Anyone ever dated someone who only views food as fuel?
I love to cook and eat. I like the experience of dining. He eats the same thing every day and is very quick and economical in his eating. I understand his reasoning for his unvaried diet. He had gained quite a bit of weight and he started what is basically the Atkins diet. He won't eat my food because he doesn't think it's healthy, which it can be.
Seriously, this may end up as a deal breaker.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 42||09/08/2013|
You sound fat OP. Put down the fork.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 1||09/07/2013|
What does he eat repeatedly every day? I am curious.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 2||09/07/2013|
R2 he grills sirloin and chicken and eats it everyday for lunch and dinner. He also eats boiled eggs, canned spinach (gag), and blueberries. Snacks are peanuts. He cooks for the entire week. I can appreciate his undaunting routine to look good but, damn, he won't let me take him out to a restaurant once in awhile. I'm not fat but I enjoy dining out and the whole experience of being waited on and not cleaning up. I also love to cook and I'm a good cook but I can't do that either for him.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 3||09/07/2013|
If that's how he's able to maintain his weight and health, then good for him. Shit, that comes before someone you're dating. He's probably thinking that it's a deal breaker too if you're always nagging him to go off his diet.
Don't date a diabetic or someone with a peanut allergy or something, you'd probably kill them.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 4||09/07/2013|
Frankly, R4, his doc told him to cut down on red meat. His cholesterol is too high.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 5||09/07/2013|
It amazes me what people choose to fight over. Who cares how he "views" food? What business is it of yours, anyways?
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 6||09/07/2013|
I once had BF who only ate brussels sprouts, chili with beans, hot wings, cabbage, pizza, and red beans and rice, and washed it all down with copious amounts of cheap beer he bought by the case.
You can imagine the daily horrors I faced.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 7||09/07/2013|
I'm sure OP bitched about his weight gain too.
Some people always want their S.O. to be trim and fit, but eat like a glutton.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 8||09/07/2013|
my diet is very similar to that of the boyfriend. but when I go out to eat I can always find something appropriate on the menu.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 9||09/07/2013|
Fuel Nutrition Belief Art Tourism Celebrity Survival - the only one not annoying
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 10||09/07/2013|
I've been together with a guy like that for 17 years. We accept that we have different attitudes towards food -- I cook, he (usually) eats whatever I prepare, unless he decides it's too fatty or otherwise not to his taste. I try not to take that personally.
When we're out, he know I'll order whatever I want to eat; he usually orders something nutritious and/or cheap.
Sometimes it's an issue; mostly it's not. We've got lots in common and a strong partnership, so food is not a deal-breaker.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 11||09/07/2013|
I am the person for whom food is just fuel, but your bf doesn't sound like he is. There is a difference between being disinterested in food and maintaining a strict diet for weight loss purposes. I eat whatever I want, it is just that I only want it when I am very hungry, stop when I am not hungry and do not linger over the idea of food/food prep or think about food at times when my stomach isn't growling. There is no restriction involved, like it sounds like there is with your bf. It sounds like he actually has issues with controlling overindulgence, hence his strictness.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 12||09/07/2013|
No, R12, he just wants to eat healthy food, eat food that will keep his weight down, and not eat junk.
That is not having 'issues' as you seem to be casting him in a derogative derisive light.
He is to be admired actually for his discipline in keeping his weight down, eating healthy items (except for possibly too much sirloin), and being able to stick to it.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 13||09/07/2013|
I went on a diabetic diet two years ago and exercised my ass off and lost over 30 lbs. Sugar is the enemy. Protein , fiber, water, vegetables and most fruit are your friends. Don't ever feel hungry nor full. Eat several small meals/day. Add a really good hot sauce to a lot of food. The food can be delicious and satisfying. Imagine yourself enjoying trying on clothes at a much smaller size. People treat you better and you have more currency. I'm 50 and haven't felt this good since my 30's.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 14||09/07/2013|
I'd back off on trying to get him to eat other things, OP, because the issue may be a dealbreaker for him as well as for you. He may see you as tempting him to return to his old bad habits, and it's quite likely that he's afraid that if he starts eating for pleasure again he'll get fat again.
If the two of you can't live and let live over the food issue, you're not going to last.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 15||09/07/2013|
Nothing could be more disheartening for someone who loves to cook than a partner who is indifferent to your efforts.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 16||09/07/2013|
So, why don't you offer to cook his steaks, chicken, eggs & stuff for him. Experiment with spices to give him some variety while sticking to his diet.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 17||09/07/2013|
For some people, food is like alcohol is to an alcoholic. If someone keeps tempting them, either they'll relapse or they'll push you away to get away from the temptation.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 18||09/07/2013|
Of all the things that could be dealbreakers, this one I just don't understand.
Let him eat what he wants. There are many other things in life to enjoy together.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 19||09/07/2013|
R17, why in the world would you suggest that the OP cook his boyfriend's diet food?
That is ridiculous.
The boyfriend/partner is obviously happy grilling his sirloin and chicken on a grill all at one time for the entire week, and his other food takes no preparation except boiling eggs.
And if the boyfriend/partner wanted spices he would his own friggin' spices on while grilling.
