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Why Men Need Feminism Too

This one’s for you, guys.

Assuming you don’t believe in the common myths about feminism, you still may think that feminism is all about women’s issues, reproductive rights, celebrating femininity…pregnancy…motherhood…PMS…boobies…vaginas…who knows.

You may have thought:

“I can’t be a feminist.  I’m a dude.”

“I support women’s rights, but feminism is not really my thing.”

“My life isn’t really affected much by feminism.”

Well, I’ve got news for you!

by Anonymousreply 17201/19/2015


by Anonymousreply 103/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 203/08/2013

The biggest myth about feminism is that it's about hating men. That is not the core of the movement at all. Discussions of, for example, domestic violence as they relate to feminism does not entail man-hating.

There are also many branches of feminism.

[quote] I'm all for equal rights, equal pay etc

That's pretty much it. Everything else is just extraneous.

by Anonymousreply 503/08/2013

Feminists don't hate men, they hate patriarchy.

You guys would be against patriarchy too, if you understood it. Traditional patriarchy is brutal to gay men.

by Anonymousreply 603/08/2013

R5.. that might be what the true purpose of feminism is.. but it's not what feminism really is today. Feminism has turned into an ideology where hating men is ok. I'm just not into it. I'm wary of calling myself a feminist because some crazy bitches have turned feminism into something radical, which I really don't want to be associated with.

by Anonymousreply 803/08/2013

R8 As I said, there are many branches of feminism. Like R6 said, it's against patriarchy, not men as a gender.

Some man haters might be feminists, but feminism is not man hating.

by Anonymousreply 903/08/2013

How old are you, r5/8?

by Anonymousreply 1003/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 1103/08/2013

R8, it has nothing to do with hating men. I don't under stand why you're so needy. A gay and your life revolves around what women think of you as a man? Pathetic.

by Anonymousreply 1203/08/2013

r12, that poster didn't say his life revolved around it: he stated what he thought of contemporary feminism. Try to focus and stay on topic.

His assessment: "I'm wary of calling myself a feminist because some crazy bitches have turned feminism into something radical" is a pretty common one among both men and women.

I myself wouldn't say that it's "radicals" who hijacked feminism, but the movement did get very dogmatic, academic, regimented, and authoritarian: its adherents often didn't bother distinguishing sensible, righteous claims from the outrageous ones. ("The daily life of the American housewife is worse than the Batan death march!!! Prison! Horror! Enslavement!")

It's turned off most young people, and you'd be hard-pressed to find many young women today who identify as feminist.

by Anonymousreply 1403/08/2013

R14, take a pill. Let R12 answer for himself.

by Anonymousreply 1503/08/2013

It's OK for you guys to hate women, but it's not OK for (some) women to hate men?

That's rich.

by Anonymousreply 1603/08/2013

Feminism helps straight men get laid- if they are "alpha." It's mostly about "empowering" women to be slutty, as long as its not with nice guys.

by Anonymousreply 1703/08/2013

Feminism in academia has tried to ally itself with "queer" but it's mostly a lot of handwringing by straight women that frankly comes off as very conservative.

by Anonymousreply 1803/08/2013

[quote] just associate so much bad stuff with the word.

like what?

by Anonymousreply 2003/08/2013

that sounds silly.

My great-grandmother was a bloomer baby (look it up if you have to) and held a demanding job her whole life becoming a leader of the community. She was a feminist.

My grandmother decided to go to school, not get married and have a career. Then she later did marry and yet still had the job skills to work and support her brood when her husband died. She was a feminist. She wrote too and spoke to President Ford about reproductive rights. I still have the respectful letter he sent her afterwards

My mother was shy and unassuming, she wanted to become a teacher of kindergarten. She did, but was incensed when ERA wouldn't pass and Shlfry, whoever demanded that women direct their lives like SHE wanted. She too was a feminist.

None of those women were lesbians, militant or men-haters. Your idea was feminism seems very limited, shall I say, purblind? I hope that you're very very young and will learn.

by Anonymousreply 2203/08/2013

R8 is correct that feminism is sometimes hostile to men.

It can't help but be any other way, because the oppression and abuses that it is naming and trying to change are perpetrated by men.

Women are in kind of a bind in this sense, in that they can either call out these injustices and get labelled man-haters, or they can shut about about them and ensure that nothing ever changes.

