"Trite" things that are deal breakers for you
If I meet a person and they love and gush about:
*Any of the Kardashians
If they say things in conversation like:
I know, right?? Right??!!
If they make fun of the disabled or are mean to old people, are bad tippers, racist and/or look down on those less fortunate.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||09/26/2013|
I like Miley Cyrus and I say "I know, right??"
|by Anonymous||reply 1||09/24/2013|
I once overheard a bartender and a patron at a gay bar bragging about the huge bar bills they'd run up on cruises. I found that an incredible turnoff.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||09/24/2013|
With you on the first four, OP.
You lost me on the last three, though. Those things are definitely not deal-breakers.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||09/24/2013|
Douchebags with enumerated deal breakers.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||09/24/2013|
Everyone has guilty pleasures though, OP
Most people have a favorite tv show or singer they "shouldn't" like, but can't help it.
I find it's when a person likes too many guilty pleasures that they are trouble.
An otherwise sane person who watches Big Brother is fine. If all they do is listen to One Direction, read Twilight and watch Real Housewives then I'd run.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||09/24/2013|
I've had the same three deal breakers for years:
No redheads, no Asians and no uncut cock.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||09/24/2013|
R5, but there's also obsession... I know someone SO OBSESSED with Kelly Clarkson that they rarely speak of anyone else, and judge people on whether they know and like her (I didn't make the cut, we're not friends).
As far as I can tell, that's his one guilty pleasure, but damn, it's obsession not pleasure.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||09/24/2013|
Any reference to my ass as a pussy.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||09/24/2013|
My deal-breaker is anyone who says "no uncut cock"
|by Anonymous||reply 10||09/24/2013|
Braggers,in general. specific things; bragging about:
Money (how much they make, how much things cost)
Glorification of military work/constantly talking about it.
Humblebragging/reverse bragging,especially about how little sleep you get or how poor you are.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||09/24/2013|
Adults who fucking love teen stuff and automatically think everyone wants to talk about it. Vampire Diaries, Twilight, Eragon, Katy Perry, Kesha etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||09/24/2013|
Agreed, r9. The only acceptable terms are mussy and vaguyna.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||09/24/2013|
Pectus Excavatum or "sunken chest"
|by Anonymous||reply 14||09/24/2013|
It depends on what they look like
|by Anonymous||reply 15||09/24/2013|
An adult who is into Disneyland.
Guys who drive sports cars.
Anyone who has a reptile as a pet.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||09/24/2013|
OP said "loves and gushes about", not *likes*, so I totally agree.
I also loathe the term butthurt. As soon as it comes out of someone's mouth, I consider them juvenile and trashy - unless they are a teenager, who I'd expect that kind of slang from.
Being unkempt or sloppy
Bragging about money
Bragging about celebs they know
|by Anonymous||reply 17||09/24/2013|
What does "butt-hurt" mean?
|by Anonymous||reply 18||09/24/2013|
I've never heard 'butt-hurt'. How is it used?
|by Anonymous||reply 19||09/24/2013|
"Trite" is not the word you are looking for. It's "Random"
|by Anonymous||reply 20||09/24/2013|
Butt-hurt means to be personally offended, often by a trivial, inconsequential slight, and to react with histrionics and melodrama.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||09/24/2013|
So ,R16, Michael Jackson,Tom Cruise,Ted Nugent and Slash don`t have a chance.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||09/24/2013|
Basically "Butt-hurt" = "irrationally and excessively whiney over something relatively inconsequential, taking something way too personally"
|by Anonymous||reply 23||09/24/2013|
R21, use it in a sentence. Still not sure how it is used.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||09/24/2013|
"OP got all butt hurt when I gushed about the new Miley video"
|by Anonymous||reply 25||09/24/2013|
Ed Hardy anything
Insidious bragging about money, family of origin, weight/size
Brand boy mentality
Believes that "reverse racism" is an actual thing
Cruelty/indifference toward vulnerable beings (the elderly, children, animals)
|by Anonymous||reply 26||09/24/2013|
"The OP got all butt-hurt when I said I didn't agree with him that Miley Cyrus was a better singer than P!nk."
|by Anonymous||reply 27||09/24/2013|
R16, I agree with you about each of those things except the last. I love reptiles! Do you dislike them, or are you just opposed to having them confined as pets?
|by Anonymous||reply 28||09/24/2013|
I'm not R16 but wild animals shouldn't be pets. Reptiles are still wild even if they've been bred in captivity. Domestication doesn't happen for many, many generations.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||09/24/2013|
Blind, sheepish progressives
A man that can't shoot a gun
People who use the terms self loathing
Anyone who thinks Hillary is a viable candidate
|by Anonymous||reply 30||09/24/2013|
[quote] [R16], I agree with you about each of those things except the last. I love reptiles! Do you dislike them, or are you just opposed to having them confined as pets?
I have no problem with reptiles, although they seem to be very boring pets, and the feeding the snake live mice thing is a problem.
They made my list because it has been my experience that people who keep them as pets have very unusual personalities, the sort of people who lean towards the "put the lotion in the basket" end of the scale.
I'm sure you're the exception that proves the rule.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||09/24/2013|
Pets that eat other animals.
Any sign of cruelty or a mean streak.
The usual stuff.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||09/24/2013|
OP, what do have against 14-year-old girls?
|by Anonymous||reply 34||09/24/2013|
1. like let's go out, like now ok? like please?
|by Anonymous||reply 36||09/24/2013|
Aging, narcissistic queens like R36.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||09/24/2013|
Manscaping to the nth degree. So narcissistic.
That, and anyone who think's that "mutilated" is relevant.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||09/24/2013|
My list would be racist, bad tippers and George Bush.
