THE BOOK : Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex: But Were Afraid to Ask ....
I think it came out in about 1969.. My parents bought it and it was around our house when I was growing up. It used to depress the hell out of me. I can't have been the only one. Made all gays sound like sad lonely perverts.
Anyone else here remember the book ( as opposed to the film)?
|by Anonymous||reply 33||08/30/2013|
Before my time. What did it say about gay life?
|by Anonymous||reply 1||08/26/2013|
It was a disgusting book! It probably did more to destroy gay men's lives than any other book since the Bible. On the other hand, the only mention of lesbians was in the chapter on prostitution.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||08/26/2013|
"The book was translated into 54 languages and sold in 52 countries and ultimately reached more than 150 million readers. In 1972 it was parodied by Woody Allen in the comedy film of the same name."
Apparently it was updated in 1999. Boy, he had a lot of work to do.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||08/26/2013|
I remember the book, and the anti-gay comments.
I was about 12 when I read it, and although I found it interesting from a factual POV, even then I could tell it was written by someone with the prejudices of a straight male swinger.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||08/26/2013|
The gays insert lightbulbs in their asses. I remember reading that when I was 12 or 13 and feeling sort of sick.
Thanks, Dr. Reuben!
|by Anonymous||reply 5||08/26/2013|
Nancy Friday's "Men in Love" isn't much better. The section on homosexuality is tiny and the only real gay voice is from a very self-loathing man. Pretty sick shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||08/26/2013|
At the link, Gore Vidal rips the book apart and then stomps on it for good measure.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||08/26/2013|
Thanks for the link, R7. Bracing and blissful to read a piece by Vidal that's new to me. Gore gores and tosses as only he could.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||08/27/2013|
I once went into a book store to by a copy of Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex: But Were Afraid to Ask.......(sobs) I was afraid to ask for the book.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||08/27/2013|
Funny thing is every single gay person is exactly like the book said it was.
Except they also have the AIDS.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||08/27/2013|
I think if Gore hadn't rambled on so long his piece might have been more effective.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||08/27/2013|
Thanks for that r7. Vidal sure could eviscerate the bullshitters!
|by Anonymous||reply 12||08/27/2013|
R11, there are things other than comic books, Mary.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||08/27/2013|
I remember it said that bowling alley men's rooms were a major location for gay sex.
It made it seem like all gay sex was anonymous quickies. There was no mention of long term relationships.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||08/27/2013|
Agreed, R11. I don't think anyone edited his article--I guess perhaps they were less vigilant about that sort of thing in those days. It's really interesting for me to find out what a load of crap this book is...I remember it being a prominently featured title back then, but since I was only a kid, I never knew anything more about it other than the catchy and edgy title. It's pretty surprising to find out it was written by such an asshole.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||08/27/2013|
R10, peddle your homophobic shit somewhere else.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||08/27/2013|
R13 has no idea how queeny & stupid she sounds.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||08/27/2013|
Ann Landers also referenced the book when dispensing advice to desperate gay teens seeking affirmation.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||08/27/2013|
So has the twit who wrote it ever been called out on his homophobia? He's still living.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||08/27/2013|
Man that Gore Vidal piece was exhausting! Spot- on, witty, and interesting.....but exhausting!
|by Anonymous||reply 21||08/27/2013|
You don't have to read all of it, I skimmed and got the gist.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||08/27/2013|
One of the merits of 'The New York Review of Books' is that it allows essayists generous discursive space.
The essay was Vidal's best form, and the NYRB let him flourish. He dismantles what was clearly pop junk sexology with wit and erudition. The piece never bores, and the barbs hit home.
Such a backward bestseller deserved a meticulous takedown. Vidal's excellent essay will outlive its catchpenny subject.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||08/27/2013|
Woody Allen's movie on the subject was far better
|by Anonymous||reply 24||08/27/2013|
Gore Vidal's review was excellent, especially for the fact that it was actually published in 1970. He does however basically call the author an uptight Jew.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||08/27/2013|
I remember being fascinated with the part about men giving each other blow jobs in bowling alley restrooms.
And the tip to avoid detection by the police: Have the guy being blown stand in a shopping bag.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||08/27/2013|
I too, remember the bowling alley thing. In fact, it's the only part of the book that I remember.
I was 11 and that year I requested that my birthday party be held at the Bowling Alley!
didn't score, though.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||08/27/2013|
Gore Vidal was anti-Semitic.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||08/27/2013|
Hilarious r27, you little perv.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||08/27/2013|
I think I remember a pickle jar and a light bulb.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||08/27/2013|
I liked the opening of Gore's review so much I just quoted it on my profile on a bdsm site. It's about how people who are cutesy about sex are uptight. I hate that especially with bdsm which is supposed to be dark and serious, the cutesy ruins it.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||08/27/2013|
[quote]Gore Vidal was anti-Semitic.
Yet shared his life with Howard Austen, Jewish.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||08/27/2013|
I remember coming back home from playing outside and I had left "Everything You wanted to Know" out of the bookcase. I did get a talking to by my parents, that was gentle and saying they didn't agree with everything in it. I was completely humiliated. I got on my bike and rode for an hour. Plus, I was nervous that the book was open to the gay pages. Very stressful.
One other fucked up thing about this book is that it talks about masterbation, and it describes that it's done by rubbing the genitals up and down the sheets. And that's how I did for years when I was young. It took a lot of hard work and practice (and guidance from my friend Steve) to realize you stroke just your dick. Oye. this book was bad news for me!
|by Anonymous||reply 33||08/30/2013|