An old friend that I haven't seen in about 10 years referred to me as "light in my loafers" at a wedding recently. I was the only gay guy there and I don't think she meant to offend me but it kind of did. Would anyone else have been offended? Isn't that an old expression for a 32 year old to make? (earlier I also heard her talking to her girlfriends about how hot my ass looked so I guess she gets points for that).
"Light in your loafers"
|by Anonymous||reply 44||02/21/2013|
Was she saying it in an ironic tone?
|by Anonymous||reply 1||02/20/2013|
She might as well have just called you a faggot to your face. It's a way of not insulting someone directly, but insulting them nonetheless by inference. Archie Bunker did it all the time.
Bitch should have been slapped by you OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||02/20/2013|
In olden times it was considered masculine to wear tie shoes (workplace cred) and effeminate to wear loafers, which were casual (hence the name).
|by Anonymous||reply 3||02/20/2013|
Well, as long as she "didn't mean" to insult you it is okay to use antiquated anti-gay slurs isn't it?
|by Anonymous||reply 4||02/20/2013|
R3 found the DL easter egg!
|by Anonymous||reply 6||02/20/2013|
No one under 50 would have the slightest idea what that meant.
Back to the drawing board for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||02/20/2013|
r2 It's called being passive aggressive. OP, she sounds like a bitch and let me guess, is she fat?
|by Anonymous||reply 9||02/20/2013|
It's a really fun way of saying she thinks you're a femmy queen. At least she think your ass is nice. Straighties who think that because they're not overtly homophobic they're entitled to make faggot jokes just don't get it.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||02/20/2013|
F7= white guy who thinks it is okay to use the n word because black guys do it.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||02/20/2013|
Did she also call you a fairy or a fruitcake?
She's a homophobic bitch OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||02/20/2013|
OP, it sounds like she learned her talk from you. Quit complaining and revel in giving your friend points for commenting on your hot ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||02/20/2013|
"Light in the loafers" is how my grandmother, born in 1905, referred to gay men. I always thought it was sort of cute coming from her, but yeah, it's definitely dated.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||02/20/2013|
Impossible unless your friend is 150 years old.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||02/20/2013|
I've never heard anyone under 80 use that expression in earnest. It was probably supposed to be tongue-in-cheek. Clearly you did not think it was funny.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||02/20/2013|
That's a terrible thing to say.
To someone's face.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||02/20/2013|
It's the same as when actors say "gee whiz" in interviews, they think it's cute and it makes them like the people in the fly-overs.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||02/20/2013|
Eeeew, OP, that's as cringe inducing as some old, out of touch, drunk homophobe affecting a lisp and a limp wrist to "try" to get a laugh by pretending to be gay. Literally no one under 70 does that anymore. Same with that stale expression your 32 y/o friend used. Just....ewww. I can only imagine her gaffe must have been met with embarrassing silence.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||02/20/2013|
I called her right out on it. Basically saying it wasn't cool, and also asking if she was 80. She and I dated a bit in college before I came out so maybe she felt entitled to say something. She is also kind of a hick. I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".
|by Anonymous||reply 20||02/20/2013|
Poor girl has no gaydar...leave her alone!
|by Anonymous||reply 21||02/20/2013|
No, no, no, no... OP has "a hint of mint," y'know what I'm sayin?
|by Anonymous||reply 22||02/20/2013|
Pics of your ass, please.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||02/20/2013|
At least she didn't say "sweet in the jeans"
|by Anonymous||reply 24||02/20/2013|
R25 enters with the false equivalency theory.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||02/20/2013|
[quote] I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".
And your comeback should have been "you were the first one I would think was a RAVING CUNT - BITCH!"
|by Anonymous||reply 27||02/21/2013|
This didn't happen.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||02/21/2013|
Eh, didn't sound like it was meant to offend.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||02/21/2013|
Why would your sexuality be the center of attention in the first place OP? I think I would be puzzled and slightly annoyed to say the least. Perhaps a quick retort could have been, "if I am light in my loafers does that make you heavy in yours?".
|by Anonymous||reply 30||02/21/2013|
Unless she was a Dowager Countess, you should have slapped her in the face!
|by Anonymous||reply 31||02/21/2013|
maybe she's clueless and was trying to say you're an energetic dancer
|by Anonymous||reply 32||02/21/2013|
A hopeless nervous attempt to be what she thought was sassy. Offensive and pathetic at the same time.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||02/21/2013|
R33 is spot on. If she's a hick, she just doesn't know any better. Feel sorry for her.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||02/21/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 35||02/21/2013|
"A hint of mint"
|by Anonymous||reply 36||02/21/2013|
Just interject loudly, "You mean gay, you dumb gash."
That usually clears everything up.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||02/21/2013|
ignorance is bliss...
|by Anonymous||reply 38||02/21/2013|
LOL @ R37 and R38.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||02/21/2013|
Is "he's sweet in the jeans" a thing??
God I hope so.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||02/21/2013|
Nowadays, we say he's a little "light in the piazza"
|by Anonymous||reply 41||02/21/2013|
Not false at all, r26.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||02/21/2013|
OP is a pansy for not confronting her on this.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||02/21/2013|
This did happen and I did confront her.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||02/21/2013|