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What's an appropriate hobby for a 46 year old gay man?

I'm tired of TV and I want to spend less time in front of the computer and on my iPhone.

When I was younger I studied art and painted and sketched and so on. I've taken classes sporadically over the years to reawaken my interest and it works for a while but then I get lazy and stop. Any effort to start up again, without a class, has the same result.

I used to make jewelry in my 20s and sell it at craft fairs. That was fun and I spent many happy hours doing it.

Now that I'm middle aged I'm thinking I might enjoy woodwork. My father was a very talented woodworker and made tons of beautiful objects and pieces of furniture. My partner and I have a bunch of power tools and stuff. I'd like to get a table saw and start doing small woodworking projects. In particular I've always wanted to make boxes. Small decorative things that I would paint or finish in some way.

That's a masculine, creative, age-appropriate hobby for a man, isn't it? And it has a finished product at the end of it to enjoy or give away.

I still kind of want to go back to painting and making art but it's always so hard to get started and keep up.

Do you have creative hobbies? Do you worry about how appropriate they are or not?

by Crafty Manreply 5003/29/2013

What am I supposed to do with this gingerbread house left over from Christmas?

by Crafty Manreply 103/27/2013

I make and sell earrings and caftans at local fairs.

by Crafty Manreply 203/27/2013

OP, a neighbor took up woodworking after he retired.

The man is extremely talented and has made cradles, cribs, roll top desks and grandfather clocks for his children and grandchildren.

The stuff he makes is beautiful and would sell for thousands if he ever decided to sell it.

I only wish I was half as talented.

by Crafty Manreply 303/27/2013

The Lynchburg Tea Party is forming a Ham Radio club!

by Crafty Manreply 403/27/2013

Heaven forbid you should volunteer at an old folks' home, or a youth center or a homeless shelter.

You know do something USEFUL with your life.

by Crafty Manreply 503/27/2013


by Crafty Manreply 603/27/2013

R5, you could take up finger-wagging and moralizing in your old age--maybe even teach classes on it at your local community center!

by Crafty Manreply 703/27/2013

Appropriate OP? Get off your butt and do something you want to do and gives you pleasure (as long as it does not hurt others, and if it helps other, better yet.)

My "hobbies" are tennis, skiing, reading, and as I get older philanthropy (on a small scale.) I carefully give money away and as I am able to give more away I will get involved with the running of the organizations that I support hopefully. The first three are more or less selfish hobbies, the last does some good for others and is fun- I meet interesting people and when I phase out my career/work, will take the place of my work to a certain degree.

It helps if you know what makes you happy. I do, luckily.

by Crafty Manreply 803/27/2013


LOL he busted the OP and everyone else, this thread is OH-VAH folks, oh-VAH.

by Crafty Manreply 903/27/2013

Knit me a sweater, OP. Maybe you can start collecting dolls.

by Crafty Manreply 1003/27/2013

Sleeping around.

by Crafty Manreply 1103/27/2013


by Crafty Manreply 1203/27/2013

Per usual, a harmless question results in a thread clogged with hysterical shrieking.

by Crafty Manreply 1303/27/2013

[quote]Heaven forbid you should volunteer at an old folks' home, or a youth center or a homeless shelter. You know do something USEFUL with your life.

Oh please. I work for a charitable non-profit for a living and spend plenty of off hours at work-related events. Not exactly volunteer, no. But I think I manage to do some good in my day to day work life.

Anyway ... I was asking about HOBBIES.

by Crafty Manreply 1403/27/2013

You could take classes in Master Jacking, OP.

As you probably know, Master Jacking part tantric and part situational.

Master Jackers will stage like a three-hour jack off session at a public library, or say, in the grassy median of a well-traveled road.

It's really a wonderful amalgamation of performance art, if you will, with a little bit of flash mob and culminating money-shots at the end.

by Crafty Manreply 1503/27/2013

May I suggest collecting match-boxes? It's a hobby with a the potential for the delightful dividend of finding a plump mate.

