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Straight people who don't mind gays of opposite sex

By that, I mean straight women who love gay men (don't like lesbians); straight guys who like lesbians (hate gay men).

There are quite a few young women in my office who love the gay guys in the office (and in general), but they give the cold shoulder to the one lesbian in the whole building. I know that sucks, because I hate straight guys who do the opposite. This is a selective form of homophobia? Do you know people like this?

by Anonymousreply 3604/22/2014

Aren't you talking about straight people who hate gay people of the same sex? Your headline is worded very strangely.

by Anonymousreply 109/09/2013

Do I know people like this?

Yes, of course. 95% of straight people are like this. Straight men know that men are dogs and that's why they avoid gay men. They don't want the same kind of attention they direct towards women directed towards them. Straight women like male attention, even if it's from gay men and that's why they don't pay attention to lesbians.

by Anonymousreply 209/09/2013

Yes R1, same idea.

by Anonymousreply 309/09/2013

I knew a lot of people like this when I was young, and FYI they all grew out of it.

It was, IMHO, based in sexual fear, fear of being hit on by the same-sex person. Its easy to be friends with someone, when sex is ruled out.

by Anonymousreply 409/09/2013

My aunt by marriage. Totally accepting of me being gay - she said she always knew and loved me regardless. But she despises lesbians. She says she was stalked by one when she was a young temp employee back in the 80s. It reminds me of how much Maya Angelou disparaged the lesbian hookers she worked with as a young woman, but adored the company of "jolly male sissies". Hmmmm.

by Anonymousreply 509/09/2013

Yeah, I know one like that. Totally fancinated with gay men, really some cartoon idea of gay men. But hates lesbians. Kind of hates women in general, I think.

by Anonymousreply 609/09/2013


by Anonymousreply 709/09/2013

[quote]Its easy to be friends with someone, when sex is ruled out.

Exactly. Take the sex out of the equation and it's all good. You can't really open up to someone when you're afraid they're going to misconstrue everything you say or do. And you really don't want them hitting on you.

by Anonymousreply 809/09/2013

Most gays and lesbians have exactly zero intention of hitting on straight people. The "fear of being hit on" you cite is both irrational and delusional.

It's barely a step away from the revolting "gay panic" murder defense.

Get a clue, grow up and knock it off.

by Anonymousreply 909/09/2013

Maya Angelou has had a terrible history with men. If I remember correctly what led to Maya getting pregnant with her son is that she thought she might be a lesbian and was eager to prove she wasn't. Hmm...

by Anonymousreply 1009/12/2013

I'm a straight woman who's met a lot of straight men who say gay men have been predatory toward them. They dislike being accosted (as do I), but they react much more strongly because it's not common for them (as it is for me) & they've never grown used to it (as I've had to do). I point out to them that this is not typical behavior for most gay men, but once was enough & now they hate the very idea of homosexuality because they're terrified. For obvious reasons, these guys don't object to lesbians who are pretty, & they either treat dykes like pals or ignore them.

I have some lesbian friends (both femme & butch) with whom I have common interests, & that's the bottom line: if we both love animals or cooking or books or whatever, it doesn't matter that our love lives are different. And I'm not afraid of unwanted attention from women (which has only happened once) because I'm used to receiving it from men & have learned how to rebuff it from any source.

by Anonymousreply 1109/12/2013

The problem with a lot of straight people is, despite their experience, they understand very little of sexuality. They are full of hang-ups. And they are full of shit. Sexual misbehavior can come from a person with any sexual identity. The straights who are worried their same-gender homosexual contemporaries are going to try to fuck them are insecure.

by Anonymousreply 1209/12/2013


by Anonymousreply 1304/21/2014

Yes, very homophobic. People like this only like gays for the novelty of it, like a play thing. Not cool. Give people like this the cold shoulder.

by Anonymousreply 1404/21/2014

I don't mind lesbians. Especially if they're at all pretty. Cause then that's freakin' HOT.

by Anonymousreply 1504/21/2014

[quote]Its easy to be friends with someone, when sex is ruled out.

