David Sedaris father is against same-sex marriage "It sends the wrong message to children"
In North Carolina, there was this thing called Amendment One that made gay marriage unconstitutional, and my father could not wait to tell me he voted for it. “It sends the wrong message to children,” he said. “That would be what?” I asked. My sister-in-law is gay and she's been with her partner for years and they have kids, and she can't marry the mother of her children. What message does that send? He was like, “A lot of times you get these girls in college and they don't know what they want.”
It was then I realized he listens to crackpot talk radio and he doesn't know better and he's trying to keep things straight in his mind. It really made me mad. My sisters are always like, “But he's 90,” but I'm not going to give him that break. It's been a long journey for him, but you know what? It has been a long journey for me, too. Even though I don't want to get married, I don't think it's fair that men like my father should get to decide that.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||06/27/2013|
"I don't want to get married, but I support everyone else who does" is the attitude to take here, bravo Sedaris. I'd like to see Amy come out and denounce the father too, she didn't really take sides on Candy, since the gay characters were pathetic closet-cases. Well here's your chance to take sides bitch, choose the right one.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||05/26/2013|
Interesting. It seemed like David was fairly close to his dad in recent years. Also notable is the connection between diminished mental acuity and conservatism.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||05/26/2013|
Amy Sedaris, as a heterosexual woman who has opted for celibacy and a life of making weird crafts and playing women far uglier than she actually is in order to pay the bills, has arguably made the much more unconventional "choice of lifestyle" than her brother, who is almost universally beloved by all straight people who went to four year colleges.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||05/26/2013|
I'm confused (or maybe just stupid)
David's "sister in law" is in a same-sex marriage?
He's not married -- so how can he have a sister-in-law in a gay marriage unless he's got a gay sister, and then why not just say his sister is in a same-sex marriage?
|by Anonymous||reply 4||05/26/2013|
Would the SIL be Amy's gf?
|by Anonymous||reply 6||05/26/2013|
So what. He has a right to his opinion.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||05/26/2013|
[quote]It seemed like David was fairly close to his dad in recent years.
I just finished his latest, "Let's Explore Diabetes With Owls," and it's clear they've never had a good relationship -- his father is portrayed more negatively than in his previous books. His father called him a worthless piece of shit almost every day of his life, and I think this might have been the last straw.
He discusses the father situation here:
|by Anonymous||reply 8||05/26/2013|
I think it's very likely that he's talking about one of Hugh's sisters. Even though he and Hugh are not married, he has referred to Hugh's mother as his mother-in-law.
My best friend refers to his son's girlfriend as his daughter-in-law, not because there's any legal bond yet, but because it's a handy and easily understood indicator of relationship.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||05/26/2013|
In this 2008 article, it says that Amy said she'd been celibate for 5 years. Wonder if she's asexual? I do kind of get that vibe from her, on talk shows and such.
With a father like that...
|by Anonymous||reply 10||05/26/2013|
R2's point about diminished mental capacity and conservatism id quite valuable and should not be overlooked. I especially LOVE the crucial point that David Sedaris makes regarding his Dad's age of 90 NOT being an excuse.
As this population ages, this will emerge more and more.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||05/27/2013|
Yes but the excuse still works because Amy and her sisters are using it. I think the real reason is homophobia doesn't really offend them.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||05/27/2013|
As every generation ages, inhibitions diminish and true colors shine through. It's nothing new and won't change. When boomers turn 80, you'll see how racist, bigoted, homophobic, and misogynistic they truly are (and always were) as well.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||05/27/2013|
My mom mellowed with age. You forget often people's true colors are good.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||05/27/2013|
That's harsh R14. I make the "old age" excuse for my 78 y/o mother when she goes off on her tirades and says inappropriate things--usually unintended insults. I do it, not for my mother's sake, but for my siblings so they can put the jabs in perspective and not be so bothered by what she says.
I often find myself saying things like, "why do you care what mom says/thinks. She's old and crazy. Trust me, no one else with normal brain functioning thinks you're (fat, lazy, a failure, a bad mother, etc.)."
|by Anonymous||reply 17||05/27/2013|
Amy gives a tour of Christopher Street
|by Anonymous||reply 19||05/27/2013|
Honestly who cares? People like him are becoming less and less as LGBT people get more rights and we get same gender marriage and civil unions.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||05/27/2013|
I'm tired of his voice. I wish he would take a ten year vacation.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||05/27/2013|
I can see why you would not want young people to think about sex marriage as being an expected norm. Can you imagine the horny 13 & 14 year old gay boys thinking, "shit, you mean that's all I get"? -- when their fantasies are about fucking every hot boy in the school? Porn, orgies, sex parties and cruising are far more appealing to hot young dudes.
But for girls, yeah I can see how it wouldn't be as depressing.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||05/27/2013|
His latest book depressed the hell out of me. Was expecting a few poignant pieces but it's his darkest yet.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||05/27/2013|
That vile hate monger Billy Graham worked overtime stopping marriage equality in NC. And, no surprise, he made a point of being photographed eating at chickenshitfilet. Cannot wait until satan calls him home.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||05/27/2013|
[quote]I'm tired of his voice. I wish he would take a ten year vacation.
Wouldn't it be easier for you to just ignore him for the next ten years? Turn off the TV or radio, switch the station, go to the next magazine article.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||05/27/2013|
wonder how he feels this AM
|by Anonymous||reply 27||06/27/2013|
Hilarious r21, I've never, or hardly ever, heard his voice in my life. I've probably seen him on tv, but I can't remember it. I know he's a famous author, brother of Amy, I've never read his books. That's it, you act like David's voice is broadcast by towers forcing everyone to hear it blasted at them 24/7!
|by Anonymous||reply 28||06/27/2013|