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I'm pposting from the bathroom of a superbowl party

My ex is here and nobody told me he would be showing up, and I want to puke...he is here with somebody else too who he is now living with. i am so hurt, I am shaking. can I leave

by Anonymousreply 9705/13/2013

You are going to be fine, OP.

You are a functioning person with at least $18, which you used to post this message. You can function in sub-optimal conditions for an hour or two. You can also leave and apologize to your host later.

by Anonymousreply 102/03/2013

As long as y ou don't huffy strut out clutching your pearls so all can see your suffering then yes leave. You can go to a sports bar and drown your sorrows if you want but that seldom works out well.

by Anonymousreply 202/03/2013

sneak out quietly gurl

by Anonymousreply 302/03/2013

He is there in the bathroom with somebody else while you're shaking and posting on DL? I hope it's a big bathroom.

by Anonymousreply 402/03/2013

Of course you can. It sounds like someone trying to start trouble. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

by Anonymousreply 502/03/2013


by Anonymousreply 602/03/2013

I would run. And they should have told you.

by Anonymousreply 702/03/2013

I'm with r3. Just leave very quietly. Don't make a scene. Take care of yourself. Why suffer?

by Anonymousreply 802/03/2013

Leave quietly, just say goodbye to your host.

by Anonymousreply 902/03/2013

Just leave, don't make a scene. Tell the host later that you felt under the weather

by Anonymousreply 1002/03/2013







by Anonymousreply 1102/03/2013

Are you there alone? Do you have friends there? I know how you feel shaking and all. That would be a shitty situation, but fuck, why should you have to leave? Grab a friend and a drink and have fun. The best revenge is to live well.

by Anonymousreply 1202/03/2013

It all depends, and it isn't clear from your post who you are.

These things play out very differently depending on who you are at this event. Are you an elderfrau? or a gayling.

If you are a gayling, it will look like you are even more immature and that you have have been immasculated even more than possible.

If you are an elderfrau, it will look wise.

Consult someone before you act.

by Anonymousreply 1302/03/2013

If anyone asks, or if you want, tell the host that you have another party to go to but wanted to at least pop in and say hello.

by Anonymousreply 1402/03/2013

Please cause a scene!!!

by Anonymousreply 1502/03/2013

Thanks for pposting OPP. We hoppe you ppost an up date later.

by Anonymousreply 1602/03/2013

Leave an upper decker in the host's commode.

by Anonymousreply 1702/03/2013

Fake suicide

by Anonymousreply 1802/03/2013

The most important question is: are you still single?


Is his new boyfriend hot?

by Anonymousreply 1902/03/2013

My GAWD, I feel for you. It's gotta be a nightmare.

by Anonymousreply 2002/03/2013

Throw a glass at his feet and storm out, slamming the door.

by Anonymousreply 2102/03/2013

Slap your ex face, throw a drink on his new boyfriend, pop your fingers twice and sashay out the door.

by Anonymousreply 2202/03/2013

power through brah.just power through and everything will be ok

by Anonymousreply 2302/03/2013

The boyfriend is coming from inside the house!!!!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 2402/03/2013

Be charming, talk to his boyfriend, get him drunk then sabotage their relationship by letting all your X's dirty little secrets out. That should keep them busy for a few weeks.

by Anonymousreply 2502/03/2013

And do you have any quick-acting laxatives that can be easily dropped in his and his new squeeze's drink?

by Anonymousreply 2602/03/2013

Leave quietly, you don't need to put yourself through this if you don't want to. Why be miserable?

by Anonymousreply 2702/03/2013

What R22 said.

Do your best Bette Davis/Joan Crawford imitation!

by Anonymousreply 2802/03/2013

[quote]My ex is here and nobody told me he would be showing up, and I want to puke...he is here with somebody else too who he is now living with. i am so hurt, I am shaking. can I leave

Translation: some hot guy OP tricked with once and who blew him off afterward but who OP has fantasized about ever since and probably even told his friends about has shown up with some hot preen that he is going to fuck all night after the game and OP realizes a few people he has talked to about said ex-trick are also at the party and further more OP can no longer deny he is never going to be more than a C list gay in that group and now knows he has to find a whole new friend set a bit further down the gayling social ladder.

Vodka is nice.

by Anonymousreply 2902/03/2013

I like you, R25.

by Anonymousreply 3002/03/2013

OP, now is the time to summon that strong black woman deep down inside you. Get out that bathroom and start taking names!

by Anonymousreply 3102/03/2013

Just leave and watch the halftime show at home with a pizza and some good porn to masturbate to during the commercials.

by Anonymousreply 3202/03/2013

Host should have told both of you that you were both invited. Unless you don't know the host very well, in which not really his fault.

by Anonymousreply 3302/03/2013

Aren't there any razor blades in the medicine cabinet you can use?

by Anonymousreply 3402/03/2013

Take some cheese from the nachos, make sure it's got a little green chili on it and hang it from your nostril and go up to the new boyfriend and say "Hi, I'm his ex-lovah."

by Anonymousreply 3502/03/2013

Jesus, you're being such a drama queen. Unless you broke up a week ago, get over yourself and suck it up. If you want to leave, go.

