"Why is it talking to you?"
I struck up a conversation with a cute, younger guy in the sauna tonight. Let's call him Eric...I think that's his name. I'm older and okay looking, but I don't prey on the cute, young guys. I'm sure Eric was cruising, and obviously I'm not his type. However, traffic was light, so I guess he felt it was ok to strike up a conversation with an old guy like me. Anyway, we are in the same field (advertising), so we were chatting about the usual agency stuff. It was a pleasant conversation, and I honestly had no ulterior motives.
His bitchy little diva friend entered the sauna and interrupted our conversation to complain how hot it was (it's a sauna, for pete's sake!). Eric and I quickly resumed the conversation, and about ten seconds later, I heard the friend say to Eric in this cunty valley girl voice, "why is it talking to you?" You could clearly make out the disgust in his voice. Eric was clearly embarrassed and pretended not to hear the friend, and we resumed the conversation.
Honestly, how can people be so cunty and bitchy toward a fellow human being? So I'm not young and beautiful...I guess that's reason enough to not even see me as a person but as an "it," an object of disgust. Are some people so looks-obsessed that they can't see anything beyond the surface? I was young and pretty once too, but I never treated older people this way.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||05/11/2013|
The friend sounds totally repulsive.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||05/10/2013|
Them youngins have no manners.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||05/10/2013|
This is why you should enter saunas armed.
Seriously though, what a miserable little fuckwit.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||05/10/2013|
Eric's friend was what's known as an effeminite. That's what they're like. DL is full of them.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||05/10/2013|
Nothing to do with that, R4. Just a shallow asshole. Laughable really.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||05/10/2013|
Sorry OP. If it's any consolation, twinks who are currently in grade school will be saying that about the friend when he's younger than you.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||05/10/2013|
Gay men are the biggest cunts.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||05/10/2013|
I am so sorry that happened to you, OP. But, yeah, there are young vicious cunt queens out there in the world. Toxic and hateful. He is a miserable little piece of work, that's a given. What must it be like to BE that little shitstain?
|by Anonymous||reply 8||05/10/2013|
I wonder what the right reply would have been. I know people say "it's better to just ignore people like this, etc." Still, I can't help but think saying something that really went for the jugular would have been appropriate here.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||05/10/2013|
I can't believe you're even bothered by what an asshole like that would say in the first place. He's completely not worth worrying about but "Eric" sounds like a decent guy, though.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||05/10/2013|
OP, sorry that happened to you. People sometimes just act horribly. At the end of the day, you get to be you--someone who wouldn't treat a fellow human being like shit-- and that stupid jackass still is still a stupid jackass with a lot of tough life lessons ahead of him.
R4 you're part of the problem.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||05/10/2013|
what a miserable human being that little twat must be. take consolation in knowing how awful his life must be.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||05/10/2013|
r11, would a non-effeminite say something like that and act that way. You know very well the answer is no.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||05/10/2013|
Ok, ok. This is all well and good. Tell me you flashed your hole at this cute young stud.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||05/10/2013|
Gay men value bitchiness over empathy.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||05/10/2013|
It's funny how the ones who are the most judgmental and looks-obsessed end up looking horrible.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||05/10/2013|
I hope you hissed at him while you grabbed your waxy breasts!
|by Anonymous||reply 18||05/10/2013|
[quote]Gay men value bitchiness over empathy.
No they don't. Effeminites do. Stop trying to deliberately confuse the two. They have nothing in common.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||05/10/2013|
You should've smacked him viciously in the face with your saggy balls.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||05/10/2013|
Don't worry the miserable little bitch will kill himself at 30.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||05/10/2013|
You should have said to him, "Because I'm his precious, Gollum."
|by Anonymous||reply 23||05/10/2013|
I've been a victim of this type of cunt-queen so many times in my life, that I simply gave up hanging around gay men.
I've just turned 50, I have money, I'm hwp, nice car, etc., and rather than take a chance on going through that again, I simply avoid gay gatherings. It seems that mid-sized cities have an overwhelming number of cunt-queens, which makes it difficult to get out and even want to TRY and find a decent guy.
OP, you should have choked that boy with your towel.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||05/10/2013|
If the OP had a gun, he coulda shot the vile little cunt and shut him up permanently.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||05/10/2013|
Another theory, OP. I had a friend who recently went into treatment for sex addiction (yes, a friend not me) and he was taught to conceptualize his compulsion as a "thing" outside himself that he had to fight against - and "it" if you will. He had to learn not to listen to "it" when "it" suggested compulsive sexual behavior.
Do you think it's possible that Eric has such a history (including possibly picking tricks in the sauna), his friend came in, saw what was going on and was trying to be a supportive friend like "Hey Eric why it 'it' talking to you (the compulsion)?" Trying to encourage him to resist temptation and stay on the path to recovery?
Honestly that was my initial impression when I read your narrative.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||05/10/2013|
R24 - Two words: house party.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||05/10/2013|
While that's a nice theory... I think you're way over thinking it. The kid was just a bitch.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||05/10/2013|
R26 would justify his boyfriend getting fucked by the contractor by suggesting he tripped coming out of the shower and accidentally landed on his hard cock.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||05/10/2013|
Agenda much, R14/R19?
