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Do you ever stalk people online?

I do. Hot guys, usually. Once I find out their name or email address, it's on! Before I know it I'm balls deep in their Facebook page, abandoned myspace page, YouTube account, Linkedin--you name it! All up in that shit. It makes me feel a bit pervy but I don't care!

by Not Brandonreply 4304/14/2013

lol do this all the time. Found pics of this hot guy I worked with in nothing but a towel on his facebook account. Yum

by Not Brandonreply 104/11/2013

Pics, R1?

by Not Brandonreply 204/11/2013

[quote]All up in that shit.

Stop watching Jerry Springer.

by Not Brandonreply 304/11/2013

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by Not Brandonreply 504/11/2013

every day in a every way

by Not Brandonreply 604/11/2013

R4 he looks great!

by Not Brandonreply 704/11/2013

I've checked out the Facebook page of almost all my co-workers. I found a lot of people who liked Mitt Romney or Paul Ryan's page. I think that's good to know so I know not to get too close to them. I also found out who's all up into Jesus. I know to stay away from them too.

I always Google the email addresses and phone numbers of guys I've bet or might hook up with. One guy I met recently who I thought was hot was a former fatty. I don't find him as hot anymore and might cancel our next date.

by Not Brandonreply 804/11/2013


by Not Brandonreply 904/11/2013

[quote]I don't find him as hot anymore and might cancel our next date

He'll never know the bullet he dodged.

by Not Brandonreply 1004/11/2013

Um, no. I have a life.

by Not Brandonreply 1104/11/2013

Not much, though I was just googling the first guy I fell in love with. Straight, of course. Lives in Hawaii now, after a long time in FL and CA. No pictures. No info without paying $29.99. There's more out there about his mother.

by Not Brandonreply 1204/11/2013

It will be a sad day (at least for me) if Facebook ever comes out with some way to tell who has visited your FB page or tried to access your page.

I still can't believe how many people don't have any privacy restrictions on their FB page. It's so easy to find out about people. Most of them even have pictures of their homes or at least the insides of their homes on their FB pages

by Not Brandonreply 1304/11/2013

I used to stalk this guy at my high school. He's was awfully pretty and I was a hormonal teenager.

Now, after extensive experience with pretty guys who turned out to be either quite empty or awful.

He'd have to be more than just a pretty face for me to give him the honour of stalking him.

by Not Brandonreply 1404/11/2013

I use Ghostery to block Statcounter on Tumblr, and snoop around the profiles of some ex-friends without them knowing.

I have a ringer Facebook account I used to spy on people with, but profiles aren't as open as they used to be, so I don't bother with it much anymore. However, a former friend who blew me off after going back to the bottle is FB friends with my sister for some reason, so I check in on her dissolute life every now and then for fun.

Several years ago I found the FB of a young actor who had just made his first movie and is just now getting lead roles. Before he changed his settings, there was evidence of his bisexuality all over his profile, all of which I still have. I'd never out anyone, but it's kind of wild to know I could do so.

by Not Brandonreply 1504/11/2013

Linky stinky, R4.

by Not Brandonreply 1604/11/2013

[all posts by ham-fisted troll a removed.]

by Not Brandonreply 1704/11/2013

I hired a cleaning woman, and out of curiosity, I found her FB page. She had the obligatory overhead self-pics with her bosoms on full display. Before that, I hadn't even noticed she had breasts. I never could look at her the same way again.

by Not Brandonreply 1804/11/2013

Yes, I do this from time to time. I get all the info I can on a person. Once I max out, I move on. I'm insatiably curious.

I looked up a guy I dated and fucked over 20 years ago on FB. He turned out to be surprisingly stupid. Into Nascar. Right wing. Going through his FB account and feed, I found his business name, address and phone, his home address and phone, pictures of outside and inside his house, pics of his wife and children. I never said hello. I was only a voyeur. I thought about letting him know how vulnerable he was leaving his family and self, but the right wing and Nascar shit stopped me.

by Not Brandonreply 1904/11/2013

R12, there is a lot of stuff you can find out about people - and with out having to pay for it. It's only a few minutes work on the computer

Go to Put in his name and a list of possible relatives comes up. You might be able to find out if they are married from the names of poss relatives. It also gives a list of towns they have or currently live in. Once you have the wife's name you can probably access her Facebook page. Women typically have lots of pictures of the husband and family

Then go to and put in the name of the person you want to find out about. A list of current and/or former addresses of that person comes up. Once you have their address,

Go to Google maps and you can probably find a picture of the front of their house/houses. Then

Go to and you can find an estimate of how much their house is worth. If their house is actually currently for sale it should also link it to the real estate listing and you can see the inside of their house

by Not Brandonreply 2004/11/2013

R20, I'd say you sound like an insane stalker except I've done everything you've mentioned.

I've also gone to a real esate site for my city that shows who owns a house and how much they paid for it.

by Not Brandonreply 2104/11/2013

I wouldn't call it stalking but a few weeks ago I stumbled onto this girl on Twitter documenting her college application process...she wrote so well and made it sound so interesting that I now follow her just to see where she'll end up. I almost cried when she didn't get into Berkley!

by Not Brandonreply 2204/12/2013

Oh, sillies. It's called human research. Perfectly respectable hobby.

