I stopped caring tonight. I still want to look fit but I don't really care too much about how attractive I am anymore.
When did you stop caring excessively about your looks
|by Anonymous||reply 45||03/08/2013|
When the doctor put me under.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||03/08/2013|
How old are you, op?
|by Anonymous||reply 2||03/08/2013|
I haven't yet. I've been trying to and would like some advice. It's difficult because you can't completely stop caring. You need to still try to present yourself in the best way you can as a sign of self-respect, but obsessing over your looks (especially the things you can't change) is really unhealthy.
I've started losing my hair, and I think about it way too much.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||03/08/2013|
That's when my career took off, and when I realized that I hadn't achieved beauty by now I was never going to. That took all the pressure away.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||03/08/2013|
I love it when elder gays are trying to primp it up.
I mean once you're over 30 and the gray hairs and bald spot and bellies start, why bother? You just pay a bit more for your tricks.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||03/08/2013|
When I turned 50. About 10 years after I should have.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||03/08/2013|
When I realized that I was going to have to fight time forever and still lose. 52.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||03/08/2013|
Five years after they stopped looking, so at about 48.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||03/08/2013|
When I realized there is little I can do to change how I look. Have had my share so don't worry about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||03/08/2013|
When my metabolism slowed to a crawl overnight and took the decision out of my hands. I went from being able to eat anything I wanted to having to starve myself just to keep from being morbidly obese. It was about the same age as everyone else seems to be saying though, so at least there's that I guess.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||03/08/2013|
When your looks are what you're there about
But books are what you care about
The time is rife
To learn the Facts of Life
When the world only seems
To be giving you wet dreams
It's time you started finding out
What everything is all about
When the boys you used to date
I bet you best investigate
The facts of life
And maybe get a wife
|by Anonymous||reply 13||03/08/2013|
I had a bad accident when I was 51 -- and while I'm not disabled, there are physical things I can no longer do.
If you have not accepted yourself by the time you're 50, warts and all, you really have some growing up to do.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||03/08/2013|
We were talking about this yesterday -- however we feel (or don't) about how we look, the current milieu is far more obsessed with image than ever before. Before, image was all about movie stars and Jackie Kennedy. Now, every morning on AMTV I see some lady who comes on to tell (mostly women) how only the right hair and makeup will protect their careers. And these ladies are right.
A round, relaxed, casual Steve Wozniac would never get past the front door of Apple now -- in fact, security would come and escort his eccentrics self off the property.
As with so many other things, it is not what we care about any more...
|by Anonymous||reply 15||03/08/2013|
I've never been too focused on them.
I need to lose some weight, though. I'm at my biggest and I'm over 30 now so it gets harder to snap back into shape.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||03/08/2013|
30s. If you're in your 20s and are still obsessed with your looks and how much you hate them, guess what, eventually you'll hardly care. So just hang in there, the torture will be over soon.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||03/08/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 18||03/08/2013|
Exactly what R9 said.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||03/08/2013|
About 6 months ago. I'm 23.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||03/08/2013|
I rarely look into the mirror. I'm over me.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||03/08/2013|
Went vegan, mid-40's. It really did the trick. Now I enjoy the changes in my health and energy and the attention, but I don't care excessively. I don't really care at all.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||03/08/2013|
I think there's a difference between being well groomed and thinking you can make yourself look younger. I think a lot of you are referring to the latter. For myself, I will always make an effort to be well groomed, fit and trim. Why wouldn't you? You can't be something you're not but you can always be healthy and promote well being.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||03/08/2013|
[quote]well groomed, fit and trim
That used to mean clean clothes, showered, hair and teeth brushed. Now it means expensive clothes, bleached and capped teeth, and profession hair and make up.
That used to mean the ability to walk around without a scooter. Now it means 'roids.
That used to mean not being fat. Now it means being anorexic.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||03/08/2013|
r24 is kinda right.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||03/08/2013|
I doubt I ever will.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||03/08/2013|
R9 sums it up for me as well.
I was so vain when I was young; I never passed a mirror without looking and judging.
I would never have believed how comfortable I am at being an ugly old guy.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||03/08/2013|
Never did; I'm a man not an effete.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||03/08/2013|
I never cared.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||03/08/2013|
I'm a woman in my early 30s and I'm beginning to not care anymore about looks. My focus is shifting to educating my mind and being fit and healthy so that I can age well without having any major health problems. I no longer have the time and energy to devote to trying to be a hot number (which I was never any good at doing anyway).
|by Anonymous||reply 30||03/08/2013|
50. Endless hours at the gym and $100 haircuts were simply a waste of time.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||03/08/2013|
I've never cared 'excessively' about my looks.
I do want to look good, and I try to take care of myself and my health. I'm also well-endowed, so in a good year, I'm fairly popular, and even in not so good years, I'm never that hard up, so to say.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||03/08/2013|
I've never cared EXCESSIVELY about them. I'm pleased, of course, and grateful for all the adulation that they receive, but my own concern has never been excessive.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||03/08/2013|
[quote]I would never have believed how comfortable I am at being an ugly old guy.
Maybe that's because you're at peace with the idea of your inner ugliness shining through.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||03/08/2013|
R32 are you a hooker?
|by Anonymous||reply 35||03/08/2013|
R35, I actually turned down $100 from a date - back in the 80's. LOL So no. Certainly those days - for me - are long gone.
When I say I like to look good, I mean like, for example, Dr. Drew or Gregory Harrison - guys who look their age but still manage to be attractive.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||03/08/2013|
I look good for my age
|by Anonymous||reply 37||03/08/2013|
If we're voting I vote that I still look hot.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||03/08/2013|
Travolta DOES still look hot, in a way. Except for his head.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||03/08/2013|
FOr the past 5 years, since I became (mentally) disabled. had to leave SF; live in bumfuck northern NY; live the past 2 years in senior/disabled housing - about 60 women and 10 men, mainly 70-90 (though there are a couple of 90+ men with their wits about them, pensions, and full heads of hair (I'm a woman) - tee-hee!
Also have gained and gained weight. But DON't like myself like this and my family is encouraging me to start coloring my hair again - I haven't worn a skirt or high heels in 5 years - but I do stlil buy and occasionally wear, makeup.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||03/08/2013|
I am sorry to hear that R40. What is wrong w/you exactly? Do you have schizophrenia?
|by Anonymous||reply 41||03/08/2013|
I mostly worry about my fitness- so I do excercise. But I no longer obsess about clothes and hair and nails...
|by Anonymous||reply 42||03/08/2013|
I've never been attractive and learned early on to focus more on what I can control: my fitness level and my clothes.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||03/08/2013|
When I made my first 10 million
|by Anonymous||reply 44||03/08/2013|
When I stopped worrying about my hair, it started looking much better in photos taken of me.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||03/08/2013|