And R16 is a freakin' drama queen and crybaby.
The last thing you want to suggest someone become subservient to another who is perfectly self-sufficient regarding food preparation.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 20||09/07/2013|
From top to bottom,this thread is dripping with neurosis.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 21||09/07/2013|
Well, I've always considered ice cream a mood stabilizer.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 22||09/07/2013|
One of those celebrity chefs said in response to Jada P Smith about food is fuel (paraphrasing): Eating food for nourishment only is like having sex only for procreation.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 23||09/07/2013|
1. those foods should not be kept for an entire week. He is likely eating spoiled food.
2. He is a mess, Atkins is a horrid diet.
3. punch, delete.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 24||09/08/2013|
R20, just trying to find a compromise for when one wants to cook for his partner, and the partner who only eats particular things. It doesn't need to be a dealbreaker
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 25||09/08/2013|
I find people who eat for fuel far less annoying than those who consider themselves "foodies." You like food? Awesome. So does almost everyone. You like food that tastes good and is high quality? Awesome. So does almost everyone. Giving yourself a label like "foodie" does not make you unique or interesting. Try cultivating a personality.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 26||09/08/2013|
OP I totally get it and have been on both sides. I love to cook but to keep my weight down I am STRICTLY low carb M-F, no snacks, no liquor etc, I can maintain my weight & still cheat on Sat & Sun now which is when I indulge my cooking fantasies.
ask if you can try cooking low carb (or whatever style he's doing) but making different things.
Today I am making Low carb Chicken Veggie soup, and for dinner japanese eggplant (trying for a garlic sauce) with vietnamese style grilled chicken.
If it matters that much to you try offering. If he says no and it bugs you move on. (But if you move on - you may end up w/a chub SO from your good cooking - I did)
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 27||09/08/2013|
People have given me a hard time for years about not liking certain types of vegetables. I recently took the 23andme.com test and found that I am a super taster and that bitter foods taste exceptionally bad to me. When I looked at the list it corresponded with the foods I won't eat.
People eat and don't eat certain things for all sorts of reasons. Why judge people based on food preferences and why they eat? He should punch and delete you, not the other way around.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 28||09/08/2013|
I am one of those people, OP. I don't enjoy eating including the processes associated with it such as preparation and actual ingestion. If I never had to eat again, I wouldn't. I enjoy a romantic dinner at times, but it's more for the company and atmosphere. I see food as an unfortunate necessity in order to live.
My taste in food is very bland, and while I will eat from almost any cuisine, I avoid foods that are too strong in taste or spiciness, such as Thai, Indian and Mexican, although I can usually find at least one dish that I can eat a restaurant. Such "strong" foods either overwhelm me, painful to eat or awful in taste.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 29||09/08/2013|
The amount of poops must be craazzeee!
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 30||09/08/2013|
Can't you just go out once a week to a nice restaurant with someone besides your boyfriend? You shouldn't deprive yourself of this treat because he won't go with you, but he shouldn't have to go either (Maybe on a very special occasion like your birthday).
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 31||09/08/2013|
OP there are many great cookbooks that use only healthy ingredients, etc., - can you combine your cooking skills with what he eats and make something better than his plain old chicken & sirloin?
I'm a food for fuel person, but if I had a boyfriend who was a great cook I'd give him some parameters about what I need/like and let him create something really fun.
My mom is a real foodie, and we go out to eat all the time. I just order my thing and she orders hers.
Does he have a problem with restaurants? (germs, people, etc?)
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 32||09/08/2013|
I am also a super taster and enjoy those tastes you revile.
Super tasters are not required to have baby supertastes.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 33||09/08/2013|
Crazy ass Jada Pinket Smith has this "food as fuel" attitude, OP, so take that for what its worth.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 34||09/08/2013|
Nearly all Dutchman are this way
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 35||09/08/2013|
[quote]What business is it of yours, anyways?
When you are with someone, sharing meals as a very important ritual. And if you live together, it is a wast of time and money to always prepare two, different meals.
Someone who eats the same thing every day sounds too boring to live.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 37||09/08/2013|
Don't get into relationships with people who have different priorities than you. It'll never work out. This includes issues like money, religion, politics, exercise, and yes, food. Food is a major part of our lives. If you and your partner are constantly fighting over something as basic as food, then you'll come to resent each other over time.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 38||09/08/2013|
Actually, R17 has a great suggestion. My bf is like yours OP - he never eats out and refuses to touch anything carby/starchy/overly fried and oiled up. He has a super sensitive palate and can taste the additives in almost anything. To compromise, I do a lot of Paleo baking (gluten free, refined sugar free breads and muffins) which he happily eats.
If you can't find a compromise and learn to take a creative interest in what he's doing, then ultimately R38 is right.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 39||09/08/2013|
[quote]Today I am making Low carb Chicken Veggie soup
How could chicken vegetable soup be high-carb?
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 40||09/08/2013|
Picky eaters are attention seekers.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 41||09/08/2013|
There's a lot of reasons 2 people can't get along. BUT THIS IS NOT ONE OF THEM. Find a compromise and respect each other's preferences.
|by I know.....get a fucking blog||reply 42||09/08/2013|