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Have you ever been in love?


by Anonymousreply 5409/02/2014

I once had a really good baked potato at Wendy's.

by Anonymousreply 107/27/2013

I've never been to a Wendy's.

by Anonymousreply 207/27/2013

Yes you have, r2.

Why lie to your friends on the DL?

BTW, I've never been to Oregon, tasted shark, or ridden in a Chevrolet Corvette.

by Anonymousreply 307/28/2013

I've had my heart broken twice. Yes, I was in love. But I'm never leaving myself open to that kind of pain again.

by Anonymousreply 407/28/2013

Yes and not at Wendy's. it's hard on me.

by Anonymousreply 507/28/2013

Yes. Twice. The first one was physically abusive and the second one I loved him more than he loved me and he cheated. That was over a decade ago. Next time, I hope I don't fall in love, I hope I rise into it.

by Anonymousreply 607/28/2013

No. Never had a relationship in all my 41 years. Lots of sex but no love. I hope to have a relationship someday, but I think everyone would perceive my (lack of) history as utterly damning. Oh well. Life sucks. What are you gonna do?

by Anonymousreply 707/28/2013

Unrequited, yes.

by Anonymousreply 807/28/2013

Yes, I've been in Love. Then I killed myself.

by Anonymousreply 907/28/2013

[quote]Next time, I hope I don't fall in love, I hope I rise into it.

Nicely put.

by Anonymousreply 1007/28/2013

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

Only once was it returned.

by Anonymousreply 1107/28/2013

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by Anonymousreply 1207/28/2013

I have. And it was heaven. They all ended badly but somehow they came back and we remained friends.

by Anonymousreply 1307/28/2013

No, OP. Infatuated many times, in love yet to come.

by Anonymousreply 1407/28/2013

I'm not sure. In time, with distance, I always end up wondering whether I was ever really in love at all.

by Anonymousreply 1507/28/2013

There is nothing like the feeling of being physically and emotionally close to someone else. Unless you're not a people person.

by Anonymousreply 1607/28/2013

I fall in love every time I see a guy with a smooth pair of bubbles.

by Anonymousreply 1707/28/2013

No, and I'm okay with it.

by Anonymousreply 1807/28/2013

Twice. One loved me devotedly, one ever elusive, unfaithful. Guess which I still brood over, many years later?

by Anonymousreply 1907/28/2013

More times than I can count. That's just the way I'm built.

by Anonymousreply 2007/29/2013


by Anonymousreply 2107/29/2013

[quote]There is nothing like the feeling of being physically and emotionally close to someone else

I've lived without it for most of my life, I'm curious about it, but I'm not going to die over it either if it never happens.

by Anonymousreply 2207/29/2013


Seems the only people who are interested in me are married bisexual women who want to irritate their husbands...sigh.

by Anonymousreply 2307/29/2013

Most single people are completely content being single. It's the miserable couples that want to compartmentalize everyone into twos.

by Anonymousreply 2407/29/2013

R15 wrote:

"I'm not sure. In time, with distance, I always end up wondering whether I was ever really in love at all."


Me too.

I don't fall easily, in fact only twice in my life has the thought even entered my mind as a possibility.

But neither situation worked out, and now years later I wonder if I ever was.

by Anonymousreply 2507/31/2013


I would wonder what counts as "in love" but I've never come close, never felt especially strong about anyone.

by Anonymousreply 2607/31/2013

Yes. I wouldn't recommend it.

by Anonymousreply 2707/31/2013

Those of you who are in love at the moment, how do you know?

by Anonymousreply 2808/02/2013

I'm depressed - I'm 32 and never even had a boyfriend, let alone been in love. It's because I live in a shitty small town and I don't know any other gay people. I feel like my looks are just going to waste and feel like I'll never find someone.

by Anonymousreply 2909/01/2014

R29, don't lose your heart. Something good may happen, soon. I feel that you want things to change and i know that sometimes we are not ready or feel strong enough to move on. You don't need to despair if you cannot change things at the moment. Some days are better than others and far more giving. Maybe in one of those days you'll find the boyfriend or the stimulation you need. No need to see your situation with despair or sarcasm. Do yourself a favor! Be good to yourself, don't be unhappy. You still have a future, but even if you were 80, you can always experience some certain happiness. Just be patient with yourself, and with your routine.

by Anonymousreply 3009/01/2014

Yes once. And it all ended in misery.

"Never love him more than he loves you." - words of wisdom

by Anonymousreply 3109/01/2014

why don't you move, r32? how small is your town?

by Anonymousreply 3209/01/2014

I've been to a Wendy's but I've never been to me...