That doesn't mean, however, that feminists need to view individual men as 'the enemy'.

by Anonymousreply 2303/08/2013

Feminism has nothing to do with "hating men" where are you fools getting this?

by Anonymousreply 2403/08/2013

R8/21, why are you so hung up on the idea that 'lesbians' ruined feminism?

The very few feminists I've known who were genuinely man-hating were embittered straight women.

You seem to have some kind of animus towards not just towards feminism but to lesbians.

by Anonymousreply 2503/08/2013

The hysterical anti-porn crusade turned a lot of men off of feminists. Guys like their porn, and saw that whole crusade as puritanical nannyism.

by Anonymousreply 2603/08/2013

that doeesn't seem like feminism to me. lots of fools on this thread

by Anonymousreply 2803/08/2013

R29, you sound cracked

by Anonymousreply 3003/08/2013

[quote]Because I'm against what feminism has become?

no, because it never "became" anything you describe. you sound very disturbed.

by Anonymousreply 3203/08/2013

Men are just trying to get on the land.

by Anonymousreply 3303/08/2013

Early 20s, R10

by Anonymousreply 3503/08/2013

R8/21/31/34 is the kind of person who thinks International Women's Day is sexist because 'There's no International Men's Day'.

by Anonymousreply 3603/08/2013

change the story

by Anonymousreply 3703/08/2013

First of all - feminism is not a monolith, so stop posting like it is.

Second, gays are still oppressed by typical patriarchy and masculine dominance - get on board, assholes.

by Anonymousreply 3803/08/2013

R21 you've apparently never met any of these "radical lesbians" Have you? Don't you know you're the victim of a propaganda campaign?

by Anonymousreply 4003/08/2013

Nice segue r37. great story, too.

I'm thankful for the women that fought for their rights, and appreciate their tenacity; for they paved the way for other civil rights.

by Anonymousreply 4203/08/2013

Nice source you have there, R39. I'm sure a page entitled "Feminism Is a Hate Group" on a site called "Women Against Men" isn't going to be unabashedly biased in one way or another at all.

Anyone trying to argue ANY point about anything can cherry-pick specific quotes and take them out of the context of the big picture in order to serve their own purposes. However, intelligent people know that this proves nothing.

by Anonymousreply 4303/08/2013

Still not buying it R41. Anyone who has worked in the corporate sphere knows that sexism is still predominately one-way: against WOMEN, not men. If some women have an unrealistic idea that women possess special virtues they don't really possess, it's because they have been kept out of power that would have disabused people of these quaint notions.

by Anonymousreply 4403/08/2013

If R41 is a woman I'm Dick Van Dyke.

by Anonymousreply 4503/08/2013

Most young gay boys (and girls, too) are too boy-crazy for feminism to even be an afterthought.

by Anonymousreply 4603/08/2013

R22 nailed it.


by Anonymousreply 4703/08/2013

Threads like this are just feminism trying to co-opt the egalitarian movement.

by Anonymousreply 4803/08/2013

ALL of this was said about the feminists of the early 70s, that they were radical lesbian man-haters, even though the theme was equal pay for equal work. I actually heard 'experts' on Donahue argue that women didn't have the brains to do the same work as men, that it was unnatural for women to compete with men for top jobs.

Don't get me started on what whites said about militant civil rights. How black were dangerous and angry and 'taking over.' How they couldn't be trusted or hired because of their hatred of whites...blah blah blah.

by Anonymousreply 4903/08/2013

R44 nailed it. This Bisexual female individual who keeps posting reminds me of what I used to think about feminism when I was about 14 years old. I know you think you mean well, but you ARE the victim of a propaganda campaign whether you have the life experience to notice it or not. The whole "feminism = nothing but a bunch of man hating bull dykes" notion comes directly from right wingers who want to keep women in their place (think Rush Limbaugh coining the word "feminazi" and throwing it around on almost every broadcast like a rabid shit-flinging monkey). It's all an attempt to usurp the women's equal rights movement by taking their own word away from them and perverting it into something that - at its fundamental core - it isn't and never was. There are some things that have been held up by the media as being representative of "feminism" in general that I don't agree with (i.e., the radical anti-porn group), but when advocates for women's equality sit back and allow right wing media figures to control the dialogue about what the word "feminist" means, we are losing, plain and simple.

by Anonymousreply 5003/08/2013

R50 should be required reading.

