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Have You Had Sex With A Woman? (Gay Men Only)

There's a freak in the Andrew Rannells thread who says that a majority of gay men have had sex with a woman. Let's see if it's true.

by Anonymousreply 18712/13/2016

Nope. Never have, never will. No desire to.

by Anonymousreply 101/12/2013

Are you kidding? I bathe in pussy.

by Anonymousreply 201/12/2013

No, and don't intend to.

by Anonymousreply 301/12/2013

Well, gay men are clearly united in their opposition to the pussy...

by Anonymousreply 401/12/2013

BREAKING: Gay men don't actively seek out vagine!

by Anonymousreply 501/12/2013

I let my female friends suck my dick if they are horny for me. I can't get hard to fuck them in the pussy. I do enjoy playing with titties, male or female, and I like to fondle and explore the pussy, I just can't get erect for fucking because that is not my orientation. If I have had a few drinks, it lowers my inhibitions and the women can get more from me than if I am stone cold sober.

by Anonymousreply 601/12/2013

I'm bisexual but prettend to be gay. Girls love gay.

by Anonymousreply 701/12/2013

Once. It was when I finally realized and accepted I was gay. My dick literally went numb. However, I will disclose it was a situation I was pressured into by my asshole father, so that probably was a factor too.

by Anonymousreply 801/12/2013

The Andrew Rannells freak is nowhere to be found... He's been proven wrong.

by Anonymousreply 901/12/2013

R6, LOL, no one believes that bullshit. What you wrote indicates you've never been sexually within 10 miles of a woman.

by Anonymousreply 1001/12/2013

I experimented with women in high school and college. It was a farce. I've always preferred the company of a man, society really can screw-up a young mind. This is why equality and acceptance is so important for the youth today. So much precious time is wasted.

by Anonymousreply 1101/12/2013

I was to fat in high school so no girls wanted anything to do with me during my "trying not to be gay" phase.

by Anonymousreply 1201/12/2013

I tried it with several prostitutes before I accepted the fact that I am homosexual. It didn't work because my cock would not stay hard enough for penetration. I thought that if I achieved coitus just one time, then I would have the confidence to do it for life. I could go ahead and get married and live as heterosexual, have babies, be normal, even if I might actually be a little light in the loafers. I always made a point of being very religious, from seventh grade on, and of course only dating girls who were also very religious. Some of them wanted to have sex with me in spite of our religiosity against it, but I had that built in abstinence excuse.

by Anonymousreply 1301/12/2013

Twice, with huge difficulty, at a time when I was still wrestling with my sexuality. I'm grateful to the woman, who was amazingly understanding (we remained fast friends); but the whole thing helped me realize that I was exclusively gay. Never looked back.

by Anonymousreply 1401/12/2013

I tried, but no woman would have me.

by Anonymousreply 1501/12/2013

Proud gold star gay. Gay men who have sex with women are losers who are still battling some shame issues.

by Anonymousreply 1601/12/2013

Considering that it's nearly 40% who have had sex with a woman according to this poll, bisexuality amongst gay men is a lot more common than folks on DL like to admit.

I notice that most of the posters in the actual thread, though, are defending the purity of their gold-starriness. Reads like defensiveness to an onlooker.

by Anonymousreply 1701/12/2013

No. No interest, no curiosity, no questioning of what I prefer...

by Anonymousreply 1801/12/2013

You aren't bi if you can't get hard enough to sit in the canoe.

by Anonymousreply 1901/12/2013

Well one has to be defensive, when gay men are pressured into straight sex by the bi and self-loathing gay community, all under the disguise of liberation and experimentation. I was constantly told I was some sorta half man for not having straight sex or getting into some MMF 3some. I was told I was boring, a prude and an uptight fag.

So take your muff diving face and shove it up your hole.

by Anonymousreply 2001/12/2013

I have had sex with a number of women. Most of the time it was fucking a woman with another man.

by Anonymousreply 2101/12/2013


by Anonymousreply 2201/12/2013

[quote] bisexuality amongst gay men is a lot more common than folks on DL like to admit.

It's not bisexuality if you're closing your eyes and pretending you're with a man.

by Anonymousreply 2301/12/2013

[quote]Considering that it's nearly 40% who have had sex with a woman according to this poll, bisexuality amongst gay men is a lot more common than folks on DL like to admit.

Stupid frau.. gay men have sex with women because it's what is expected of them. It's societal norms. If you actually read this thread most gays who had sex with women said they didn't enjoy it, and some even said they couldn't go through with it. Even if you do have sex with women before you come out, that doesn't necessarily mean you're bi. You're still gay. Gay men even get married and have children. Yes, it's possible, and no.. they were never bisexual, just in denial, deeply closeted and self hating.

by Anonymousreply 2401/12/2013

No. Never. 100% gay at 50.

by Anonymousreply 2501/12/2013

I wonder how many of the gay men who've fucked a woman are also tops in their gay life. I bet most.

by Anonymousreply 2601/12/2013

I wonder how many straight men would be physically turned on enough to have the ability to stay hard and screw a man.

by Anonymousreply 2701/12/2013

I have many times. Vaginas feel better on my cock. Assholes may be tighter but they do little more than squeeze my dick. A vag feels like my dick is getting a warm wet hug.

by Anonymousreply 2801/12/2013

No, r26.

by Anonymousreply 2901/12/2013

Thanks for answering my musings, r28. That really says it all!

by Anonymousreply 3001/12/2013

I also went through a period of confusion in HS and college.