Besides porn why do you even have a computer if you can't spy on old lovers?

by Not Brandonreply 2304/12/2013

I'm spying on one right now. I found a video of him online and his voice sounds higher and reedier than I remember. It's kinda freaking me out.

by Not Brandonreply 2404/12/2013

I'm super pissed that I can't find the #1 hottest guy from high school (a straight guy) anywhere online. It's like he doesn't even exist! No Facebook, no Myspace, no reference to him when I search his name and our town--nothing! How can someone stay so hidden all these years? I'd kill to see what he looks like today (and then jerk off to his pics). God he used to have the NICEST ass.

by Not Brandonreply 2504/12/2013

Check the SSDI to see if he died. Since you know his birth date or at least the year this should be easy.

Maybe he goes by his middle name. Or maybe you knew hi by a nickname and as and he now uses his formal name. Not everyone has myspace or facebook. Try radaris or intelius or other search sites . You can get some information without paying.

For reverse addresses or address look ups use Dexknows

Good luck. I hope you're not disappointed if you find him. He may not be hot anymore.

by Not Brandonreply 2604/12/2013

R25 in this case he probably goes by a different name now. There has to be something.

by Not Brandonreply 2704/12/2013

He completely doesn't exist online, R26. I managed to find his full name, his parents names, where he went to college and where he's living now. But that's IT. No pictures or blurbs on the internet whatsoever left by him. It's as if he doesn't even own a computer. I'm sure if he was dead I'd have heard about it via old classmates--plus there'd be an obituary online. It looks like he's alive and well in Chicago, only he's just cockblocking me which I REALLY don't appreciate.

by Not Brandonreply 2804/12/2013

[quote]It will be a sad day (at least for me) if Facebook ever comes out with some way to tell who has visited your FB page or tried to access your page.

I thought they COULD tell who was looking at their pages, well this is good news because I just want to look and not have them know about me looking.

by Not Brandonreply 2904/12/2013

No, as I am not a psychopath.

by Not Brandonreply 3004/12/2013

who hasn't? i've looked up on old mates from high school, college etc to see what they've done with their lives. yeah, old flames, enemies, all of them.

by Not Brandonreply 3104/12/2013

Oh yeah. I've wasted days doing "research".

R1, that picture is incredibly hot at R4. Can you tell us a little about him? Is he a nice guy? Smart or dumb? Single or partnered or married?

by Not Brandonreply 3204/12/2013

I do once in awhile. I met a guy on POF who I let add me to his FB. I guess it's not really stalking. It's interesting, though, to see what his life has been like. He has pics from six years ago, so you see the progression of trips, old boyfriends, etc. I also found out he was a bit chubbier, but still really cute. I don't post a lot on my FB, though, so he wouldn't find out much about me.

by Not Brandonreply 3304/12/2013

No, not beyond the occasional surface Googling of someone of casual acquaintance, and then usually with some fairly specific purpose related to something they've told me -- about a neighborhood or a job or a book they wrote. I don't root around looking for dirt on dates or on people who catch my interest in some way. I'd rather find out more about them in the natural progression of things than to learn something which I then have to pretend not to know.

If it's something I would have no shame in confessing having looked up, that seems more or less fair game. Beyond that, when it's clearly snooping, no, I wouldn't do it, and wouldn't feel good about it if I did -- just as I wouldn't rifle through anyone's drawers or closets or phone or laptop if they stepped out of the room.

by Not Brandonreply 3404/12/2013

God what a bunch here! And I've done everything you've mentioned too. Never thought it stalking, just being too nosy if it had to be flawed. At school some of us would get on our laptops and swap stories about guys and our professors and fathers' friends and look 'em up. It was like a bad version of the telephone scene in BOYS IN THE BAND.

by Not Brandonreply 3504/12/2013

No. I have things to do.

by Not Brandonreply 3604/12/2013

I've "spied" on two or three guys, and I don't really consider it "spying" or "stalking." It's not like I steal people's passwords or hack into their private accounts, or use their personal information to get closer to them. Everything I look at has been made public and available for anyone to see. And I leave it at that. I don't do anything sinister, or anything at all, with the info I find. Once my curiosity has been satiated, I move on.

by Not Brandonreply 3704/12/2013

To love, love, is to stalk, stalk, stalk, and I do...

by Not Brandonreply 3804/12/2013

Mmmmmm...Maryann Thorpe. Thanks, R38.

by Not Brandonreply 3904/12/2013

Shocked to find former classmates gay now; dead; CEO's of companies; on the sexual predator list; obese.

by Not Brandonreply 4004/12/2013

This is way better than twitching the curtains!

by Not Brandonreply 4104/12/2013

Never. But I have a strange fixation on addresses. If I read that a murder or some incident happened at some random address, I always google the address and take a close-up look. I don't know why I do this.

by Not Brandonreply 4204/12/2013

Someone on Tumblr thinks she's being stalked, when all I'm doing is following her quietly and reblogging her good posts onto a private blog for later perusal. We used to mutually follow but had a falling out, and though I dislike her personally, her writing is often quite perceptive.

She's a drama queen and noticed she was getting "ghost notes" - when Tumblr counters show the post was reblogged but there is no note to show who it was. She's been freaking out about the ghost noter all week, which is hilarious to me since I get ghost notes all the time and never thought anything of it.

I was tempted to shoot her a note to tell her it was me, but fuck it, Tumblr is a public-assed website. Grow up.

by Not Brandonreply 4304/14/2013
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