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Is anyone else attracted to their personal trainer?

I've been training with mine for two months and just recently I started asking her more personal questions, like what she wanted to do with her life besides training, what she studied in school, etc, and she started confiding in me more about her reasons for training (which were kinda on the very personal side) and I found myself attracted to her. I don't think she's gay, but I think she could be bi.

by Lesbianreply 3410/24/2013

Yes, I am very attracted to mine. Don't think she is gay though.

What were her personal reasons?

by Lesbianreply 108/02/2013

Well it's highly unlikely that she reads this, but just body health stuff and childhood issues (trying to be vague). She messaged me today to say how much she enjoyed talking to me.

by Lesbianreply 208/02/2013

Ask her out for bread pudding. See how she reacts.

by Lesbianreply 308/02/2013

No, because I don't have one.

I can see why personal trainers could be attractive. If someone has a super hot body, seems knowledgable, and exudes confidence.....that's attractive. Bonus points if they have insane endurance or strength (good for marathon fucking sessions after training *wink* )

If I had one we would probably be fucking too, but I am fortunate enough to do all my own workouts, and get my hot body on my own. (actually, I just refuse to pay for someone to boss me around and yell at me, I'm not "into" that kind of thing)

by Lesbianreply 408/02/2013

what kind of a trainer ever yells? It's not a bootcamp session.

My trainer has a super hot body, seems knowledgable and exudes confidence, but I didn't feel attracted to her until she seemed to confide in me. But then I wonder, does she confide in everyone who asks about her? Or am I just good at extracting seemingly personal info from people? It is basically what I do for my job, so maybe I it is just me. Who knows?

by Lesbianreply 508/02/2013

[quote]She messaged me today to say how much she enjoyed talking to me.

Does she know you're gay?

by Lesbianreply 608/02/2013

I'm guessing no since I've not told her and no one ever guesses I'm gay, ever.

by Lesbianreply 708/02/2013

Oh dear, closet woman hopes straight woman will fuck her.

by Lesbianreply 808/02/2013

I was just thinking about this at the gym the other day.

It is very clear that a number of gay guys out my gym have crushes on their handsome trainers.

And I wonder if the straight trainers encourage this because they know it will bring in more business.

by Lesbianreply 908/02/2013

A lot of gay men are attracted to their trainers. That's part of the reason why they hire them...because they're handsome and give them their undivided attention.

by Lesbianreply 1008/02/2013

Maybe she thinks you guys can be friends?

This is exactly why I might seem a little "mysterious" to people I don't know. Whenever I'm friendly or more open with them, and have more deep conversations, they always get crushes on me. Several have actually told me they were in love with me. It's not fair, really.

If you are attracted to her and actually WANT to be more than friends, tell her and don't lead her on. She probably thinks she found a new bff.

by Lesbianreply 1108/02/2013

[quote] Oh dear, closet woman hopes straight woman will fuck her. [quote]

But I'm not in the closet. I just don't look like a stereotypical lesbian. And I don't know that trainer is straight. She's not in a relationship, she just bought her own home, she said she doesn't ever want to get married or have kids. She's into weightlifting (but doesn't have weird bodybuilding body).

by Lesbianreply 1208/02/2013

Come out to her, casually. Then re-evaluate.

by Lesbianreply 1308/02/2013

Ohh good idea R13. It seriously didn't occur to me.

by Lesbianreply 1408/02/2013

Straight guys and trainers now not only dont have a problem with gay men benign attractive to the, they use it to their advantage!

I am talking the under 30 age group. No, the straight guy dose not secretly want to fuck you, he just wants your money. He is not going to turn gay for you just because he treats you nicely (as in a paying customer) Deal with it.

Jacking off to internet porn is much cheaper.

by Lesbianreply 1508/02/2013

Dear Lord in Heaven!

by Lesbianreply 1608/02/2013

My hunky straight trainer has a crush on me. I can tell by the way he looks at me when I ask him a question.

At 50, I never thought I would find love again! Especially with such a hot 23 year-old.

I worry about acting on this though because I need to think about his wife and their new baby.

by Lesbianreply 1708/02/2013

I had such a crush but managed to hide it from him well enough - not that he was the most observant person, mind you. I enjoyed it for what it was, analyzed it a little, felt slightly silly, and got fit.

by Lesbianreply 1808/02/2013

[quote]Whenever I'm friendly or more open with them, and have more deep conversations, they always get crushes on me. Several have actually told me they were in love with me. It's not fair, really.

Where is that poster who wanted to know what a 'humblebrag' is?

by Lesbianreply 1908/02/2013

My PT is very cute. But I'm at least 20 years older than him. Even if he wanted something to happen, I don't date guys under 25, they be babies. He has a gf anyway.

Oh, I'm a woman in my mid-40s.

by Lesbianreply 2008/02/2013

I woman I know left her husband and children for her hot exercise-ball trainer!

by Lesbianreply 2108/02/2013

R20 45 year old Frau + 25 year old male = Cougar

by Lesbianreply 2208/02/2013

My PT is a good looking dominican guy. I've worked with him for 3 years. Never had a crush. He recently got into hot water with his gf when one of his female clients got a crush and started sending him amorous texts.

My trainer is more like a brother. His gf is hot and sweet. I'm thankful to him for transforming my body. We joke around but we maintain our boundaries.