I thought, if I don't taste lobster, how do I know I don't like it?

But there's no particular reason to be "proud" of being a virgin with women. That's just silly.

by Anonymousreply 3101/12/2013

r6 If you're lying back and having your dick sucked with your eyes closed and can't get hard, you need some help. It's very easy to be with a woman and just do oral. I've done it plenty of times. I lick pussy but that does not excite me. I have never stuck my dick into a vagina, however, closing my eyes and getting sucked by a female always makes me hard since I'm basically fantasizing about a hot guy doing it.

by Anonymousreply 3201/12/2013

Really, R29? Most of the gay men I know who've been with women are tops or top/versatile. And most of the bottoms I know haven't been near a vagine.

by Anonymousreply 3301/12/2013

Not necessarily, R26.

I've fucked two girls. One a good friend of mine when we were 19. Mmany times. We were both young, horny, I hadn't totally accepted the fact that I might be gay and we were just having fun. It wasn't an awful time by any stretch, too. I wasn't physically repulsed by what we were doing. The other girl was once in college. She threw herself at me all night long at a party so I finally relented let her blow me up a tree. Then we went back to my dorm room and I fucked her. She only told me, right beforehand, that she was a virgin. So...that happened. And it was really bad sex.

Then I finally wised up, got fucked for the first time by a guy and never looked back. It was the most amazing thing I had ever experienced. After bottoming for the first time, when the top was finished, I immediately asked him to do it again.

So, not all guys who experiment with girls turn into huge tops. I didn't.

by Anonymousreply 3401/12/2013

I was small, geeky and had acne in a small town H.S. I was also a bullied outcast, so the idea of dating or 'experimenting' with anyone but my hand was light years away.

By the time I moved to the big city in my early twenties, I was still a virgin. But 110% certain I was gay. Though this was before porn was widely available, so I didn't have a clue what you did with a man.

by Anonymousreply 3501/12/2013

I would stipulate that vaginas are particularly suitable for penises to fuck--mechanically, very serviceable. Been there. Done that.

But as a gay man, there's nothing like a sexy, male body and hard dick and bubble butt to fire me up. Also, I understand exactly how to make another guy feel good. Women's orgasms are always a little mysterious. You never can tell if or when they're ever finished, and you know you'll never really understand first-hand what's happening with them sexually, because it's a whole different set of things for them. You might think it's over, but is never really over 'til the fat lady sings, or something like that.

by Anonymousreply 3601/12/2013

Yes. Once. Big mistake. Unpleasant, unfulfilling, sad and resulted in a weirdness of ownership. (It wasn't my idea, I was young and manipulated.)

by Anonymousreply 3701/12/2013

R37 you are pathetic. 'Manipulated' my ass

by Anonymousreply 3801/12/2013

Boring, R17. Try and stir up outrage again later.

by Anonymousreply 3901/12/2013

59% of gay men said 'no' to societal pressure. Nice.

by Anonymousreply 4001/12/2013

Only slept with women in college, a total of six girls. It wasn't as bad as most gay guys would think. Last time I was with a girl, I went down on her. No shit, she had a yeast infection, and that was the last time I was with a girl

Guys only for the past 20 years. Not going back either.

by Anonymousreply 4101/12/2013

You are gay, you can't love a woman. You lose.

by Anonymousreply 4201/12/2013

I'm another who has no problem getting hard if someone wants to suck me off, but I am not able to penetrate. This is the same whether male or female, but I am much more strongly attracted to other men. Goodlooking, handsome, pretty, sexy, studly, masculine men. I don't mind letting a woman suck me off, and I don't mind letting a fat or fem man have a go at it, either. But as much as I want to experience everything, and get a piece of pussy to see what that is like, my cock just does not do it. And the same with anal. I want to be a top so bad that is all I fantasize about when I jerk off, and almost all the men that I've ever been with sexually want it, but my cock just won't. Does anybody know what might cause this? I am embarrassed to go to a sex therapist and say "Look I want to fuck a hunk in the ass, but I can't."

by Anonymousreply 4301/12/2013

R43? It means you're a bottom.

by Anonymousreply 4401/12/2013

Assphere, r44.

by Anonymousreply 4501/12/2013


DL bitches seem to have problems understanding that straight men don't all want cock, and gay men don't want vag.

by Anonymousreply 4601/12/2013

I think it's probably easier for gay men to have sex with women than for straight men to have sex with men, simply because man + woman has been the dominant evolutionary principle and sexual orientation since the dawn of time, and the sex organs were designed to merge, too.

by Anonymousreply 4701/12/2013

No. Vagina honestly disgusts me. I can see the attractiveness in women but boobs and vagina are huge no-goes.

by Anonymousreply 4801/12/2013

Bisexuality among gay men [R17]? Most of the guys who have said they've been with women more or less said they did it to prove to themselves they're gay or out of pressure, and couldn't even get hard to fuck. Which, magically, is the story for the overwhelming majority of gay men.

