Totally sympathize with r7, and am sort of in the middle of doing what r17 and r18 said.
I'm not my own "type," but I attract other guys who I find handsome, so in that sense, I'll say I'm "good-looking". Am also still insecure, despite being 51.
After the end of a long, sexless partnership, I'm now being slutty and am having fun after a year of celibacy... but it was really more like 10 years.
It's the chase and being chased that's most exciting and ego inflating. The sex is sort of tedious, but I get off emotionally on pleasuring other guys. I'm very selective, but the threat of STD's is always real. My problem is that I fall in love too easily with whomever shows any interest.
Just started "seeing" (i.e. NSA fucking) a partnered guy who's in a sexless relationship. They're still together out of habit and economics, sort of like my last relationship for the last 10 years. He sees right through me and gets my insecurity as well as my sense of humor, fun, naughtiness, and guilt. He knows how to play me and I guess that's what I need or want. But after he cums in my mouth, his interest wanes and I start to feel empty. But it is still fun. He's going to have to fuck me if he wants to see me orgasm. Not sure if he's going to go there. But then we just giggle together about the absurdity of what we just did. It'd priceless.
Am dating another guy but we can't seem to have sex due to logistics, or...? Not sure. I hate that I'm falling in love with him.
I think the OP's premise is flawed. What is "good looking" anyway? There's a lid for every pot. I don't get this DL thing where guys haven't had a date in decades and think they're ugly. So, are you bald, old, and fat? Who cares! So many men are. And many of them are fucking hot. I don't find Brad Pitt to be attractive. Get me with a clean, naked man on the sheets who has a nice smile and I'll get a raging boner. The vulnerable intimacy does the rest.
Am unemployed and would probably focus on a career and be celibate rather than seeking out and doing fuck buddies.
But being celibate for so long became depressing. It's not about being perfect looking or finding Mr. Perfect; it's about what you think about yourself and how much you can empathize with others.
Some good pron and lotioned hands can bring out the Jizz, but nothing can replace human intimacy.