I think the physical closeness and brief sharing of personal stuff is the norm. Crushes are likely another form of erotic transference. Those crushing on their trainers would experince the same toward their shrink. Its a similar dynamic.

by Lesbianreply 2308/02/2013

So R8 is the Anon But Anal/ Don't interact with anyone but Gay-with-a-capital Z!!s troll?

by Lesbianreply 2408/02/2013

Think PTs get this happening all the time -

One of my former trainers was a 'natural bodybuilding' champion a coupla times running and pretty handsome - he told me he had had a few gay guys sign him up to train them & then began to pursue him - tried to become 'friends' - asking & telling lotsa personal stuff & wanting to converse & have coffee, etc - one became quite the stalker - and when he finally realised his affection wasn't returned he acted like a lover spurned - even tho all he had ever been was a client...

Same with a hot female trainer I knew - she was terribly polite and friendly & fun and became best friends with most of her femaile clients - and I don't think there was a single straight male client who didn't try his luck with her. She was gorgeous - but really not good at boundaries - and honestly think she began to really get off on the attention and ego-boo and drama - she ended up meeting a few other 'hot' male trainers at various courses she di and had several affairs - and a LOT of drama... (she was late thirties & married with kids).

Think the whole PT industry attracts an above-average percentage of narcissists and people who want to be gurus - and certainly ultra-fit young men and women are chock full of hormones - & there are a lot of willing outlets out there.

It really isn't terribly professional at times (remember that Travlota/Jamie Lee Curtis movie from the eighties - 'Perfect', about gym culture and all the fucking that went on? Still like that in so many ways! - LOL!)

by Lesbianreply 2508/02/2013

Personal trainers are the biggest whores ever.

by Lesbianreply 2608/02/2013

They seem largely straight, though, unfortunately.

by Lesbianreply 2708/02/2013

I had a very cute trainer who I worked with for about two years. Straight. Very friendly.

He said he always noticed that when he was friendly to gay guys, they always thought he was hitting on them.

by Lesbianreply 2808/02/2013

No, R24, I'm the Anon but anal/oh dear there's someone getting hopeful over nothing/don't come to DL then crap on gay people with your phobic remarks/what did they say this site was for? person.

by Lesbianreply 2908/03/2013

R29 Have you tried An AlAnon?

by Lesbianreply 3008/03/2013

Today she told me I need friends here (here is a city I just moved to) after she asked me what I do with my free time and I couldn't think of anything so I think she is trying to BFF me. Though, I do think she might be a little bit repressed about something (not necessarily sexuality) from what she's revealed to me.

by Lesbianreply 3108/06/2013


by Lesbianreply 3209/06/2013

They're essentially prostitutes without sex.

by Lesbianreply 3309/06/2013

I have a slight problem with my PT. I am female (gay), PT is straight, female and married. PT does not know I am gay. That is not an issue.

Have been working with PT for about four months. It's been going well. She is very knowledgeable and good at her job. I feel that I have increased my fitness and learnt a lot as well. I work once a week with PT and twice a week by myself.

A couple of things annoy me. She talks a lot about her husband, who by the way seems like jerk, he's a grown man that can't seem to do much for himself. She does not see it that way but it's not my business so I keep quiet on the subject.

She has sometimes chopped and changed our sessions around. Having to re-arrange our usual session on a number of occasions.

I work long hours and the earliest I can get to the gym on weekdays is 6.30 p.m. I know she doesn't like working that late. Our session lasts for an hour. She has on several occasions asked me if we can changed the times or can I get there earlier. I have made this clear on each occasion that she had asked that I can't. I told her my situation at our very first meeting so I don't understand why she keeps raising the subject.

About a month ago she suggested coming to my place of work and having the PT session on my lunch break. I said I would not be happy to do that and explained why. I have a 1 hour lunch break, I admit I sweat quite a bit during a hard work out and my work place does not have shower facilities. My work place is also a 45 minute drive from my home. I have to see client's as part of my job so there is no way I do that after a work out. It would not create a good impression with my clients. Also I don't see how I could fit in a one hour work out and eat my lunch in one hour.

Also about a month ago she mentioned to me that she was not happy working at this gym. That she was considering setting up on her own. She intended to visit client's at their home. I was unsure about this as the gym has all the equipment and she would have limited equipment so I said I would think about it and asked her to keep me informed.

Last week I received a text from her informing me that she had resigned and that it had not gone down well with her employers (gym). They had asked her to leave at the end of the month (October). I know she was planning to leave two months after resigning so that has not worked out the way she hoped. I have two sessions left with her under my monthly contract and she said she could honour these before she left. I have had one and I have one more to go next week.

I asked if she was still setting up on her own. She said she didn't have the capital right now and would keep me informed but she didn't seem to divulge much information. I got the impression that she had a plan of action but did not want to keep me in the loop.

I have checked my PT contract with the gym, the payments leave my account every month direct to the gym. I have to cancel before a certain date and therefore I cannot cancel for November as it's too late, if I had been informed earlier I could have cancelled. I am left with no PT and payments coming out of my account for the further month.

PT said that she would match me with another PT for November and that she would find someone ideally suited to my needs. She suggested that I could continue past November with the new PT if I was happy with them. However, she seemed to just 'dump' me onto another PT. In the gym she walked me over to another PT and introduced us and said she would pass my details on. I am left wondering if she just paired me with the new PT as he happened to be around the gym at that time or whether she genuinely thinks he would be the best one for me.

I have been giving it some thought and before she introduced me to the new PT I had considered cancelling my PT and just working on my own at the gym but using the knowledge I have gained from my PT sessions. That way I would also be £140.00 better off each month. Or should I just give the new PT a chance?

by Lesbianreply 3410/24/2013
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