[quote]"But Bridey, where did you find her?"

[quote]"Her late husband, Admiral Muspratt, collected match-boxes," he said with complete gravity.

[quote]Julia trembled on the verge of laughter, recovered her self-possession, and asked: "You're not marrying her for her match-boxes?"

[quote]"No, no; the whole collection was left to the Falmouth Town Library."

by Crafty Manreply 1603/27/2013

Dogs, or gardening

by Crafty Manreply 1703/27/2013

Just do something that you enjoy,regardless if it's feminine or masculine.You're American,right? Land of the free...

by Crafty Manreply 1803/27/2013


by Crafty Manreply 1903/27/2013

Dying is a good hobby for people your age.

by Crafty Manreply 2003/27/2013

Since you enjoy art and painting, you might want to look into digital photography. You can start with a point and shoot camera and if you enjoy it, move up to a 35mm.

I've been doing photography for a while and have started getting accepted into local shows.

Getting out to do photography gets me out of the house and I spend a lot more time outdoors and visiting sights.

by Crafty Manreply 2103/27/2013

R21 - I've thought of photography too. I enjoy taking pics with my cheap digital camera and would like to upgrade to a better one. The cheapies are fine, but limited. Any recommendations for a better brand or type of camera?

Great idea! Thanks.

by Crafty Manreply 2203/27/2013

OP, if you want to take it seriously, get an entry level DSLR. Any of the ones at the link will suffice for a beginner. You can consider upgrading/expanding into additional lenses if it takes off for you.

by Crafty Manreply 2303/27/2013

Start a blog.

We can follow eachother, and click "like" on posts we haven't even bothered to read.

by Crafty Manreply 2403/27/2013

I feel sorry for the op being so fixated on what is "age-appropriate" and "masculine".

by Crafty Manreply 2503/27/2013

My bf is a carpenter. For fun, he likes to work with both leather and wood. (And sometimes metal)

One thing he enjoys is finding antiques that are broken down, really dirty or otherwise unwanted. Then he cleans them, fixes them, and as he says it, puts part of himself into the item. Then it becomes beautiful, worth some money (sometimes quite a lot), but also, enjoyable to have in the house, because he made part of it. He likes feeling that he had a part in each of his possessions.

He spends quite a lot of time reworking things, but he gets such satisfaction from turning something ugly into something lovely.

He finds his treasures at antique shops, consignment stores, junk stores, garage sales, Freecycle and road scores (people leave out stuff with free signs on them all the time where I live).

by Crafty Manreply 2603/27/2013

That sounds like a good idea, OP. Just don't go to Istanbul to take photos or you could get killed.

by Crafty Manreply 2703/27/2013

Woodworking is a hobby that could evolve into a business.

Megan Mullaly's husbans, Nick Offerman, has a woodworking shop.

by Crafty Manreply 2803/27/2013

I want Offerman's wood inside me quite deeply.

by Crafty Manreply 2903/27/2013

OP, the link r23 posted has some good suggestions.

Everybody has their own preferences, but Nikon or Cannon are great choices. I'd play around with both brands at a camera store to see which one is most comfortable for you.

I'd probably recommend buying a kit that includes a couple of lenses and if this is something you enjoy you can start investing in equipment over time. I'd recommend starting with a UV and polarizing filter.

I live in a smaller area, but we have a number of photo groups. Check out Meetup for any groups that might interest you. See if there is a local camera club. There are also lots of places to do short seminars on various topics that can help learn the ins and outs.

by Crafty Manreply 3003/27/2013


by Crafty Manreply 3103/27/2013

[quote]I still kind of want to go back to painting and making art but it's always so hard to get started and keep up.

