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What advice would you give to your younger self?

I'm encroaching on a milestone birthday and the inevitable self-reflection has commenced.

Looking back, I would have spent less time trying to please others and would have been more focused on my career.

How about you... Coulda, woulda, shoulda?

by Dirty Thirtyreply 3506/23/2013

I think I would have spent less time trying to be a career woman. Really, the only job part about work is the vacation pay.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 106/20/2013

It's not advice, but I would tell my younger self, "You are going to love somebody who loves you back."

I wouldn't tell my younger self that it won't last with that person. But that part is okay -- the experience of loving someone who loved me back, even though it didn't end up working out, changed my life immeasurably for the better.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 206/20/2013

I'd tell my younger self that I will never find love or have a relationship and to just give it up and either kill myself or find something else to take over that space (still trying).

by Dirty Thirtyreply 306/20/2013

I would tell him he's going to grow up to be an arrogant prick with a big old chip on his shoulder and he better check himself right now.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 406/20/2013

Don't drink so much and skip college. And go to Europe.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 506/20/2013

Quit sucking every single dick and never stop going to the gym.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 606/20/2013

I would tell myself not to hold back and to have sex even more often, and try to videotape it so years later you could remember what it was like.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 706/20/2013

You are, you were, and you will always be gay. There, now you're done thinking about it.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 806/20/2013

Not to do what I have done.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 906/20/2013

I would tell my younger self:

"Tell him you love him. Don't let him go!"

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1006/20/2013

It doesn't matter what you would have told him or her. She or he wouldn't have believed it anyway.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1106/20/2013

Buy Microsoft and Apple shares.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1206/20/2013

I would tell your younger self to pay attention to the usage of "encroach" and "approach."

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1306/20/2013

Live your life proactively and not reactively. Waiting for something to happen never does.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1406/20/2013

I pursued a person for a long time who was 1.classically handsome, 2.great body, had 3.loads of charisma, was 4.talented and 5.successful. No need to tell you the outcome. Unless you, yourself can fulfill three of that criteria as well, you are wasting your time.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1506/20/2013

Focus less on technical skills/ solid knowledge of certain topics and more on people skills, social skills and networking.

Work a job while at university.

Pursue your personal interests and projects while at university, don't just study.

When a university professor who you like, whose classes you find great, who teaches a topic you're interested in, asks you if you're thinking of doing a PhD in his field, don't answer that you're not sure it's something you can do.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1606/21/2013

Don't worry so much about what people think of you and you're better looking than you think!

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1706/21/2013

I would tell my younger self to be kind and whenever you can, try and be helpful.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1806/21/2013

Don't eat so much.

Do not become a teacher.

Become financially savvy.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 1906/21/2013

Ryan Barry's missive to his younger self sets the standard.

Hope the link works.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2006/21/2013

Take advantage of classes offered in high school. Pay attention and learn as much as you can. After that, education is no longer free.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2106/21/2013

Don't waste any energy figuring out what you would have done differently. Control your future, not your past.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2206/21/2013

And, yes, I get the irony.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2306/21/2013

On January 28, 1985, when you get the two job offers one right after the other, call the first one and tell them you now have to decline.

This one act of integrity, not going back on a job offer, will change the rest of your life for the worse.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2406/21/2013

Cliche, but not to take things so seriously and just enjoy things with less intensity and drama. Especially relaxing about men, dating, sex and love , and, especially, romance, on the one hand, and excelling at work without unrealistic goals of perfectionism on the other. Being more chill and, as a result, less stressed and more effective.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2506/21/2013

Bite the pillow and push out as he pushes in. You will enjoy it better and it will hurt less.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2606/21/2013

Don't go through life with low expectations.

And work out 5x a week for an hour without fail.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2706/21/2013

1. Forget about law school. Develop some integrity and do what you want to do.

2. Stop being so hard on yourself.

3. Learn a foreign language.

4. Start lifting weights earlier.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2806/21/2013

Dont neglect your dreams to chase love. I spent so many years seeking love from people who could never give it back. I wasted great opportunities to live my dreams, thinking love trumped all.

The only love that matters is the love you have for yourself.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 2906/21/2013

Beauty pageant question.

Still waiting for the perfect Miss Universe answer, though.


by Dirty Thirtyreply 3006/21/2013

find a mentor like misshelenbedd to teach me how to take care of myself around pissy queens.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 3106/21/2013

start ignoring fish drama altogether much earlier.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 3206/22/2013

"Do NOT get in the van."

by Dirty Thirtyreply 3306/22/2013

Try suicide.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 3406/22/2013

I though this was a bumped thread but then saw it is ANOTHER retread of the subject.

by Dirty Thirtyreply 3506/23/2013
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