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When did you stop caring excessively about your looks

I stopped caring tonight. I still want to look fit but I don't really care too much about how attractive I am anymore.

by Anonymousreply 4503/08/2013

When the doctor put me under.

by Anonymousreply 103/08/2013

How old are you, op?

by Anonymousreply 203/08/2013

I haven't yet. I've been trying to and would like some advice. It's difficult because you can't completely stop caring. You need to still try to present yourself in the best way you can as a sign of self-respect, but obsessing over your looks (especially the things you can't change) is really unhealthy.

I've started losing my hair, and I think about it way too much.

by Anonymousreply 303/08/2013

Around forty-ish.

That's when my career took off, and when I realized that I hadn't achieved beauty by now I was never going to. That took all the pressure away.

by Anonymousreply 403/08/2013

I love it when elder gays are trying to primp it up.

I mean once you're over 30 and the gray hairs and bald spot and bellies start, why bother? You just pay a bit more for your tricks.

by Anonymousreply 503/08/2013

When I turned 50. About 10 years after I should have.

by Anonymousreply 603/08/2013

When I realized that I was going to have to fight time forever and still lose. 52.

by Anonymousreply 703/08/2013

Five years after they stopped looking, so at about 48.

by Anonymousreply 903/08/2013

When I realized there is little I can do to change how I look. Have had my share so don't worry about it.

by Anonymousreply 1003/08/2013

When my metabolism slowed to a crawl overnight and took the decision out of my hands. I went from being able to eat anything I wanted to having to starve myself just to keep from being morbidly obese. It was about the same age as everyone else seems to be saying though, so at least there's that I guess.

by Anonymousreply 1103/08/2013

When your looks are what you're there about

But books are what you care about

The time is rife

To learn the Facts of Life

When the world only seems

To be giving you wet dreams

It's time you started finding out

What everything is all about

When the boys you used to date

You hate

I bet you best investigate

The facts of life

And maybe get a wife

by Anonymousreply 1303/08/2013

I had a bad accident when I was 51 -- and while I'm not disabled, there are physical things I can no longer do.

If you have not accepted yourself by the time you're 50, warts and all, you really have some growing up to do.

by Anonymousreply 1403/08/2013

We were talking about this yesterday -- however we feel (or don't) about how we look, the current milieu is far more obsessed with image than ever before. Before, image was all about movie stars and Jackie Kennedy. Now, every morning on AMTV I see some lady who comes on to tell (mostly women) how only the right hair and makeup will protect their careers. And these ladies are right.

A round, relaxed, casual Steve Wozniac would never get past the front door of Apple now -- in fact, security would come and escort his eccentrics self off the property.

As with so many other things, it is not what we care about any more...

by Anonymousreply 1503/08/2013

I've never been too focused on them.

I need to lose some weight, though. I'm at my biggest and I'm over 30 now so it gets harder to snap back into shape.

by Anonymousreply 1603/08/2013

30s. If you're in your 20s and are still obsessed with your looks and how much you hate them, guess what, eventually you'll hardly care. So just hang in there, the torture will be over soon.

by Anonymousreply 1703/08/2013


by Anonymousreply 1803/08/2013

Exactly what R9 said.

by Anonymousreply 1903/08/2013

About 6 months ago. I'm 23.

by Anonymousreply 2003/08/2013

I rarely look into the mirror. I'm over me.

by Anonymousreply 2103/08/2013

Went vegan, mid-40's. It really did the trick. Now I enjoy the changes in my health and energy and the attention, but I don't care excessively. I don't really care at all.

by Anonymousreply 2203/08/2013

I think there's a difference between being well groomed and thinking you can make yourself look younger. I think a lot of you are referring to the latter. For myself, I will always make an effort to be well groomed, fit and trim. Why wouldn't you? You can't be something you're not but you can always be healthy and promote well being.

by Anonymousreply 2303/08/2013

[quote]well groomed, fit and trim

[quote]well groomed

That used to mean clean clothes, showered, hair and teeth brushed. Now it means expensive clothes, bleached and capped teeth, and profession hair and make up.


That used to mean the ability to walk around without a scooter. Now it means 'roids.


That used to mean not being fat. Now it means being anorexic.

by Anonymousreply 2403/08/2013

r24 is kinda right.

by Anonymousreply 2503/08/2013

I doubt I ever will.

by Anonymousreply 2603/08/2013

R9 sums it up for me as well.

I was so vain when I was young; I never passed a mirror without looking and judging.

I would never have believed how comfortable I am at being an ugly old guy.

by Anonymousreply 2703/08/2013

Never did; I'm a man not an effete.

by Anonymousreply 2803/08/2013

I never cared.

by Anonymousreply 2903/08/2013

I'm a woman in my early 30s and I'm beginning to not care anymore about looks. My focus is shifting to educating my mind and being fit and healthy so that I can age well without having any major health problems. I no longer have the time and energy to devote to trying to be a hot number (which I was never any good at doing anyway).

by Anonymousreply 3003/08/2013

50. Endless hours at the gym and $100 haircuts were simply a waste of time.

by Anonymousreply 3103/08/2013

I've never cared 'excessively' about my looks.

I do want to look good, and I try to take care of myself and my health. I'm also well-endowed, so in a good year, I'm fairly popular, and even in not so good years, I'm never that hard up, so to say.

by Anonymousreply 3203/08/2013

I've never cared EXCESSIVELY about them. I'm pleased, of course, and grateful for all the adulation that they receive, but my own concern has never been excessive.

by Anonymousreply 3303/08/2013

[quote]I would never have believed how comfortable I am at being an ugly old guy.

Maybe that's because you're at peace with the idea of your inner ugliness shining through.

by Anonymousreply 3403/08/2013

R32 are you a hooker?

by Anonymousreply 3503/08/2013

R35, I actually turned down $100 from a date - back in the 80's. LOL So no. Certainly those days - for me - are long gone.

When I say I like to look good, I mean like, for example, Dr. Drew or Gregory Harrison - guys who look their age but still manage to be attractive.

by Anonymousreply 3603/08/2013

I look good for my age

by Anonymousreply 3703/08/2013

If we're voting I vote that I still look hot.

by Anonymousreply 3803/08/2013

Travolta DOES still look hot, in a way. Except for his head.

by Anonymousreply 3903/08/2013

FOr the past 5 years, since I became (mentally) disabled. had to leave SF; live in bumfuck northern NY; live the past 2 years in senior/disabled housing - about 60 women and 10 men, mainly 70-90 (though there are a couple of 90+ men with their wits about them, pensions, and full heads of hair (I'm a woman) - tee-hee!

Also have gained and gained weight. But DON't like myself like this and my family is encouraging me to start coloring my hair again - I haven't worn a skirt or high heels in 5 years - but I do stlil buy and occasionally wear, makeup.


by Anonymousreply 4003/08/2013

I am sorry to hear that R40. What is wrong w/you exactly? Do you have schizophrenia?

by Anonymousreply 4103/08/2013

I mostly worry about my fitness- so I do excercise. But I no longer obsess about clothes and hair and nails...

by Anonymousreply 4203/08/2013

I've never been attractive and learned early on to focus more on what I can control: my fitness level and my clothes.

by Anonymousreply 4303/08/2013

When I made my first 10 million

by Anonymousreply 4403/08/2013

When I stopped worrying about my hair, it started looking much better in photos taken of me.

by Anonymousreply 4503/08/2013
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