It's a party. Don't be a pooper.

Having said this, please make a huge scene worthy of a Sally Field movie.

by Anonymousreply 3602/03/2013


I don't think OP is a cat.

by Anonymousreply 3702/03/2013

Well if the ex is living with his new boy, chances are it didn't happen last week.

Maybe OP being a little bit of a drama queen.

by Anonymousreply 3802/03/2013

That was kind of shitty of your friends not to tell you he was also invited, if the people who are having the party are aware of the situation and that it's awkward.

If they weren't aware though, you can't really blame them.

by Anonymousreply 3902/03/2013

BITCH! You better stay and eat all this food I bought and MADE! So what Rico showed up! We'll all forget about the awkwardness by the time Beyonce comes on.

by Anonymousreply 4002/03/2013

Get a knife. Unplug the TV set and sever the power cord. Inform the assembled guests that no football will be watched until you find out who very dared invite your ex and his new bf to the party.

by Anonymousreply 4102/03/2013

Swing low sweet chariot

by Anonymousreply 4202/03/2013

Do what feels right for you. If you cannot stay and take the high road, being gracious and friendly to the bastard ex and his new "whatever he is," then leave quietly. No need to suffer at ALL. BE KIND TO YOURSELF. And, yeah, pretty shitty of your friend not to tell you the ex was coming. Unless he/she did not know or you are not that close of friends.

by Anonymousreply 4302/03/2013

Thats the spirit r41!

by Anonymousreply 4402/03/2013

You could slip a finger in his new bf's ass and reveal that he doesn't wipe correctly.

by Anonymousreply 4502/03/2013

You're a dramatic, scene-stealing cunt, aren't you? Shut the fuck and go eat some Greek yogurt, ya dumb ass bitch.

by Anonymousreply 4602/03/2013

[quote]Jesus, you're being such a drama queen. Unless you broke up a week ago, get over yourself and suck it up. If you want to leave, go.

You have no idea what the OP is going through, because I've been through the exact same thing. This is as bad as it gets.

by Anonymousreply 4702/03/2013

Gay men are so dull. The lesbian scenario of this would already have a few flying drinks in it.


by Anonymousreply 4802/03/2013

r46 = ex's new boo thang, posting from the master bedroom

by Anonymousreply 4902/03/2013

I'm with R48. Our sapphic sisters would have crabwalked their way to a 911 call by now.

by Anonymousreply 5002/03/2013

This is becoming like gay Cleudo

by Anonymousreply 5102/03/2013

Walk up to your ex and say

"Did you forget about me Mr. Duplicity

I hate to bug you in the middle of dinner

It was a slap in the face how quickly I was replaced

Are you thinking of me when you fuck him?

'cause the love that you gave that we made wasn't able

To make it enough for you to be open wide, no

And every time you speak his name

Does he know how you told me you'd hold me Until you died, til you died

But you're still alive!"

by Anonymousreply 5202/03/2013

OP here. I faked sick and cabbed home, and I almost never take cabs. I am still shaking. I was with this guy for six years and he cheated. Worst heartbreak of my life. Now it seems he's so happy. Figured out that my fried's roommate invited him not knowing anything about the situation...apparently they know one another from the gym. Yes I know I am being a drama queen but WHAT THE FUCK. I'm thinking of hitting the bars and I don't drink.

by Anonymousreply 5302/03/2013

Nope. Stay. Success is the best revenge. Don't be too obvious about it, but show yourself as being just fine without him. As someone said, take the high road.

If you really can't do that, make some excuse to the host and quietly leave. But, don't make a scene.

by Anonymousreply 5402/03/2013

Vodka is an embarrassed queens best friend, OP. You need to go to the Eagle STAT.... and then there is that sunday night bondage club you should look into.

by Anonymousreply 5502/03/2013

OP, are you a man or a mouse?

by Anonymousreply 5602/03/2013

Glad you're doing okay, OP. Don't let that scene drag you down.

by Anonymousreply 5702/03/2013

Hit the bars, your pain will emulate without having to say a word. You are prime for butt rapping.

by Anonymousreply 5802/03/2013

My ex cheated and it fucked me up. You know what, that relationship ending was a good thing because now I'm with someone who being with has shown me what shits I was with before.

by Anonymousreply 5902/03/2013

OP/R52, it looka like we posted at nearly the same time.