The five super-straight guys I once worked with in a small office were the bitchiest, most back stabbing, two faced bunch of bitches ever assembled. They'd have run over their own mothers if it meant ahead.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||05/10/2013|
OP you shouldve snatched his weave right then! Bitch was begging for a good ass beating.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||05/10/2013|
"Because he was starving for intelligent conversation."
|by Anonymous||reply 32||05/10/2013|
R29, I was recently at a dinner party given by a friend who had lost his partner about a year ago. He had a boy toy there who was clearly unstable, and kept interrupting conversation to steer the topic back to himself.
Over four hours I learned that he was HIV positive and had been in mental wards a number of times. On top of all this he wasn't even very attractive.
My friend is a very attractive man, rich and could really have a much more appropriate fuck buddy. It was a good thing that there was marijuana, because I would not have been able to make it to dessert otherwise.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||05/10/2013|
[quote]The five super-straight guys I once worked with in a small office were...
You sound like the one with the agenda. It was clear in those posts you referenced that the criticism was not directed toward gay guys. So why are you using a term like "super-straight" as an opposite?
|by Anonymous||reply 34||05/10/2013|
Thanks for the support, guys. I don't understand people who go out of their way to be cruel to others. Well, other than on this board, of course, but I find that all in good fun. And to be fair, I don't think it's necessarily a gay thing. I think young people in general, whether gay or straight, male or female, who settle in the city just out of college have this rabid sense of entitlement and narcissism that causes them to treat people they see as inferior to them with disdain, and that's been discussed here many times before. I'm not sure if the city attracts the narcissists, or living in the city makes one that way. Chicken or egg!
I moved to NYC when I was young and just out of college too, eons ago, but my friends and I never displayed this type of behavior. This was 1985, smack dab in the middle of the AIDS crisis. I lost some friends, not as many as some guys who came of age 5-10 years earlier, but I attended my fair share of funerals and saw many sick people around. Although I was never officially part of any "militant" anti-AIDS group, there was a sense of community and brotherhood among gay men of all shapes and sizes and ages back then. The whole experience definitely united many of us. Obviously I'm happy that HIV/AIDS is no longer the death sentence it once was and that there's not the overarching need to mobilize over the disease. But that sense of brotherhood and unity should still exist. OK sorry for rambling and turning all melodramatic.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||05/10/2013|
Pardon me, R29? What in blazes are you talking about. What contractor?
I simply offered an alternate explanation that I am relatively certain is correct (unless the conversation was more one-sided than OP has made it sound). I mean, if Eric's friend was actually trying to help, he does not deserve all of this vitriol. It's not easy being a buddy and supporting an addict's recovery.
But why are you attacking me personally? My boyfriend? I never mentioned my boyfriend? Contractor? You lost me, R29.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||05/10/2013|
Important question is.. what gym was this at?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||05/10/2013|
R35, I do not think that people like that are treating people with distain out of a feeling of superiority. It's the exact opposite. Miss Thing was reacting out of her insecurities.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||05/10/2013|
OP, next time you see this jerk at the gym, you should take him aside and talk to him and tell him that giving out such an attitude gives people, both straight and gay, a justifiable reason to dislike gays and bash them and if he keeps it up he better not expect any sympathy if he's ever on the receiving end of a hate crime. In addition, one day he'll be older and he could very well be on the receiving end of such of comment and how would he feel.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||05/10/2013|
I have a feeling all that would be a waste of breath for someone who behaves like that. But, yeah, give it a try.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||05/10/2013|
R40, No, OP should ignore Miss Thing. She does not exist. Not there, will never be acknowledged. That will kill her inside.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||05/10/2013|
If he really was being fresh with you, OP (I have yet to see your response to my other theory), have you considered this revenge tool called "liquid ass"?
You could squirt a bit into his locker (through the vent holes) when no one is looking.
He would become an instant gym pariah. It's truly revolting.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||05/10/2013|
How does Eric come off like a prince in this story? Instead of telling his friend to fuck off he just ignores him-OOOOOOOOOO!! Burn!
|by Anonymous||reply 44||05/10/2013|
OP, you should have pushed its face into the hot rocks until you heard its eyeballs pop like bubblewrap.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||05/10/2013|
R14 "effeminites", as you have it, do not have a monopoly on being hurtful, and they are no more worthy of derision than the OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||05/10/2013|
OP were you there looking for play?
|by Anonymous||reply 47||05/10/2013|
It puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||05/10/2013|
OP, I would have stood up, walked over to the asshole and slapped his face. Really.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||05/11/2013|
OP, you are right, but the world has changed and the younger gens just do not appreciate brotherhood because they have not been through any diversity like our group.
They grew up with gay TV characters on mainstream channels, gay music, gay films, gay book stores and gay porn. Gay marriage in a few states and even a president that is pro gay.
So like most kids that age, they are spoiled little brats that think the world revolves around them. For like what, 5 to 10 years maybe. Then its all down hill and payback is a bitch.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||05/11/2013|
[quote] how can people be so cunty and bitchy
You sound like a bit of a charmer yourself, OP!
|by Anonymous||reply 53||05/11/2013|
Big red flag for Eric, and his charmless friend will ensure their acquaintance ends badly. Probably with follow-up too.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||05/11/2013|