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Woman claims she suffered hate crime while defending bullied boy

MESQUITE (TX) –- To relieve the near-constant pain, Sondra Scarber must use a syringe to squeeze medicine between her teeth. Swallowing anything solid - even something as small as a pill - is impossible. Speaking is very difficult.

“It’s hard for me to stay strong when I see myself in the mirror,” the 27-year-old said, through her clenched jaw that’s been wired shut. Her face is badly swollen and bruised. “I can’t do anything for myself,” she said through tears.

Scarber is grateful simply to be alive. She said she was attacked at an elementary school playground for protecting a bullied four-year-old boy. The scuffle between children, however, quickly escalated into violence among adults, Scarber worries, because she is a lesbian.

“She was just helping him, defending him from a big kid, and this is what happened to her,” said Scarber’s girlfriend and the boy’s mother, Hillary Causey.

The couple had taken Causey’s son, Jaxon, to the playground at Mesquite’s Seabourn Elementary on Feb. 17. Shortly after arriving at 2:30 p.m., though, the couple said some older children began pushing Jaxon around.

“Sondra said, ‘Can you please keep your hands off of him, he’s only four,’” Causey said.

The father became enraged, she said, when he realized Scarber, who wears baggy clothes and has short hair, is a woman, and that the two are lesbians. Friends since the third grade, Scarber and Causey have been girlfriends for three years. They’re raising Causey’s young son together.

“When he walked up thinking it was father and mom with the kid, he wasn’t as angry,” said Causey, 26, “but then when he figured out it was a female, he got like super pissed, and I don’t know why.”

She said the man punched and kicked Scarber repeatedly, hurling homophobic slurs at her while she lay on the ground, unconscious.

“He was like, ‘well if you think you’re a man… I’m going to treat you like a man,’” Causey said. “All she kept saying was, ‘I’m a female. I’m a female…' She never even had time to take her hands out of pockets to try and block herself.”

Mesquite police haven’t caught the suspect. Officers aren’t convinced the attack meets the true qualifications of a hate crime, since the scuffle among children was the initial trigger.

“At this point, we have no indication the assault occurred because of her sexual orientation,” said Lt. Bill Hedgpeth with the Mesquite police. “Regardless of motive, we want to catch them.”

The women are convinced the attack was a hate crime, and are frustrated with what they feel is the department’s lack of urgency with their case.

Officers insist they are looking for a black man, about 5’7", who weighs 185 pounds. He was wearing a royal blue T-shirt and jeans, and was driving an early 2000's silver Chevrolet Impala with temporary tags. Police say he was with a black woman, about 5’5”, 140 pounds, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans.

Scarber is anxious to see her attacker caught, but she’s most worried about how this will affect Jaxon. He is having troubling sleeping and is afraid to return to the park. She herself now faces months of recovery after surgeons implanted a metal plate in her jaw.

“I think it’s evil to treat somebody in such a way and get away with it,” she said. “I don’t think it’s okay to put someone in this much pain because you don’t think it’s okay for me to raise my son.”

by Anonymousreply 2603/02/2013

That poor woman. Naturally, the perpetrator is a fat man.

by Anonymousreply 103/01/2013

What does the guy's weight have to do with anything, R1?

by Anonymousreply 203/01/2013


by Anonymousreply 303/01/2013

Ghastly. This is a nation of violent imbeciles.

by Anonymousreply 403/01/2013

Of course the lesbian's kid is named 'Jaxon' and of course the black guy drives an Impala..sigh

by Anonymousreply 503/01/2013

[quote]Naturally, the perpetrator is a fat man.

Only on DL...

by Anonymousreply 603/01/2013

Is "Jaxon" better or worse than "Jayden"? Discuss.

by Anonymousreply 703/01/2013

He probably thought the lesbian was trying to molest the kid.

by Anonymousreply 803/02/2013

There are some really awful people in the world. They guy should be put down.

by Anonymousreply 903/02/2013

This is hilarious. What's on her iPod?

by Anonymousreply 1003/02/2013

Of course he's black.

by Anonymousreply 1103/02/2013

Of course you're a racist.

by Anonymousreply 1203/02/2013

Mesquite is a hell hole.

by Anonymousreply 1303/02/2013

We think she's being a little dramatic. Lesbians always take offense at every little slight.

by Anonymousreply 1403/02/2013

Let's go home and grout the tub again!

by Anonymousreply 1503/02/2013

I'm confused. They call it a park in the article, but they also say its an elementary school playground?

by Anonymousreply 1603/02/2013

It sounds like an elementary school playground that people treat as a park on weekends, r16.

Feb 17 was a Sunday, so the kids and parents weren't there for school-related activities, just to enjoy the facilities as a park.

by Anonymousreply 1703/02/2013

r11 needs to get violently gay bashed.

So sick of the disease infested racists on this board.

by Anonymousreply 1803/02/2013

I immediately envisioned the attacker as a white redneck. They hate gays more than anyone.

by Anonymousreply 1903/02/2013

Mesquite is on the East side of one of the worst sides of Dallas. The schools there are horrible and over crowded. When I lived over there years ago my home was broken into three different times and my car was stolen.

We finally just had to walk away because nobody was going to buy our house.

Mesquite needs to get serious about protecting people like this poor woman. These are the kind of stories that send good people fleeing from the area.

by Anonymousreply 2003/02/2013

I'm sure R11 was no where to be found in that thread about the white football player and his anti-gay bloviating.

by Anonymousreply 2103/02/2013

The aggressor is monstrously obese, and represents a danger to society. He should spend life in prison.

by Anonymousreply 2203/02/2013

Sound a like he really clobbered her, for no reason except hate.

by Anonymousreply 2303/02/2013

Many American males live in a state of perpetual adolescence.

Cartoons + Fast Food + Shit Music + Computer Games = American idiots.

by Anonymousreply 2403/02/2013

There needs to be an ongoing dialogue in the black community about violence. There is a serious problem in that community and they are harming eatch other and people outside of the community. No one wants to talk about it because it's not pc.

by Anonymousreply 2503/02/2013
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