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Name one thing that's an instant 'red flag'

When on a date with someone. Something that's just punch, delete, no second date.

by Anonymousreply 30605/01/2013

The musical tastes of a teenage girl.

by Anonymousreply 104/25/2013

If they enjoy professional wrestling. I can sink to a lot of levels but that I cannot accept.

by Anonymousreply 204/25/2013

Poz

Republican (unless he's hot and dtf)

Bitchy

by Anonymousreply 404/25/2013

Talking about money.

by Anonymousreply 504/25/2013

R3 + 1.

by Anonymousreply 704/25/2013

body odor

by Anonymousreply 804/25/2013

Racism.

by Anonymousreply 904/25/2013

Into scat

Negative and scared of Poz folks

Shaves body hair

Rude and cannot appreciate different people

Stereotypical queen into babs and Elton and Liza and musicals

Wears cologne

Works out incessantly

by Anonymousreply 1004/25/2013

queeny valley girl voice

by Anonymousreply 1204/25/2013

Poor

Old

Obese

Frequent DL poster

Terrible table manners

Engages in passive-agressive behavior

Reads blogs as only source of information

by Anonymousreply 1304/25/2013

Can't stop talking about ex either good or bad. Cries when talking about ex. Punches wall when talking about ex.

by Anonymousreply 1404/25/2013

Republican

DINO

NRA

Southern Baptist

by Anonymousreply 1604/25/2013

Some stupid ass- 'tard with one or more things that are an instant red flag.

by Anonymousreply 1704/25/2013

Scared of guys who are POS = uneducated

Owns a Louis Vuitton or Gucci wallet = shallow

Votes Republican = self hater

Obsesses over Beyonce = Bottom Queen

Dose drag more then Halloween = wants to be a woman

Has tons of self pics on Instagram = narcissist

Actor = See line above

Dose Improve = See Actor

by Anonymousreply 1804/25/2013

That style of eye-glasses that have the metal bar attaching the lenses together at the top. Anyone wearing those is a possible serial killer.

by Anonymousreply 1904/25/2013

Uses words such as "tired" to mean something other than physically exhausted, or "queen" to mean something other than a band or a monarch.

by Anonymousreply 2004/25/2013

I know I shouldn't say this but I just cannot stand really queeny guys. They tend to be bitchy, catty, mean spirited and manipulative. Everyone I have ever knows including friends have lives that are consumed in pure drama....which they create.

The butcher guys never seem to be focused on that shit.

by Anonymousreply 2104/25/2013

anyone who wears a jean short anyone who wears abercrombie and is over 30 (they can be over 30 just not wearing abercrombie.) anyone who mentions thier ex more than once..hell even once. anyone who wears a backward baseball cap anyone who mentions the price of anything they are wearing,,or the name brand of it, unless I ask.

by Anonymousreply 2204/25/2013

Has to shower every time before he has sex. Alone.

I still miss the rest of you though!

by Anonymousreply 2304/25/2013

Someone who talks over me.

Someone who can go for 10 minutes talking about travel plans.

by Anonymousreply 2404/25/2013

someone who can't read a simple direction like "name one thing"

by Anonymousreply 2504/25/2013

Halitosis

by Anonymousreply 2604/25/2013

r21, I assume you're talking about r22.

by Anonymousreply 2704/25/2013

Suggests a $$$$ restaurant for the first date!

by Anonymousreply 2804/25/2013

Hunts.

Fishes.

Camps.

Has a bicycle that costs more than my car.

In a band.

by Anonymousreply 2904/25/2013

Self centered

Nelly

Superficial

by Anonymousreply 3004/25/2013

r29, you're practically announcing yourself as sexually undesirable

by Anonymousreply 3104/25/2013

Is on Facebook.

Is a Republican/right-winger.

Is a smoker.

All deal-breakers.

by Anonymousreply 3204/25/2013

Someone who has disgusting table manners.

It's amazing how many people fit this description.

by Anonymousreply 3304/25/2013

Nascar or ultimate fighting fan

watches fox news

pro-gun

being from NC, SC, WV

visible tattoos

that ear stretching thing

only child

by Anonymousreply 3504/25/2013

R34, what about MOIST?

by Anonymousreply 3604/25/2013

bloated boozer types. trashes their friends casually in conversation. hangs out with their family every weekend. eats animals. vegetarian but won't shut up about it. believes television news. facebooking mini-celebrity type.

by Anonymousreply 3704/25/2013

r35, you were doing fine until the last one. That one brands you as an idiot.

by Anonymousreply 3804/25/2013

Former or current Marine (eligible for fuck-buddy status only).

by Anonymousreply 3904/25/2013

I loathe those unimaginative so-very-corporate types (i.e. R25 and R33) who always listen so primly to instructions, no matter how absurd (i.e. "name one thing", or "just say no") and then have the prissy nerve to admonish others who don't follow the same absurd instructions.

by Anonymousreply 4004/25/2013

republican

can't spell for the life of them

close-minded

by Anonymousreply 4104/25/2013

Anybody under the age of 30 who says "It'll never happen to me!" The sentence of DOOM!!!FOR ANYONE!!!Hope for the best but ALWAYS,ALWAYS EXPECT THE WORST!!!

by Anonymousreply 4204/25/2013

Republican

I won't even be friends with a Republican let alone date one.

by Anonymousreply 4404/25/2013

[quote]Is on Facebook.

That really cuts out a hell of a lot of people. You know that, right?

by Anonymousreply 4504/25/2013

condescending

tries to tell me what I "should" be doing

gives unsolicited advice (see #2)

wound too tight/no sense of humor

long nails

by Anonymousreply 4604/25/2013

funny how no one has mentioned drugs

by Anonymousreply 4704/25/2013

Ooops -- I forgot. Has kids.

I will not even consider dating a woman with kids. Too complicated, even if they're no longer at home.

by Anonymousreply 4804/25/2013

Shows up late without a text message or call and doesn't even apologize for it.

On the phone a lot, checking messages, twitter, fb, etc.

Rude towards anyone

by Anonymousreply 4904/25/2013

Stupidity

by Anonymousreply 5004/25/2013

Uses Prissy Subculture jargon words like: twink, butch, queen, girlfriend, self-loathing, nelly, etc.

by Anonymousreply 5104/25/2013

[quote]can't spell for the life of them

[quote]close-minded

It's like rai-ee-ain...

by Anonymousreply 5204/25/2013

[quote]funny how no one has mentioned drugs

Or worshiping Hitler, or being a serial killer.

by Anonymousreply 5304/25/2013

Drug user

Pot smoker

Unsafe sex enthusiast

Tardiness

Smart Phone addict

Gum chewer

Cologne wearer

by Anonymousreply 5404/25/2013

Shallow dating checklists

by Anonymousreply 5504/25/2013

Can I name many things as a form of self-therapy?