R49 didn't add that whites portrayed themselves as the victims of black militants and their hatred of whites. Sort of like the men who are so frightened and offended by what they think feminism is.

by Anonymousreply 5103/08/2013

No R48, feminists are pretty upfront about trying obtain equality via the emancipation of women and the attempt to eradicate sexism. The clue is in the name.

by Anonymousreply 5203/08/2013

But that's why the OP of this thread is correct to bring up the point that it does actually have positive consequences for men too.

by Anonymousreply 5303/08/2013

[quote] Limbaugh coining the word "feminazi" and throwing it around on almost every broadcast like a rabid shit-flinging monkey

We know better Rush, and anybody associating feminism with man-hating is a sucker.

by Anonymousreply 5403/08/2013

Perhaps what might turn some people off about "feminism" is the often self-congratulatory attitude they have for themselves and to hell with everyone else. I tend to see them as inflexible, stiff-necked types who always have to have it their own way to the extent that they would be blinded by intelligent men making intelligent suggestions. There is often a fine line between frauism and feminism. All this old school crap about holding doors open for women, "ladies first", pulling out chairs for them, etc., ad nauseam is thankfully on its way out seemingly due to "feminism", but one perceives flaws in feminism to the point where it really does need a makeover. I, myself, have been waiting for a men's movement to liberate men from homophobia, among other things. Straight men especially need to liberate themselves from using women as their sexual point of reference. Actually, I've often thought the Amazon story of Greek mythology might have some practical application--2 separate societies, men raise the boys, women raise the girls and they get together at certain times of the year ala Plato's Republic, to copulate in order to maintain the species.

by Anonymousreply 5503/08/2013

[quote]you've apparently never met any of these "radical lesbians

no, as they are such a miniscule minority they are hard to encounter.

by Anonymousreply 5703/08/2013

That screen door will be handy when you run out of water to float in.

by Anonymousreply 5803/08/2013

R55 has a point, not about feminism, but about the extraordinary lengths societies go to to enforce and naturalise heterosexuality for men.

The truth about the widespread nature of men's desire for other men is kept very hidden behind their endless, desperate objectification of women and nervous jokes about gayness.

You only have to watch some 'straight' porn to see how absolutely enchanted men in general are with dicks, assholes and cum.

If the masculine anxiety around the idea that homosexual sex makes you less of a man dissolved, we would see just how many truly 'straight' men there are - my guess is less than 20 per cent.

by Anonymousreply 5903/08/2013

Great thread, except that r59 is boring me with his "Most men are really gay" agenda!

by Anonymousreply 6003/08/2013

"Feminism" is too academic for most, now. That started with the post-war Gloria Steinems who wanted to show off their college degrees (they were early examples of tiger children)

by Anonymousreply 6103/08/2013

Hug, R22. I like male feminists and female feminists.

R29, I don't think you know the first thing about feminism.

by Anonymousreply 6203/08/2013

Thanks, R62, I like bisexual feminists too. just not cracked ones like R29

by Anonymousreply 6303/08/2013

Gay men will never be regarded as totally equal in society until women are regarded as totally equal.

by Anonymousreply 6403/08/2013

R64. That is a desperate grasp for a rope that is out of your reach.

by Anonymousreply 6803/08/2013

why is the term "eff minate" blocked??

by Anonymousreply 6903/08/2013

Society will never be financially sound until every person has equal rights.

by Anonymousreply 7003/08/2013

Because tools use the word pejoratively.

by Anonymousreply 7203/08/2013

r68 Why is that poster wrong?? Most homophobia is related to femininity hating and a rigid view of gender roles.

Most feminist don't believe gender roles are natural. They believe it is a social construct. And if feminist win on this theory/idea, this will decrease homophobia. Most homophobes hate gay people because they think their is a gender role transgression.

by Anonymousreply 7303/08/2013

Gay man here, pro-women and pro-feminism. I just wanted to pick up on what R16 said:

[quote]It's OK for you guys to hate women, but it's not OK for (some) women to hate men?

Neither is o.k. by me. I [italic]understand[/italic]how some people may develop a hatred for another group due to some perceived oppression they have personally suffered in childhood (or whenever)...

...but I'm [italic]not[/italic] o.k. with that hatred itself.

by Anonymousreply 7403/08/2013

The problem with feminism is that it needs a major image overhaul, "re-branding," if you will. When the average American, both male and female, hear the word "feminism," they immediately think of extreme Andrea Dworkin, Catherine McKinnon-type women. They are completely turned off by it.

