I was having chest pains
Yesterday morning, while I was getting ready for work, I kept having these chest pains. They weren't real severe, they would come & go, but I was getting nervous that I might be about to have a heart attack. Ended up going to the emergency room, and I checked out fine. They attributed by chest pain to anxiety & emotional stress. How embarrassing that whole ordeal was!
Later in the day I emailed my roommate with the news of the day, and how it was all just a false alarm. His response? He got mad! Because I didn't immediately call him when the ordeal began. I purposely didn't tell him because I didn't want him to worry and I knew there was absolutely nothing he could do (he doesn't drive and he was stuck at work).
Was I a jerk? Knowing someone was sitting by a phone all nervous would have caused me even more anxiety.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||02/22/2013|
It is great to have people that care about you and want to help!
|by Anonymous||reply 1||02/21/2013|
I totally agree. That's why I was trying to spare him needless worry, and at the same time lower my own anxiety level.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||02/21/2013|
What if it was a heart attack? You could have been at death's door and didn't think to notify him? That just shows him how important he is in your life.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||02/21/2013|
He's your roommate. He's not your partner, he's not your parent. He is just someone who splits the rent.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||02/21/2013|
[quote]didn't think to notify him?
I [italic]purposely[/italic] didn't notify him. First, because there was nothing he could do from work except worry. Second, the exchange would only increase my anxiety level..."When are you going to the hospital?"..."Who's going to drive you?"..."OMG! Call me the minute you know something."..."Give the doctor my phone number!"
|by Anonymous||reply 5||02/21/2013|
We're good friends. We do a lot of stuff together...but no sex.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||02/21/2013|
I agree with you, you are right, OP. His response should have been one of sympathy, not one of making it about him and trying to fight with you.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||02/21/2013|
Lucky to have someone who cares. Don't lose this gem.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||02/21/2013|
OP, get a full physical and bloodwork done. Watch your diet, especially alcohol intake.
You're roommate's reaction was nice. He was probably feeling helpless, and wanted to help. He wasn't mad at you, he was reacting to the situation - he could have been there to hold your hand, calm you down, etc. but wasn't.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||02/21/2013|
It was probably gas OP. Never stifle farts. When you feel the need, let it bleed.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||02/21/2013|
OP, but what if you were dead. He wouldn't have had a chance to say goodbye.
You are reacting like this because it turned out to be nothing, what if it was a heart attack and you notified no one. You would have died alone.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||02/21/2013|
And OP, why no sex? Is he straight? One of you ugly? Both bottoms?
He seems like boyfriend material to me. Already moved in.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||02/21/2013|
[quote]He wouldn't have had a chance to say goodbye.
Once a person is dead, saying goodbye to them is kind of pointless because they cant hear you.
[quote]You would have died alone.
In an emergency room? I dont know if that really qualifies as alone.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||02/21/2013|
R17 - As a cancer patient, I can promise you there is no place on earth more lonely than an Emergency Room if you don't have someone there that you know.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||02/21/2013|
R16, have you ever had a roommate?
Have you ever tried to have a casual sexual relationship with a roommate?
Respectfully, I seriously doubt it, or you wouldn't have asked the questions of OP that you asked.
When I had a roommate, who has fairly good as roommates go, his ex came over one day to retrieve some things when only I was there. He confided in me to very be careful because his ex had several viral STDs and was a big whore. I couldn't help but laugh (in a reserved manner) and told him thanks, but it was preposterous to think that we would ever have sex even if we were both desperate although his ex was a hung top and I'm a versatile bottom.
Gay guys aren't "fuck cattle."
|by Anonymous||reply 19||02/21/2013|
[quote]He confided in me to very be careful because his ex had several viral STDs
That's when I would have said, "Wow, thats too bad because I have always been interested in you. I even told roommate so and he said he is fine with me pursuing you. But now that I know you have all these STDs I think I will have to take a pass."
|by Anonymous||reply 20||02/21/2013|
[quote]You would have died alone.
That was the least of my worries.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||02/21/2013|
[quote]And OP, why no sex?