Praises their physical appearance - even saying things like "I've always been told I have great skin"

Talks about themselves at length

Talks about working out or says things like "I have to go to the gym."

Obsessed with status symbols.

Expects to be praised for doing inane things such as going to the gym.

Has had a weight problem in the past (it invariably will still be a focus of their life. It's great they lost weight but I don't want to hear about and how they have to keep it off).

Overly negative (funny, I know)

For guys - having mostly female friends or a female best friend. Usually the female friends are pseudo-wives, girlfriends and are a psychic drain on these men. The "Fruit fly" phase should've ended in high school/second year of college. Having female friends that appreciate you and respect you is one thing, but having a "fag hag" is a disaster.

Needy/doesn't have anything going on in their life other than other people. Conversely, overly distant and doesn't tell you ANYTHING about their past.

Socially awkward - I don't mean being shy. I mean people that tell weird jokes and don't realize when to shut up. I guess I mean they lack empathy or ability to read signs.

People who can't relax.

Workaholics.

Overly pessimistic.

No hobbies other than drinking or watching tv. It's okay if you want to do this alone, but don't expect others to have fun watching Real Housewives and getting drunk week after week.

by Anonymousreply 5604/25/2013

Not good looking.

Everything else flows from that.

by Anonymousreply 5704/25/2013

It's funny because most of you use.

by Anonymousreply 5804/25/2013

Not out.

Has bad relationship with parents.

by Anonymousreply 5904/25/2013

Like I give a fuck about the types you loathe, R40. OP said ONE thing, and people respond with lists longer than their arms.

Who cares about the 180 different things people consider an instant red flag?

It's shit like that that makes threads so uninteresting.

ONE thing, godammit, so go FUCK yourself, you moronic fucktard.

by Anonymousreply 6004/25/2013

Not a fan of "Buffy" or "Firefly" or Joss Whedon in general. I mean, seriously. Who could date such a person?!?

Hates Monty Python.

Has never played a game on Xbox.

Doesn't "get" Big Bang Theory

Has never read a sci-fi book.

Doesn't know how to use a Windows computer

Refuses to dress up for Halloween

by Anonymousreply 6104/25/2013

R60 = biggest red flag in this thread.

Yeesh.

by Anonymousreply 6204/25/2013

[quote]unhinged, batshit, mouth breather, schmaltz...

Ohmygawd. I use every one of these words regularly!

Enjoy your life without me!

by Anonymousreply 6304/25/2013

Knuckle Tattoos

by Anonymousreply 6504/25/2013

[quote]Ohmygawd. I use every one of these words regularly! Enjoy your life without me!

Maybe you should wear a shirt warning us normal people so we don't have to waste our time. Then again, I could probably spot you before you uttered those words.

by Anonymousreply 6604/25/2013

Doesn't like or want kids and animals. No sense of humour. Picky/uptight.

by Anonymousreply 6704/25/2013

"Can't host. Will Travel."

by Anonymousreply 6804/25/2013

LOL Thank you r33 / r60 for proving my point so beautifully!

by Anonymousreply 6904/25/2013

This only applies to a woman. When a man doesn't scan you from head to toe when you first meet him. And after that, you don't sense he's undressing you with his EYES.

This may sound caveman sexist, but it's the truth.

by Anonymousreply 7004/25/2013

Considers Fox News a veritable news source.

by Anonymousreply 7104/25/2013

I'm not following your post, SWF.

Further illumination?

by Anonymousreply 7204/25/2013

LOVE swf on the verge

by Anonymousreply 7304/25/2013

I'm not following it either. You're saying you want that to happen r70? If so, why?

by Anonymousreply 7404/25/2013

Has a naked pictures of themselves circa 1980 on the wall in their house.

No, you dont look like that any more, you are not fooling anyone with that big hair.

by Anonymousreply 7504/25/2013

Guys who complain about going out how everything is so expensive as a reason to stay at home and be a drunk.

by Anonymousreply 7604/25/2013

I thought the head to toe scan (especially evaluating the breasts) was a real turn off for women?

Please explain, swf.

by Anonymousreply 7704/25/2013

Has a workout regimen that includes eating egg white omelets.

by Anonymousreply 7804/25/2013

Learned this one the hard way: describes himself as funny.

I went out on an awful date with a guy who described himself that way. Now it's a red flag - if you have to describe yourself that way instead of letting others do it for you, the apt description is "tedious," not funny.

by Anonymousreply 7904/25/2013

Red Flags?

"do you mind if I borrow your cell phone I need to make a call"

"are you on grindr?"

"are you going to eat that?"

"are you going to eat THAT?"

"ugh I feel so fat I missed the gym today"

"how big is your place?"

by Anonymousreply 8004/25/2013

r75, I've never met anyone with pics displayed like you mention, but if I did I'd find him far more interesting than you. The idea seems cool. People should celebrate their past.

by Anonymousreply 8104/25/2013

I am sorry. I myself found the wording awkward but against my better judgment hit the post button anyway.

Let me attempt to clarify: For a woman, the biggest red flag that the man may not be straight is......what I said about the scan and the eyeball strip. I realize it doesn't happen much in the times we thankfully live in today, but you would be shocked at how many gay guys asked me out in the days of the closet. Big hug [R73]

by Anonymousreply 8204/25/2013

Wow... small wonder nobody can find a date.

by Anonymousreply 8304/25/2013

Cruelty. In all it's forms. That would include being rude to waiting staff, bullying, animal cruelty, making cutting remarks, it's all part of being cruel - the act of intentionally hurting another being. It's just such a fucked up way to be and has no place in my life.

I'm not claiming to be some sort of perfect specimen myself, just that I do try not to be a nasty, vicious asshole and I don't like being around others who are.

by Anonymousreply 8404/25/2013

R77] It is a turn off, but straight men cannot correct their lizard brains when it comes to sexual propriety.

by Anonymousreply 8504/25/2013

[quote] but straight men cannot correct their lizard brains when it comes to sexual propriety.

Yes they can. They're just not encouraged to.

by Anonymousreply 8704/25/2013

[quote]straight men cannot correct their lizard brains when it comes to sexual propriety.

