When on a date with someone. Something that's just punch, delete, no second date.
Name one thing that's an instant 'red flag'
|by Anonymous||reply 306||05/01/2013|
The musical tastes of a teenage girl.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||04/25/2013|
If they enjoy professional wrestling. I can sink to a lot of levels but that I cannot accept.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||04/25/2013|
Republican (unless he's hot and dtf)
|by Anonymous||reply 4||04/25/2013|
Talking about money.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||04/25/2013|
R3 + 1.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 8||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 9||04/25/2013|
Negative and scared of Poz folks
Shaves body hair
Rude and cannot appreciate different people
Stereotypical queen into babs and Elton and Liza and musicals
Works out incessantly
|by Anonymous||reply 10||04/25/2013|
queeny valley girl voice
|by Anonymous||reply 12||04/25/2013|
Frequent DL poster
Terrible table manners
Engages in passive-agressive behavior
Reads blogs as only source of information
|by Anonymous||reply 13||04/25/2013|
Can't stop talking about ex either good or bad. Cries when talking about ex. Punches wall when talking about ex.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 16||04/25/2013|
Some stupid ass- 'tard with one or more things that are an instant red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||04/25/2013|
Scared of guys who are POS = uneducated
Owns a Louis Vuitton or Gucci wallet = shallow
Votes Republican = self hater
Obsesses over Beyonce = Bottom Queen
Dose drag more then Halloween = wants to be a woman
Has tons of self pics on Instagram = narcissist
Actor = See line above
Dose Improve = See Actor
|by Anonymous||reply 18||04/25/2013|
That style of eye-glasses that have the metal bar attaching the lenses together at the top. Anyone wearing those is a possible serial killer.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||04/25/2013|
Uses words such as "tired" to mean something other than physically exhausted, or "queen" to mean something other than a band or a monarch.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||04/25/2013|
I know I shouldn't say this but I just cannot stand really queeny guys. They tend to be bitchy, catty, mean spirited and manipulative. Everyone I have ever knows including friends have lives that are consumed in pure drama....which they create.
The butcher guys never seem to be focused on that shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||04/25/2013|
anyone who wears a jean short anyone who wears abercrombie and is over 30 (they can be over 30 just not wearing abercrombie.) anyone who mentions thier ex more than once..hell even once. anyone who wears a backward baseball cap anyone who mentions the price of anything they are wearing,,or the name brand of it, unless I ask.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||04/25/2013|
Has to shower every time before he has sex. Alone.
I still miss the rest of you though!
|by Anonymous||reply 23||04/25/2013|
Someone who talks over me.
Someone who can go for 10 minutes talking about travel plans.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||04/25/2013|
someone who can't read a simple direction like "name one thing"
|by Anonymous||reply 25||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 26||04/25/2013|
r21, I assume you're talking about r22.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||04/25/2013|
Suggests a $$$$ restaurant for the first date!
|by Anonymous||reply 28||04/25/2013|
Has a bicycle that costs more than my car.
In a band.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 30||04/25/2013|
r29, you're practically announcing yourself as sexually undesirable
|by Anonymous||reply 31||04/25/2013|
Is on Facebook.
Is a Republican/right-winger.
Is a smoker.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||04/25/2013|
Someone who has disgusting table manners.
It's amazing how many people fit this description.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||04/25/2013|
Nascar or ultimate fighting fan
watches fox news
being from NC, SC, WV
that ear stretching thing
|by Anonymous||reply 35||04/25/2013|
R34, what about MOIST?
|by Anonymous||reply 36||04/25/2013|
bloated boozer types. trashes their friends casually in conversation. hangs out with their family every weekend. eats animals. vegetarian but won't shut up about it. believes television news. facebooking mini-celebrity type.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||04/25/2013|
r35, you were doing fine until the last one. That one brands you as an idiot.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||04/25/2013|
Former or current Marine (eligible for fuck-buddy status only).
|by Anonymous||reply 39||04/25/2013|
I loathe those unimaginative so-very-corporate types (i.e. R25 and R33) who always listen so primly to instructions, no matter how absurd (i.e. "name one thing", or "just say no") and then have the prissy nerve to admonish others who don't follow the same absurd instructions.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||04/25/2013|
can't spell for the life of them
|by Anonymous||reply 41||04/25/2013|
Anybody under the age of 30 who says "It'll never happen to me!" The sentence of DOOM!!!FOR ANYONE!!!Hope for the best but ALWAYS,ALWAYS EXPECT THE WORST!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 42||04/25/2013|
I won't even be friends with a Republican let alone date one.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||04/25/2013|
[quote]Is on Facebook.
That really cuts out a hell of a lot of people. You know that, right?
|by Anonymous||reply 45||04/25/2013|
tries to tell me what I "should" be doing
gives unsolicited advice (see #2)
wound too tight/no sense of humor
|by Anonymous||reply 46||04/25/2013|
funny how no one has mentioned drugs
|by Anonymous||reply 47||04/25/2013|
Ooops -- I forgot. Has kids.
I will not even consider dating a woman with kids. Too complicated, even if they're no longer at home.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||04/25/2013|
Shows up late without a text message or call and doesn't even apologize for it.
On the phone a lot, checking messages, twitter, fb, etc.
Rude towards anyone
|by Anonymous||reply 49||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 50||04/25/2013|
Uses Prissy Subculture jargon words like: twink, butch, queen, girlfriend, self-loathing, nelly, etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||04/25/2013|
[quote]can't spell for the life of them
It's like rai-ee-ain...
|by Anonymous||reply 52||04/25/2013|
[quote]funny how no one has mentioned drugs
Or worshiping Hitler, or being a serial killer.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||04/25/2013|
Unsafe sex enthusiast
Smart Phone addict
|by Anonymous||reply 54||04/25/2013|
Shallow dating checklists
|by Anonymous||reply 55||04/25/2013|
Can I name many things as a form of self-therapy?
Praises their physical appearance - even saying things like "I've always been told I have great skin"
Talks about themselves at length
Talks about working out or says things like "I have to go to the gym."
Obsessed with status symbols.
Expects to be praised for doing inane things such as going to the gym.
Has had a weight problem in the past (it invariably will still be a focus of their life. It's great they lost weight but I don't want to hear about and how they have to keep it off).
Overly negative (funny, I know)
For guys - having mostly female friends or a female best friend. Usually the female friends are pseudo-wives, girlfriends and are a psychic drain on these men. The "Fruit fly" phase should've ended in high school/second year of college. Having female friends that appreciate you and respect you is one thing, but having a "fag hag" is a disaster.