With that being said, there is nothing wrong with bisexuality or experimentation. At all. Sex is sex, sex is fun, so have fun with it, as long as it's safe (physically/emotionally) for the parties involved.

by Anonymousreply 4901/12/2013

Yes. It was pleasurable. It was not for me though. I have no fear of the pussy and can see why others find it as hot as I find cock.

by Anonymousreply 5001/12/2013

I consider anyone who isn't a gold star gay to be bisexual. Same goes for straight guys.

by Anonymousreply 5101/12/2013

Yes. I grew up in a small Texas town and dated girls all through high school in the early 80s. I had sex with seven different girls during that time. The sex was more like masturbation, just something to do to get off. I was never attracted to females sexually but it was much easier to have sex with them, plus it served as a cover for my closeted feelings in a very conservative little town. During the time, I already knew I was gay. I was having a secret relationship with one of my best buddies. I graduated from high school in May of 1983 and went off to college that fall. I dated one girl in college for a few months before giving them up for good. I have not been with a female since.

by Anonymousreply 5201/12/2013

Yes, in college before I came out at 20 years old. I guess it was pleasant enough. I remember the first time I finally did it with a girl we stayed overnight with friends and I had to hurry to work he next morning. I kept smelling pussy on my finger, even after I washed it. It was kind of gross and a turn on at the same time.

Fucked around with a few girls after that until I finally understood the sweet mystery of life on the Fourth of July, 1983. Bottomed a few times but am definitely a top by nature. Don't even like to suck cock that with it, yes. But sucking dries out my mouth and makes my jaw hurt.

Do enjoy a clean ass though.

by Anonymousreply 5301/12/2013

I am a lesbian. I know many more gay men who have never had an opposite-sex experience than women. The reason is that men pressure women to have sex with them in a very hard-core way in the young years (especially in the time and place where I grew up). With a few gold star exceptions, dykes have generally tried men more than gay men have tried women.

Sampled the fellas...very sexy and fun until the actual act takes which point it gets boring.

by Anonymousreply 5401/12/2013

[R-47] The body parts were designed to be dichotomous and incongruent and with totally distinct functions. Hence the reason that straight men have to get sexually aroused with body parts that they are totally unrelated to.

A man getting sexually aroused with body parts that are not the same ones that his body is made up,is simply faking sexual belonging and trying too hard to belong sexually to a person with a different body more than he actually does to someone of the same form and shape as himself. Exchanging masculine body traits such as penis,scrotum,male nipples,testicles etc for women's sexually dimorphic body parts, with distinct physical dimensions and functions, such as vagina,clitoris,boobs, uterine secretions etc, is what hermaphroditized males know how to do best.

The exchange of unequal body parts for the purpose of sexual arousal is a very severe type of androgynous inclination at the same level of transsexualism,and cross-dressing.Mild effeminate body gestures and voice is nothing compared to the hermaphroditizing undergone by many so called macho men.Those are the very ones who can spend years and years part taking and co-having feminine body parts with the opposite sex that they don't belong sexually to. Human society since the beginning of time has used all kinds of philosophical gimmicks such as religion,taboos,myth,morality and ethics in order to conceal the cost and impact of getting sexually aroused with strange body parts that are totally distinct in shape and functions from the ones we've got.The natural cost of sexual reproduction is extremely high. Only the most androgynous,sexually receptive and passive of the males can actually adopt body parts that they were not born with as legit sexual organs.

by Anonymousreply 5501/13/2013

NOT THAT DEEP. Its easier for dudes to be gay because they can get more ass from another ugly male than a good looking chick. less work more fukking. all mutts wanna do is fukk. and we can do a lot more of it with other mutts addicted to the same thing

and that gay voice thing is 99 times fake. guys pretending to be gay do that voice so other gay guys will know their ass is open for business

and a mutt is a mutt. no such thing as a special mutt who only fukss certain holes. mutts fuck anything and everything. most guys calling themselves gay still do chicks on the side and dont tell you.

they'd get kicked out of the so called "gay" club if they did

by Anonymousreply 5605/18/2013

r55 you are severely delusional.

by Anonymousreply 5705/18/2013

it looks hot

by Anonymousreply 5805/18/2013

[quote]I wonder how many of the gay men who've fucked a woman are also tops in their gay life. I bet most.

It's been years since I've had sex with a woman, but not so long since I've made out with a woman (and, yes, I got aroused).

I do like looking at male-female porn sometimes as well as male-male (though male-male is the default).

And I'm a top when I have sex with men -- the few times I've tried bottoming or being submissive feels less natural than it does being with a woman.

I don't know if I'm bi or gay-with-tendencies or what, but it doesn't really matter.

by Anonymousreply 5905/18/2013

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by Anonymousreply 6006/05/2013

Reply 6 and 34 call me 8572375237

by Anonymousreply 6106/05/2013

A majority of gay men have NOT had sex with women. Let this be remembered for future threads.

by Anonymousreply 6206/05/2013

I didn't answer the poll question because I'm bi with a general preference for men. Has anyone posted a Kinsey Scale poll on DL recently? I'd be curious to see separate ones for males and females (with numbers 0 through 6 as the poll options). I'd say I'm about a 4.

by Anonymousreply 6306/05/2013

I lost my virginity to Eartha Kitt. Once was ENOUGH for me!

by Anonymousreply 6406/05/2013

Yes, quite a few times. I never craved cock, but was attracted to guys. I am gay. Coupled. But you would never find me sucking off dudes.