Boys who like boys are no less visual in their sexuality. I'd argue more so.

by Anonymousreply 8804/25/2013

wearing white socks with dress clothes

jewelry other than a watch and maybe earrings i.e. includes wedding band

have more shoes than Imelda Marcos

wears a same article of clothing on more than one date

orders off of the menu regularly

wears designer underwear all the time

have pics of their ex in frames or clothing of the same at their abode

duplicate profiles on dating sites

won't introduce you to close friends and/or family

that's all for now, i'll let you know when i think of more

by Anonymousreply 9304/25/2013

Touche' [R87]

by Anonymousreply 9504/25/2013

You haven't been around much R81 have you? I am not talking about some super hot guy that did porn for a living when he was 20. If that was your career, then its totally understandable.

I am talking average guy who wanted the male version of Glamor Shots even women dont do anymore.

There is a difference between celebrating your past and living in it. These guys come off as pathetic trying to sell you on what they used to look like. Which begs the question, you must look like shit now.

by Anonymousreply 9604/25/2013

Cruel to animals

Inappropriate interest in way too young males

Shaves pubic area

Hates women

by Anonymousreply 9704/25/2013

[quote]Maybe you should wear a shirt warning us normal people so we don't have to waste our time. Then again, I could probably spot you before you uttered those words.

You're probably right. Believe it or not I can always spot a dim bulb with a 100 word working vocabulary, too afraid to express himself intelligently, from a distance too!

by Anonymousreply 9804/25/2013

HIM: "Hey, have you heard of this website called Datalounge?"

by Anonymousreply 9904/25/2013

yeah r99, even though I post here, I would probably avoid anyone who does. Or at least I'd find out first if they were one of the typical DLers first. There are a few subversives here that I'd probably like though.

by Anonymousreply 10004/25/2013

A person is acting all upset and sobbing -- but no tears are actually flowing.

by Anonymousreply 10104/25/2013

Poz guys

Loud, boisterous personality

Prudes

by Anonymousreply 10204/25/2013

Actor

Musician

Actively in a program - AA, Overeaters Anonymous, Anorexia.. not a full-on deal breaker, but red flag.

Has a bad relationship with most of their family, specifically mother/father

Works as an "artist"

Not a pet person; "not that into" animals

Has 3 drinks to your 1

Name drops

Gossipy, rude, obnoxious

And a large handful of others mentioned here in the realm of Republican, racist, etc. Hopefully we uncover these things before wasting the time on the date.

by Anonymousreply 10304/25/2013

Teetotallers.

by Anonymousreply 10404/25/2013

Works for family. Never again, my ex worked for his father and that meant his family was always around and up in our business.

by Anonymousreply 10504/25/2013

what are people thinking of when they write bad or "disgusting" table manners?

by Anonymousreply 10604/25/2013

Man, do I ever have egg on my face. I completely misunderstood the meaning of the title of this thread. I thought that by red flag, OP meant an indication that the guy was definitely gay. Now I realize that would be a GREEN flag, duh.

No wonder my posts seemed so asinine. I hope my virtual adopted DL brethren will forgive me this lapse in reading comprehension.

by Anonymousreply 10704/25/2013

R92/R94 if you don't think what R89 said was racist, then you're a fucking racist. Jesus, what the fuck is wrong with you?

by Anonymousreply 10804/25/2013

well, I like you swf

by Anonymousreply 10904/25/2013

Back atcha!

by Anonymousreply 11004/25/2013

No, it is NOT, r108. I guess you're one of the types r94 was talking about.

by Anonymousreply 11104/25/2013

[quote]what are people thinking of when they write bad or "disgusting" table manners?

Given the mentality of this place, I'd guess it's something like this:

by Anonymousreply 11204/25/2013

Trying to make the case that the higher rate of imprisonment for african americans is due entirely to their behaviour and not to a number of structural factors is most certainly a racist argument, r111. But please keep trying to paint us as the villains - it's another red flag of bigotry.

by Anonymousreply 11304/25/2013

It is, R111. How the fuck can you say it's not?

Someone referring to blacks as 'those people' is racist. If you can't understand this simple thing, along with insinuating they all "act bad" and deserve to be in prison in far greater numbers than white people...

I can't help you if you can't recognize racism, but you denying that it's racism doesn't change the fact that it IS racism.

by Anonymousreply 11404/25/2013

Observing fact isn't being PC.

It's interesting how people who say the most racist things always deny their own racism, and defend other racists.

Sad, but interesting.

by Anonymousreply 11704/25/2013

Refers to himself in the third person.

An hour in you know all about him and he hasn't bothered to ask anything about you.

by Anonymousreply 11804/25/2013

I'll be here all night, r116 - so why don't you just fuck off to a klan meeting?

by Anonymousreply 11904/25/2013

C'mon, I want to know what constitutes "bad table manners!"

by Anonymousreply 12004/25/2013

Animal hater

by Anonymousreply 12104/25/2013

R120 wiping your dick on the tablecloth? It's like some people don't even know what drapes are for!

by Anonymousreply 12204/25/2013

Uncut

Someone who doesn't shave their bush and chest

by Anonymousreply 12304/25/2013

Agree with r123. I usually try to find out if they're uncut, because that means no sex. Now if sex won't be involved, it makes no difference.

by Anonymousreply 12504/25/2013

Not sure exactly how R124 could be more wrong, defensive, and transparent.

Nobody's arguing behavior. That's not the point. That you can't see the point... (or even the point of what you quoted) says a lot about you, none of it good.

The structural factors argument has more than just 'some' merit. Oh, if only you actually knew as much about the topic as you think you do.

by Anonymousreply 12604/25/2013

Prattles on about his pet(s)

by Anonymousreply 12704/25/2013

Dead bodies in the trunk.

I hate that!!

by Anonymousreply 12804/25/2013

Serial killer.

Well, no, perhaps that's not a total disqualifier. Depends whom he killed. Some people deserve to be killed.

by Anonymousreply 12904/25/2013

How does it feel being a walking, talking, mouth-breathing red flag, r116?

by Anonymousreply 13104/25/2013

Wow, I think it is a safe bet that most people posting here are NEVER going to have a successful romantic relationship. EVER. Talk about some messed up folks. I particularly like the headcase who typed a list of words that, if people "regularly" use them in conversation, are dealbreakers! HAHAHA. I think many/most of the posts on this thread are parodies or jokes, though. Otherwise, folks, how many of you have Asperger's or other undiagnosed mental problems?

I can understand not dating a Republican or poor hygiene or some other BASIC stuff, but so many of these dealbreaker traits that you all are posting are obtuse, ridiculous things that are going to make you DIE ALONE. Seriously.

by Anonymousreply 13204/25/2013

Dumbshit, r117, et al. stating that "those" black people [italic]deserve[/italic] to be in jail at disproportionate numbers- solely due to their own behavior and ignoring the cops that treat white and black suspects differently- the judges that assign white and black offenders of the SAME crime vastly different sentences... and the —oh.. fuck it...you don't care. You just "know" it's that way because you think that tool was citing actual "facts". NO. He wasn't. It was Bullshit. Racist drivel from racist websites. No facts involved.

