Excellent breakdown of the situation, R256. I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't buy R255 (who again made sure to delete her cookies before writing her comment in order to hide her posting history on this thread, always a tell-tale sign that someone isn't as objective as they claim to be) and her claim that there are no any real haters here, only level-headed people who "are pushing back at the simpering Benderson stans". That's complete and utter bullshit for anyone even remotely familiar with the usual tone of an AC-Ben thread on DL, characterized as they are by insane anger directed at this particular couple, wild rumor-mongering about impending breakup (always contradicted by the plain fact that AC and Ben are still together after more than 5 years), baseless accusations of constant cheating, excessive drugging/partying, and routine trashing of Ben's intelligence, character and looks.
R255 conveniently focuses on two things (the kissing pics and the one instance where Ben was sitting exactly one row behind AC at a fashion show) and uses that as leverage against the so-called "Benderson stans", all the while ignoring the much larger number of claims and allegations that a dedicated group of DLers are constantly making without a single shred of evidence. Compared to the non-stop avalanche of lies, distortions and made-up stories that the haters keep presenting as facts, the so-called "Benderson stans" seem rather innocuous, and their understanding of the situation between AC and Ben doesn't represent a total departure from reality, at least nowhere nearly as removed from known facts as the version presented by the other side.
For example, there's no evidence that Ben walked 5 steps behind AC, even in the initial stages of their relationship (on the other hand, as r256 pointed out, that's exactly what Cesar used to do), yet that is exactly what is repeated here over and over like a mantra. Also, there are no photos of Anderson with any of the numerous guys that people here swear are his side dishes (Pablo, Real Estate guy, etc...). Apart from those kissing pics in the park, there's no evidence that Ben is cheating on AC with anyone at Bedlam, at Eastern Bloc, or with anyone else. There's absolutely no proof that Ben was an escort, that he's a drug-addict, that he's a golddigger, that he's racist, or dumb. Yet these wild accusations are just a fractions of what a small but highly motivated group of posters are churning out at a frantic pace on these AC threads.
As to what those kissing pics were about, who knows at this point, but it's now been more than 1 year since they were published, and Anderson is still with Ben, so clearly that was not the scandal, nor the dealbreaker that some around here were predicting with gleeful yet premature anticipation. This doesn't prevent those same people from bringing up those pics over and over again like they're proof that the relationship is doomed every time someone dares to say that AC and Ben seem like a happy couple.
On the other hand, there's plenty of evidence that AC and Ben are happy in their relationship: the mere fact that they've been together for over 5 years, that Anderson finally came out as a gay man after decades of being glass closeted, that Ben is the first and only partner that he has ever acknowledged publicly, that they've been seen and photographed doing a 100 different things together (from going to the gym, to biking around town, to eating at restaurants, to going to Ben's bars and other places in NYC, to attending various parties and public events, to traveling all over the world together, etc...), all these are good indications that their relationship is actually working. Why this simple fact is pushing some around here over the edge and causing them to create all sorts of nasty accusations against AC and Ben is beyond me, but the truth remains that all signs indicate that their relationship is a stable, happy, and solid one.