I love to fuck. Pussy is nice. Some women are sexy to me still.

But my heart and my dick are married to one fine ass guy. His dick I suck. I like it.

We are all different and sexuality is on a continuum for many as much as many gay guys want to say otherwise. Except of course when there is a "straight" guy that they lust for and think has tendencies.....

Pussies are prettier than cocks to me, but I am gay and happily so.

Sorry to be contrary.

by Anonymousreply 6506/06/2013

R65 your honesty is refreshing.

by Anonymousreply 6606/06/2013

once i helped myself to some tittys while "enjoying" mutual masturbation with a second womyn. it was 19 and wasted at the time. i didn't even think of putting my peen inside. i don't like womyn like that. enough said!

by Anonymousreply 6706/06/2013

Please don't bash me for asking this question in good faith. I know that ED is a factor for men at one time or another, but it doesn't seem to be much of a problem for men in their 20's unless they are really loaded on cocaine or alcohol. So, having said that, if a woman is extremely attractive and is in no way encouraging a man to "take it there" but he wants to anyway, and then once in bed he cannot get an erection, would you feel safe to say that there is a good chance he is gay, but still having an internal struggle with himself? It happened with two different guys over a 5 year period, and they were very good looking and groomed to the max from head to toe. In other words, they were a little more suspicious than say, a couple of beer stained frat clods with dirty sheets. ???

by Anonymousreply 6806/06/2013

[quote] if a woman is extremely attractive and is in no way encouraging a man to "take it there" but he wants to anyway, and then once in bed he cannot get an erection, would you feel safe to say that there is a good chance he is gay, but still having an internal struggle with himself?

Let us judge your attractiveness.

In all seriousness - maybe. But it could be a million other things too. Someone upthread mentioned not being able to remain hard for penetration with men or women.

by Anonymousreply 6906/06/2013

I heard that too R20. Sort of old school, I don't think I have heard it in a long time. But ya, other gays would sort of imply that you were a prude if you didn't try women.

I never listened to their bullshit. It's like they wanted to to make the same mistakes they made so they can feel better about them self.

by Anonymousreply 7006/06/2013

Gold Star Gay here and proud of it.

I think the numbers are a little skewed. I would bet if you broke that down by age it would be about 70% elder gays have sex with women and more like 30% of younger gays.

The 20 or 30 something gays have not had the same kind of pressure to be straight as in the past so why eat sushi. The 80s called, they want their closed self hating gays back.

by Anonymousreply 7106/06/2013

Oh, for fuck's sake! I am a 43 year old woman and I have had one yeast infection in my entire life. I am SO sick of idiots on this site citing this as why they found sex with women revolting. IT IS RARE!!! So please STFU about this crap already! If you're gay and you found sex with a woman unfulfilling for that reason - great, say that, but stop with the moronic shit. Yeast infections are NOT that common.

by Anonymousreply 7206/06/2013

My one and only encounter with a woman was with a young lady whose last name was Dick. That alone should have told me something...I

by Anonymousreply 7306/06/2013

R65, you are the strangest anomaly of a "gay man" that I've ever heard. A gay man finding a pussy more attractive than a cock?! You are less common than 4-leaf clover. Or just actually bisexual, leaning-towards-women.

by Anonymousreply 7406/06/2013

I had a few girlfriends - I never thought I was bisexual, but I never thought having sex with women was all that gross. Certainly nothing like being with a man, obviously.

by Anonymousreply 7506/06/2013

Nope. Never have, never will. I'm from Generation-Y, so most of us never felt as pressured to "make" ourselves straight like past generations.

by Anonymousreply 7606/06/2013

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by Anonymousreply 7706/06/2013

every time i read this post i get so sad and more insecure than i already am, all i ever wanted was to be ina serious relationship with another man without having to worry about him leaving me for a girl, but it seems i have all the reason to worry, i cant believe you guys let women and sex n society manipulate you to betray our gay society, in tears.

by Anonymousreply 7806/06/2013

I was born a thoroughbred and I'll die a thoroughbred!

by Anonymousreply 7906/06/2013

[quote]a couple of beer stained frat clods with dirty sheets.

Now you're talking!

by Anonymousreply 8006/06/2013

Do F2Ms count?

by Anonymousreply 8106/06/2013

How long ago was that, mhb? Like 5 years ago? Obsessed much? Just get a girlfriend why don't you.

by Anonymousreply 8206/06/2013

I think what R55 is confusedly trying to say is that guys who build up their pecs and butt to attract other males are essentially enacting a female role. I agree. I like flat chested, flat ass guys!

by Anonymousreply 8306/06/2013

LOLOL. Honey, if you remember the calendar of when I had sex with whom, you personify the term obsession - WITH ME!


by Anonymousreply 8406/06/2013

Just because you like sex and can get hard with a woman does not mean you are bi. Gay is gay. If you prefer men, you are gay.

by Anonymousreply 8506/06/2013

I've had sex with at least 25 women. No joke.

I've played with hundreds of men but only had anal sex with about 70 (rough guess).

by Anonymousreply 8606/06/2013

God, your cock must smell, R86.

by Anonymousreply 8706/06/2013

[quote]Just because you like sex and can get hard with a woman does not mean you are bi. Gay is gay. If you prefer men, you are gay.