If you can't get your ass in gear to start something you admit to wanting to do, does it matter what new thing you decide to take up? Motivation is your issue, not the "appropriateness" of any particular hobby.

by Crafty Manreply 3203/27/2013

OP, Kelby does a number of online training and shows. The Grid is photography specific and their next show which should be posted in a couple of days is for beginners.

by Crafty Manreply 3303/27/2013

OP, if you're interested in making wood boxes and also have experience/interest in fine art, then perhaps you could try your hand at inlay? Using various types of wood and shell (mother of pearl, abalone, paua, etc) you design and piece together decorative images and inlay them onto a wood box. Search "custom inlays" or "custom guitar inlays" to see examples of this type of work.

by Crafty Manreply 3403/27/2013

Now that I'm thinking about it .... several years ago I dabbled in photo transfers (or whatever it's called now) and watercolors. I really enjoyed it and loved how it looked. If I start exploring photography I could maybe marry the two and use my own images.

The juices are flowing again, kids. The creative ones at least.

Thanks for the input!!! :)

by Crafty Manreply 3503/27/2013

You like art and have experience with jewelry which is working with small items.

Go with dioramas. Making the boxes involves wood working. Then you have backgrounds to paint. There are many types of small diorama size items in shops like Hobby Lobby or Michaels. Figures of soldiers, knights, Indians, Pilgrims, etc. Dept. 56 has miniature buildings that most people just put in a row on two shelves and think they have something that looks like a real village. Ugh! You could take just one of those buildings and create a unique landscape and background. Add lighting in the diorama box. It's something you could sell at craft fairs.

Check www.miniatures dot com where you can find basic room boxes, miniature showcases, and display cases. Get just one to find out if it's something you enjoy before investing a lot of money.

Yahoo Groups has some roombox groups with plenty of information.

As for your question about what's appropriate, that's a strange consideration. Appropriate for what - age? gender? religion? If you want to make giant dildos and leather fist-fucking swings to sell at the local farmers' market, some may think it's not appropriate.

by Crafty Manreply 3603/27/2013

You should take up smoking, OP.

by Crafty Manreply 3703/27/2013

Collecting Lladro figurines.

by Crafty Manreply 3803/27/2013

[quote]I'd like to get a table saw and start doing small woodworking projects. In particular I've always wanted to make boxes. Small decorative things that I would paint or finish in some way.

You'll become like Bette Davis's character Charlotte Vale before the nervous breakdown in NOW VOYAGER! She also made small wooden boxes.

by Crafty Manreply 3903/27/2013

16-year-old boys.

by Crafty Manreply 4003/27/2013

An appropriate hobby for a 46 year old gay man?

Anything where you're fully clothed.

by Crafty Manreply 4103/27/2013

Troll adult bookstores.

by Crafty Manreply 4203/27/2013

How about collecting porn, at your age I'm sure you not getting the real thing anymore.

by Crafty Manreply 4303/27/2013

r39 - not to be contrary but didn't Charlotte Vale carve ivory boxes?

by Crafty Manreply 4403/27/2013

Are you a top, OP? The idea of a hot daddy top woodworking is strangely erotic to me. But only if you're a top. I want my bottoms submissive and girly.

by Crafty Manreply 4503/27/2013

[quote]The juices are flowing again, kids.

Is that appropriate, OP?

by Crafty Manreply 4603/28/2013

Start a hisssssing circle.

by Crafty Manreply 4703/28/2013

How about history? That's cheap enough and there are more specialty areas to choose from. If you have the money you can visit places you study and if you are so inclined as you gain sufficient knowledge you can volunteer to teach a course at the library, church, prison, etc.

Is that appropriate enoug for you? It's certainly dignified.

Or you could become a biker.

by Crafty Manreply 4803/28/2013

What's your decision, OP?

by Crafty Manreply 4903/29/2013

Learn a new language, volunteer for an organization, work out, run, ken ken, sudoku...

And it's quite common at that age to finally let yourself enjoy water sports.

by Crafty Manreply 5003/29/2013
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