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"Light in your loafers"

An old friend that I haven't seen in about 10 years referred to me as "light in my loafers" at a wedding recently. I was the only gay guy there and I don't think she meant to offend me but it kind of did. Would anyone else have been offended? Isn't that an old expression for a 32 year old to make? (earlier I also heard her talking to her girlfriends about how hot my ass looked so I guess she gets points for that).

by Anonymousreply 4402/21/2013

Was she saying it in an ironic tone?

by Anonymousreply 102/20/2013

She might as well have just called you a faggot to your face. It's a way of not insulting someone directly, but insulting them nonetheless by inference. Archie Bunker did it all the time.

Bitch should have been slapped by you OP.

by Anonymousreply 202/20/2013

In olden times it was considered masculine to wear tie shoes (workplace cred) and effeminate to wear loafers, which were casual (hence the name).

by Anonymousreply 302/20/2013

Well, as long as she "didn't mean" to insult you it is okay to use antiquated anti-gay slurs isn't it?

by Anonymousreply 402/20/2013

When they made up that saying, they were talking about George Hamilton.

by Anonymousreply 502/20/2013

R3 found the DL easter egg!

by Anonymousreply 602/20/2013

Would it have bothered you if it was a gay guy?

by Anonymousreply 702/20/2013

2/10 OP

No one under 50 would have the slightest idea what that meant.

Back to the drawing board for you.

by Anonymousreply 802/20/2013

r2 It's called being passive aggressive. OP, she sounds like a bitch and let me guess, is she fat?

by Anonymousreply 902/20/2013

It's a really fun way of saying she thinks you're a femmy queen. At least she think your ass is nice. Straighties who think that because they're not overtly homophobic they're entitled to make faggot jokes just don't get it.

by Anonymousreply 1002/20/2013

F7= white guy who thinks it is okay to use the n word because black guys do it.

by Anonymousreply 1102/20/2013

Did she also call you a fairy or a fruitcake?

She's a homophobic bitch OP.

by Anonymousreply 1202/20/2013

OP, it sounds like she learned her talk from you. Quit complaining and revel in giving your friend points for commenting on your hot ass.

by Anonymousreply 1302/20/2013

"Light in the loafers" is how my grandmother, born in 1905, referred to gay men. I always thought it was sort of cute coming from her, but yeah, it's definitely dated.

by Anonymousreply 1402/20/2013

Impossible unless your friend is 150 years old.

by Anonymousreply 1502/20/2013

I've never heard anyone under 80 use that expression in earnest. It was probably supposed to be tongue-in-cheek. Clearly you did not think it was funny.

by Anonymousreply 1602/20/2013

That's a terrible thing to say.

To someone's face.

by Anonymousreply 1702/20/2013

It's the same as when actors say "gee whiz" in interviews, they think it's cute and it makes them like the people in the fly-overs.

by Anonymousreply 1802/20/2013

Eeeew, OP, that's as cringe inducing as some old, out of touch, drunk homophobe affecting a lisp and a limp wrist to "try" to get a laugh by pretending to be gay. Literally no one under 70 does that anymore. Same with that stale expression your 32 y/o friend used. Just....ewww. I can only imagine her gaffe must have been met with embarrassing silence.

by Anonymousreply 1902/20/2013

I called her right out on it. Basically saying it wasn't cool, and also asking if she was 80. She and I dated a bit in college before I came out so maybe she felt entitled to say something. She is also kind of a hick. I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".

by Anonymousreply 2002/20/2013

Poor girl has no gaydar...leave her alone!

by Anonymousreply 2102/20/2013

No, no, no, no... OP has "a hint of mint," y'know what I'm sayin?

by Anonymousreply 2202/20/2013

Pics of your ass, please.

by Anonymousreply 2302/20/2013

At least she didn't say "sweet in the jeans"

by Anonymousreply 2402/20/2013

You guys call lesbians "dykes" and "bulldaggers," and women "gash" and "cunts," and then you have the gall to be pissed off when someone calls you "light in the loafers"?

You're lucky she didn't tell you what she REALLY thinks.

by Anonymousreply 2502/20/2013

R25 enters with the false equivalency theory.

by Anonymousreply 2602/20/2013

[quote] I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".

And your comeback should have been "you were the first one I would think was a RAVING CUNT - BITCH!"

by Anonymousreply 2702/20/2013

This didn't happen.

by Anonymousreply 2802/20/2013

Eh, didn't sound like it was meant to offend.

by Anonymousreply 2902/20/2013

Why would your sexuality be the center of attention in the first place OP? I think I would be puzzled and slightly annoyed to say the least. Perhaps a quick retort could have been, "if I am light in my loafers does that make you heavy in yours?".

by Anonymousreply 3002/20/2013

Unless she was a Dowager Countess, you should have slapped her in the face!

by Anonymousreply 3102/20/2013

maybe she's clueless and was trying to say you're an energetic dancer

by Anonymousreply 3202/20/2013

A hopeless nervous attempt to be what she thought was sassy. Offensive and pathetic at the same time.

by Anonymousreply 3302/21/2013

R33 is spot on. If she's a hick, she just doesn't know any better. Feel sorry for her.

by Anonymousreply 3402/21/2013


by Anonymousreply 3502/21/2013

"A hint of mint"

by Anonymousreply 3602/21/2013

Just interject loudly, "You mean gay, you dumb gash."

That usually clears everything up.

by Anonymousreply 3702/21/2013

ignorance is bliss...

by Anonymousreply 3802/21/2013

LOL @ R37 and R38.

by Anonymousreply 3902/21/2013

Is "he's sweet in the jeans" a thing??

God I hope so.

by Anonymousreply 4002/21/2013

Nowadays, we say he's a little "light in the piazza"

by Anonymousreply 4102/21/2013

Not false at all, r26.

by Anonymousreply 4202/21/2013

OP is a pansy for not confronting her on this.

by Anonymousreply 4302/21/2013

This did happen and I did confront her.

by Anonymousreply 4402/21/2013
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