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Are Gay Male Couples Monogamous?

I'm friends with three gay males couples who have been together for three, seven and 18 years respectively. None of them is monogamous. They don't sneak around behind each other, and generally when they have sex with another person or another couple, then it's a threesome or foursome.

They appear to be compatible on other aspects of their lives with a normal amount of getting along and/or arguing/fighting that the average couple would, but when it comes to sex, they're open.

by Anonymousreply 1309/05/2013

Some are, some aren't. We did an extensive poll on this very topic not too long ago.

My God, how many more times do we have to talk about this?

by Anonymousreply 109/05/2013

R1. You don't have to talk about it. Perhaps OP didn't see the 'extensive poll' to which you refer. The question wasn't intended for poor, put-upon, unfortunate souls like you.

by Anonymousreply 209/05/2013

Did it take you 32 minutes to muster the brain power for that 'response', R2? Sad.

by Anonymousreply 309/05/2013

There may be monogamous gay couples but I don't personally know of any.

My partner and I have been together for 15 years. We absolutely adore each other, but we approach sex in a very practical manner. We understand that we're both men who get horny and want to get off with other men from time to time. So that's OK. As long as we don't hurt or inconvenience each other or bring home any diseases it's open season, sexually.

It doesn't actually happen that often, believe it or not. Especially not since we've gotten older. Neither of us are willing to put that much energy into hooking up and getting off anymore. A night in watching movies, with a bottle of wine, cuddling on the sofa is usually much more appealing.

by Anonymousreply 409/05/2013

Been together 21 years, he's always been monogamous. I was monogamous until I had an affair last year. I've been forgiven, but things will never be the same. It wasn't the sex that bothered him, it was my lying and deceiving him about the entire situation. I even lied about how I met the guy. He never found out, I just decided to come clean one day.

by Anonymousreply 509/05/2013

R3 = clueless dolt who has no friends.

by Anonymousreply 609/05/2013

OP, maybe you should make gay friends someplace other than a highway rest stop.

by Anonymousreply 709/05/2013

Fail, R6. I'm embarrassed for you.

by Anonymousreply 809/05/2013

Oh please R8 You can think of no other reason why a person would not immediately respond to one of your posts? Really? There is no other possible explanation that goes through that tiny head of yours? Wow. Talk about sad. I wish I could say I'm embarrassed for you, but instead I keep laughing at how you so blatantly display your stupidity.

by Anonymousreply 909/05/2013

Whenever I see posts like the OP's, I think "troll bait." Or someone who is clueless and somehow thinks that straight couples have somehow cornered the market on monogamy based on knowing a few people. And why only ask about gay men and not lesbians?

Well, there are a whole lot of straights who aren't monogamous OP - probably a whole lot more than you think. There are plenty of hetero swing clubs out there and spouses who get some on the side.

The world's oldest profession wouldn't still be in existence if married men and women weren't straying or scratching an itch.

Assuming that the OP is genuine, the big difference between non-monogamous straights and the OP's friends is that teh latter are more honest about it.

by Anonymousreply 1009/05/2013

Keep on with that mental breakdown, R9. It's deliciously entertaining...

by Anonymousreply 1109/05/2013

R10. I'm not really interested in straight couples and the sexual habits. I was simply asking the question about gay male couples. I have no other ulterior motive. Sorry, if you want to be judgmental and make this thread more complicated than it was intended.

by Anonymousreply 1209/05/2013

R11 TRANSLATION: I cant answer the question asked of me because doing so would reveal how dense I really am. So instead, I will call names. That always works.

by Anonymousreply 1309/05/2013
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