Needy/doesn't have anything going on in their life other than other people. Conversely, overly distant and doesn't tell you ANYTHING about their past.
Socially awkward - I don't mean being shy. I mean people that tell weird jokes and don't realize when to shut up. I guess I mean they lack empathy or ability to read signs.
People who can't relax.
No hobbies other than drinking or watching tv. It's okay if you want to do this alone, but don't expect others to have fun watching Real Housewives and getting drunk week after week.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||04/25/2013|
Not good looking.
Everything else flows from that.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||04/25/2013|
It's funny because most of you use.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||04/25/2013|
Has bad relationship with parents.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||04/25/2013|
Like I give a fuck about the types you loathe, R40. OP said ONE thing, and people respond with lists longer than their arms.
Who cares about the 180 different things people consider an instant red flag?
It's shit like that that makes threads so uninteresting.
ONE thing, godammit, so go FUCK yourself, you moronic fucktard.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||04/25/2013|
Not a fan of "Buffy" or "Firefly" or Joss Whedon in general. I mean, seriously. Who could date such a person?!?
Hates Monty Python.
Has never played a game on Xbox.
Doesn't "get" Big Bang Theory
Has never read a sci-fi book.
Doesn't know how to use a Windows computer
Refuses to dress up for Halloween
|by Anonymous||reply 61||04/25/2013|
R60 = biggest red flag in this thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 62||04/25/2013|
[quote]unhinged, batshit, mouth breather, schmaltz...
Ohmygawd. I use every one of these words regularly!
Enjoy your life without me!
|by Anonymous||reply 63||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 65||04/25/2013|
[quote]Ohmygawd. I use every one of these words regularly! Enjoy your life without me!
Maybe you should wear a shirt warning us normal people so we don't have to waste our time. Then again, I could probably spot you before you uttered those words.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||04/25/2013|
Doesn't like or want kids and animals. No sense of humour. Picky/uptight.
|by Anonymous||reply 67||04/25/2013|
"Can't host. Will Travel."
|by Anonymous||reply 68||04/25/2013|
LOL Thank you r33 / r60 for proving my point so beautifully!
|by Anonymous||reply 69||04/25/2013|
This only applies to a woman. When a man doesn't scan you from head to toe when you first meet him. And after that, you don't sense he's undressing you with his EYES.
This may sound caveman sexist, but it's the truth.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||04/25/2013|
Considers Fox News a veritable news source.
|by Anonymous||reply 71||04/25/2013|
I'm not following your post, SWF.
|by Anonymous||reply 72||04/25/2013|
LOVE swf on the verge
|by Anonymous||reply 73||04/25/2013|
I'm not following it either. You're saying you want that to happen r70? If so, why?
|by Anonymous||reply 74||04/25/2013|
Has a naked pictures of themselves circa 1980 on the wall in their house.
No, you dont look like that any more, you are not fooling anyone with that big hair.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||04/25/2013|
Guys who complain about going out how everything is so expensive as a reason to stay at home and be a drunk.
|by Anonymous||reply 76||04/25/2013|
I thought the head to toe scan (especially evaluating the breasts) was a real turn off for women?
Please explain, swf.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||04/25/2013|
Has a workout regimen that includes eating egg white omelets.
|by Anonymous||reply 78||04/25/2013|
Learned this one the hard way: describes himself as funny.
I went out on an awful date with a guy who described himself that way. Now it's a red flag - if you have to describe yourself that way instead of letting others do it for you, the apt description is "tedious," not funny.
|by Anonymous||reply 79||04/25/2013|
"do you mind if I borrow your cell phone I need to make a call"
"are you on grindr?"
"are you going to eat that?"
"are you going to eat THAT?"
"ugh I feel so fat I missed the gym today"
"how big is your place?"
|by Anonymous||reply 80||04/25/2013|
r75, I've never met anyone with pics displayed like you mention, but if I did I'd find him far more interesting than you. The idea seems cool. People should celebrate their past.
|by Anonymous||reply 81||04/25/2013|
I am sorry. I myself found the wording awkward but against my better judgment hit the post button anyway.
Let me attempt to clarify: For a woman, the biggest red flag that the man may not be straight is......what I said about the scan and the eyeball strip. I realize it doesn't happen much in the times we thankfully live in today, but you would be shocked at how many gay guys asked me out in the days of the closet. Big hug [R73]
|by Anonymous||reply 82||04/25/2013|
Wow... small wonder nobody can find a date.
|by Anonymous||reply 83||04/25/2013|
Cruelty. In all it's forms. That would include being rude to waiting staff, bullying, animal cruelty, making cutting remarks, it's all part of being cruel - the act of intentionally hurting another being. It's just such a fucked up way to be and has no place in my life.
I'm not claiming to be some sort of perfect specimen myself, just that I do try not to be a nasty, vicious asshole and I don't like being around others who are.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||04/25/2013|
R77] It is a turn off, but straight men cannot correct their lizard brains when it comes to sexual propriety.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||04/25/2013|
[quote] but straight men cannot correct their lizard brains when it comes to sexual propriety.
Yes they can. They're just not encouraged to.
|by Anonymous||reply 87||04/25/2013|
[quote]straight men cannot correct their lizard brains when it comes to sexual propriety.
Boys who like boys are no less visual in their sexuality. I'd argue more so.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||04/25/2013|
wearing white socks with dress clothes
jewelry other than a watch and maybe earrings i.e. includes wedding band
have more shoes than Imelda Marcos
wears a same article of clothing on more than one date
orders off of the menu regularly
wears designer underwear all the time
have pics of their ex in frames or clothing of the same at their abode
duplicate profiles on dating sites
won't introduce you to close friends and/or family
that's all for now, i'll let you know when i think of more
|by Anonymous||reply 93||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 95||04/25/2013|
You haven't been around much R81 have you? I am not talking about some super hot guy that did porn for a living when he was 20. If that was your career, then its totally understandable.
I am talking average guy who wanted the male version of Glamor Shots even women dont do anymore.
There is a difference between celebrating your past and living in it. These guys come off as pathetic trying to sell you on what they used to look like. Which begs the question, you must look like shit now.
|by Anonymous||reply 96||04/25/2013|
Cruel to animals
Inappropriate interest in way too young males
Shaves pubic area
|by Anonymous||reply 97||04/25/2013|
[quote]Maybe you should wear a shirt warning us normal people so we don't have to waste our time. Then again, I could probably spot you before you uttered those words.