I could put up with the rest. I mean, I wish the Kardashians were never born but it might be fun to argue about them. If someone loves Miley...why would I care? We are all silly over a few unimportant issues, aren't we? I am.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||09/24/2013|
[all posts by tedious, racist idiot removed.]
|by Anonymous||reply 40||09/24/2013|
R40 sums up pop culture red flags perfectly.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||09/24/2013|
I can agree with R40 as well.
And of course, R39's first sentence.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||09/25/2013|
[quote]Pets that eat other animals.
They're not vegetarians you know.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||09/25/2013|
Kidult shit like taking the Batman movies seriously -- I don't have an interest, and great if you do, but we're really not going to have anything to talk about.
People who use the word "awesome" as an all-purpose adjective.
Deliberate cruelty or lack of empathy.
I realize the first two aren't nearly in the same league with the last one, but in this case, the heart doesn't want what the heart doesn't want.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||09/25/2013|
I don't think OP knows that trite means, and I don't think people are offering him a lot of deals to break.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||09/25/2013|
"Deliberate cruelty or lack of empathy."
R45, how about lack of empathy or cruelty that are not deliberate?
|by Anonymous||reply 47||09/25/2013|
People that treat service staff like shit.
(No wonder I'm single, I've just ruled out most of this country.)
|by Anonymous||reply 48||09/25/2013|
Have to agree about adult Disney fags. And anyone over 25 who is into comic books or collecting toys. Run away.
Don't mind a few tattoos, or even a piercing (non genital), but the latest fad of the nose loop thing, like the hoop a bull or pig would have in its snout is fucking hideous.
Guys who can't manage money - while not trivial or trite, it is a deal breaker.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||09/25/2013|
[quote]Uncritically liking every piece of current mainstream shit, especially if it's aimed at 12-year-olds.
I don't know anyone who uncritically likes all pop culture. Even people who like pop culture don't like it all, and certainly are critical of it -- have you read the Gaga vs Katy threads here?
All I read when I see this thread is people getting older and freaked out about the alienation that goes with it. Which sucks, but that doesn't mean their youth is any more frivolous than yours way. Don't get bitter.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||09/25/2013|
Top or bottom? As a question this is getting as old as people that still ask are you gay?
Labels are meaningless...be open minded and figure it out. Boring ass questions...all robots.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||09/25/2013|
Obsession with sports (especially football) or playing video games
Doesn't like to read anything, no intellectual curiosity
|by Anonymous||reply 52||09/25/2013|
Many of you are using words that don't mean what they think you mean. Each one of you is dead to me.
Trite, sheepish, insidious. Like you got a word of the day calendar and couldn't be bothered to read the definition.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||09/25/2013|
R48 makes me laugh. He lists: "Sniveling arrogance towards those who don't share his personal tastes"
When he'd just said this: "it's something else altogether to act as though Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber have any artistic, culturally or socially redeeming value."
None? That seems pretty arrogant and snivelling to me. Old people probably said the same of your music and pop idols of the day.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||09/26/2013|
[quote]People that treat service staff like shit.
Yes! Thank you for mentioning this one. It makes a person instantly ugly in my eyes.
|by Anonymous||reply 55||09/26/2013|
"Republican" covers a whole lot of horrible behavior, so no republicans.
Any gay man who calls other gay men "fags." Right there is an asshole. And although I do fuck assholes, I don't fuck assholes like that.
Juvenile behavior. I'm too old to put up with it and it's especially tiresome coming from 30 year olds who know 40 is coming up soon and are hoping their teen antics will somehow stop the aging process. It won't. The only thing that will stop the aging process is death. So good luck with that.
Racists, obviously, though that is pretty much covered by "republican."
|by Anonymous||reply 56||09/26/2013|
Currently seeing a cute guy and we went out for lunch yesterday. I'm pretty into him but discovered he doesnt know how to use chopsticks. We went for sushi and he ate it with a fork. He's from the middle east and is otherwise cultured and worldly but to be honest his not knowing how to use chopsticks has been sticking in my head since. I even tried to teach him and he just couldn't do it! Even the server was smirking at him.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||09/26/2013|
Some people are just dextrally(sp) uncoordinated, r59!
|by Anonymous||reply 58||09/26/2013|
Contempt for and inability to appreciate the fun of video games or sci-fi books or big pop-corn movies (i.e. people who have let their inner-child die, and who think 'play' is only for kids).
|by Anonymous||reply 59||09/26/2013|
The most trivial thing I can think of as a disqualifier (and yes, it's also trite) is that he chews with his mouth open. I can't fucking stand that; it would be a determining factor for me in terms of whether or not to start a relationship.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||09/26/2013|
My first ex had that issue, R62. It's amazing how such a trivial-seeming thing can really be such a huge issue.
I could hear him smacking his food from three rooms away.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||09/26/2013|
[all posts by tedious, racist idiot removed.]
|by Anonymous||reply 62||09/26/2013|
[quote]Contempt for and inability to appreciate the fun of video games or sci-fi books or big pop-corn movies (i.e. people who have let their inner-child die, and who think 'play' is only for kids).
That was me until just a couple of years ago, when Game of Thrones came to HBO. Khaleesi and her dragons are so fierce, they brought back the joy I thought was dead.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||09/26/2013|
I don't think most of you have anything to worry about.
I suspect from the tone of these posts, none of you will be annoyed by any eligible men.
|by Anonymous||reply 64||09/26/2013|
I don't really judge people for liking stupid shit, but hatefulness and unkindness are deal-breakers for me.
As are snobbery, cynicism and unapologetic pretentiousness.
So I'm afraid you and I can never be, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 65||09/26/2013|