD IN THAT PHOTO...HOW'D THAT HAPPEN?

by Anonymousreply 210/02/2013

I completely disagree. I like to get a good pounding before going out for the first date. That way I know what quality restaurant to take my date.

by Anonymousreply 310/02/2013

[all posts by tedious troll removed.]

by Anonymousreply 410/02/2013

I think Dan is making a distinction between a hook-up and a date-date.

by Anonymousreply 510/02/2013

Maybe he means anal sex and rimming should happen BEFORE the first date.

by Anonymousreply 610/03/2013

I agree. Why give iT all on the first date?

by Anonymousreply 710/03/2013

We should ALL do what our icon and godhead Dan Savage says, because he is perfect!

by Anonymousreply 810/03/2013

I don't think Dan has an asshole at all. It must be Christian rumor mongering.

by Anonymousreply 910/03/2013

Dan's been looking better lately...the aging process seems to be filling him out and softening his look.

Of course I'd have to see him in person to make a definitive assessment.

by Anonymousreply 1010/03/2013

I agree with R7. Give 'em a few good make-out sessions and nothing more and you'll have the guy eating out of your hand in no time.

by Anonymousreply 1110/03/2013

He's right...I think any two respectable and self-controlled people starting to date who have any desire to see where it may lead should wait AT LEAST a couple of weeks before taking it to that level.

My first boyfriend and I waited well over a month to have sex when we started dating and the suspense,mystery and sexual tension was INCREDIBLE. When we finally did it was one of the most intense experiences I've ever had.

It really CAN be hotter to wait.

by Anonymousreply 1210/03/2013

My hand? Fuck that, I want him eating out of my ass dammit.

by Anonymousreply 1310/03/2013

I agree he looks much better than usual, and it's because he's gained a little weight. He did not look good when he was so gaunt, despite the huge arms.

by Anonymousreply 1410/03/2013

Totally agree. That's not first date behavior - that's just being a slut.

by Anonymousreply 1510/03/2013

You'll never keep a man if you give away on the first date!

by Anonymousreply 1610/03/2013

Why should a prospective hubby buy the cow when you're giving the milk away for free?

by Anonymousreply 1710/03/2013

r12 likes to wash his vagina with Rose Milk followed by a splash of Jean Nate.

by Anonymousreply 1810/03/2013

we don't care what you do r19

by Anonymousreply 2010/03/2013

Dan Savage looks better because he has had some work done. Re-positioning of his jaw, or a chin implant? He has kept the cleft deformity. His nose has been subtly shortened and his eyes refreshed. Some fillers. Jeez.

Usually you guys are all over this. Some of us know Dan from back when he covered the lower part of his face with his hand and invented coffee hook-ups. He was not a jerk, but definitely a creep. er.

by Anonymousreply 2110/03/2013

R18. I actually had to look up what "Rose Milk" is to verify for myself just how OLD you really are.

by Anonymousreply 2210/03/2013

r22 = culturally illiterate and must use Wikipedia to compensate for her pathetic lack of knowledge while using ageist epithets to cloak the fact that she's a sex-negative daisy.

by Anonymousreply 2310/03/2013

Plastic surgery has nothing to do with Dan's fresh new look....he's now hiring the same DP RuPaul's Drag Race uses.

After all,anybody who can make THOSE queens look dewey....

by Anonymousreply 2410/03/2013

Well, it's true. There are now five sexes: straight men, straight women, our dear lezbo cousins, us gay guys .. and these new creatures who fucking DATE, sometimes for a fucking month before they even fuck.

I was explaining this one night in the truck stop terlit, and even the truckers were shocked.

by Anonymousreply 2510/03/2013

doesnt he realize that there is almost never a second date

by Anonymousreply 2610/03/2013

There are two perspectives on "putting the cart before the horse."

There's the sacred perspective in which every step is meant to lead to marriage and cherubim singing, and the joint purchase of real estate, and buying a little Chinese baby. Then --and only then-- comes sex, maybe.

I'm more of the profane perspective which holds that it's premature to talk of marriage and real estate and Chinese babies until well after there's been some ass eating and fucking.

Marriage is fine, it's lovely, but I'm not the gay male version of the "good girl" who holds out until he puts a ring on it and the rose petals are laid on the matrimonial bed at the Four Seasons. I'd rather be whorey about the fleeting pleasures of sex than desperate to attain some ideal union.

by Anonymousreply 2710/03/2013

R26, not for some of us. I'm going on my third date with a guy tonight and we have only heavy petted so far

by Anonymousreply 2910/03/2013

[quote]only heavy petted so far

Going on a date with your cat doesn't count.

by Anonymousreply 3010/03/2013

[quote]I'm glad the younger folks are starting to build true connections. It will be healthier in the long run.