You're probably right. Believe it or not I can always spot a dim bulb with a 100 word working vocabulary, too afraid to express himself intelligently, from a distance too!
|by Anonymous||reply 98||04/25/2013|
HIM: "Hey, have you heard of this website called Datalounge?"
|by Anonymous||reply 99||04/25/2013|
yeah r99, even though I post here, I would probably avoid anyone who does. Or at least I'd find out first if they were one of the typical DLers first. There are a few subversives here that I'd probably like though.
|by Anonymous||reply 100||04/25/2013|
A person is acting all upset and sobbing -- but no tears are actually flowing.
|by Anonymous||reply 101||04/25/2013|
Loud, boisterous personality
|by Anonymous||reply 102||04/25/2013|
Actively in a program - AA, Overeaters Anonymous, Anorexia.. not a full-on deal breaker, but red flag.
Has a bad relationship with most of their family, specifically mother/father
Works as an "artist"
Not a pet person; "not that into" animals
Has 3 drinks to your 1
Gossipy, rude, obnoxious
And a large handful of others mentioned here in the realm of Republican, racist, etc. Hopefully we uncover these things before wasting the time on the date.
|by Anonymous||reply 103||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 104||04/25/2013|
Works for family. Never again, my ex worked for his father and that meant his family was always around and up in our business.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||04/25/2013|
what are people thinking of when they write bad or "disgusting" table manners?
|by Anonymous||reply 106||04/25/2013|
Man, do I ever have egg on my face. I completely misunderstood the meaning of the title of this thread. I thought that by red flag, OP meant an indication that the guy was definitely gay. Now I realize that would be a GREEN flag, duh.
No wonder my posts seemed so asinine. I hope my virtual adopted DL brethren will forgive me this lapse in reading comprehension.
|by Anonymous||reply 107||04/25/2013|
R92/R94 if you don't think what R89 said was racist, then you're a fucking racist. Jesus, what the fuck is wrong with you?
|by Anonymous||reply 108||04/25/2013|
well, I like you swf
|by Anonymous||reply 109||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 110||04/25/2013|
No, it is NOT, r108. I guess you're one of the types r94 was talking about.
|by Anonymous||reply 111||04/25/2013|
[quote]what are people thinking of when they write bad or "disgusting" table manners?
Given the mentality of this place, I'd guess it's something like this:
|by Anonymous||reply 112||04/25/2013|
Trying to make the case that the higher rate of imprisonment for african americans is due entirely to their behaviour and not to a number of structural factors is most certainly a racist argument, r111. But please keep trying to paint us as the villains - it's another red flag of bigotry.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||04/25/2013|
It is, R111. How the fuck can you say it's not?
Someone referring to blacks as 'those people' is racist. If you can't understand this simple thing, along with insinuating they all "act bad" and deserve to be in prison in far greater numbers than white people...
I can't help you if you can't recognize racism, but you denying that it's racism doesn't change the fact that it IS racism.
|by Anonymous||reply 114||04/25/2013|
Observing fact isn't being PC.
It's interesting how people who say the most racist things always deny their own racism, and defend other racists.
Sad, but interesting.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||04/25/2013|
Refers to himself in the third person.
An hour in you know all about him and he hasn't bothered to ask anything about you.
|by Anonymous||reply 118||04/25/2013|
I'll be here all night, r116 - so why don't you just fuck off to a klan meeting?
|by Anonymous||reply 119||04/25/2013|
C'mon, I want to know what constitutes "bad table manners!"
|by Anonymous||reply 120||04/25/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 121||04/25/2013|
R120 wiping your dick on the tablecloth? It's like some people don't even know what drapes are for!
|by Anonymous||reply 122||04/25/2013|
Someone who doesn't shave their bush and chest
|by Anonymous||reply 123||04/25/2013|
Agree with r123. I usually try to find out if they're uncut, because that means no sex. Now if sex won't be involved, it makes no difference.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||04/25/2013|
Not sure exactly how R124 could be more wrong, defensive, and transparent.
Nobody's arguing behavior. That's not the point. That you can't see the point... (or even the point of what you quoted) says a lot about you, none of it good.
The structural factors argument has more than just 'some' merit. Oh, if only you actually knew as much about the topic as you think you do.
|by Anonymous||reply 126||04/25/2013|
Prattles on about his pet(s)
|by Anonymous||reply 127||04/25/2013|
Dead bodies in the trunk.
I hate that!!
|by Anonymous||reply 128||04/25/2013|
Well, no, perhaps that's not a total disqualifier. Depends whom he killed. Some people deserve to be killed.
|by Anonymous||reply 129||04/25/2013|
How does it feel being a walking, talking, mouth-breathing red flag, r116?
|by Anonymous||reply 131||04/25/2013|
Wow, I think it is a safe bet that most people posting here are NEVER going to have a successful romantic relationship. EVER. Talk about some messed up folks. I particularly like the headcase who typed a list of words that, if people "regularly" use them in conversation, are dealbreakers! HAHAHA. I think many/most of the posts on this thread are parodies or jokes, though. Otherwise, folks, how many of you have Asperger's or other undiagnosed mental problems?
I can understand not dating a Republican or poor hygiene or some other BASIC stuff, but so many of these dealbreaker traits that you all are posting are obtuse, ridiculous things that are going to make you DIE ALONE. Seriously.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||04/25/2013|
Dumbshit, r117, et al. stating that "those" black people [italic]deserve[/italic] to be in jail at disproportionate numbers- solely due to their own behavior and ignoring the cops that treat white and black suspects differently- the judges that assign white and black offenders of the SAME crime vastly different sentences... and the —oh.. fuck it...you don't care. You just "know" it's that way because you think that tool was citing actual "facts". NO. He wasn't. It was Bullshit. Racist drivel from racist websites. No facts involved.
It just makes me laugh that people are seriously trying to argue that a mass generalization against an entire race of people - isn't racist.
Just stop. Just. fucking. Stop. STOP playing ignorant.
Oh wait, you're not playing are you.
And those of you accusing the "PC twats" of derailing- check upstream and see who had to go pick a fight first.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||04/25/2013|
r124. [quote]Like it or not, behavior (ultimately a product of culture, not race) does land people in prison.
Of course that explains why Lindsay Lohan in in prison right now.
— oh wait.
|by Anonymous||reply 136||04/25/2013|
Lacks compassion for those in lower socio economic classes.
Uses cell phone for texting or talking while out with me. If we need to look up directions or something, that's fine. But spending time one-on-one with me and interrupting the conversation to take a call or text? I'm done with you, whether it's a date or as a friend. I think it's about the rudest thing ever. Emergencies are exceptions. Or if it's an urgent call from work or you're waiting for a call from a prospective employer. But just to socialize? That's what you're doing with me. You can call them back later.
|by Anonymous||reply 138||04/25/2013|
- Cabbage Patch dolls.
