R74 Meant to type "...thank you for the effort I am sure she will make in THE future," I missed the auto-correct. No, I'm not any of the things you think. I just know that a token of appreciation, random act of kindness, etc. really goes a long way.
Our society is getting so twisted by all the websites devoted to complaining about people and businesses, the customer service surveys at the bottom of receipts offering prizes for "feedback," even Amazon reviews are clogged with "product reviews" by people who hate books, DVD, etc. because of extremist right-wing political points of view, or because a third-party seller didn't do their job in packing and shipping the item properly!
For a sense of how negative and bilious we have become as a society look at the comments beneath You Tube videos! People will actually get into the most profane, off-topic, hostile arguments over the most innocuous clip of an old music video or scene from a show.
All I'm saying is if you simply turn that around and do the opposite; look the cashier in the eye and thank them for their customer service, let your postal worker or UPS employee know you appreciate how hard it must be to do their jobs in this horrible weather, or under the threat of closing small-town Post Offices-it's a good thing. People need to hear it and people need to express it-if only because it might make you stop and be grateful for what you have.
I'm not suggesting a bribe for doing the laundry right, or a condescending "gold star" of a gift, as if the person is an idiot who was truly challenged by the requirements of laundry. I'm simply recommending focusing on the good, rewarding the people who make this difficult life nicer, easier, more efficient and who have a good work ethic.
When is the last time you wrote a thank you letter, not out of social obligation, but out of genuine thankfulness over a job well done. Those little things mean a lot and isn't it a time we should all be pulling together to encourage civility, courtesy...niceness in general? We see the alternative on the news each night and it's not a very appealing path to be heading down.