Because of situations exactly like this one. Relationship-wise, we are very incompatible. We just look at the world so completely differently. As roommates, we manage.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||02/21/2013|
[quote]I can promise you there is no place on earth more lonely than an Emergency Room
Oddly, I didn't feel the least bit lonely. I mostly just watched TV.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||02/21/2013|
Not what you asked, but you should probably see a cardiologist just to be sure. Get a stress test. The emergency room's function is to get you stabilizied not do a thorough workup.
My father had chest pain, the emergency room checked him out and sent him home saying he had the flu. Dropped dead a month later.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||02/21/2013|
Sorry about your loss, R24. What did he die of? (Please tell me it was the flu.)
|by Anonymous||reply 25||02/21/2013|
Op, this is the last I will say on the subject.
This is one of those times when you just have to say, "I'm sorry, and thank you for your concern, I very lucky to have you in my life." and give your roommate a hug.
Whether you are sorry or not, this is all he wanted.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||02/21/2013|
When I was 29 I started getting this tightening in my chest and it was somewhat painful.
I had always been in perfect health and rarely drank, didn't smoke and no drugs for many years (and then only pot). I had only recently stopped running so I couldn't imagine why I'd be having a heart attack.
I was under a lot of stress at work and my dad had recently had a heart attack at 59 after smoking his entire life.
I didn't want to make a fool of myself by going to the ER but I spoke with a very good friend, a nurse, and she said "always get it checked out" but it'ss probably nothing. She called a doctor (internal medicine) he used to work for and I made an appointment for that afternoon. In fact they told me to come in as soon as I could.
I went that very afternoon to his office and he very thoroughly checked me out. When he was through he very quietly asked me if I had family in the area - I freaked out and thought he was going to say I'm putting you in the hospital stat and then you'll die.
Well all I had was esophogeal (sp) spasms which the doc said mimick exactly what a heart attack would feel like in your chest. But that it was stress related and nothing to do with my heart. He gave me something to relax my - I guess - esophogus (no idea how to spell this) and I was fine.
You should always go. Of course if you don't have insurance then I understand the hesitancy. You'll go. It will be nothing. They will bill you $20,000. Then you will wish you WERE dead.
R18, deep commisserations. I guess that's why they invented the iPad. We really are all in this life aren't we?
|by Anonymous||reply 27||02/22/2013|
Heart attack. Thanks for the thoughts.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||02/22/2013|
You need to be checked out immediately OP. Possibly minor heart attack & you may need a stent.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||02/22/2013|
Exactly. Odds are you are fine, but it is the stakes not the odds that are important. It's one of those situations where it is either nothing or very serious.
Emergency rooms keep you from dying on them, which is crucial of course. They should have told you to consult your G.P.
Don't know if my dad did, probably not, had zero risk factors. It's been a long time now, and there is no way to know.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||02/22/2013|
That's pretty much alone. No time to tell people what they meant to you, no one to pass on messages of thanks, apologies, and best wishes? Ugh.
I know emergency room people are great, that's not it.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||02/22/2013|
Emergeny rooms have a motto: Treat and street. Their job is to get you stable and then have you see your primary care doc after you are discharged, You should make a follow up appointmnent with your doc asap.
As far as your roommate, maybe he was hurt that you didn't want him to be there to support you? Maybe he cares for you more than you rhink.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||02/22/2013|
Glad you're okay, OP- but you should have come to Datalounge first.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||02/22/2013|
[quote] Was I a jerk? Knowing someone was sitting by a phone all nervous would have caused me even more anxiety.
OP - The thing that you actually need to focus on is why you were having the chest pains. If it is due to stress and anxiety, then you need to address the causes.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||02/22/2013|
[quote]No time to tell people what they meant to you, no one to pass on messages of thanks, apologies, and best wishes?
Must of us have a whole lifetime to do these things. Don't wait until you're in the emergency room—that's too late!
|by Anonymous||reply 36||02/22/2013|
OP: let's plan ahead for next time: can I have all your stuff?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||02/22/2013|
My suggestion is to do cardio fitness. You likely are not getting enough cardio in your day and are sitting too much.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||02/22/2013|