It just makes me laugh that people are seriously trying to argue that a mass generalization against an entire race of people - isn't racist.

Just stop. Just. fucking. Stop. STOP playing ignorant.

Oh wait, you're not playing are you.

And those of you accusing the "PC twats" of derailing- check upstream and see who had to go pick a fight first.

by Anonymousreply 13404/25/2013

r124. [quote]Like it or not, behavior (ultimately a product of culture, not race) does land people in prison.

Of course that explains why Lindsay Lohan in in prison right now.

— oh wait.

by Anonymousreply 13604/25/2013

Lacks compassion for those in lower socio economic classes.

Uses cell phone for texting or talking while out with me. If we need to look up directions or something, that's fine. But spending time one-on-one with me and interrupting the conversation to take a call or text? I'm done with you, whether it's a date or as a friend. I think it's about the rudest thing ever. Emergencies are exceptions. Or if it's an urgent call from work or you're waiting for a call from a prospective employer. But just to socialize? That's what you're doing with me. You can call them back later.

by Anonymousreply 13804/25/2013

- Cabbage Patch dolls.

- Being in a lower socio-economic class.

by Anonymousreply 13904/25/2013

[quote]but so many of these dealbreaker traits that you all are posting are obtuse, ridiculous things that are going to make you DIE ALONE

every living creature dies alone

by Anonymousreply 14004/25/2013

I agree with those, too, R138

and the person earlier in the thread who said cruelty in all its forms

by Anonymousreply 14104/25/2013

r131, r34 announced a few pages earlier that you are a red flag.

by Anonymousreply 14204/25/2013

If he doesn't like me.

by Anonymousreply 14304/25/2013

Spends too much time judging strangers harshly and for shallow reasons...

If they have to break out into, "oh my god look at her ...." etc. or critique something about a stranger every other minute then they must not have much to talk about.

The same goes for odd unwarranted outburst of impatience and anger at strangers. Someone who to harshly criticizes a waitress, or the guy in the other lane, etc. too often - is going to be a bitter angry mess.

by Anonymousreply 14404/25/2013

[quote]Agree with [R123]. I usually try to find out if they're uncut, because that means no sex. Now if sex won't be involved, it makes no difference.

People with ignorant, shallow, provincial, childish attitudes like this is definitely a red-flag.

by Anonymousreply 14504/25/2013

R130, you're so completely wrong. About so many things. Perhaps you should spend more time looking into a mirror than wagging your fingers at others. You could probably use some introspection.

by Anonymousreply 14604/25/2013

r127, that's a good one. My ex doted on his dog, we would have to leave places early to go home to take care of his dog. If you are not as into animals that can be a dealbreaker.

by Anonymousreply 14704/25/2013

R54, I want to marry you.

by Anonymousreply 14804/25/2013

r134 nails it.

r135 is clueless... guilty of a straw-man argument. Nobody is saying "everything is racist". Just racist things are racist. Denying that racist things are racist is ... just ignorant (and latently racist).

Perhaps you should read r134's post again. A few times. Until it sinks in.

And as for R137:

[quote]Who's doing that?

Are you blind? Or do you just have no reading comprehension?

R137 is obviously white, filled with white privilege, and blind to actual racism suffered by actual people. Sad, really. Arrogant, totally.

I'm not itching for an excuse to call anyone racist. I don't even think about it until someone says something blatantly and obviously racist. Racists are usually blind to such things, though, I've noticed. You might want to stop throwing stones in that glass house of yours.

by Anonymousreply 15004/25/2013

I like r144's post. It would eliminate about 70% of the people posting on this site.

by Anonymousreply 15104/25/2013

[quote]People with ignorant, shallow, provincial, childish attitudes like this is definitely a red-flag.

Oh here we have another typical DLer who thinks spewing a bunch of smear words at someone is the same as making a reasoned point.

by Anonymousreply 15204/25/2013

yes, R144's was good.

by Anonymousreply 15304/25/2013

R152, factual observations aren't smears. Juvenile stupidity is all that post was. Shallow and ridiculously stupid.

by Anonymousreply 15404/25/2013

People who think uncut is a turnoff are seriously red-flags. Jesus. How can you call yourself a gay man if you can't appreciate a lovely intact cock. Pure ignorance and prejudice.

by Anonymousreply 15604/25/2013

r154, calling someone "ignorant" because you don't agree with them is not a "factual observation." Having an attraction preference (what turns you on and what doesn't about someone) isn't a matter of being informed or smart, so "ignorance" doesn't apply. Poeple like what they like, and you need to get over it.

by Anonymousreply 15704/25/2013

There's nothing un-gay about failing to like "a lovely intact cock," since lovely and intact are oxymoronic when discussing penises. The true cockneissur always likes them cut.

by Anonymousreply 15804/25/2013

Holy crap, the anti-circ freaks are as bad as the "you're a racist!" freaks.

by Anonymousreply 15904/25/2013

People who are insensitive.

People who don't like to travel.

People who are always angry or negative about things.

People who are either too conservative or too liberal.

Uncut is a huge no.

Poz guys who lie about their status. I'll have dinner with you, just don't have sex with you.

by Anonymousreply 16004/25/2013

R156 + R159 = uncut

by Anonymousreply 16204/25/2013

white belts

tattoos

those ugly brown strapped sandal things

jargon talk (is it that hard to just speak English?)

being part of a subculture

by Anonymousreply 16304/25/2013

Uncultured, poorly educated, unworldly. You may as well belong in a leper colony.

by Anonymousreply 16404/25/2013

[quote] I particularly like the headcase who typed a list of words that, if people "regularly" use them in conversation...

Oh wait. I think "headcase" was one of the words that kook said would disqualify you!

by Anonymousreply 16504/25/2013

r162, I don't think you read things carefully enough.

by Anonymousreply 16604/25/2013

Guys who post neck down pics of their body on Grinder. Almost always FUGLY in person.

by Anonymousreply 16704/25/2013

Indoor only cat/cats and litter box.

by Anonymousreply 16804/25/2013

Used to be a woman.

by Anonymousreply 16904/26/2013

I was lurking the thread, and I would like to add to the 'racist' argument that while the original post that earned the 'RACIST' label isn't really racist, just ill-informed.

I'm black, worldly, young and educated. To be honest I deal with crap whenever I leave the house in regards to my skin color. I believe that most people are prejudice when it comes to people of other ethnicities, and they're not inherently racist. If you think that you are better than somebody because they are of a different ethnic / racial background, then yes, you are racist.

