[quote]For one thing, they'd have to lose most of the life they created prior to coming out: spouse, friends, children, status and sometimes job.
This is a Bullshit black and white scenario, OP. One that is used to justify your fear and perpetuating the closet mentality. Furthermore. it poses the idea that any drama or discomfort caused to other people by someone in the closet is all the GAY person's fault. Bullshit.
Children of gay parents love them Because they love their parents. Period.
Parents of gay people should love them if they're good parent, Period. It may take some time to adjust - that's understandable
But if a parent is an awful parent - it's their "lose." You will find your own family. And a chosen family can be 1000% more powerful, more supportive, and REAL than the accident that gave birth to you.
Friends of gay people should be their friends - period. Anyone else isn't a real friend. If you have to build your friendship by evading and hiding who you are- You're not really "Lose"ing anything real. Period.
It's true that in CONSERVATIVE & CLOSE MINDED circles, some people will walk away but those people never cared for you in the first place. For others, it will take time but they will come around.
No one should want to live the rest of thier life tied down to the worse case scenario nor should they want to tie themselves down to people who would treat you any differently for being honest.
[quote]After that, they'd have to find a gay relationship in a world of users and losers, body nazies and social climbers. I feel they'd get victimized so many times they'd grow jaded and bitter.
This idea assumes that all gay people are "losers, body nazies and social climber": Who the fuck are YOU, OP, that you would surround yourself with any of these people? Maybe you need to check yourself. Look at your life, look at YOUR choices.
I have been out for years and I don't surround myself who comes close to this description. It took some time for my family to understand that being gay was no drama. I have a great deal of wonderful friends, a good job and a good life full of love and happiness.
Get over your worst case scenario lies.