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Natural, effortless masculinity

Why is it so damn intoxicating?

by Anonymousreply 7806/11/2016

Because it's seldomly seen, and as rare as a unicorn?

by Anonymousreply 102/18/2013

They don't "try"

They just "are"

by Anonymousreply 202/18/2013

My pussy is intoxicating!

by Anonymousreply 302/18/2013

Oh shit, THIS again?

by Anonymousreply 402/18/2013

Please provide an example of such a thing.

For some reason, all I can picture is my dad laid back in his recliner, farting, burping, scratching his balls, watching football, and barking orders at my Mom - and yes, he was usually intoxicated as well.

by Anonymousreply 502/18/2013

[quote]Please provide an example of such a thing.

Daniel Craig. Steve McQueen.

by Anonymousreply 602/18/2013

Liam Neeson

by Anonymousreply 702/18/2013

Mary Wickes

by Anonymousreply 802/18/2013

[quote]Daniel Craig. Steve McQueen.

They were/are movie actors...spewing lines that had been written by someone else.

Edited, well lit...

You sound very silly indeed, actually.

by Anonymousreply 902/18/2013

Mark Wahlberg, Victor Cruz

by Anonymousreply 1002/18/2013

I don't think there is such thing. It's all about wanting to be accepted by the pack. Nothing effortless about it.

by Anonymousreply 1102/18/2013

Franklin Pangborn

by Anonymousreply 1202/18/2013

proud masculine gay must be mentioned in a thread like this. and then laughed at hysterically.

by Anonymousreply 1302/18/2013

Testosterone is usually involved. Maybe some men have more of it than others?

by Anonymousreply 1402/18/2013

R5. Am I your father? I've been looking for you.

by Anonymousreply 1502/18/2013

R12: You silly billy -- you made me laugh!

by Anonymousreply 1602/18/2013

Unselfconscious and easygoing. Self-reliant. A lot of gay men have had to be selfconscious from day one. They yearn for the ease, confidence and uncomplicated outlook of natural masculinity.

by Anonymousreply 1702/18/2013

Kristen Stewart.

by Anonymousreply 1802/18/2013

Gay men live in their mirrors.

Nothing "effortless" about them.

A real turn off.

by Anonymousreply 1902/18/2013

Football players

by Anonymousreply 2002/18/2013


by Anonymousreply 2102/18/2013

Masculinity is a turn-on; but, fashion influences our perceptions of it greatly; no one would consider Louis XIV maculine today - with his wigs and red soled high heels, but in his day ...

Sean Connery in Dr. No - my favorite.

That said - the biggest tip off that a guy is bi but trying to seem straight is a preocupation with his appearance - usually not obvious, but if you pay attention ...

(They usually do a terrible job on their appearance and need desperate help, BTW.)

by Anonymousreply 2202/18/2013

R1 is right. I know tons of genuinely straight men, but few of them exude a masculinity that isn't somewhat inauthentic.

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by Anonymousreply 2402/18/2013

Nelly the rapper

by Anonymousreply 2502/18/2013

Gianni Agnelli

by Anonymousreply 2602/18/2013

Edgar Ramirez, yes. Bradley Cooper, no. Keanu, doesn't give a shit.

by Anonymousreply 2702/18/2013

R20 is the winner. Football Players. No existing actor that I can think of would fit the bill.

Know some in college and pro players, they are completely in this zone.

Actors? Please.

by Anonymousreply 2802/18/2013

R19 eat shit!!!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 2902/18/2013

There is very little masculinity left anymore because women have taken over the world. Even basketball players are trying to hide their male bodies in big flouncy cullottes instead of wearing gym shorts. The fathers abandon their sons and the women feminize them any way they can, and teach them to be submissive to women. The first act of a woman toward a son is usually to pay the doctor to cut off part of his genitals.

by Anonymousreply 3002/18/2013

Actually, it's the gay fashionistas who convinced straight men to shave their armpits. Women had nothing to do with it.

by Anonymousreply 3102/18/2013

Get schooled OP.

by Anonymousreply 3202/18/2013

And thank god they do, R30. Who wants that skanky foreskin?

by Anonymousreply 3302/18/2013

Masculine gay admits he used to lisp.

by Anonymousreply 3402/18/2013

There are no 8 year old kids who are masculine. All masculinity is taught. Some kids cannot be taught.

by Anonymousreply 3502/18/2013

Like Katharine Hepburn.

by Anonymousreply 3602/18/2013

"Why is it so damn intoxicating?"

It isn't to me. I prefer feminine guys. Unfortunately, when I think of "Natural, effortless masculinity", the first thing that comes to mind is "The Most Interesting Man in the World", and he's a caricature.

by Anonymousreply 3702/18/2013

Everyone likes to think they're more masculine than they really are. You never ever hear gay guys going around telling everyone about how effeminate they are. It's so fucked up, this whole gender societal concept apparatus that we're stuck in. It perpetuates self hate and is ingrained within us from very early on.