- Being in a lower socio-economic class.
|by Anonymous||reply 139||04/25/2013|
[quote]but so many of these dealbreaker traits that you all are posting are obtuse, ridiculous things that are going to make you DIE ALONE
every living creature dies alone
|by Anonymous||reply 140||04/25/2013|
I agree with those, too, R138
and the person earlier in the thread who said cruelty in all its forms
|by Anonymous||reply 141||04/25/2013|
r131, r34 announced a few pages earlier that you are a red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 142||04/25/2013|
If he doesn't like me.
|by Anonymous||reply 143||04/25/2013|
Spends too much time judging strangers harshly and for shallow reasons...
If they have to break out into, "oh my god look at her ...." etc. or critique something about a stranger every other minute then they must not have much to talk about.
The same goes for odd unwarranted outburst of impatience and anger at strangers. Someone who to harshly criticizes a waitress, or the guy in the other lane, etc. too often - is going to be a bitter angry mess.
|by Anonymous||reply 144||04/25/2013|
[quote]Agree with [R123]. I usually try to find out if they're uncut, because that means no sex. Now if sex won't be involved, it makes no difference.
People with ignorant, shallow, provincial, childish attitudes like this is definitely a red-flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 145||04/25/2013|
R130, you're so completely wrong. About so many things. Perhaps you should spend more time looking into a mirror than wagging your fingers at others. You could probably use some introspection.
|by Anonymous||reply 146||04/25/2013|
r127, that's a good one. My ex doted on his dog, we would have to leave places early to go home to take care of his dog. If you are not as into animals that can be a dealbreaker.
|by Anonymous||reply 147||04/25/2013|
R54, I want to marry you.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||04/25/2013|
r134 nails it.
r135 is clueless... guilty of a straw-man argument. Nobody is saying "everything is racist". Just racist things are racist. Denying that racist things are racist is ... just ignorant (and latently racist).
Perhaps you should read r134's post again. A few times. Until it sinks in.
And as for R137:
[quote]Who's doing that?
Are you blind? Or do you just have no reading comprehension?
R137 is obviously white, filled with white privilege, and blind to actual racism suffered by actual people. Sad, really. Arrogant, totally.
I'm not itching for an excuse to call anyone racist. I don't even think about it until someone says something blatantly and obviously racist. Racists are usually blind to such things, though, I've noticed. You might want to stop throwing stones in that glass house of yours.
|by Anonymous||reply 150||04/25/2013|
I like r144's post. It would eliminate about 70% of the people posting on this site.
|by Anonymous||reply 151||04/25/2013|
[quote]People with ignorant, shallow, provincial, childish attitudes like this is definitely a red-flag.
Oh here we have another typical DLer who thinks spewing a bunch of smear words at someone is the same as making a reasoned point.
|by Anonymous||reply 152||04/25/2013|
yes, R144's was good.
|by Anonymous||reply 153||04/25/2013|
R152, factual observations aren't smears. Juvenile stupidity is all that post was. Shallow and ridiculously stupid.
|by Anonymous||reply 154||04/25/2013|
People who think uncut is a turnoff are seriously red-flags. Jesus. How can you call yourself a gay man if you can't appreciate a lovely intact cock. Pure ignorance and prejudice.
|by Anonymous||reply 156||04/25/2013|
r154, calling someone "ignorant" because you don't agree with them is not a "factual observation." Having an attraction preference (what turns you on and what doesn't about someone) isn't a matter of being informed or smart, so "ignorance" doesn't apply. Poeple like what they like, and you need to get over it.
|by Anonymous||reply 157||04/25/2013|
There's nothing un-gay about failing to like "a lovely intact cock," since lovely and intact are oxymoronic when discussing penises. The true cockneissur always likes them cut.
|by Anonymous||reply 158||04/25/2013|
Holy crap, the anti-circ freaks are as bad as the "you're a racist!" freaks.
|by Anonymous||reply 159||04/25/2013|
People who are insensitive.
People who don't like to travel.
People who are always angry or negative about things.
People who are either too conservative or too liberal.
Uncut is a huge no.
Poz guys who lie about their status. I'll have dinner with you, just don't have sex with you.
|by Anonymous||reply 160||04/25/2013|
R156 + R159 = uncut
|by Anonymous||reply 162||04/25/2013|
those ugly brown strapped sandal things
jargon talk (is it that hard to just speak English?)
being part of a subculture
|by Anonymous||reply 163||04/25/2013|
Uncultured, poorly educated, unworldly. You may as well belong in a leper colony.
|by Anonymous||reply 164||04/25/2013|
[quote] I particularly like the headcase who typed a list of words that, if people "regularly" use them in conversation...
Oh wait. I think "headcase" was one of the words that kook said would disqualify you!
|by Anonymous||reply 165||04/25/2013|
r162, I don't think you read things carefully enough.
|by Anonymous||reply 166||04/25/2013|
Guys who post neck down pics of their body on Grinder. Almost always FUGLY in person.
|by Anonymous||reply 167||04/25/2013|
Indoor only cat/cats and litter box.
|by Anonymous||reply 168||04/25/2013|
Used to be a woman.
|by Anonymous||reply 169||04/26/2013|
I was lurking the thread, and I would like to add to the 'racist' argument that while the original post that earned the 'RACIST' label isn't really racist, just ill-informed.
I'm black, worldly, young and educated. To be honest I deal with crap whenever I leave the house in regards to my skin color. I believe that most people are prejudice when it comes to people of other ethnicities, and they're not inherently racist. If you think that you are better than somebody because they are of a different ethnic / racial background, then yes, you are racist.
Spewing uncited 'facts' (without taking into account the social, economic and cultural dynamics at play) is pretty lame though. Especially if you're attempting to rationalize someone else's asinine overgeneralizations. Not all black people are lazy / petty criminals, not all white people are child molesters / serial killers, not all asians are good at math / terrible at sports, and not all Arabs are terrorists. Idk. Live and let live.