I don't think you were a drama queen at all. (Yet) Since you could not stay in that situation, I'm glad you made some excuse to leave. Now you need to take care of yourself. Please stay home and don't go to the bar. Take a bubble bath or something, watch a comedy on TV, or absorb yourself in a good drama.

by Anonymousreply 6002/03/2013

Well isn't that a kick in the cunt, OP?

by Anonymousreply 6102/03/2013

Feel for you dude! I had a similar thing with a girl who was bi and got married to a mutual male friend. Last year , I was at a party and they both were there. I was hurt and mortified. Then she got drunk and flashed me. Oh how I so wanted to slap her silly

by Anonymousreply 6202/03/2013

Sorry, I meant to say "OP/R53"

by Anonymousreply 6302/03/2013

well OP, now we know your ex has so much power over you. do you hate him or love him?

by Anonymousreply 6402/03/2013

Good on you for leaving the situation, OP. Maybe staying in a clearing your head would be good for tonight? Do you have outside space? Is it too cold to spend half an hour just breathing and being outside?

by Anonymousreply 6502/03/2013

If you are a drama queen then walk up to your ex and loudly proclaim that he gave you (insert disease here) and he should have told you he had (insert disease here) before taking you bareback. Just make sure you use the same disease in both instances.

If you are otherwise a calm, rational person then 1) socialize with the other guests and make the best of a bad situation 2) exit with a plausible excuse like you have another party to attend or 3) sneak out (just make sure the party is being held on a ground floor or near ground floor location before exiting through a window. Exiting from a window higher than one story puts you in the drama queen category.)

by Anonymousreply 6602/03/2013

I hear you, OP. The woman I was with for six years cheated on me with a man she met online. Saw her at a mutual friend's NYE party, and felt like shit. I know the feelings are horrible and intense right now, but they WILL pass. Distract yourself -- take a walk or go to a movie.

by Anonymousreply 6702/03/2013

Stand next to your ex and snicker as if you've done something nasty. When he looks at you, wondering what's up, ramp up the snicker to a stifled giggle. Next, a pfffft-hah! as you look bug-eyed at his leg and then walk away while laughing. Pull this off, and he'll be the one who wants to leave.

by Anonymousreply 6802/03/2013

[quote]Hit the bars, your pain will emulate without having to say a word.

I expect you mean to say that his pain will emanate. Because otherwise, this would make no sense.

by Anonymousreply 6902/03/2013

girl, you left. you were suppose to play that off like it meant nothing to you. now your ex know you still have feelings. damn.

by Anonymousreply 7002/03/2013

"I hear you, OP. The woman I was with for six years cheated on me with a man she met online"

Ugh. Just no. You're better off without her.

by Anonymousreply 7102/03/2013

OP, at least you were invited to the party, bitch ....

by Anonymousreply 7202/03/2013

OP, do you have a stutter?

by Anonymousreply 7302/03/2013

Either (1) leave for your own sanity, or (2) get hammered and make a scene.

by Anonymousreply 7402/03/2013

This show is dull!

by Anonymousreply 7502/03/2013

Oh hunny. Don't be an amateur. Walk up to your ex, shake his hand, share a drink, have fun.

Introduce yourself to his new beau. Get him a drink. Get him 2. Tell him you're so happy you're ex is finally moving on after you 'dropped the stalking charges and restraining order'. Tell him you hope that he didn't give the herpes to him also, like he did to _you_. Finally, tell him that although you met your ex while he was an escort, you are SURE he is really a good person and has changed for the better. Don't forget to mention his former career as a bareback porn star. :D

Then, sashay away honey.

by Anonymousreply 7602/03/2013

Are you HIV positive? if so, slit your finger and rub it on the boyfriend. Worth a try.

by Anonymousreply 7702/03/2013

Why are you shaking about your ex? Don't let that bitch intimidate you! Get your ass back in that party and have a good time. Fuck him! Don't be such a goddamn sissy!

by Anonymousreply 7802/03/2013

OP, you are so weak for leaving the party. You need to acknowledge that you still have feeling for your ex so you can get over him!

by Anonymousreply 7902/03/2013

I agree R47. I went to a party that my ex dropped in on w/ a date, it was hard because it wasn't long after our breakup. It really sucked. Next party I had a date when the ex arrived and it was awesome. My date was hot and had just moved to the city so he wasn't part of the used up dating pool.

by Anonymousreply 8002/03/2013

Pull an irish goodbye.

by Anonymousreply 8102/03/2013

The first thing OP does when he's in distress and in a bad way,is log onto Data Lounge and ask all of his BFFs here to help him? He doesn't call or text his real life friends or family? Then again, if the OP is a such a cowering little queen, maybe his real life friends and family want nothing to do with him.