Spewing uncited 'facts' (without taking into account the social, economic and cultural dynamics at play) is pretty lame though. Especially if you're attempting to rationalize someone else's asinine overgeneralizations. Not all black people are lazy / petty criminals, not all white people are child molesters / serial killers, not all asians are good at math / terrible at sports, and not all Arabs are terrorists. Idk. Live and let live.

As for red flags - talking to much about self, being a know it all, lacking a strong curiosity about the world, malicious gossip (especially if I barely know you).

by Anonymousreply 17004/26/2013

I'm kind of a wishy-washy pushover so there have definitely been cases where I've noticed but made excuses for signs of obvious dealbreakers like racism/bigotry, rudeness to people in the service industry, overall meanness, and veganism on the first date - but Republicanism is always a cut-and-dry instant dealbreaker. If Punch & Delete was a video game, the Log Cabin Republican would be the boss of the demo level.

by Anonymousreply 17104/26/2013

Oh, yeah, I had a bad childhood. EVERY DAMN time.

by Anonymousreply 17204/26/2013

Hunters. A guy i met recently went on and on about how he loved rabbit hunting. God i thought rabbits are the most defenseless of all animals and u take pride in killing them?? Goodbye.

by Anonymousreply 17304/26/2013

One guy I almost dated revealed to me that he was a Republican, so OK I thought maybe I can still make it work.

But then he proceeded to tell me that HIV or AIDS would eventually go extinct once we develop natural immunity. So he was not worried about people who have it now.

Date canceled.

by Anonymousreply 17404/26/2013

People who think constant negativity and cynicism is intelligent social observation.

by Anonymousreply 17504/26/2013

R96 needs to learn what the term "begs the question" means.

by Anonymousreply 17604/26/2013

R96, clutching her pearls, calling the grammar police.

by Anonymousreply 17704/26/2013

Bad teeth.

Keeps telling me how many times he saw The Princess Diaries.

When he wants to "dress up", he reaches into a barrel and pulls out a mock turtle neck shirt and a pair of stone washed jeans.

by Anonymousreply 17804/26/2013

Insists on going to the gym with me when he is wearing that gay underwear (the kind that only has a ball pouch and a string between your cheeks).

by Anonymousreply 17904/26/2013

Reads the Koran religiously.

Hopelessly devoted to his mother.

by Anonymousreply 18004/26/2013

This is slightly off, but I once cruised a very hot black guy and he kept showing me interest, but wouldn't follow through. I eventually walked up to him and pulled out some fuzz that was in his beard and he said thanks.. He then proceeded to tell me why he was avoiding me but not totally telling me to buzz off. Years before he was in a bar in Milwaukee and he was cruised up by a white guy but ended up not going home with him on account he got a serious bad vibe from this guy. That guy turned out to be Jeffrey Dahmer. Jeff ruined white guys for him. He was visibly shaken while telling the story and said he was in therapy .

by Anonymousreply 18104/26/2013

Applause between the movements.

by Anonymousreply 18204/26/2013

He said. Girl lets order Cosmos

by Anonymousreply 18304/26/2013

Very chilling, R181. That fortunate black dude is living proof that you should ALWAYS trust your initial gut instinct, no matter how nonsensical it may seem at the time.

by Anonymousreply 18404/26/2013

Anyone was says they "won't tolerate drama" (as they inevitably cause it).

by Anonymousreply 18604/26/2013

Brags about being "liberal" = buh bye

by Anonymousreply 18804/26/2013

Republican Moody Passive aggressive People that have to be praised for everything People that must come first regardless of the situation at hand False equivalence No empathy Had a relationship with a teenager

All of this = Goodbye creep

by Anonymousreply 18904/26/2013

Republican

Moody

Passive aggressive

People that have to be praised for everything

People that have to be put first regardless of the situation at hand

False equivalence

No empathy

Had a relationship with a teenager

All of this= Goodbye Creep

by Anonymousreply 19004/26/2013

Six + pages (and counting) of DL negativity at its finest.

Is it any wonder most of you are single and always will be single?

by Anonymousreply 19104/26/2013

Stupid

Not fundamentally kind

by Anonymousreply 19204/26/2013

Moving their lips when they read.

by Anonymousreply 19304/26/2013

Chewing with mouth open.

Improperly plucked brows.

by Anonymousreply 19404/26/2013

Sipping drinks through a straw.

by Anonymousreply 19504/26/2013

Illegal drug use!!! There's no place in my life to deal with its fallout.

LIES!!!!

Conspiracy theories about every world event. Every world event is an X-Files plot in their minds.

Rude to waitstaff

Brags about cruelties to others

Talking smack about all their friends behind their backs

Being a 'taker' (always borrowing money from friends, etc.)

Bragging about ripping off friends, theft, cheating on past lovers.

by Anonymousreply 19604/26/2013

[quote]Something that's just punch, delete, no second date.

When some queen says "punch & delete", clearly under the impression it's still 2003 and attempting to sound edgy and cool...

Red flag. I'm out.

by Anonymousreply 19704/26/2013

Like R196, illegal drug use is a deal breaker for me. Rudeness to anyone is also a deal breaker. Others...

Racism or any other form of bigotry.

In terms of politics, I want to date someone who is openminded to opposing views. So, I don't care if the guy I'm dating is Republican or Democrat, but he needs to listen. As do I.

A guy who is not willing to try new things.

Guys who are into material possessions. I don't care if you drive a fancy car or have the latest IPhone.

Guys who text constantly. I want to have a conversation.

And guys checking their texts or messages while on a date.

by Anonymousreply 19804/26/2013

Bad breath

Only interested in female celebrities (ie, not in male ones)

talks like a girl

I don't care about politics, to each his own as far as that goes

by Anonymousreply 19904/26/2013

wears cologne

by Anonymousreply 20004/26/2013

texting, cellphone-addicted asshole

by Anonymousreply 20104/26/2013

bad table manners=

1. using utensils like shovels 2. rudeness to wait staff 3. talking with food in mouth

I don't care about knowing which fork is used for what. I care when it's apparent they don't know what a fork is for.

by Anonymousreply 20204/26/2013

HKLP

by Anonymousreply 20304/26/2013

Coffee (and other beverage) slurping; any mouth noise, really.

by Anonymousreply 20404/26/2013

Religious

by Anonymousreply 20504/26/2013

Red Flags are supposed to be personality or behavioral issues that warn you away from dating someone.

