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Do you hate personal phonecalls?

Does anyone else hate talking on the phone? Let me state right away that I'm 45, grew up "dialing with a pencil", didn't get a cell phone until the late 90s and adamantly insisted on "just a phone!" cellphones until smartphones took over in the last 6-7 years. I'm not some idiot Millenial who only communicates via Twitter.

But I've grown to hate personal phonecalls, and I notice that most of the people who still call me "just to talk" are elderly, but not all. One good friend my age who lives long distance apparently only wants to keep in touch this way, so once a month I sit through a phone conversation with him for an hour. I do call him half of the time, but I get so bored sitting for an hour, listening to him, talking back and forth. There are both many awkward pauses as well as cell-phone over speak (both talk at the same time and neither can hear), repeating or being asked to repeat, signal breaking up, shouting to be heard, etc. I need to block out an hour in my schedule, ignore my partner, and sit and talk like I'm chained to the phone. It's always wet with ear-sweat by the time we end the call. Just inbox me!

I also have several local friends who use it as a primary means of communication for mundane-type messages that would be easily communicated by text, email or Facebook. A friend asked me to catsit recently and, instead of emailing or texting me the simple instructions, she called me and verbally recited the information. I actually found myself scrambling for pen and paper with a phone crooked between my ear and shoulder. So retro!

Anyone else hate personal phonecalls?

by Anonymousreply 2108/19/2013

Almost as much as I hate knocks on the door, op.

by Anonymousreply 108/19/2013

Yes. It's totally my patience for talking on the phone just to chat. I'm not thrilled about emailing just to catch up either. People showing up at my door I detest altogether. I'm not a social person and never have been, not even as a teen. I'm nice and polite to everyone but I like to keep it hello and stop there.

by Anonymousreply 208/19/2013

I got pissed at the phone company in November and put away the phone. Haven't used a phone since and don't miss it.

by Anonymousreply 308/19/2013

Yes, and for totally fucked up reasons. Since I was a kid, I associate idly talking on the phone as something girls do. I know, its totally stupid, and I really should get past it, but so far I have not.

by Anonymousreply 408/19/2013


by Anonymousreply 508/19/2013

Do you all have Asperger's Syndrome?

by Anonymousreply 608/19/2013

In the age of the text message and e-mail, phone calls are becoming obsolete. When you have good reason to speak directly, set up a videochat.

by Anonymousreply 708/19/2013

I am thrilled when people do NOT call me.

by Anonymousreply 808/19/2013

Yes, I only do very important business conversations and very rarely a catching up call with an old friend via the phone - maybe once a week. Those who seem to need to "reach out" and chat with anyone that calls at any time seem insane to me.

by Anonymousreply 908/19/2013

Working overseas for a few years, I had no phone access so I just got out of the habit of needing any phone. On my parent's wedding anniversary, I contacted them via a short-wave hook-up. It was nice to hear their voices after many months away. Over!

by Anonymousreply 1008/19/2013

You all do realize that, although you are agreeing with each other, that you are exhibiting anti-social behavioral traits, don't you? In this age of technology, HUMAN connections are more important than EVER.

by Anonymousreply 1108/19/2013

R11, a telephone is technology, too. Talking into a plastic earpiece is no more or less HUMAN than tapping out a message on a keyboard.

by Anonymousreply 1208/19/2013

R12, the hell it isn't. HEARING a human voice and listening/responding is a much more intimate and connected human way of communicating than with cold typed digits on a keypad passed back and forth. You could be talking to a robot for all you know.

by Anonymousreply 1308/19/2013

R13, hearing a voice cut in and out whhile many other loud ambient noises waft about is NOT human contact. I call important people on my landline when I'm in a good mood, not like these aberrant buffoons who jabber inconsequently in public thinking that they are communicating.

by Anonymousreply 1408/19/2013

R13, 100+ years ago some Luddite would be taking you to task for not writing letters or visiting in person.

by Anonymousreply 1508/19/2013

I call my parents often, but that's it. All other communication is email or texting.

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by Anonymousreply 1708/19/2013

I hate all phone calls. Even during my cube drudge period of the 90s I could do 100 emails a day, generate 10 reports, conduct 10 meetings, and create 100 mb of crap on the servers, but I couldn't handle more than about 10 phone calls. It was best to avoid them because the other party would consistently misrepresent and misremember the content of the calls - and as person to person, there were no witnesses - and you had to manage their ego whether it was worth the time expenditure or not.

by Anonymousreply 1808/19/2013

Conference calls were more acceptable, but just.

by Anonymousreply 1908/19/2013

There was a dude in the office though who was on the phone all day, sometimes 16 hours a day, yapping non-stop. He was a negotiator and his tactic was to wear other people down by mindless endless babble. You couldn't pay me a million dollars to do what he did.

by Anonymousreply 2008/19/2013

With the fiery passion of 10,000 suns!

by Anonymousreply 2108/19/2013
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