From the moment we're born our parents assign us a "boy name or girl name". They treat us differently. They paint our rooms blue or pink. They buy us toy guns or Barbie dolls. From the very day we're born we are made to feel like we should act in a certain way and when we don't live up to that false perception of how we should act, we feel alienated and not good enough.

by Anonymousreply 3802/18/2013

I think Hugh Jackman and Bradley Cooper have natural, effortless masculinity. And the bods to back it up.

by Anonymousreply 3902/18/2013

Dwayne Johnson

by Anonymousreply 4002/18/2013

r30, you're a freak. Women have nothing to do with the design of men's basketball uniforms; if anything, male homophobia has driven the shift from tight little gym shorts to long, baggy shorts that conceal the players' asses and packages.

And in most hetero families I know, the *father* (as the parent who actually has a dick) made the decision about whether his son(s) would be circumcised. BTW, circumcision is much less routine and automatic in the US today than it was 50 years ago, so if indeed women have taken over the world, they must tend to be *against* circumcision.

by Anonymousreply 4102/18/2013

I think R39 is blind.

by Anonymousreply 4202/18/2013

James Garner

Clint Eastwood

Clark Gable

Toshiro Mifune

Jean-Paul Belmondo

James Caan

Jack Nicholson

Warren Beatty

Robert Mitchum

by Anonymousreply 4302/18/2013

Denzel Washington

Muhammad Ali

Omar Sharif

Max Von Sydow

Albert Finney

Michael Keaton

Tommy Lee Jones

Martin Sheen

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by Anonymousreply 4502/18/2013

Actually R41, I think it was some skin disease that Michael Jordan had that caused the whole shift.

by Anonymousreply 4602/18/2013

Sorry, just had to add Rod Taylor.

by Anonymousreply 4702/18/2013

Paul Lynde

Charles Nelson Reilly

Dom Deluise

Jm J. Bullock

Marcus Lamb

Tony Randall

by Anonymousreply 4802/18/2013

Mike Rowe. Too bad he's such a jerk.

by Anonymousreply 4902/18/2013

R8 wins!

by Anonymousreply 5002/18/2013

r38- dyke professor of gender studies. Go shave you pits

by Anonymousreply 5102/18/2013

That's so funny R45. No doubt everyone is aching from laughing. Thanks for having such a wonderfully wicked sense of humor.

by Anonymousreply 5202/18/2013

Bea's dick is bigger than yours, R52.

Don't mess with Bea, now. She is a DL Patron Saint!

by Anonymousreply 5302/18/2013

[quote]Don't mess with Bea, now. She is a DL Patron Saint!

So sorry. I must be new here. And I never heard about cak, graxy, and 34,124 unfunny posts by Helen Lawson.

by Anonymousreply 5402/18/2013

Machismo is hot

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by Anonymousreply 5801/01/2014

Will Smith

Michael Peña

by Anonymousreply 5901/01/2014

the Danny Pino troll

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by Anonymousreply 6401/27/2015

Pinga today, Pinga tomorrow, Pinga forever!!!

by Anonymousreply 6501/28/2015

[quote]Natural, effortless masculinity -Why is it so damn intoxicating?

Because it's bringing you the seventh Mai Tai you've ordered, OP, you drunken rummy.

by Anonymousreply 6601/28/2015

I don't think their is natural and effortless masculinity. I think there are guys who learn behaviors and can seamlessly use them.

by Anonymousreply 6701/28/2015

Hugh O'Brian

by Anonymousreply 6801/28/2015

I hooked up with a very naturally masculine gay guy a while ago. He was effortlessly masculine, and it was attractive. Unfortunately, he was a lowsy lover. :-(

by Anonymousreply 6901/28/2015

Well, as long as he wasn't lousy, right, r69(how fitting for the subject)?

by Anonymousreply 7001/28/2015

Alpha Males only bro

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by Anonymousreply 7212/16/2015

I supposed it is an attractive quality, but adults should not be placing so much emphasis on this. This discussion is rather infantile and feels like something high schoolers would talk about.

by Anonymousreply 7312/16/2015

Marlene Dietrich

by Anonymousreply 7412/16/2015

R59 neither of those clams in the Co$ are actually masculine.

Will Smith

Michael Peña

by Anonymousreply 7506/11/2016

R73 - 'This discussion is rather infantile'

Welcome to Datalounge

by Anonymousreply 7606/11/2016

R33 - And the circumfetishist makes another appearance. . .

by Anonymousreply 7706/11/2016

R34 that guy's not masculine at all.

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