The women's movement was often its own worst enemy, letting whacko fringe types like Dworkin hog the spotlight and that muddled the real message of feminism.

by Anonymousreply 7503/08/2013

A study in the UK and Germany finds most young women reject feminism...

It said: ‘In rejecting feminism, women are often seeking to position themselves within conventional norms of femininity and heterosexuality.

‘Although none of the participants could point to specific individuals, most still viewed pioneers of gender equality as lesbian, man-hating feminists.’

That's probably completely untrue, but feminism obviously needs some reputation management.

by Anonymousreply 7603/08/2013

A lot of homophobia is rooted in misogyny, I believe R64

by Anonymousreply 7703/08/2013

The Daily Mail would say that though, wouldn't it, bastion of feminist thought that it is...

I think it has overgone a bit of an overhaul of late - on the internet, at least.

by Anonymousreply 7803/08/2013

R76, society has been saying that about feminism all my life. And I attended ERA rallies with my mom when I was a child.

Society has been patriarchal all my life, too.

Feminists can't win with the patriarchal society.

So feminists instead roll up our sleeves and do what we can to end human trafficking and preseve reproductive freedom.

We also do what we can to nourish and educate children, heal the planet, comfort the elderly and handicapped, etc. Things that are de- valued in a patriarchal, capitalistic society, yet keep us humane and civilized.

by Anonymousreply 7903/08/2013

Barbara Ehrenreich said that feminism was hijacked my Breast Cancer Awareness -- the pink everything campaign is sort of a Feminism 2.0

by Anonymousreply 8003/08/2013

Can someone give a rundown/synopsis of how suffrage was extended to women given that the power structure was of, by and for men? I know about Susan B. Anthony and about the Seneca Falls Convention in 1848, etc. but exactly how were the right number of key men convinced that women ought to have the vote? Wyoming was the first territory (not state yet) to extend a limited vote to women mostly dealing with local issues such as school boards; was it then an upswell from local/grassroots political activity similar to how Prohibition was achieved?

by Anonymousreply 8203/08/2013

If one looks at a map of which states ratified the 19th amendment and which didn't, the states not ratifying were mostly in the South although Tennessee did ratify it which gave it enough states to make it law. Ironically the South was solidly Democratic at that time as southern states tended to co-opt the Democratic party machines there to help maintain segregation and "keep Blacks down". The beginnings of change came about with various Black leaders calling for an end to segregation but the Roosevelt-Truman era was more of the watershed as it was in so many things. From Lyndon Johnson on the South embraced the Republican party except for a few aberrations with Jimmy Carter (one of their own) and Bill Clinton.

by Anonymousreply 8303/08/2013

Poor men. We always get the short end of then sick. Things have got to change.

by Anonymousreply 8403/08/2013

[r83], thank you for posting that. 99% of sex crimes are committed by men. But the 1% of women committing sex crimes in men math means women are just as bad as men.

Women who don't embrace feminism are often squirrely little fag hags, competitive with other women and cock suckers (and not in the good sense) who identify and enable the male agenda much to their own detriment.

I may not agree with everything the Democratic Party says or does, but I'd still call myself a proud Dem just like I call myself a feminist.

by Anonymousreply 8503/08/2013

[quote]We always get the short end of then sick.

oh, dear

by Anonymousreply 8603/08/2013

R84, I believe the impetus behind male legislators finally granting women the vote in the US in 1920 was similar to the factors that drove the tardy extension of suffrage to women in the UK (1918 for married women over 30 and 1928 for all):

a) WW1 - after women's efforts in previously male-dominated jobs during the war, it was no longer possible to deny they were competent adults with a role to play in public life.

b) embarrassment that they looked so backward compared with former colonies Australia (suffrage granted in 1902) and New Zealand (1893).

The second factor has parallels with the progression of the gay marriage debate in the US, IMO. As more and more European countries around the world legalised it, it became more and more embarrassing for progressive US politicians to oppose it.

by Anonymousreply 8703/08/2013

I think that Socialism and revolutions world-wide at the time (not least of which was the Russian Revolution in 1917) must have been creating a climate in which female suffrage couldn't be denied, even in the US and UK. I think unions may have begun to advance the cause of female suffrage as well.