As for red flags - talking to much about self, being a know it all, lacking a strong curiosity about the world, malicious gossip (especially if I barely know you).
|by Anonymous||reply 170||04/26/2013|
I'm kind of a wishy-washy pushover so there have definitely been cases where I've noticed but made excuses for signs of obvious dealbreakers like racism/bigotry, rudeness to people in the service industry, overall meanness, and veganism on the first date - but Republicanism is always a cut-and-dry instant dealbreaker. If Punch & Delete was a video game, the Log Cabin Republican would be the boss of the demo level.
|by Anonymous||reply 171||04/26/2013|
Oh, yeah, I had a bad childhood. EVERY DAMN time.
|by Anonymous||reply 172||04/26/2013|
Hunters. A guy i met recently went on and on about how he loved rabbit hunting. God i thought rabbits are the most defenseless of all animals and u take pride in killing them?? Goodbye.
|by Anonymous||reply 173||04/26/2013|
One guy I almost dated revealed to me that he was a Republican, so OK I thought maybe I can still make it work.
But then he proceeded to tell me that HIV or AIDS would eventually go extinct once we develop natural immunity. So he was not worried about people who have it now.
|by Anonymous||reply 174||04/26/2013|
People who think constant negativity and cynicism is intelligent social observation.
|by Anonymous||reply 175||04/26/2013|
R96 needs to learn what the term "begs the question" means.
|by Anonymous||reply 176||04/26/2013|
R96, clutching her pearls, calling the grammar police.
|by Anonymous||reply 177||04/26/2013|
Keeps telling me how many times he saw The Princess Diaries.
When he wants to "dress up", he reaches into a barrel and pulls out a mock turtle neck shirt and a pair of stone washed jeans.
|by Anonymous||reply 178||04/26/2013|
Insists on going to the gym with me when he is wearing that gay underwear (the kind that only has a ball pouch and a string between your cheeks).
|by Anonymous||reply 179||04/26/2013|
Reads the Koran religiously.
Hopelessly devoted to his mother.
|by Anonymous||reply 180||04/26/2013|
This is slightly off, but I once cruised a very hot black guy and he kept showing me interest, but wouldn't follow through. I eventually walked up to him and pulled out some fuzz that was in his beard and he said thanks.. He then proceeded to tell me why he was avoiding me but not totally telling me to buzz off. Years before he was in a bar in Milwaukee and he was cruised up by a white guy but ended up not going home with him on account he got a serious bad vibe from this guy. That guy turned out to be Jeffrey Dahmer. Jeff ruined white guys for him. He was visibly shaken while telling the story and said he was in therapy .
|by Anonymous||reply 181||04/26/2013|
Applause between the movements.
|by Anonymous||reply 182||04/26/2013|
He said. Girl lets order Cosmos
|by Anonymous||reply 183||04/26/2013|
Very chilling, R181. That fortunate black dude is living proof that you should ALWAYS trust your initial gut instinct, no matter how nonsensical it may seem at the time.
|by Anonymous||reply 184||04/26/2013|
Anyone was says they "won't tolerate drama" (as they inevitably cause it).
|by Anonymous||reply 186||04/26/2013|
Brags about being "liberal" = buh bye
|by Anonymous||reply 188||04/26/2013|
Republican Moody Passive aggressive People that have to be praised for everything People that must come first regardless of the situation at hand False equivalence No empathy Had a relationship with a teenager
All of this = Goodbye creep
|by Anonymous||reply 189||04/26/2013|
People that have to be praised for everything
People that have to be put first regardless of the situation at hand
Had a relationship with a teenager
All of this= Goodbye Creep
|by Anonymous||reply 190||04/26/2013|
Six + pages (and counting) of DL negativity at its finest.
Is it any wonder most of you are single and always will be single?
|by Anonymous||reply 191||04/26/2013|
Not fundamentally kind
|by Anonymous||reply 192||04/26/2013|
Moving their lips when they read.
|by Anonymous||reply 193||04/26/2013|
Chewing with mouth open.
Improperly plucked brows.
|by Anonymous||reply 194||04/26/2013|
Sipping drinks through a straw.
|by Anonymous||reply 195||04/26/2013|
Illegal drug use!!! There's no place in my life to deal with its fallout.
Conspiracy theories about every world event. Every world event is an X-Files plot in their minds.
Rude to waitstaff
Brags about cruelties to others
Talking smack about all their friends behind their backs
Being a 'taker' (always borrowing money from friends, etc.)
Bragging about ripping off friends, theft, cheating on past lovers.
|by Anonymous||reply 196||04/26/2013|
[quote]Something that's just punch, delete, no second date.
When some queen says "punch & delete", clearly under the impression it's still 2003 and attempting to sound edgy and cool...
Red flag. I'm out.
|by Anonymous||reply 197||04/26/2013|
Like R196, illegal drug use is a deal breaker for me. Rudeness to anyone is also a deal breaker. Others...
Racism or any other form of bigotry.
In terms of politics, I want to date someone who is openminded to opposing views. So, I don't care if the guy I'm dating is Republican or Democrat, but he needs to listen. As do I.
A guy who is not willing to try new things.
Guys who are into material possessions. I don't care if you drive a fancy car or have the latest IPhone.
Guys who text constantly. I want to have a conversation.
And guys checking their texts or messages while on a date.
|by Anonymous||reply 198||04/26/2013|
Only interested in female celebrities (ie, not in male ones)
talks like a girl
I don't care about politics, to each his own as far as that goes
|by Anonymous||reply 199||04/26/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 200||04/26/2013|
texting, cellphone-addicted asshole
|by Anonymous||reply 201||04/26/2013|
bad table manners=
1. using utensils like shovels 2. rudeness to wait staff 3. talking with food in mouth
I don't care about knowing which fork is used for what. I care when it's apparent they don't know what a fork is for.
|by Anonymous||reply 202||04/26/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 203||04/26/2013|
Coffee (and other beverage) slurping; any mouth noise, really.
|by Anonymous||reply 204||04/26/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 205||04/26/2013|
Red Flags are supposed to be personality or behavioral issues that warn you away from dating someone.
The fact that there are people on here that would apparently meet a great looking guy, who is emotionally available, compatible with them politically, emotionally, etc., who "completes" them... but then would kick them to the curb because they're uncut? That's just psycho. We're talking about relationships here. Anyone like that is definite red-flag material, let alone bringing up something like a physical attraction in a thread about "red flags" because they're so unhealthily obsessed with foreskin (or the lack thereof). Ridiculous. Stupid. Ignorant. All the words used up-thread apply to these freaks.
Just because it's different and you're not used to it doesn't make it bad. Open your minds a little.
So yeah, another set of red-flags: Closed minded. Overly/Highly opinionated without being well informed. Conservative. Bigoted. Superficial.
|by Anonymous||reply 206||04/26/2013|
The inability to think objectively. Blindly absorbing what you've been told and dismissing other perspectives as "ignorant," etc. Being unable to see that another's preferences are no different from the distinctions you make that you consider legitimate.