Not always. Not by a long shot. If you are a handsome gay man, a sexy gay man, women (many, if not most) will SEEM to be your friend, will TRY to be your friend, will WANT to be your friend but they still get horny over you. They still want to fuck you. And if they get drunk and lose their inhibitions around you, they will subtly and not so subtly, all under the guise of teasing or just innocent flirting, TRY to get you into bed or to give you a blow job or to convince you to "come over to their side just this once" or some such bullshit like that. Women don't respect their gay men friend's boundaries. Their crazy hormones get out of whack. Not ALL of them, of course. I am not speaking in sweeping generalizations but I bet there are a few posters out there who can relate.

Women are crazy. Befriend them at your peril.

by Anonymousreply 1604/21/2014


Believe us: we don't.

by Anonymousreply 1704/21/2014

R17, yeah, but plenty of lesbians have the same problem with straight men hitting on THEM and it's bullshit for the girls, too. For all this talk about straights so damned worried that "the gays" are going to hit on them, they do it to US. Heterosexuality is a sick and sad life.

by Anonymousreply 1804/21/2014

My parents. My Dad is freaked out by his gay brother but doesn't care if his daughter's a lesbian. My mom loves my gay uncle and "the gays" in long as they're men. To her credit, she loves me no matter what, but she has a very narrow idea of what women are supposed to look/act like and can get really nasty when she sees women who don't measure up. In her mind, all lesbians are "masculine" and thus don't make the cut. I think deep down she feels she doesn't "measure up" and so projects her insecurity out. I think she's nonplussed by her androgynous daughter, but she's trying.

by Anonymousreply 1904/21/2014

"Maya Angelou disparaged the lesbian hookers she worked with as a young woman"

I thought she had a PhD??

by Anonymousreply 2004/21/2014

R20. I believe that Dr.-Maya-Angelou-Thing has some kind of honorary doctorate which everyone knows does NOT entitle you to be addressed as doctor!

by Anonymousreply 2104/21/2014

I think it's remarkable.

So many straight women love watching guy-on-guy porn.

And it's almost a cliche--the straight guy with a lesbian best friend.

You're onto something, OP.

by Anonymousreply 2204/21/2014

[quote]So many straight women love watching guy-on-guy porn.

Not in the real world, they don't. More straight women are into lesbian porn more than gay male porn. Random Tumblr girls don't represent reality.

by Anonymousreply 2304/21/2014

I disagree. I like it and a lot of my lady friends do too. Yes, girl in girl too, but boy on boy is just sooo naughty.

by Anonymousreply 2404/21/2014

[all posts by childish idiot removed]

by Anonymousreply 2504/21/2014

R19 What do you mean he's freaked out by his gay brother?

by Anonymousreply 2604/21/2014

There are women who love watching gay porn. But straight men loving lesbian porn is almost universal. You can't say the same about women into gay porn though. It's way way lower.

by Anonymousreply 2704/21/2014

Have any of the straight females here who enjoy watching guy on guy porn ever fantasized about their boyfriends/husbands with other men? I know many straight men say they'd like to see their women do girl on girl action, just wondering if the same applies for straight women.

by Anonymousreply 2804/22/2014

Every straight woman I know of who enjoys gay porn says it weirds her out to think of her own boyfriend/husband having sex with another man. Sorry, r28!

by Anonymousreply 2904/22/2014

Whoever said this untruthful things about Maya Angelou being homophobic is an idiot. There are lesbian storylines in lots of her writings and they are showed in positive way.

by Anonymousreply 3004/22/2014

The men that R11 describes are deeply homophobic and paranoid.

by Anonymousreply 3104/22/2014

[quote]You can't say the same about women into gay porn though. It's way way lower.

Yes, like way way way way way way way lower.

The idea that straight women in general love guy on guy porn as much as straight men love girl on girl porn is ludicrous. It's a novelty for a few (confused) women.

by Anonymousreply 3204/22/2014

Sorry, R32, but you have no fucking idea what you're talking about, and I have no idea why you think you know anything on this topic (I assume you're a guy).

by Anonymousreply 3304/22/2014

[2] Mostly guys who are still in highschoo/college, or dimwitted redneck types are prone to that kind of behaviour. I used to avoid socialising with straight guys at work (I'm somewhat socially phobic) and they all reacted negatively to that, they would ask me if something was wrong or if I was mad at them.

by Anonymousreply 3404/22/2014

I was talking sometime back with a lesbian friend who has a gay cousin. My friend says that most of the other male relatives are more accepting of her than her cousin.

by Anonymousreply 3504/22/2014

I have had a large number of straight women who don't seem to mind me.

by Anonymousreply 3604/22/2014
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