by Anonymousreply 8803/08/2013

This is one of those threads that makes me feel, as Kenneth Anger captioned a picture of Judy G., "old, old, old." I entered college in 1975--so long ago I had a girlfriend (she decided she was a lesbian, I figured out I liked men, and we've remained friends, though it took a cooling off period of a few years first). I remember describing myself as a feminist in one of those cringe-worthy conversations new college students have with their parents when they visit home, and my mother responding antagonistically and argumentatively. She was in her mid-fifties and had worked as a nurse the first several years of my parents' marriage, because she had an RN, whereas my father had dropped out of high school to fight in WWII. He got a job with a bank, where he worked for thirty years, and was more than happy to quit her job before I was born (my father did most of the childcare when my brother and sister were little--I was the last, born when mom was 39) and spend the rest of her life keeping house and doing the majority of the child-raising. She was rather defensive about feminism and particularly dismissive of my allegiance to its principles. When I took a course in women in literature my freshman year I was one of only two men in a class of fifty (and the only man who came to class regularly). I remember feeling overwhelmed the first day and the instructor asked me to stay behind the second day. I expected her to tell me she would prefer I drop so it could be a women's space. Quite the contrary, she strongly encouraged me to stay, saying she was pleased to have me there and was even more impressed that I was a first-year student (it was a junior level class). And I got an A, not by kissing up, but by taking the work seriously. I read Simone de Beauvoir and Virginia Woolf's feminist theories for the first time, was introduced to Kate Chopin and Doris Lessing (and broke up with my girlfriend--who was at a different college). My closest mentor throughout college, grad school, and my professional career has been a professor who was the youngest woman to be president of the AAUP--I wrote a dissertation on a female poet under her supervision.

None of this was by design or in an arch or self-conscious way of trying to prove my support of "feminism" as an ideology--it's just what happened as the result of a series of encounters that taught me how to value women's lives, struggles, and accomplishments, and to understand (as an emerging gay men) how the difference was that women as a category had had to work harder through history to have access to education, power, support. While, like most other gay men, I suppose I admit to squeamishness about ladyparts, but I assume that's my psychological adaptation, nothing inherent in comparative attractiveness of our genitalia (I also am squeamish about uncut cock--so sue me).

Can I still find myself falling into stereotypes about women and particularly lesbians--of course, I'd be a liar to deny it. Stereotypes are simply lazy generalizations, even in those instances where they are based on noticeable social traits found in many members of a group. Some are just fun in a juvenile way (I love the Michfest threads because they often do capture the all-too-silly if in many cases well-intentioned linguistic acrobatics and circumlocutions, and the statements that, under the guise of liberatory rhetoric, mask just as tyrannical a desire for control as that of any male chauvinist pig). And yes, there have been times when I've socialized with my old girl friend and her partner (she's had the current one for ten or more years, but had a number before that--more domestic partners than I, anyway, even if I confirmed the stereotype of the gay man who has more sexual partners) and have found not them, but some of their female friends smug and dismissive of men as a group. That annoys me. But they've also been awfully friendly, warm, and supportive, too--generous of heart. So, feminism has never meant "hating men" for me--and there's no need for it to.

So there, bitches! :)

by Anonymousreply 8903/08/2013

r91...that was way to long...nobody will read it.

by Anonymousreply 9003/08/2013

[post by racist shit-stain #3 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 9203/08/2013

R92 They don't have to.

by Anonymousreply 9303/08/2013

[post by racist shit-stain #3 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 9403/09/2013

I appreciated your post, r91. Always glad to hear from male feminists.

by Anonymousreply 9503/09/2013

Actually no, I don't have Asperger's--I teach a number of students who do have AS and I know the difference between someone who is windy (moi) and someone on the spectrum. Too bad you just use Asperger's a lazy way of "insulting" someone (and some of Aspie students, as they often call themselves, are the most creative, thoughtful, and inquisitive young people I know--I would not consider it an insult to be called someone with AS if it were accurate).

by Anonymousreply 9603/09/2013

nearly no one has any real idea what the autism spectrum is

by Anonymousreply 9703/09/2013

[post by racist shit-stain #3 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 9803/09/2013

[post by racist shit-stain #3 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 9903/09/2013

[quote] [R91]...that was way to long...nobody will read it.

I read it and I liked it. Male feminists are cool in my book.

by Anonymousreply 10003/09/2013

"If the masculine anxiety around the idea that homosexual sex makes you less of a man dissolved"

But homophobia and misogyny are inextricably intertwined, in one big ugly patriarchal package. If you want to liberate both gay and straight men from these antiquated attitudes, you actually do have to get with the feminists, rather than just trying to expand the definition of male privilege.