I've been truly in love twice. First time was a torrid, dramatic, angst-ridden roller coaster, it ended badly. Second time I'm still with him. He makes me laugh every single day.

by Anonymousreply 3309/01/2014

sorry that was meant for r29

by Anonymousreply 3409/01/2014

With a person, I have experienced love in one relationship of 12 years.

But I have to say that my love for my beautiful Golden Retriever is unbounded and 100% unconditional. I LOVE that dog.

by Anonymousreply 3509/01/2014

I go back and forth between guys who adore me but are boring and guys who are unavailable but hot as fuck. The first kind is very successful, together, and very respectful in bed. The second kind is very slutty, very noncommittal, but electric in bed.

I'm with the first kind right now. I think of the second kind while we're in bed, and I moan and scream like I did with him. While I gaze into adoring, but respectful eyes. Maybe this will work out?

by Anonymousreply 3609/01/2014

Yes. I thought I had been in love a few times, until I met the one that got away. That was real love. Destroyed me when it ended. He's recently come back into my life. I posted about it in this thread:

by Anonymousreply 3709/01/2014

I am as I type this

by Anonymousreply 3809/01/2014

I understand completely R35. Seventeen years we lived together and were still happy to see each other every morning.

Luckily I found a guy for whom I feel an equivalent. Who knew?

by Anonymousreply 3909/01/2014

Lust? Sure! Love? An artificial construct created by literature and Hallmark.

by Anonymousreply 4009/01/2014

Love? Lord above!

Now you're tryin' to trick me in love

by Anonymousreply 4109/01/2014

Yes and it's rarely mutual and I've made mistakes on top of that.

by Anonymousreply 4209/01/2014

Yes it was awful and humiliating. They left me and I was a wreck. I had no dignity I begged him to take me back. My best friend even said I was acting like a stalker and basically dumped me afterwards too. I whored around for a few years and now I just want to be left alone and drink. Nobody but my cat and my family gives a shit about me anymore but I've gotten pretty good at just keeping to myself. I think I may have loved a second guy but it was a different situation after the first one too so my expectations were low

by Anonymousreply 4309/01/2014

How old are you, r43?

by Anonymousreply 4409/01/2014


by Anonymousreply 4509/01/2014

I was in a thirteen-month relationship that felt like Heaven at first. But we drifted apart, and when I lost the ability to trust him, I broke it off. I want to be in love with another man but I'm scared of being hurt or misled again.

by Anonymousreply 4609/01/2014

Properly in love?

by Anonymousreply 4709/01/2014

You are too young to give up ,r45.

by Anonymousreply 4809/01/2014

Just my two cents observation, but I don't think there's a difference between love and infatuation. Give an infatuation six months to a couple of years and it goes away almost completely. The feeling of 'love' is infatuation, except you've gotten too comfortable to realise it's approaching its expiry date, on account of moving in together, vacationing together, spending every day together, meeting each other's parents, making each other dinner or getting a dog, and so on. Infatuation really only lasts five to ten seasons, IMHO--after that you'll see it evolve into close, intimate friendship/ a spousal relationship/life partners, and you lose the raging passion and soul-devouring feelings you had as just 'lovers'. Unless, of course, you have distance between you or long periods apart, which protracts the 'lovers' scenario (call it The Brokeback Paradigm?).

by Anonymousreply 4909/01/2014

Four times. Love being in love.

by Anonymousreply 5009/01/2014

Vice once compared romantic or erotic Love with money and christmas. Always liked that parallel. All three are just little conceptual injections of sedative that make our hyper civilised society a little fairer and more bearable, but are really ephemeral and meaningless. All are exchanges of credit, to a certain degree, and here's the best and most freeing part--we really don't need any of them.

by Anonymousreply 5109/01/2014

Ridiculous R51. Love is a biological imperative. The rest is social conditioning.

by Anonymousreply 5209/02/2014

OK...then define what biological factor determines love. Which gene or DNA code or hormone produces the feeling of love? What are it's effects, how long do they last? How does this determinate function with the rest of the human organism? Is it evident in other species? Did Neanderthal man have it too? I'm genuinely curious to hear this argument, no sarcasm implied.

otherwise, R52, it seems neither of our arguments are watertight. The problem with love is that no one can figure out what it is or why it happens (or is said to happen). My feeling is that it's still an old wives tale--medieval thinkers used to believe the cosmos revolved around planet earth, and that an imbalance of blood or phlegm caused disease,NAND that is where the notion of courtly or romantic/idealistic love is thought to begin, so it's not too much of a stretch to discredit it. I don't think it's cynical or sour, just pragmatic.

by Anonymousreply 5309/02/2014

Nobody would believe in it if they hadn't felt it R53.

by Anonymousreply 5409/02/2014
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