[[R58] so do they have the right to trample over the feelings of the other people in the store?
Again, r60, do you have the right to "trample" on the feelings of colleagues, neighbors, shoppers, etc. who may not want a gay person in their midst? Do blacks have the right to trample on the feelings of whites who don't want to share public facilities with them? Of course you do and of course they do, because the fact is, nobody's truly getting trampled in any of those situations. Your coworkers might not feel happy about working with a gay guy, but it's not stopping them from doing their jobs and earning a living, the way you'd be stopped if you got fired from your job for being gay.
[quote]In your perfect cut-and-dried world who gets to be the one who gets to do whatever they want and who gets to be the one who gets to be trampled on?
I have no idea what the hell makes you think I imagine a "perfect cut-and-dried world," but in my admittedly highly imperfect world, but in my world, being free to mind your own business and go about the normal activities of daily living is a right; feeling comfortable at all times is not.
If you make others uncomfortable by waving a gun in their faces, say, or taking a shit in the bridal shop dressing room (as DL has taught us is a not-uncommon activity) that's one thing, and of course, you should be stopped. If, however, your mere presence in a public place makes others uncomfortable, through no fault or action of your own, but simply because they don't care to be around people like you, that's a different story--and no, their feelings of discomfort should not trump your right to live your life as you see fit within the boundaries of law and reason.
[quote]Some people aren't comfortable with transgendered people.
And some people aren't comfortable with gays, straights, whites, people of color, women, men, xtians, muslims, atheists, blah, blah. Doesn't mean those people get to just make any group who bothers them disappear from wherever they are so that they can feel comfortable at all times.
[quote]Like it or not, other people are entitled to have their own views and feelings
Of course they are, but they are not necessarily entitled to impose those views and feelings on other people.
[quote]and they can't be ignored because one shouty drama queen thinks her feelings matter more than everyone else's
Actually, yeah, they can and should be ignored when they believe that their nonexistent "right" to feel comfortable wherever they go trumps somebody else's right to live, work, do business, use public facilities, etc., where he or she pleases. Those brides could still shop and try on garments in that bridal shop, after all. No one was harming them, or stopping them from doing as they pleased, the way the shop owner stopped the transgender woman.