Carry on.

by Anonymousreply 8202/03/2013

I'm a girl OP and I totally agree with you leaving. You don't need a drink though, look up zen, do some yoga and meditation, you'll be fine & let go.

by Anonymousreply 8302/03/2013

OP, since you ran home grab your gun and come back and let those two bitches have it!

by Anonymousreply 8402/03/2013

Would you like me to send him some used panties, OP?

by Anonymousreply 8502/03/2013

Imagine swallowing Cheryl's pussy juices.

by Anonymousreply 8602/03/2013

I still haven't recovered. Where is my cane?

by Anonymousreply 8702/03/2013

[quote]You have no idea what the OP is going through, because I've been through the exact same thing. This is as bad as it gets.

I agree. It doesn't matter how long ago they broke up. Some breakups happen under terrible circumstances, so bad that you never want to see the person again. Some people turn out to be real jerks that make you sick at just the sight of them.

by Anonymousreply 8802/03/2013

[quote] Some people turn out to be real jerks that make you sick at just the sight of them.

Agreed. I have one ex who I haven't seen in five years who treated me so horribly at the end that I just want absolutely nothing to do with him. He's the only person I've dated who I'd completely ignore if he tried to say hello to me on the street. Luckily, we live three hours away from each other and don't run in the same circles whatsoever so I'm not worried at all about actually running into him. He has, however, tried to contact me a few times within the past two years, via email and texting, at first casual "Hey haven't talked in a while, how are you" type stuff, then more recently apologizing for how he acted and saying that he's really always cared about me, blah blah blah. Maybe it's petty, but I haven't responded at all. I haven't even sent him any "Fuck off" type of response, although I've briefly considered it. I think it would be childish and possibly imply that I still care for him on some level, but the main reason I don't do it is that I'd rather just not communicate with him in any way, period. Suffice it to say though, I would leave the vicinity if I saw him anywhere.

Shit, there's one lady who I have a lot of the same mutual acquaintances as who, if I see her anywhere, I will leave - and I don't even have any history of any type of close relationship with this person. She's just a cunt who says offensive and bitchy things to and about others unexpectedly, and you never know when she's going to do it. Anyway, I rather not be there to be offended by it when she does. I've only left a place once so far because of her, and I didn't make a scene; just made an excuse about needing to go, politely said my goodbyes and left. Life is too short to waste forcing yourself to be around people who disgust you to such a huge extent.

by Anonymousreply 8902/04/2013

"Now it seems he's so happy."

OP, or maybe he's not. Betrayal is a tough thing to forgive. He doesn't sound worth having. He'll probably cheat on and dump the current guy, too.

by Anonymousreply 9002/04/2013

Indifference is the BEST revenge. I don't know why more people don't understand this. Any sort of reaction shows you still care on some level. No reaction shows you do not care at all. If OP were to calmly enjoy the party and talk to the ex and the new bf the same way he talked to other guests, that would be the best way to handle it.

People hate to think they are not important enough to make a lasting impression or hold your attention. I love to mess around with narcissists and pretend I can't remember their names, what they do or how we met. It makes them crazy.

by Anonymousreply 9102/04/2013

[quote]Indifference is the BEST revenge. I don't know why more people don't understand this. Any sort of reaction shows you still care on some level. No reaction shows you do not care at all.

I completely agree with this, but if the OP really had such a visceral reaction to seeing his ex, then just leaving was probably the best thing to do in this case.

by Anonymousreply 9202/04/2013

I'm sorry, sir or madam, but with all due respect, I've got problems of my own.

by Anonymousreply 9302/04/2013

I have been cheated on twice over my very long life. Once that happened I lost all desire for that person. I guess I was hurt on some level but the main feeling was "what an asshole this guy is." I ddn't want anything more to do with him.

It's not that I think so highly of myself it's just that I have usually avoided people who are hurtful. That includes non-romantic or non-sexual relationships as well.

A neighbor - who admittedly had been getting on my nerves because she was proving to be selfish in her behavior and self-absorbed to the point of callousness to others - made some utterly thoughtless remark to me when I returned to town from my mother's funeral. I haven't acknowledged her presence since - except about 10 years after the incident she asked if she had done something to offend me. I just told her I didn't know what she was talking about and continued to ignore her. I had been a very kind, patient and generous friend to her before all this and I don't have time for peopel like that. Every so often when I see her I feel a twinge of guilt but then I snap out of it.

Cruel or selfish people do not deserve your attention.

by Anonymousreply 9402/04/2013

Did OP ever escape from that bathroom?

by Anonymousreply 9502/04/2013

Regarding the issue of making a scene or playing it cool, Miss Manners said it best:

"If you are rude to your ex-husband's new wife at your daughter's wedding, you will make her feel smug. Comfortable. If you are charming and polite, you will make her feel uncomfortable. Which do you want to do?"

Excellent advice!

by Anonymousreply 9602/04/2013

Darrell Issa is from Orange County, CA and California is pretty liberal. If more Californians knew what he was doing, they'd start hauling his ass out.

by Anonymousreply 9705/13/2013
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