The fact that there are people on here that would apparently meet a great looking guy, who is emotionally available, compatible with them politically, emotionally, etc., who "completes" them... but then would kick them to the curb because they're uncut? That's just psycho. We're talking about relationships here. Anyone like that is definite red-flag material, let alone bringing up something like a physical attraction in a thread about "red flags" because they're so unhealthily obsessed with foreskin (or the lack thereof). Ridiculous. Stupid. Ignorant. All the words used up-thread apply to these freaks.

Just because it's different and you're not used to it doesn't make it bad. Open your minds a little.

So yeah, another set of red-flags: Closed minded. Overly/Highly opinionated without being well informed. Conservative. Bigoted. Superficial.

by Anonymousreply 20604/26/2013

The inability to think objectively. Blindly absorbing what you've been told and dismissing other perspectives as "ignorant," etc. Being unable to see that another's preferences are no different from the distinctions you make that you consider legitimate.

Which means r206 is practically waving red flags.

by Anonymousreply 20704/26/2013

r188, us liberals deeply appreciate your thoughfulness in not wasting our time.

by Anonymousreply 20804/26/2013

R206 All those words to say "cut."

by Anonymousreply 20904/26/2013

(R207, madly trying to justify ignorant bigotry as simple 'taste' while ignoring all the red-flags of someone who is so over-the-edge irrational about foreskin that they bring it up on a red-flags thread like this, screaming "ewww" like little 12 year old girls)

by Anonymousreply 21004/26/2013

[quote]Closed minded. Overly/Highly opinionated without being well informed. Conservative. Bigoted. Superficial.

That's funny.

by Anonymousreply 21104/26/2013

As soon as they start into diatribes like the anti-circ freak at r206/r210. Obvious red flag.

by Anonymousreply 21204/26/2013

I have some red flags for online dating:

-grew up in Manhattan -went to Harvard or Yale -is wearing a bowtie in any of his photos (when not in a full tuxedo)

Every guy I've met who fell into any of those categories has inevitably been a gigantic asshole. I don't even bother with them anymore.

Also, profiles with only one photo, photos only from weird angles or from far away, or photos with sunglasses are not to be trusted.

by Anonymousreply 21304/26/2013

R212, not being "anti-uncut" doesn't make me "anti-circ".

I like all cocks. Uncut guys were strange and foreign to me at one point too. Then I dated a guy from France. Best sex I've ever had.

You guys are just small minded idiots who don't even know what you're talking about... just ranting and raving against something that is pretty much irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.

I'm not the freak here. You're simply projecting.

by Anonymousreply 21404/26/2013

r214, reread your posts. They are way over the top, and throw out ridiculous terms like "ignorant" "bigoted" "obsessed" "psycho" etc. over whether someone prefers cut dong.

Do you go into the same fits when someone here posts their attraction, or lack of, for a certain size of penis? Tall/short body? Fat? I'm guessing no, because like someone said, for people like you, this circ thing is a blindly absorbed ideology. You've lost objective perspective and you just react. And in this case, yes, those reactions are a red flag that reveal a thought process that's lacking in, well, thought.

by Anonymousreply 21504/26/2013

No, it's not my posts that are "way over the top", R215. Perhaps YOU should do the re-reading.

Most of the opinions expressed ARE ignorant. And you have to be obsessed or psycho to post some of the crap the rabid anti-uncut posters have posted. They're not posting about a "preference" at all.

And no, I don't go on those other issues, because people expressing *preferences* don't spend their time ignorantly insulting the alternatives with such vitriol and vehemence.

No, it's not blindly absorbed ideology at all (more projection? Or just you making up rationalizations for attacking me... the one who is being reasonable here, and likes ALL cocks, cut or uncut)... what it is, is life experience.

I'm not the one that has lost perspective, I actually HAVE it. It's the anti-uncut people reacting, knee-jerk.

Again, you're projecting all your psychoses onto me. Another red flag.

by Anonymousreply 21604/26/2013

R206 - R210 - R214 - R216: The more you post, the crazier you appear. Carry on. Just a couple more before reaching the esteemed status of Shithouse Rat Crazy.

by Anonymousreply 21704/26/2013

Mean to waiters

Resentment directed at successful people

Eye rolling

A lack of passion

Neurotic bullshit

by Anonymousreply 21904/26/2013

LMAO. That's hilarious r223.

by Anonymousreply 22404/26/2013

Saying that he hasn't broken up with his boyfriend yet.

by Anonymousreply 22504/26/2013

Doesn't smoke meth, Won't wear a cock ring, Won't DP me with other Grindr trade, Doesn't smoke cigarettes, Won't shoot in my mouth on Cam4

by Anonymousreply 22604/26/2013

you would think that people who have experienced oppression first hand would have some empathy for others but as I have often seen, the bullied, instead of fighting back, redirect their pain to someone else.

and thank you r138

some 'green flags':

active intellect, curiosity and self reflection

positive outlook on life

kindness towards people on the street

by Anonymousreply 22704/26/2013

This is a mouldy thread.

by Anonymousreply 22804/26/2013

[QUOTE]An hour in you know all about him and he hasn't bothered to ask anything about you.

Yes, this a thousand times. I'm attracted to a pretty wide variety of guys, but whenever I've encountered this on dates, that is the #1 dealbreaker.

Getting to know your date, by asking questions of them, is the only way you can learn about them, and open up the doors for a good conversation, and to learn if that's even possible. If you can't even do that a little bit on the first date, and you are so busy advertising yourself, then you shouldn't be dating.

by Anonymousreply 22904/26/2013

is swf a straight woman, or bi?

by Anonymousreply 23004/26/2013

His living room is decorated with a Snoopy motif.

by Anonymousreply 23104/26/2013

Not knowing proper table etiquette or manners: misuse of the salad fork, fish knife, chopsticks, etc. There are other ways to let me know he was raised by a pack of wolves.

by Anonymousreply 23204/26/2013

R232, I know from experience that stuff is really easy to teach. Well, I guess for some people. I'd make it "Inability to learn proper table etiquette in short order" ... but that'd take a few dates to figure out.

I had one ex who had a horrific childhood actually. Father abandoned the family, mother came down with acute schizophrenia when he was still in high-school and had to be institutionalized, leaving him on his own by the age of 16.

But he was eager to learn, was smart, and learned pretty quickly the right and wrong ways... shortly after we started dating, it really wasn't much of an issue any more.

The key is being willing to learn and change.

Red Flag: Being unwilling to learn, change, or adapt.

by Anonymousreply 23304/26/2013

They pack an automaatic weapon?

I don't look for red flags and don't really need to- or tell others what those flags are.

by Anonymousreply 23404/26/2013

China

by Anonymousreply 23504/26/2013

Identifiably gay/has gayvoice/wears gay clothing

by Anonymousreply 23604/26/2013

I think there's a difference between a "deal breaker" and a "red flag."