Mate, if you like having sex with women you are not gay, you are bisexual. If you prefer men that makes you a bisexual who prefers men, it does not make you gay. I'm always confused by other people's confusion on this matter. Gay/homosexual is exclusive sexual/romantic attraction to the same gender, str8/hetero is the opposite of this, anything in-between is bisexuality (which can have varying degrees). Why are people so insistent on changing the meaning of words?

Anyway, as to the poll, I'm another gay man who has never been with a woman. I also want to add that I am not grossed out by women and I think it's odd when some gay men make comments like this. I can appreciate beauty in a woman, I just have no sexual/physical/romantic attraction to women.

by Anonymousreply 8806/07/2013

Things change. Often day to day.

I found sex with women entirely enjoyable.

But sex with men is fucking mind blowing.

There's eating a granola bar, and then the finest cheesecake in the world. That doesn't mean you're anything - you just want to fucking chow down on the food that tastes fantastic.

by Anonymousreply 8906/09/2013

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by Anonymousreply 9006/11/2013

The poll is tainted, I meant to click "yes" and somehow my mouse slipped and I entered a "no". So adjust accordingly.

by Anonymousreply 9106/11/2013

Once. In high school. Did nothing for me.

The only thing that got me through it was knowing that my boyfriend at the time was also fucking this same girl. I couldn't 'get off' until I reminded myself that his cock had been in the same hole that my cock was currently plowing.

by Anonymousreply 9206/11/2013

R89 writes like the corpse of Heinlein. Granola and cheesecake?

One answer is unlikely to change the results much at this point, R91. You can breathe easy.

by Anonymousreply 9306/11/2013

R26 R29 R33 I used to fuck women and now that i am gay i am a top. And yeah I've found what R33 says to be generally true

by Anonymousreply 9406/12/2013

Most closeted/married men are bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 9506/12/2013

Bi lady here, and a guy I dated in my late teens slept with me, and THEN decided he was gay. It's happened a few times after too. I think I'm The Converter ..

by Anonymousreply 9606/12/2013

As far as pussy goes, I'm like 7-Up:

Never had it, never will.

by Anonymousreply 9706/12/2013

Well, I'm gay myself and I've had sex with women and I actually thought most gay guys went though the same, the results on this so far are intereting

by Anonymousreply 9806/17/2013

Are you in your 40's, R98? Many younger gays have never felt pressure to have sex with women.

by Anonymousreply 9906/17/2013

no!!! You get cancer from those dirty things.

by Anonymousreply 10006/17/2013

I have always wondered about this and found this thread fascinating. Back in college I had a couple of friends/crushes who I now know (20 years later) are full-out of the closet gay. One was pretty obvious even back then, but he was just incredibly sexy, was known to fool around with girls, and frankly I just didn't care. We made out one night and he was so smooth, a fantastic kisser. The other was a guy I had a mad crush on...had NO CLUE that he could be gay, I mean not even a sniff. We made out on a few occasions and he always was in relationships with girls. I took him to a sorority formal and later that night he tried to get me to have sex with him; I wouldn't do it, because I was fishing for a relationship first. I have always wondered why, if he was gay (and had to know it at 21,) did he want to have sex with me...I still don't get it.

by Anonymousreply 10108/05/2013

When you say "with," do you mean "alongside"? Then yes.

by Anonymousreply 10208/05/2013

I am a lesbian, but I slept with a gay guy friend once because he was curious. We are both definitely gay.

by Anonymousreply 10308/05/2013

The high number (48% said 'yes') is because this site skews ancient. The fortysomethings and fiftysomethings all had to screw girls in their youth to get by.

by Anonymousreply 10408/05/2013

R101 can't read and doesn't know when no one wants her around (IRL and on DL).

by Anonymousreply 10508/05/2013

No. Wouldnt mimd trying at least once one day just to see how it is...

by Anonymousreply 10608/05/2013

R105, a poll is for people for people that have answers that are directly applicable to the question. The reply function is for others to comment on the subject, or give an answer that varies from the poll choices. Thanks for your amazing contribution to the discussion, though.

by Anonymousreply 10708/05/2013

Once I realized I was gay at the age of 5, I had zero interest in girls. In fact, it wasn't until I was in my 30s that I completely understood a woman's monthly cycle or what the purpose of tampons were.

So, no, I have never had sex with a girl.

by Anonymousreply 10808/05/2013

That's dumb.

by Anonymousreply 10908/05/2013

Total virgin when it comes to females. I can appreciate female beauty, but only intellectually. Have never been aroused at the sight of a female. I LIKE women, just don't wanna' fuck 'em.

by Anonymousreply 11008/05/2013

I knew I was gay before I knew there was such a thing as "gay" - had a huge crush on my male best friend at age 6, and a ton of other boys growing up. Then I had a crush on a girl when I was 11. Then it was back to boys.

When I was 22 - between boyfriends - I had a 3-month fling with a girl and we had lots of sex. It wasn't bad, but it wasn't great. She, like everyone else, knew I was gay. I was totally out to all my friends and family.