LOL. I know more young poz guys doing the circuit every night than older ones. And the ones in relationships are still getting their holes creamed on the side.

by Anonymousreply 3110/03/2013

Get back on your meds, R19. You sound really scary.

by Anonymousreply 3210/03/2013

He is entitled to his opinion, but it's all it is, his opinion.

by Anonymousreply 3310/03/2013

[quote]HE LOOKS GOOD IN THAT PHOTO...HOW'D THAT HAPPEN?

You must be really ugly.

by Anonymousreply 3410/03/2013

Of course Dan totally endorses fucking your waiter in a public bathroom during your first dinner date.

by Anonymousreply 3510/03/2013

He was just on The View scandalizing Jenny and. Sherri.

He was explaining "monogamish" and Barbara wanted to know exactly what he said to his husband when he cheated.

He finally said, "When I cheat on my husband, he's cheating on me at the same time--at the other end of the same guy."

Whoopi thought that was hilarious but Sherri nearly had a stroke. Unfortunately, she didn't.

by Anonymousreply 3610/03/2013

Sherri who has had "tons of abortions"?

by Anonymousreply 3710/03/2013

[quote]Anal sex and rimming should not be first date behavior

I disagree, if you bought him dinner on the first date, you might as well get a taste of it.

by Anonymousreply 3810/03/2013

Hell I'm a top and I douche for every date...we like our asses eaten too!.

by Anonymousreply 3910/03/2013

Ass grab

by Anonymousreply 4010/03/2013

r28 You may want to look at statistics on the demographics of STD/HIV infection before you start proclaiming your generation so chaste and morally superior. Cunt.

by Anonymousreply 4110/03/2013

Eat shit, R28. It shouldn't be hard. Just extend your fat MIley tongue and nab your dirty Sanchez.

Where the hell did "fucking without emotion" come from? Every guy under 35 I know is on a DL trip behind the partner's back or is so immature the presence of "emotion" is detrimental to the relationship.

And emotion is not a virtual condom that protects against disease.

And why is there an assumption that people who have a lot of sex are emotionless or unloving in the first place. Leaving people with psychiatric disorders out of it, openness and enjoyment of sex with multiple partners usually is a sign of wellness. It's the pinched, Puritan, ungiving, fantasy-fuming "romantics" who get into the ditch because they need to feel dirty about good old sex.

by Anonymousreply 4210/03/2013

You got one WW R30 ad thanks for making me laugh.

by Anonymousreply 4310/03/2013

Is his name really Dan Savage? Was Randy Fierce taken?

by Anonymousreply 4410/03/2013

Have you all noticed how the DL and perhaps Gaydom in general, has thoroughly evolved into two camps, post-AIDS?

My question is .. the other camp, the one I call basically women, with dicks, what happens to them after the third divorce? Whores, just like regular women?

by Anonymousreply 4510/03/2013

r39 = My future husband

by Anonymousreply 4610/03/2013

I thought, 'There's no use getting into heavy petting. It only leads to trouble...'

by Anonymousreply 4710/03/2013

I would so happily give my ass up to Dan Savage so long as he promised to shut up. I think he's not physically gorgeous (whether naturally or artificially), but I think he talks far too much and is not nearly as bright as he believes he is.

by Anonymousreply 4810/03/2013

I keep an aspirin between my knees.

by Anonymousreply 5010/03/2013

[quote]Every guy under 35 I know is on a DL trip behind the partner's back or is so immature the presence of "emotion" is detrimental to the relationship.

Sounds like you need to acquire better taste in friends, hon. Most of us don't like to hang out with emotional fucktards, regardless of age (and NOT ONE of the gay guys I know under 35 fits your description).

[quote]And why is there an assumption that people who have a lot of sex are emotionless or unloving in the first place.

Because many of us possess a level of self-awareness that you clearly do not, and we realize the difference between a healthy sex life and compulsive, endless fucking in a vain attempt to fill an empty emotional chasm. Further, we understand the reality that most gay men who endlessly trick with hundreds of different men, all the while NEVER actually dating any of them or getting to know them on anything other than a physical level, fit the latter, not former, category.

by Anonymousreply 5110/03/2013

You need to distinguish between a date and a hookup. A hookup is when people get together with the understanding that they're just there to have sex and leave it at that. A date is more of a friendly or romantic social occasion which may or may not involve sex, with the understanding that it may lead to a relationship.

It's possible to just hook up and have it lead to something more meaningful, but usually if you're just there for sex, you just want to get away from the other person as soon as you're done, which is not much of a date.

by Anonymousreply 5210/03/2013

So when are we allowed to rim?

by Anonymousreply 5310/03/2013

Heavy petted, r29? What does that mean?

by Anonymousreply 5410/04/2013

Ever heard of heavy petting?

by Anonymousreply 5510/04/2013

Ask Brad - he knows all about it - and what it can lead to.....

by Anonymousreply 5610/04/2013

Why do people even listen to this freak? Doesn't he have some sick transmen fetish?

