An old friend that I haven't seen in about 10 years referred to me as "light in my loafers" at a wedding recently. I was the only gay guy there and I don't think she meant to offend me but it kind of did. Would anyone else have been offended? Isn't that an old expression for a 32 year old to make? (earlier I also heard her talking to her girlfriends about how hot my ass looked so I guess she gets points for that).
"Light in your loafers"
|by Anonymous||reply 44||02/21/2013|
Was she saying it in an ironic tone?
|by Anonymous||reply 1||02/20/2013|
She might as well have just called you a faggot to your face. It's a way of not insulting someone directly, but insulting them nonetheless by inference. Archie Bunker did it all the time.
Bitch should have been slapped by you OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||02/20/2013|
In olden times it was considered masculine to wear tie shoes (workplace cred) and effeminate to wear loafers, which were casual (hence the name).
|by Anonymous||reply 3||02/20/2013|
Well, as long as she "didn't mean" to insult you it is okay to use antiquated anti-gay slurs isn't it?
|by Anonymous||reply 4||02/20/2013|
When they made up that saying, they were talking about George Hamilton.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||02/20/2013|
R3 found the DL easter egg!
|by Anonymous||reply 6||02/20/2013|
Would it have bothered you if it was a gay guy?
|by Anonymous||reply 7||02/20/2013|
No one under 50 would have the slightest idea what that meant.
Back to the drawing board for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||02/20/2013|
r2 It's called being passive aggressive. OP, she sounds like a bitch and let me guess, is she fat?
|by Anonymous||reply 9||02/20/2013|
It's a really fun way of saying she thinks you're a femmy queen. At least she think your ass is nice. Straighties who think that because they're not overtly homophobic they're entitled to make faggot jokes just don't get it.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||02/20/2013|
F7= white guy who thinks it is okay to use the n word because black guys do it.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||02/20/2013|
Did she also call you a fairy or a fruitcake?
She's a homophobic bitch OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||02/20/2013|
OP, it sounds like she learned her talk from you. Quit complaining and revel in giving your friend points for commenting on your hot ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||02/20/2013|
"Light in the loafers" is how my grandmother, born in 1905, referred to gay men. I always thought it was sort of cute coming from her, but yeah, it's definitely dated.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||02/20/2013|
Impossible unless your friend is 150 years old.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||02/20/2013|
I've never heard anyone under 80 use that expression in earnest. It was probably supposed to be tongue-in-cheek. Clearly you did not think it was funny.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||02/20/2013|
That's a terrible thing to say.
To someone's face.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||02/20/2013|
It's the same as when actors say "gee whiz" in interviews, they think it's cute and it makes them like the people in the fly-overs.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||02/20/2013|
Eeeew, OP, that's as cringe inducing as some old, out of touch, drunk homophobe affecting a lisp and a limp wrist to "try" to get a laugh by pretending to be gay. Literally no one under 70 does that anymore. Same with that stale expression your 32 y/o friend used. Just....ewww. I can only imagine her gaffe must have been met with embarrassing silence.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||02/20/2013|
I called her right out on it. Basically saying it wasn't cool, and also asking if she was 80. She and I dated a bit in college before I came out so maybe she felt entitled to say something. She is also kind of a hick. I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".
|by Anonymous||reply 20||02/20/2013|
Poor girl has no gaydar...leave her alone!
|by Anonymous||reply 21||02/20/2013|
No, no, no, no... OP has "a hint of mint," y'know what I'm sayin?
|by Anonymous||reply 22||02/20/2013|
Pics of your ass, please.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||02/20/2013|
At least she didn't say "sweet in the jeans"
|by Anonymous||reply 24||02/20/2013|
You guys call lesbians "dykes" and "bulldaggers," and women "gash" and "cunts," and then you have the gall to be pissed off when someone calls you "light in the loafers"?
You're lucky she didn't tell you what she REALLY thinks.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||02/20/2013|
R25 enters with the false equivalency theory.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||02/20/2013|
[quote] I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".
And your comeback should have been "you were the first one I would think was a RAVING CUNT - BITCH!"
|by Anonymous||reply 27||02/20/2013|
This didn't happen.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||02/20/2013|
Eh, didn't sound like it was meant to offend.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||02/20/2013|
Why would your sexuality be the center of attention in the first place OP? I think I would be puzzled and slightly annoyed to say the least. Perhaps a quick retort could have been, "if I am light in my loafers does that make you heavy in yours?".
|by Anonymous||reply 30||02/20/2013|
Unless she was a Dowager Countess, you should have slapped her in the face!
|by Anonymous||reply 31||02/20/2013|
maybe she's clueless and was trying to say you're an energetic dancer
|by Anonymous||reply 32||02/20/2013|
A hopeless nervous attempt to be what she thought was sassy. Offensive and pathetic at the same time.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||02/21/2013|
R33 is spot on. If she's a hick, she just doesn't know any better. Feel sorry for her.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||02/21/2013|
|by Anonymous||reply 35||02/21/2013|
"A hint of mint"
|by Anonymous||reply 36||02/21/2013|
Just interject loudly, "You mean gay, you dumb gash."
That usually clears everything up.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||02/21/2013|
ignorance is bliss...
|by Anonymous||reply 38||02/21/2013|
LOL @ R37 and R38.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||02/21/2013|
Is "he's sweet in the jeans" a thing??
God I hope so.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||02/21/2013|
Nowadays, we say he's a little "light in the piazza"
|by Anonymous||reply 41||02/21/2013|
Not false at all, r26.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||02/21/2013|
OP is a pansy for not confronting her on this.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||02/21/2013|
This did happen and I did confront her.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||02/21/2013|