Patriarchy teaches that masculinity is good and powerful, and femininty is bad and weak... and that anything remotely associated with femininity is bad or weak - including a fondness for dick. When the masculine and feminine are equally valued, men will be able to stop fearing the feminine within themselves, and within other men. (And yes, I realize I'm using a very broad definition of "feminine" here.)

by Anonymousreply 10103/09/2013

I read R89 (why does everyone think its 91?) too, and appreciated the historical perspective on the feminist revolution from a man.

(Hope that doesn't make you feel 'old, old old', R89).

by Anonymousreply 10303/09/2013

I agree with your analysis 100 per cent, R101.

That's why R55's point about the potential for a homo-sex revolution among men is undermined by his dismissal of feminists.

by Anonymousreply 10403/09/2013

Good post, r101. Simple but not reductive - I admire the way you put things.

by Anonymousreply 10503/09/2013


I agree.

by Anonymousreply 10603/09/2013

Candice Bergen

“We can never forget what the women’s movement did, but I think young women today aren’t thinking that they are downtrodden. I don’t think women today are thinking that they are at a disadvantage,”

by Anonymousreply 10703/09/2013

I cannot stand to read anti-woman and especially anti-feminist shit out here, especially from gay men who are conscious of their rage.

We are not all part of the same battle, but battles have been fought on race and feminist issues that should resonate with any coherent gay person.

by Anonymousreply 10803/09/2013

R109, r110...Frightened, unenlightened white male.

by Anonymousreply 11103/09/2013

And your problem is? You're another frightened gay upset of how you think women "hate" and "bash" you?

Get a life, cookie. It's passing you by. That means getting out of your mother's basement.

by Anonymousreply 11303/09/2013

F&F this loser - R109, 110, 112, 114, 116.

by Anonymousreply 11703/09/2013

He's definitely got some baggage! And a black misogynist to boot! Sad sack.

by Anonymousreply 11903/09/2013

R120, R123, etc = TROLL.

Don't feed the troll. But F&F it.

by Anonymousreply 12703/09/2013

Good point r127.

You can't have a conversation with an ignoramus.

And, you can't fix stupid.

by Anonymousreply 12803/09/2013

Mr Webmaster, it's time to step in and take care of this fool.

by Anonymousreply 13303/09/2013

Straight men and gay men have more things in common when discussing gender issues than do gays and feminist women.

by Anonymousreply 13503/13/2013


by Anonymousreply 13603/13/2013

"I not white but I am male and I do have eyes. You are hypocritical cunts who bash men."

Funny how a man calls women "cunts" while complaining about "man bashing".

"Man bashing" as in holding adult men accountable for their fucked up behavior.

I'm sure you call calling out men for their homophobia "man bashing", don't you, you hypocritical little weasel?

by Anonymousreply 13703/13/2013


by Anonymousreply 13803/13/2013

R137, I like you logic, but you punctuation need work.

"Man bashing." Is correct.

Why are these men such wimps?

by Anonymousreply 13903/13/2013

Feminism can be quite counter-productive and any man who calls himself a feminist is probably a big phoney or a PC brigade tool.

by Anonymousreply 14103/13/2013

And that article linked to in the op was very vague and barely said anything.

by Anonymousreply 14203/13/2013

[r141]: Yeah. Just like pro-gay and anti-homophobia efforts can be "quite counter-productive" and probably just are a big phoney or a PC brigade tool.

by Anonymousreply 14303/13/2013

Wasn't talking about that, I was referring to how the OTT empowered attitude that SOME women develop (not all of course) because of the influence of "feminism" just results in pissing men off instead of earning their respect. Particularly in the workplace.

by Anonymousreply 14503/13/2013

[r145]: men resent anything and anyone that they perceive as taking away their straight, (mostly) white male privilege.

by Anonymousreply 14603/13/2013

When you let a woman get to the top you can end up with Maggie Thatcher.

by Anonymousreply 14703/13/2013

At college in the 90s, doing Women's Studies and helping defend reproductive rights was a big deal for me as a young gay man. Calling myself gay (or queer) and a feminist were badges I wore with pride.