Then it went back to guys and that was that. What's the big fucking deal?

by Anonymousreply 11108/05/2013

I have had sex with a girl before, though I am gay.

by Anonymousreply 11208/08/2013

You actually sound pretty defensive, R111. That's a long post to excuse a 3-month fling.

by Anonymousreply 11308/08/2013

Goldstar gays are winning!

by Anonymousreply 11408/08/2013

Ok, I know that I'm going to be called an EST but here goes.

I was married to a woman for a long time, came out and got divorced.

I have been with my partner for five years. We occasionally have sex with other people.

We went to a nude beach last week. We hung out in the straight section. We met a male/female couple who were very, very good-looking. We also met two other guys. We started drinking beer about 1pm. By 5pm we were all pretty trashed.

Ended up bringing the party back to our hotel and had a bisexual orgy. It was the first time I had sex with a woman in 10 years.

One guy was really more than a little bi. The other two, less so but still had fun.

by Anonymousreply 11508/08/2013

Only once... I met a couple where the wife got off on watching her bi husband with another man. We'd usually get together while she watched, but one night he asked me to close my eyes and she started to ride me while he was fucking me! It was great, but when I tried later without him, I couldn't keep it hard.

Great experience though!

by Anonymousreply 11605/31/2014

Been with and lived with women growing up through my "I'm not gay, rage, self loathing time". 50yo now and still a bit closeted (discreet) but like the dick 100%

by Anonymousreply 11705/31/2014

[quote]No. No interest, no curiosity, no questioning of what I prefer...

[quote]No, and don't intend to.

[quote]yes. Once. Big mistake. Unpleasant, unfulfilling, sad and resulted in a weirdness of ownership. (It wasn't my idea, I was young and manipulated.)

No imagine those EXACT same words coming out of some hot STRAIGHT guy if asked if he ever had sex with a man...

Picture these straight guys saying those exact same words, with the same honesty you all answered with.

What is the first thought to cross your mind?

by Anonymousreply 11805/31/2014

So, OP, with around 1350 votes and a 50/50 yes/no split, can we downgrade the guy who riled you in the Andrew Rannells thread from freak to peculiarly insistent?

by Anonymousreply 11905/31/2014

same question, same answers.

but with these straight guys?

Who would believe more?

by Anonymousreply 12005/31/2014

Curious about the mechanics of that, R116. What position was everyone in?

by Anonymousreply 12105/31/2014

I was 17 and she was 15. And it was really hot.

by Anonymousreply 12205/31/2014

When I was younger (late teens), I felt I could not rule out the possibility of being with women (or a woman), though I had a pretty good idea of where my orientation lay by that time. It wasn't an attempt to be "normal": I simply needed to play the field and not just blithely dismiss the female sex. I lost my virginity to a woman, proceeded to have an affair with her and, eventually, we moved in together. I was seriously considering proposing to her when she told me she had taken another man into my bed (while I was out of town on business for an extended period of time) and was leaving me. I was so shattered, so unprepared, so devoid of ego resources, it sent me into analysis for the next five years. At the time, I felt I was living in hell but in hindsight, thirty years later, it was the best thing that could have happened to me. I discovered something about myself and developed some cojones in the process. After several years, having survived the experience, I started dating men and have now been happily married for over twenty years.

by Anonymousreply 12305/31/2014

Never -- women's bodies do absolutely nothing for me. I have female friends that I love like family, but I don't see them as attractive in any kind of sexual way.

by Anonymousreply 12405/31/2014

What's this "Gold Star" bullshit?

Methinks the ladies doth protest too much.

I don't understand the concept of pride in not doing something that you have no interest in doing.

Yay for you!

by Anonymousreply 12505/31/2014

[quote]There's a freak in the Andrew Rannells thread who says that a majority of gay men have had sex with a woman.

Maybe gay men of a certain age have tried it before since they came from a time when being gay was just awful and they were desperate to try to make themselves straight, but most gay men from Generation Y don't feel the need to try to make themselves be straight and know that they have no desire to have sex with women, so they don't bother.

by Anonymousreply 12605/31/2014

I bedded quite a few girls in my younger years and actually lived with a hot, intelligent (MBA 4.0)Italian girl and for 2 years. I was happy and content although I still looked at men pics online. Once while making love on the dining room table I started fascinating that what I was pounding was a hairy mans ass then I opened my eyes to my girl laying there crying. You see we started doing it on the table because I could funk her and stimulate her clit with my finger at the same time. She cried because it put her in ecstasy. That was 20 years ago and I've been a cock sucker ever since.

by Anonymousreply 12706/05/2014

One of the most disturbing things in this whole discussion is how little tolerance is found for anyone having a different opinion, viewpoint or experience. There are some open minds but the jaded and narrow-minded attitudes shown here are as bad or even worse than in the straight communities.

by Anonymousreply 12808/31/2014

Blah blah blah a lying refrain we've heard a thousasnd times R128

by Anonymousreply 12908/31/2014

Yes. Twice in college. One time each with two different girls. The second one got pregnant. True story. Nightmare.

by Anonymousreply 13008/31/2014

The furthest I've gone with a woman was when I was 19. She gave me a blowjob while her boyfriend was at work and I tried to reciprocate by fingering her. It was just..ummm, not for me. She wanted me to fuck her but I just couldn't do it.

by Anonymousreply 13108/31/2014

R104 Not really. I'm a 55yo male, and at age 21, I had already come out when I decided to experiment. I could have stopped it from happening, but I wanted the experience. I was not "confused " about my sexuality and only had sex with men prior to this incident. She was fully aware of who I was and that I was gay.

