Here are some of the points brought up on the previous thread that I'm replying to:
[quote] You say you dont find anal unpleasant, it just doesnt do anything for you. But you love giving oral. Obviously you find giving oral pleasurable. What is it exactly that you like about giving oral? How do you feel when you are sucking dick? Now, can you apply that to anal? You might be able to because it seems you are not so much into the act as you are into what the act symbolizes for you.
I love giving oral because I like knowing that I'm giving pleasure to the guy. I'm also good at it, so I'm more confident in giving the blowjob because I know that he likes what I'm doing (I know that sounds arrogant, but hey it's the truth).
A lot of it is in my mind too - when I'm sucking dick I find myself thinking "I have this guy's cock in my mouth" and that really turns me on, lol. It also helps that I REALLY like swallowing cum - a big turn on for me is bukkake scenes or snowballing. I think applying the mindset to anal is a good idea (I think the thought of a guy getting pleasure from my body is a turn on), it's just that anal comes with other things to worry about for me, like:
-Am I clean enough back there? I hope I don't shit on his cock -Did he put the condom on properly? Will it break? -Is my asshole going to tear/expose myself potentially to HIV (if it's a hookup, tho note I never do anal on hookups)
[quote] A few other things. You're young, you have a lot of time to figure out what pushes your buttons. And keep in mind, what buttons you like pushed now may not be the same buttons you like pushed in ten or five or even one year from now.
That's a good point! Though I can't imagine myself ever getting tired of oral lol.
[quote] Also, while getting fucked and using toys currently rates a great big meh, if youre lucky enough to be getting fucked by someone who you really really love, ....well thats a whole different story.
Good point too! The times I've been fucked, the first was a random Craigslist hookup (I know, was 18 and stupid, but with condom), and the other times were with my ex, whom I did love, but I didn't see him as a guy that I wanted topping me (he was too sweet lol).
[quote] Lastly, for someone your age, you seem to have a very healthy and well rounded attitude about sex and exploring that part of yourself. That alone is enough for this bigger dominate guy to say I would give it a try with you.
Thank you sir! :P
[quote] Anyone who has tried as hard as you have deserves a chance. I would try very, very hard to get you there, but if we just couldn't find it, that would be okay too. You sound loveable.
Thank you! I HAVE tried really hard! lol still have yet to try it with my new best friend Albolene though...
[quote] The anal sex act must be the root cause of homophobia, straights are disgusted by it.
I totally agree, and it's exactly what my professor of gay studies in college said too. Straight people (at least older straight people) are freaked out by anal fucking.