20 years later, no one uses the word queer and I think any man who describes himself as a feminist would get a mixed response, at best. The perception that these are all linked issues with common causes and solutions has fallen out of favor.

by Anonymousreply 14803/14/2013

[r147]: when you let a man get to the top, you can end up with Hitler, Stalin, Lenin, Saddam Hussein, Bush, Mussolini ... and other atrocities.

by Anonymousreply 14903/14/2013

Most gay men crave straight male attention and approval, and many of them will throw women under the bus in order to achieve this. The last thing these guys care about is gender equality/feminism.

by Anonymousreply 15003/14/2013

More so than heterosexual women doing the same to other women, R150?

That doesn't even make sense. Heterosexual women, by definition, are dependent on straight males as partners. Gay men are not.

by Anonymousreply 15103/14/2013

Heterosexual women do it too, r151.

by Anonymousreply 15203/14/2013

So much yellow.

by Anonymousreply 15303/14/2013

Nothing needier than a gay men seeking for a straight man's approval.

by Anonymousreply 15403/14/2013

[quote] 20 years later, no one uses the word queer and I think any man who describes himself as a feminist would get a mixed response

I see you escaped academia. Queer is still a buzzword.

by Anonymousreply 15503/14/2013

Queer, it has a nice ring to it.

by Anonymousreply 15603/14/2013

[quote]Men should not only begin to love themselves more and to develop a sense of protection and community among other men, they should begin to demand it from society at large.

haha! Please, men have demanded society with bow to their egos and nepotistic behaviors for centuries.

Gay men have been damaged by these behaviors as much as women.

[quote]parodying females (drag) can be both offensive to women but more importantly, self loathing as a male.

seriously? RuPaul disagrees.

by Anonymousreply 15803/14/2013

R157 is my hero.

(R158 was never hugged enough by daddy and takes it out on the entire male sex while refusing to take her medication.)

by Anonymousreply 16003/14/2013

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by Anonymousreply 16103/14/2013

It's still a man's world entirely, I can't see why this is in discussion.

by Anonymousreply 16203/14/2013

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by Anonymousreply 16303/14/2013

[quote] It's still a man's world entirely,

Well R162, maybe in the developing world it is; In the United States and most western countries, women outnumber men by as much as 5-1, here in the U.S. that's closer to about 3 or 4-1.

Women make up the majority of high school, 4-year college and graduate school graduates, in part because of the Clinton Administration's attempt to focus public education more towards getting more girls into higher education, but sadly at the cost of boys.

Women make up the overwhelming majority of both lower and middle management in both the U.S. and the U.K. and are edging toward equal numbers in upper/executive management. Women are 20% of the U.S. Senate and nearly 20% in Congress as a whole but of course, that isn't equal. Still, very, very well represented and should be represented even more.

The U.S. courts favor women dramatically over men in both civil and criminal cases with women receiving over 45% less jail time for equal crimes committed by their male counterparts.

There is a myth of modern male power perpetuated I think because there is power in the claim to minority status, a status which doesn't apply to women as a whole in America and even most Western countries.

Tell me again it's a "man's world". It most certainly is not.

by Anonymousreply 16403/14/2013

Worldwide, there are slightly more men than women. In Western countries, there are slightly more women than men. According to Census 2000, women are 50.9% of the United States population, hardly an "overwhelming majority" and not even close to the ratios stated. In the United States, the percentage of women in senior management is 17%. In the UK it's 20%. I'm not sure if there's anything factual in the above post, other than the figures given for women in the Senate and Congress.

by Anonymousreply 16503/14/2013

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by Anonymousreply 16603/14/2013

Sexism and all the related and extrapolated problems is still prevalent in society. Across the developing world, women are still disadvantaged in many ways. Of course we still need "feminism".

by Anonymousreply 16703/14/2013

"There is a myth of modern male power perpetuated I think because there is power in the claim to minority status, a status which doesn't apply to women as a whole in America and even most Western countries."

Nonsense. Men still are in charge of 90% or more of all corporations, men still are in charge of Wall Street, Congress, etc.

by Anonymousreply 16803/14/2013

I’ve always thought, that gay men were at least theoretically the ulitimate anti-feminist group. It is a group that literally has no need for women or to interact with them in any way. Yet, in so many ways, the two groups have so much in common that they can work well together.

by Anonymousreply 16903/14/2013

But does feminism need me as more than a convenient token (friend) or a poorly constructed tool (foe) for whatever side the coin lands on...

the so called intersectional feminists of this deconstructed, supposedly post third wave... that has merely circled back around to the puritan days...

is it them or am I the one that needs to get laid?

by Anonymousreply 17001/19/2015
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