I haven't since, but there was another time when I was really drunk and had the desire to and would have if the opportunity arose. I don't consider myself bisexual, but there's a lot more fluidity in sexual attraction that some people don't want to believe exists.

by Anonymousreply 13208/31/2014

R126, I'm 21 but I've found that younger gay men are more open to having occasional sex with women than older gay men because of the acceptance of sexual fluidity. I'm mostly gay but find some girls attractive. I've never slept with one but I intend to.

by Anonymousreply 13308/31/2014

Sexual fluidity is bullshit. If you like sex with women, you're bi, not gay.

by Anonymousreply 13408/31/2014

yea with no problem. three times a day kinda thing. loved to eat her. but then I discovered guys ....

by Anonymousreply 13508/31/2014

R121, not R116, but I imagine he was on his back, legs spread while the man entered him, fucking in the missionary position - the woman was sitting on R116's cock, likely reverse cow girl, so she could see her husband fucking R116.

by Anonymousreply 13608/31/2014

R134, bisexuality implies attraction to both genders at all time. It doesn't always work that way. I know a gay man who was married to a woman and he was very in love with her and enjoyed sex with her very much. But, she's the only woman he was ever attracted to. Then they got divorced and he's been only with men for 20 years, no attraction to women. Is he bi? You can be straight or gay for one person and sexuality can change throughout your life. I'm sorry guys on DL are so stuck up.

by Anonymousreply 13708/31/2014

totally, lots of girls, well, some girls, until I was about 22

by Anonymousreply 13808/31/2014

No I don't believe it r170. If you're attracted to one woman and enjoy her body and fucking her, you would be attracted to other women and want to fuck them as well.

by Anonymousreply 13908/31/2014

R139, attraction to a woman isn't all about pussy and boobs. You can fall in love with who she is as a person. Same with a man. He loved her and enjoyed sex with her despite the fact that she was a woman and not because she was a woman.

by Anonymousreply 14008/31/2014

Gay men do not enjoy sex with women. Straight and bisexual men do. A woman being lovely and smart and beautiful is all well and good but it's not going to get a gay man's dick hard. Your friend is bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 14108/31/2014

I'm happy I'm not the kind of soulless, superficial gay that you are R141. Sexuality is much more what gets your dick hard.

by Anonymousreply 14208/31/2014

R141 Well if you say so, then it MUST be true.

by Anonymousreply 14308/31/2014

I'm in college right now

Went to a Halloween party last year, semi-blacked out (have a drinking problem), only recall: being in a frat house basement--grinding on a girl--DFMOing (dance floor makeout for you elders)--in my bed, fucking, her asking if I had a condom (which I didn't), me eating out pussy for the first time

I woke up the next morning still a little drunk with this girl (not bad looking but not a stunner... "butterface" might be best description) lying naked next to me. So I smoked a bowl, she woke up, and to alleviate the awkwardness we fucked again... and then again, in the shower

This came about a week after I'd gotten my ass pounded in about 10 different positions in 3 different rooms in a junior's apartment

I actually found it somewhat fun (the horror!), and fucked her probably 5 or more times throughout the end of the year, though always after at least 8-10 beers/shots. It makes me wonder if I'm bisexual--though I tend to think I did it mostly because I was lonely, closeted, drinking way too much, so being naked in bed with someone soothed all that temporarily

And now the kicker: at one of the last parties of the year at her apartment (after I'd been avoiding her for a little bit) I got really drunk and we started grinding on the dance floor and making out. Went up to her bedroom where I told her I liked guys (she goes: so you're bisexual?) and I said only guys...

and then proceeded to pound her pussy doggy-style while the party raged downstairs.

And that's my story

by Anonymousreply 14408/31/2014

A gay man liking men and cock exclusively makes me soulless and superficial? I've heard it all now. You are nuts.

by Anonymousreply 14508/31/2014

It makes you soulless and superficial if you think sexuality is only about what gets your dick hard. It's much more than that.

by Anonymousreply 14608/31/2014

No never. My brother's all had girlfriends and eventually married. They never said anything but I realized they when asked "you never got married" I always reply "my career came first and now it's too late."

by Anonymousreply 14708/31/2014

I wonder with all the random coitus going on, was anyone surprised when told she was pregnant with YOUR child.

by Anonymousreply 14808/31/2014

[quote]My brother's all had girlfriends and eventually married.

Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 14908/31/2014

Yes, and I would probably do it again under the right circumstances. I'm only interested in dating men, though, so yeah, I'm gay.

by Anonymousreply 15008/31/2014

(R72) you need to check out a lesbian/dyke message board. Do you clean out that hole of yours with vinegar, toilet brush inserted to make sure it is completely clean.

by Anonymousreply 15108/31/2014

I love pussy. Not crazy about what it's attached to.

by Anonymousreply 15208/31/2014

[quote]Yes, and I would probably do it again under the right circumstances. I'm only interested in dating men, though, so yeah, I'm gay.