A deal breaker might be he smokes, but that's not a red flag.

Being rude/dismissive toward servers and cashiers is a HUGE red flag because it's revealing deeper issues he may keep from you for a while.

by Anonymousreply 23704/26/2013

So many have posted that being rude to cashiers/wait staff is a huge red flag but what exactly does it reveal about someone.

by Anonymousreply 23804/26/2013

That seems so innocuous, R239.

by Anonymousreply 24004/26/2013

So many people have mentioned "cologne." What is wrong with wearing cologne??

by Anonymousreply 24104/26/2013

Gives me a headache, R241 (and I'm one of the ones who posted it). It's an absolute dealbreaker when someone won't give it up.

by Anonymousreply 24204/26/2013

Re the posting pics with a pet. They are usually the folks who will assign human emotions to their pet. Nothing wrong with having a pet but when it's your primary focus, it is a red flag.

by Anonymousreply 24304/26/2013

R238- Being rude to wait staff is red flag because it shows that the guy thinks he's better than these poor menial servants, so should be thankful to serve him in the first place. These people could be putting on airs or just snobs born into an entitled way of life.

Cologne gives me a headache too, but what is it a "red flag" of?

by Anonymousreply 24504/26/2013

[quote]Cologne gives me a headache too, but what is it a "red flag" of?

It means I don't want to have sex with you, or sit next to you at school, work, the theatre, or anywhere else.

by Anonymousreply 24604/26/2013

I am amending my post to "deal-breaker."

Red flag would probably be lack of manners (table, phone, interaction with strangers). You may not have learned manners at your parents' knees, but they are so damnably easy to acquire after leaving home.

by Anonymousreply 24704/26/2013

Not warning me that he is about to cum

by Anonymousreply 24804/26/2013

Cock that smells like cologne. Rude thrusting during Fellatio. Talking over the porn. Conservative use of lube.

by Anonymousreply 24904/26/2013

Eats at Chik Fil-A.

by Anonymousreply 25004/26/2013

I've noticed so many people holding a fork in their left hand while eating and they are not left-handed.

Then they proceed to put the food in their mouth with the fork in their left hand and often the fork is held upside down and the food is stuffed in their mouth that way.

I always thought it was poor manners to put food in one's mouth by holding the fork in one's left hand (while not being left-handed)

They put the fork in their left hand to cut the meat which is fine, but then they don't switch the fork back to their right hand to put the food into their mouth.

Has this been deemed okay somehow in the world of manners? I can't imagine that it has been deemed okay and not poor manner.

by Anonymousreply 25104/26/2013

For r251:

Left and right is Continental.

Right only is predominantly American.

by Anonymousreply 25204/26/2013

R251, that rule faded away around the same time schools stopped forcing left-handed children to become right-handed. We no longer believe the left hand is unclean.

by Anonymousreply 25304/26/2013

Someone who is a very picky eater or unwilling to try new foods. These types are horrible to travel with too.

I'm a vegetarian, so I understand restricting your diet, picky eaters are the worst.

by Anonymousreply 25404/26/2013

If you all are noticing much of this stuff while you are on a date, then you are not into the person anyway. I mean, really, if you are engrossed in an interesting conversation or are attracted to someone, are you really going to be noticing how the hell he is holding his FORK? Because if you are, you are not fully present in the conversation, are outside of the situation judging, judging, judging. Which is what young people do and why younger gay men can never find boyfriends. They reject someone because they chew "funny" or didn't accessorize properly or had on cologne. And then whine to their girlfriends that there aren't any decent men out there. Then they get older and WISH for someone with any of those traits. There are no perfect people out there and so many men waste valuable years searching for mister perfect.

Many of you really have your priorities fucked up about what matters in life, it seems. At least from these posts.

by Anonymousreply 25504/26/2013

R251, you're describing the standard European way of eating... so much more efficient than the constant switching of hands that Americans engage in.

You're a clueless moron who lives under a rock, R251. Red flag.

(just kidding)

by Anonymousreply 25604/26/2013

Mentioning on the first date that you were molested as a child.

by Anonymousreply 25704/26/2013

R251, are you 251 years old? I gave up eating "American style" the minute I saw "European style."

by Anonymousreply 25804/26/2013

[R251] Ha! That's funny. My mother simply forced me to adapt to the Continental style of forkage before the age of 4. One must conform to the rules of the bourgeoisie!

by Anonymousreply 25904/27/2013

Setting off a bomb at the finish line of a marathon.

Oh wait...you said RED flag. Never mind.

by Anonymousreply 26004/27/2013

Republican leanings, deal breaker, no dice.

by Anonymousreply 26104/27/2013

Suggesting halving the tab on the first date, after he's had the steak dinner and you've had soup and salad.

Blowing his nose at the table - into his napkin.

by Anonymousreply 26204/27/2013

Doesn't get along with siblings

Has no long-term friends.

Says non-sequiturs that just don't make any sense.

Sues family and friends.

Shows up places uninvited.

Disappears for stretches of time.

Tell you what you want to hear. Means nothing.

by Anonymousreply 26304/27/2013

[quote]Rude to servers and other service people

Agreed!

by Anonymousreply 26404/27/2013

Just as many here say "Republican", I'd throw in a fellow who considers himself a practicing (rather than lapsed) Roman Catholic, or Orthodox Jew. The former I just can't "get" and the latter with all those picky rules.

by Anonymousreply 26504/27/2013

R238, do you think restaurants and stores are the only places such people act out their overwhelmingly large sense of entitlement?

by Anonymousreply 26604/27/2013

Adding to R266:

And even if such people were able to confine their arrogance to scenes in public, who wants that in a partner, or even in a friend?

I got beat up on Sixth Avenue in the Village because my boyfriend gave some sales clerk the finger. The only time that's ever happened. And nobody was screaming "faggot." It was all due to this asshole's assholescence.

He was always creating scenes.

by Anonymousreply 26704/27/2013

Lots of repressed anger that comes out in insidious ways, R238. They are cowardly bullies who only pick on people who can't fight back. Service people have to smile and be polite no matter what. These are the same shit stains who have uncontrolled road rage. It's easy to feel like an alpha dog from the safety of your car.

by Anonymousreply 26804/27/2013

Republican

Religious

Rude.

That about covers it.

by Anonymousreply 26904/27/2013

My god most of you are a bunch of pearl clutching Marys.

I could put up with most of your complaints,many I think you make up in your minds. I mean short of walking by a homeless person, I've never encountered anyone that stunk. If someone is wearing too much cologne, let them know.