Which means r206 is practically waving red flags.
|by Anonymous||reply 207||04/26/2013|
r188, us liberals deeply appreciate your thoughfulness in not wasting our time.
|by Anonymous||reply 208||04/26/2013|
R206 All those words to say "cut."
|by Anonymous||reply 209||04/26/2013|
(R207, madly trying to justify ignorant bigotry as simple 'taste' while ignoring all the red-flags of someone who is so over-the-edge irrational about foreskin that they bring it up on a red-flags thread like this, screaming "ewww" like little 12 year old girls)
|by Anonymous||reply 210||04/26/2013|
[quote]Closed minded. Overly/Highly opinionated without being well informed. Conservative. Bigoted. Superficial.
|by Anonymous||reply 211||04/26/2013|
As soon as they start into diatribes like the anti-circ freak at r206/r210. Obvious red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 212||04/26/2013|
I have some red flags for online dating:
-grew up in Manhattan -went to Harvard or Yale -is wearing a bowtie in any of his photos (when not in a full tuxedo)
Every guy I've met who fell into any of those categories has inevitably been a gigantic asshole. I don't even bother with them anymore.
Also, profiles with only one photo, photos only from weird angles or from far away, or photos with sunglasses are not to be trusted.
|by Anonymous||reply 213||04/26/2013|
R212, not being "anti-uncut" doesn't make me "anti-circ".
I like all cocks. Uncut guys were strange and foreign to me at one point too. Then I dated a guy from France. Best sex I've ever had.
You guys are just small minded idiots who don't even know what you're talking about... just ranting and raving against something that is pretty much irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.
I'm not the freak here. You're simply projecting.
|by Anonymous||reply 214||04/26/2013|
r214, reread your posts. They are way over the top, and throw out ridiculous terms like "ignorant" "bigoted" "obsessed" "psycho" etc. over whether someone prefers cut dong.
Do you go into the same fits when someone here posts their attraction, or lack of, for a certain size of penis? Tall/short body? Fat? I'm guessing no, because like someone said, for people like you, this circ thing is a blindly absorbed ideology. You've lost objective perspective and you just react. And in this case, yes, those reactions are a red flag that reveal a thought process that's lacking in, well, thought.
|by Anonymous||reply 215||04/26/2013|
No, it's not my posts that are "way over the top", R215. Perhaps YOU should do the re-reading.
Most of the opinions expressed ARE ignorant. And you have to be obsessed or psycho to post some of the crap the rabid anti-uncut posters have posted. They're not posting about a "preference" at all.
And no, I don't go on those other issues, because people expressing *preferences* don't spend their time ignorantly insulting the alternatives with such vitriol and vehemence.
No, it's not blindly absorbed ideology at all (more projection? Or just you making up rationalizations for attacking me... the one who is being reasonable here, and likes ALL cocks, cut or uncut)... what it is, is life experience.
I'm not the one that has lost perspective, I actually HAVE it. It's the anti-uncut people reacting, knee-jerk.
Again, you're projecting all your psychoses onto me. Another red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 216||04/26/2013|
R206 - R210 - R214 - R216: The more you post, the crazier you appear. Carry on. Just a couple more before reaching the esteemed status of Shithouse Rat Crazy.
|by Anonymous||reply 217||04/26/2013|
Mean to waiters
Resentment directed at successful people
A lack of passion
|by Anonymous||reply 219||04/26/2013|
LMAO. That's hilarious r223.
|by Anonymous||reply 224||04/26/2013|
Saying that he hasn't broken up with his boyfriend yet.
|by Anonymous||reply 225||04/26/2013|
Doesn't smoke meth, Won't wear a cock ring, Won't DP me with other Grindr trade, Doesn't smoke cigarettes, Won't shoot in my mouth on Cam4
|by Anonymous||reply 226||04/26/2013|
you would think that people who have experienced oppression first hand would have some empathy for others but as I have often seen, the bullied, instead of fighting back, redirect their pain to someone else.
and thank you r138
some 'green flags':
active intellect, curiosity and self reflection
positive outlook on life
kindness towards people on the street
|by Anonymous||reply 227||04/26/2013|
This is a mouldy thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 228||04/26/2013|
[QUOTE]An hour in you know all about him and he hasn't bothered to ask anything about you.
Yes, this a thousand times. I'm attracted to a pretty wide variety of guys, but whenever I've encountered this on dates, that is the #1 dealbreaker.
Getting to know your date, by asking questions of them, is the only way you can learn about them, and open up the doors for a good conversation, and to learn if that's even possible. If you can't even do that a little bit on the first date, and you are so busy advertising yourself, then you shouldn't be dating.
|by Anonymous||reply 229||04/26/2013|
is swf a straight woman, or bi?
|by Anonymous||reply 230||04/26/2013|
His living room is decorated with a Snoopy motif.
|by Anonymous||reply 231||04/26/2013|
Not knowing proper table etiquette or manners: misuse of the salad fork, fish knife, chopsticks, etc. There are other ways to let me know he was raised by a pack of wolves.
|by Anonymous||reply 232||04/26/2013|
R232, I know from experience that stuff is really easy to teach. Well, I guess for some people. I'd make it "Inability to learn proper table etiquette in short order" ... but that'd take a few dates to figure out.
I had one ex who had a horrific childhood actually. Father abandoned the family, mother came down with acute schizophrenia when he was still in high-school and had to be institutionalized, leaving him on his own by the age of 16.
But he was eager to learn, was smart, and learned pretty quickly the right and wrong ways... shortly after we started dating, it really wasn't much of an issue any more.
The key is being willing to learn and change.
Red Flag: Being unwilling to learn, change, or adapt.
|by Anonymous||reply 233||04/26/2013|
They pack an automaatic weapon?
I don't look for red flags and don't really need to- or tell others what those flags are.
|by Anonymous||reply 234||04/26/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 235||04/26/2013|
Identifiably gay/has gayvoice/wears gay clothing
|by Anonymous||reply 236||04/26/2013|
I think there's a difference between a "deal breaker" and a "red flag."
A deal breaker might be he smokes, but that's not a red flag.
