Let me start off by saying that I'm a gay guy and am NOT a sex-negative pearl clutcher at all. I have a healthy sex drive and (shocker!) sometimes I act on it, and always use protection. However, sometimes I hear stories from gay friends and acquaintances that I find mind-boggling.
Tonight at the gym, I was chatting with a gym acquaintance who had just returned from Cancun. He's got a bf and they don't have an open relationship. The bf couldn't make the trip, so my acquaintance went by himself. We talked about the beaches and of course the topic of conversation turned to the hot guys there. He went on to tell me that in the four days he was there, he hooked up with 10 different guys. I kid you not. He went on to tell me that he regularly hooks up here with other guys behind the bf's back.
I don't know if he's a top, bottom, or versatile, and I hope he used condoms for each encounter, but there are other STDs besides HIV you can pick up even with condom use. Am I wrong, or is this totally irresponsible behavior? Personally I find the whole cheating thing reprehensible, but that's their business and totally beside the point. But fucking or being fucked by all these guys, and then coming home and possibly infecting your bf--who cluelessly thinks he's in a monogamous relationship--with an STD is unfathomable to me. I just don't get it. I've heard enough stories like this to know that this situation is not an anomaly among gay guys.