My only deal breaker, really queenie guys. The kind that your dog knows are gay. I met a super hot guy about 5 years ago at a pride parade. He was talking to a friend when I noticed him, beautiful sexy guy, no shirt & thick chest hair. My ideal type, well I went up to him and said hi, he opened his mouth and his tits fell out. I Hate gay voice.

by Anonymousreply 27004/27/2013

R270, I think most 'gayvoice' is an affectation.

I've seen even straight guys pick it up after hanging around gay guys sing-songing it all night long.

And I've seen guys who talk perfectly normally most of the time, but go to a gay bar or party, and they're suddenly talking in a pitch that's an octave or two higher, and saying "GUUUUURL!!" and all the other stereotypical bullshit that is so annoying.

Half the time I wonder if they even realize they're doing it.

by Anonymousreply 27104/27/2013

I think R251 doesn't realise that most Europeans consider his 'good manners' way of eating to be atrocious. It's a personal preference, of course. I'm European and I eat with the fork in my left hand and knife in the right as I was taught in childhood, but I don't care how anyone else eats as long as they keep their mouth shut while chewing.

Good manners is about not making the people around you uncomfortable, not sticking to some arbitrary set of rules. That includes not being an arse about which hand someone holds their fork in.

by Anonymousreply 27204/27/2013

Thinking Carousel is a great musical.

by Anonymousreply 27304/28/2013

Not having a phone, TV, and some kind of social media site.

by Anonymousreply 27404/28/2013

I too agree that gay voice is an affectation. I've known guys that had regular voices before they came out and the minute they came out and spent some time in Weho, started with the gurrrrrllll and all the other trappings of gay voice.

by Anonymousreply 27504/28/2013

R274 --

By "social media site" you mean Facebook, etc. In that case, sorry, not interested in joining. I have a TV (and cable!), but no landline. Good luck with Mr Right.

by Anonymousreply 27604/28/2013

R263,

You point out the classic signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. However, I want to mention that my brother and I live 10 minutes apart, and haven't spoken in a couple of years now; we have almost NOTHING to say to each other, aside from discussing relatives in common, which peters out quickly. That's the way it goes ...

As for "gay voice", back in the 1980's when I was an undergrad, the grad student in charge of our dorm (straight, married guy) was doing his Masters on the subject (for, I believe, speech pathology).

by Anonymousreply 27704/28/2013

Is your brother your twin, r277?

by Anonymousreply 27804/28/2013

No, we are five years apart, and look completely different. I was blond (now gray), with blue eyes; he has thick dark hair and brown eyes.

by Anonymousreply 27904/28/2013

Not thinking "Carousel' is a great musical.

by Anonymousreply 28004/28/2013

Republicans, religiosity, racism, antisemitism, anti-intellectualism, over sharing, trash talking exes.

If he has no contact with family and has no life-long friends, it's a huge red flag.

by Anonymousreply 28104/28/2013

Most of what people wrote are not "red flags" but turn offs.

To me being politically conservative/republican is both a turn off and a red flag. A turn off for the obvious but a red flag for being greedy, close minded and a a lack of sympathy.

by Anonymousreply 28204/29/2013

ok, forks and table manners people

Check out the clip from Annie Hall. Annie's family, seen as more refined and sophisticated than Woody's, are all eating with the fork in the right hand. Woody's family, more wild and working-class are eating with the fork in the right hand and the left hand. A woman from Woody's group can be seen eating "European style" with the fork in the left hand.

I don't think it matters which hand the fork is in, as long as you are polite and calm about it! Or are the American upper-middle class all eating the "European" way now?

by Anonymousreply 28304/29/2013

Loving the movie "Prometheus". Instant red-flag. Practically a deal-breaker.

by Anonymousreply 28504/29/2013

bad breath or any kind of B.O., yuck

by Anonymousreply 28604/29/2013

Talking about porn on a date.

by Anonymousreply 28704/29/2013

Similar to #287, when they talk about their past debauched life of whorish hijinks. "One time I went into an alley with this guy...".

Check, please.

by Anonymousreply 28804/30/2013

This thread title should be changed to: "If I had a date with a real person, these are the things I'd wonder about."

by Anonymousreply 28904/30/2013

waxing/tweezing eyebrows. Its one thing to clear out the middle so you dont look like a caveman, but when a man shapes his eyebrows to the point they look like they belong on a woman, I am out of there.

by Anonymousreply 29004/30/2013

lol, R289

by Anonymousreply 29104/30/2013

Can't stand the 'gay voice' either, and all the gay vocab, like gurl, queen, etc. So outmoded and tedious. We should be way past that crap now.

And the incessant attention to female celebrities who have little or no actual talent. Come on. Men are interesting too, not just for their looks.

by Anonymousreply 29205/01/2013

[quote]Can't stand the 'gay voice' either, and all the gay vocab,

I would have picked you out as gay for saying "vocab." Sorry, gurl.

by Anonymousreply 29305/01/2013

Mentioning that he's "Christian" or that he "prays" for things, or saying the phrase "I feel so [italic]blessed[/italic]!"

Yeah, goodbye.

by Anonymousreply 29405/01/2013

They said "yes" to a date with me.

by Anonymousreply 29505/01/2013

LOL R294. I had the same exact thing happen to me on my most recent date. You know how you have the typical back and forth with someone to find out more about them. I asked him what was the most important thing in his life. His answer was, "my relationship with God." Right there the date should have been over, but I felt bad, he drove nearly an hour to meet me.

by Anonymousreply 29605/01/2013

THIS thread is the definitive answer to the thread asking why so many gays are single.

by Anonymousreply 29705/01/2013

Someone who is inconsiderate and lacks compassion and/or empathy for others.

by Anonymousreply 29805/01/2013

Oh yeah and what R281 said.

by Anonymousreply 29905/01/2013

Yup, R296... right there with you. I totally get it, and completely agree.

And it sucks having to go with the rest of the date knowing that it's already over.

by Anonymousreply 30005/01/2013

I get the Red Flag feeling if someone is too charming and charismatic in a certain way. These people are hard to describe. Some of them even almost fool me.

by Anonymousreply 30105/01/2013

Cowboy boots.

by Anonymousreply 30305/01/2013

Now that I've learned more about sociopaths/psychopaths, I feel the same way, R301.

by Anonymousreply 30405/01/2013

Guys who gossip. Celeb gossip is okay, but I'm talking about guys that badmouth everyone they know (friends, co-workers, family, etc.). They are very unloyal.

by Anonymousreply 30505/01/2013

Sociopaths, R301. They live to manipulate. Watch for flowers being sent.

by Anonymousreply 30605/01/2013
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