Being rude/dismissive toward servers and cashiers is a HUGE red flag because it's revealing deeper issues he may keep from you for a while.
|by Anonymous||reply 237||04/26/2013|
So many have posted that being rude to cashiers/wait staff is a huge red flag but what exactly does it reveal about someone.
|by Anonymous||reply 238||04/26/2013|
That seems so innocuous, R239.
|by Anonymous||reply 240||04/26/2013|
So many people have mentioned "cologne." What is wrong with wearing cologne??
|by Anonymous||reply 241||04/26/2013|
Gives me a headache, R241 (and I'm one of the ones who posted it). It's an absolute dealbreaker when someone won't give it up.
|by Anonymous||reply 242||04/26/2013|
Re the posting pics with a pet. They are usually the folks who will assign human emotions to their pet. Nothing wrong with having a pet but when it's your primary focus, it is a red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 243||04/26/2013|
R238- Being rude to wait staff is red flag because it shows that the guy thinks he's better than these poor menial servants, so should be thankful to serve him in the first place. These people could be putting on airs or just snobs born into an entitled way of life.
Cologne gives me a headache too, but what is it a "red flag" of?
|by Anonymous||reply 245||04/26/2013|
[quote]Cologne gives me a headache too, but what is it a "red flag" of?
It means I don't want to have sex with you, or sit next to you at school, work, the theatre, or anywhere else.
|by Anonymous||reply 246||04/26/2013|
I am amending my post to "deal-breaker."
Red flag would probably be lack of manners (table, phone, interaction with strangers). You may not have learned manners at your parents' knees, but they are so damnably easy to acquire after leaving home.
|by Anonymous||reply 247||04/26/2013|
Not warning me that he is about to cum
|by Anonymous||reply 248||04/26/2013|
Cock that smells like cologne. Rude thrusting during Fellatio. Talking over the porn. Conservative use of lube.
|by Anonymous||reply 249||04/26/2013|
Eats at Chik Fil-A.
|by Anonymous||reply 250||04/26/2013|
I've noticed so many people holding a fork in their left hand while eating and they are not left-handed.
Then they proceed to put the food in their mouth with the fork in their left hand and often the fork is held upside down and the food is stuffed in their mouth that way.
I always thought it was poor manners to put food in one's mouth by holding the fork in one's left hand (while not being left-handed)
They put the fork in their left hand to cut the meat which is fine, but then they don't switch the fork back to their right hand to put the food into their mouth.
Has this been deemed okay somehow in the world of manners? I can't imagine that it has been deemed okay and not poor manner.
|by Anonymous||reply 251||04/26/2013|
Left and right is Continental.
Right only is predominantly American.
|by Anonymous||reply 252||04/26/2013|
R251, that rule faded away around the same time schools stopped forcing left-handed children to become right-handed. We no longer believe the left hand is unclean.
|by Anonymous||reply 253||04/26/2013|
Someone who is a very picky eater or unwilling to try new foods. These types are horrible to travel with too.
I'm a vegetarian, so I understand restricting your diet, picky eaters are the worst.
|by Anonymous||reply 254||04/26/2013|
If you all are noticing much of this stuff while you are on a date, then you are not into the person anyway. I mean, really, if you are engrossed in an interesting conversation or are attracted to someone, are you really going to be noticing how the hell he is holding his FORK? Because if you are, you are not fully present in the conversation, are outside of the situation judging, judging, judging. Which is what young people do and why younger gay men can never find boyfriends. They reject someone because they chew "funny" or didn't accessorize properly or had on cologne. And then whine to their girlfriends that there aren't any decent men out there. Then they get older and WISH for someone with any of those traits. There are no perfect people out there and so many men waste valuable years searching for mister perfect.
Many of you really have your priorities fucked up about what matters in life, it seems. At least from these posts.
|by Anonymous||reply 255||04/26/2013|
R251, you're describing the standard European way of eating... so much more efficient than the constant switching of hands that Americans engage in.
You're a clueless moron who lives under a rock, R251. Red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 256||04/26/2013|
Mentioning on the first date that you were molested as a child.
|by Anonymous||reply 257||04/26/2013|
R251, are you 251 years old? I gave up eating "American style" the minute I saw "European style."
|by Anonymous||reply 258||04/26/2013|
[R251] Ha! That's funny. My mother simply forced me to adapt to the Continental style of forkage before the age of 4. One must conform to the rules of the bourgeoisie!
|by Anonymous||reply 259||04/27/2013|
Setting off a bomb at the finish line of a marathon.
Oh wait...you said RED flag. Never mind.
|by Anonymous||reply 260||04/27/2013|
Republican leanings, deal breaker, no dice.
|by Anonymous||reply 261||04/27/2013|
Suggesting halving the tab on the first date, after he's had the steak dinner and you've had soup and salad.
Blowing his nose at the table - into his napkin.
|by Anonymous||reply 262||04/27/2013|
Doesn't get along with siblings
Has no long-term friends.
Says non-sequiturs that just don't make any sense.
Sues family and friends.
Shows up places uninvited.
Disappears for stretches of time.
Tell you what you want to hear. Means nothing.
|by Anonymous||reply 263||04/27/2013|
[quote]Rude to servers and other service people
|by Anonymous||reply 264||04/27/2013|
Just as many here say "Republican", I'd throw in a fellow who considers himself a practicing (rather than lapsed) Roman Catholic, or Orthodox Jew. The former I just can't "get" and the latter with all those picky rules.
|by Anonymous||reply 265||04/27/2013|
R238, do you think restaurants and stores are the only places such people act out their overwhelmingly large sense of entitlement?
|by Anonymous||reply 266||04/27/2013|
Adding to R266:
And even if such people were able to confine their arrogance to scenes in public, who wants that in a partner, or even in a friend?
I got beat up on Sixth Avenue in the Village because my boyfriend gave some sales clerk the finger. The only time that's ever happened. And nobody was screaming "faggot." It was all due to this asshole's assholescence.
He was always creating scenes.
|by Anonymous||reply 267||04/27/2013|
Lots of repressed anger that comes out in insidious ways, R238. They are cowardly bullies who only pick on people who can't fight back. Service people have to smile and be polite no matter what. These are the same shit stains who have uncontrolled road rage. It's easy to feel like an alpha dog from the safety of your car.
|by Anonymous||reply 268||04/27/2013|
That about covers it.
|by Anonymous||reply 269||04/27/2013|
My god most of you are a bunch of pearl clutching Marys.
I could put up with most of your complaints,many I think you make up in your minds. I mean short of walking by a homeless person, I've never encountered anyone that stunk. If someone is wearing too much cologne, let them know.
My only deal breaker, really queenie guys. The kind that your dog knows are gay. I met a super hot guy about 5 years ago at a pride parade. He was talking to a friend when I noticed him, beautiful sexy guy, no shirt & thick chest hair. My ideal type, well I went up to him and said hi, he opened his mouth and his tits fell out. I Hate gay voice.
|by Anonymous||reply 270||04/27/2013|
R270, I think most 'gayvoice' is an affectation.