Banish it to the pits of hell.

by Anonymousreply 5710/04/2013

So many gays guzzling the Hallmark kool-aid these days. r49 - being sexually active does not make one immoral. r51 - being sexually active does not necessarily mean a life of compulsive, endless fucking. BF and I fucked on our first date (online hookup actually) and we're still happily at it 11 years later. If you want to wait 'til you fuck that's fine, but don't pathologize those who forego the sentimental bullshit and enjoy sex however they enjoy it.

by Anonymousreply 5810/04/2013

Are there any other gay sex/relationship advice podcasts besides Dan Savages?

by Anonymousreply 5910/04/2013

This specific advice from Savage comes from a place of health/hiv/hep C concern, not slut shaming or even what he thinks is best for a potential relationship or scoring that second date. He was also speaking about condoms breaking/being misused or even purposely taken off...he's very big on reducing risk and being safe, at the very least its something to think about not a rule he's imposing

by Anonymousreply 6010/04/2013

Question for the more experienced gays... how do you get clean for anal after a first date? Do you guys carry portable douches?

by Anonymousreply 6110/04/2013

Didn't GW Bush also encourage abstinence as a HIV-prevention strategy?

by Anonymousreply 6210/04/2013

I usually bring a rose and a Fleet to give my first dates.

by Anonymousreply 6310/04/2013

That must just be a really well doctored photo. He was on The View today looking just as yucky as ever. He's kind of a perv too.

by Anonymousreply 6410/04/2013

Oh yeah, but having anal sex and rimming tricks when you're married is completely fine.

by Anonymousreply 6510/04/2013

Poor Dan - it's downhill from here, he's going to age more and more - he's on his way to being a Gollum double and it can't be avoided. It happens to all of us. Is he tell the truth about how old he really is these days?

by Anonymousreply 6610/04/2013

[quote]he's going to age more and more

LOL, so will you R66-- unless you die today.

by Anonymousreply 6710/04/2013

I'm already old and ugly

by Anonymousreply 6810/04/2013

That first kiss "good night" shouldn't taste like your ass.

by Anonymousreply 6910/04/2013

Dan's attempts to look under 40 are going to get harder and harder as he nears 70.

by Anonymousreply 7010/05/2013

Of course double fisting and scuba tank full of poppers should never be first date behaviour..... *snif* ... what were we talking aboot?

by Anonymousreply 7110/05/2013

If he cant eat that ass like i like it, then i dont need to bother with the second date.

by Anonymousreply 7210/05/2013

I think he looks pretty good for his age, when the lighting is right he looks like he's in his late 40's. How old is he anyway?

by Anonymousreply 7410/05/2013

He is either 48 or 53 - he lied about his age and got caught, I'm not sure.

by Anonymousreply 7510/05/2013

He's got a great body, no matter how old he is. His husband's is even better.

by Anonymousreply 7610/05/2013

His body is lean and mean, one can ignore the face and just focus below the neck. What's his dick like?

by Anonymousreply 7710/05/2013

Some people are acting like Savage is endorsing some '50s style repression. He's basically suggesting 'stick to oral and hand jobs,' not 'be content with a peck on the cheek.'

Think of it this way: Take out the behavior he suggests against from a 10 minute porn clip, and it would still probably be 6 minutes long.

by Anonymousreply 7810/05/2013

That's dating, not a visit to a glory hole.

by Anonymousreply 7910/05/2013

r77 Savage is hung very well 9" and thick.

by Anonymousreply 8010/06/2013

Why the hatred towards Dan Savage, of all people?

I don't get it.

by Anonymousreply 8110/06/2013

Envy at the attention he gets r81, plus self-loathing scorn along the lines of who does he think it is to warrant so much attention (really not very much, but the bar is low).

by Anonymousreply 8210/07/2013

In my opinion, Savage is a narcissist. Everything he does is about him, his fame and his own drama. He's not honest. He has been caught telling lies, but never corrects them or admits to them. I have never met him nor do I hate him, I think he's dangerous and reckless.

by Anonymousreply 8310/08/2013

he is right this time. if you have more than two anal sex partners in the year, you need to reconsider your sexual ethics and health style.

by Anonymousreply 8412/10/2013

From R12, "I think any two respectable and self-controlled people starting to date who have any desire to see where it may lead should wait AT LEAST a couple of weeks before taking it to that level."

respectable? self-controlled? date?

This is NOT the being queer I was taught!

by Anonymousreply 8512/11/2013
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