I've seen even straight guys pick it up after hanging around gay guys sing-songing it all night long.
And I've seen guys who talk perfectly normally most of the time, but go to a gay bar or party, and they're suddenly talking in a pitch that's an octave or two higher, and saying "GUUUUURL!!" and all the other stereotypical bullshit that is so annoying.
Half the time I wonder if they even realize they're doing it.
|by Anonymous||reply 271||04/27/2013|
I think R251 doesn't realise that most Europeans consider his 'good manners' way of eating to be atrocious. It's a personal preference, of course. I'm European and I eat with the fork in my left hand and knife in the right as I was taught in childhood, but I don't care how anyone else eats as long as they keep their mouth shut while chewing.
Good manners is about not making the people around you uncomfortable, not sticking to some arbitrary set of rules. That includes not being an arse about which hand someone holds their fork in.
|by Anonymous||reply 272||04/27/2013|
Thinking Carousel is a great musical.
|by Anonymous||reply 273||04/28/2013|
Not having a phone, TV, and some kind of social media site.
|by Anonymous||reply 274||04/28/2013|
I too agree that gay voice is an affectation. I've known guys that had regular voices before they came out and the minute they came out and spent some time in Weho, started with the gurrrrrllll and all the other trappings of gay voice.
|by Anonymous||reply 275||04/28/2013|
By "social media site" you mean Facebook, etc. In that case, sorry, not interested in joining. I have a TV (and cable!), but no landline. Good luck with Mr Right.
|by Anonymous||reply 276||04/28/2013|
You point out the classic signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. However, I want to mention that my brother and I live 10 minutes apart, and haven't spoken in a couple of years now; we have almost NOTHING to say to each other, aside from discussing relatives in common, which peters out quickly. That's the way it goes ...
As for "gay voice", back in the 1980's when I was an undergrad, the grad student in charge of our dorm (straight, married guy) was doing his Masters on the subject (for, I believe, speech pathology).
|by Anonymous||reply 277||04/28/2013|
Is your brother your twin, r277?
|by Anonymous||reply 278||04/28/2013|
No, we are five years apart, and look completely different. I was blond (now gray), with blue eyes; he has thick dark hair and brown eyes.
|by Anonymous||reply 279||04/28/2013|
Not thinking "Carousel' is a great musical.
|by Anonymous||reply 280||04/28/2013|
Republicans, religiosity, racism, antisemitism, anti-intellectualism, over sharing, trash talking exes.
If he has no contact with family and has no life-long friends, it's a huge red flag.
|by Anonymous||reply 281||04/28/2013|
Most of what people wrote are not "red flags" but turn offs.
To me being politically conservative/republican is both a turn off and a red flag. A turn off for the obvious but a red flag for being greedy, close minded and a a lack of sympathy.
|by Anonymous||reply 282||04/29/2013|
ok, forks and table manners people
Check out the clip from Annie Hall. Annie's family, seen as more refined and sophisticated than Woody's, are all eating with the fork in the right hand. Woody's family, more wild and working-class are eating with the fork in the right hand and the left hand. A woman from Woody's group can be seen eating "European style" with the fork in the left hand.
I don't think it matters which hand the fork is in, as long as you are polite and calm about it! Or are the American upper-middle class all eating the "European" way now?
|by Anonymous||reply 283||04/29/2013|
Loving the movie "Prometheus". Instant red-flag. Practically a deal-breaker.
|by Anonymous||reply 285||04/29/2013|
bad breath or any kind of B.O., yuck
|by Anonymous||reply 286||04/29/2013|
Talking about porn on a date.
|by Anonymous||reply 287||04/29/2013|
Similar to #287, when they talk about their past debauched life of whorish hijinks. "One time I went into an alley with this guy...".
|by Anonymous||reply 288||04/30/2013|
This thread title should be changed to: "If I had a date with a real person, these are the things I'd wonder about."
|by Anonymous||reply 289||04/30/2013|
waxing/tweezing eyebrows. Its one thing to clear out the middle so you dont look like a caveman, but when a man shapes his eyebrows to the point they look like they belong on a woman, I am out of there.
|by Anonymous||reply 290||04/30/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 291||04/30/2013|
Can't stand the 'gay voice' either, and all the gay vocab, like gurl, queen, etc. So outmoded and tedious. We should be way past that crap now.
And the incessant attention to female celebrities who have little or no actual talent. Come on. Men are interesting too, not just for their looks.
|by Anonymous||reply 292||05/01/2013|
[quote]Can't stand the 'gay voice' either, and all the gay vocab,
I would have picked you out as gay for saying "vocab." Sorry, gurl.
|by Anonymous||reply 293||05/01/2013|
Mentioning that he's "Christian" or that he "prays" for things, or saying the phrase "I feel so [italic]blessed[/italic]!"
|by Anonymous||reply 294||05/01/2013|
They said "yes" to a date with me.
|by Anonymous||reply 295||05/01/2013|
LOL R294. I had the same exact thing happen to me on my most recent date. You know how you have the typical back and forth with someone to find out more about them. I asked him what was the most important thing in his life. His answer was, "my relationship with God." Right there the date should have been over, but I felt bad, he drove nearly an hour to meet me.
|by Anonymous||reply 296||05/01/2013|
THIS thread is the definitive answer to the thread asking why so many gays are single.
|by Anonymous||reply 297||05/01/2013|
Someone who is inconsiderate and lacks compassion and/or empathy for others.
|by Anonymous||reply 298||05/01/2013|
Oh yeah and what R281 said.
|by Anonymous||reply 299||05/01/2013|
Yup, R296... right there with you. I totally get it, and completely agree.
And it sucks having to go with the rest of the date knowing that it's already over.
|by Anonymous||reply 300||05/01/2013|
I get the Red Flag feeling if someone is too charming and charismatic in a certain way. These people are hard to describe. Some of them even almost fool me.
|by Anonymous||reply 301||05/01/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 303||05/01/2013|
Now that I've learned more about sociopaths/psychopaths, I feel the same way, R301.
|by Anonymous||reply 304||05/01/2013|
Guys who gossip. Celeb gossip is okay, but I'm talking about guys that badmouth everyone they know (friends, co-workers, family, etc.). They are very unloyal.
|by Anonymous||reply 305||05/01/2013|
Sociopaths, R301. They live to manipulate. Watch for flowers being sent.
|by Anonymous||reply 306||05/01/2013|