You are bisexual. Notice the SEXUAL in bisexuality. You are a homoromantic bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 15308/31/2014

you can be gay and attracted to women. sorry if guys who have never been with a woman are defensive and try to claim the gay title all to themselves. sexuality is fluid: you can be a 9 out of 10 on gay scale and still be attracted to the occasional woman. it certainly doesn't make you straight and not even bi. you are gay with an occasional dalliance on the other side. bi means 5 out of 10 on gay scale with equal attraction to men and women. it is rare indeed.

by Anonymousreply 15408/31/2014

[quote] bi means 5 out of 10 on gay scale with equal attraction to men and women.

That is not even close to what bi means.

by Anonymousreply 15508/31/2014

Why are all you 'sexuality is fluid' people trying to reinvent the wheel? If you are, to whatever degree, sexually/romantically attracted to women then you are not gay, you are bisexual. It's not some insult, it's a statement of fact. Why are bisexual people so reticent to claim their bisexuality? You can't be gay and then say you want to have sex with women - that makes you bisexual. That would be like me sitting down to a steak dinner but insisting to others that I'm a vegan. It's simply ridiculous to ask others to play along with your definition gymnastics when there is already a perfectly fine word that encompasses those people who fall between the polar ends of gay/straight.

Onto the actual poll, I'm a gay man and I've never been with a woman, no desire to. I can appreciate female beauty but feel no sexual/romantic attraction to them.

by Anonymousreply 15608/31/2014

r156, a voice of sanity

by Anonymousreply 15708/31/2014

so 156 a guy who had sex with one girl in high school and then turned exclusively to guys for rest of life is bi ? that's absurd. it's as absurd as claiming the guys who experiment with each other in British boarding schools and then settle down and date and marry women are bi. that's tosh. in my examples, the former is gay and the latter straight.

by Anonymousreply 15808/31/2014

I think a lot of posters here are just jealous that they could never get a girl to fuck them

by Anonymousreply 15908/31/2014

[quote]so 156 a guy who had sex with one girl in high school and then turned exclusively to guys for rest of life is bi ?

If he is sexually attracted to women, yes, he is bisexual. Doesn't matter if he's only having sex with men, sexuality is not defined by actions, it's who you are.

by Anonymousreply 16008/31/2014

r156 here. Thanks r160, you took the words right out of my mouth.

by Anonymousreply 16109/01/2014

Lots of guys (no idea what actual %) fuck girls in high school and college because they think they can change their orientation. This is particularly true with guys who are more into sports and whose friends are all hetero.

I know very few (2 or 3) who continue to fuck women once they come out.

Not sure if that's preference or just that our society pressures everyone to pick a side.

by Anonymousreply 16209/01/2014

Isn't that what college is for?

Has sex with three women in college, found out that I am very good at the mechanics of the female orgasm.

Technique is technique.

All male since then.

by Anonymousreply 16309/01/2014

When you're in high school it's just easier to fuck girls and it just helps you fit in better. College is different.

by Anonymousreply 16409/01/2014

Op, you should have asked everyone listed their ages. Because the current gay generation is not sleeping with the opposite sex.

by Anonymousreply 16509/01/2014

Not since 1976. I was 14 years old. Seduced by a 16-year-old "older women".

by Anonymousreply 16609/01/2014

Lots of bisexual liars posting anti-gay filth.

by Anonymousreply 16709/01/2014

Well, more girl than woman.

by Anonymousreply 16809/01/2014

Yes. It was the worst three minutes of my life.

by Anonymousreply 16909/01/2014

Hell to the no. Of the tens of thousands of erections & orgasms I've had in my life, I can honestly say not a single one of them was caused by a female.

by Anonymousreply 17009/01/2014

I fucked my boss. Got me a promotion.

by Anonymousreply 17109/01/2014

trans shit posting pro-hetero anti-gay trans filth

by Anonymousreply 17209/01/2014

[quote]Lots of bisexual liars posting anti-gay filth.

typical of bisexuals

by Anonymousreply 17309/01/2014

r163 -- exactly! my first time fucking a girl (in my shitty twin bed in college) I go multiple times for at least a couple hours, going down, eating pussy and everything, and she can't get enough--"you're so good at this" "how'd you learn this?"--made her come multiple times every time we fucked

only experience before that was slamming man ass and sucking cock... go figure!

my conclusion is that straight guys really suck at sex. I suspect gay guys are better because they understand from fucking men that it's a reciprocal act, not just bust-your-nut-then-it's-done. I was so embarrassed I came early that I ate that pussy for at least 10 minutes so I could get hard again

by Anonymousreply 17409/02/2014

also, au contraire r165 -- I'm not yet 21 and I've fucked a girl multiple times and would do it again, under the right circumstances (i.e., 8+ drinks)

by Anonymousreply 17509/02/2014

You need to give a third choice OP: "Not Sure, I think it was a Woman"

by Anonymousreply 17609/02/2014

LOL.This thread's full typical-garbage-Bisexual whom like labeled as Gay.Disguisting.

by Anonymousreply 17705/21/2015

I am starting to believe that many dy.kes and are just confused people bisexuals

by Anonymousreply 17805/30/2016

No never. It wouldn't work. A womans body does nothing for me. Couldn't get it up for one.

by Anonymousreply 17907/31/2016

I was always told and made to feel that more than the majority of Gay Men have had sex/done sexual things with females, and liked it, enjoyed it, wanted it, and needed it; and even still do it here and there. And everything I seemed to see and encounter no matter where I went or who I was this, confirmed this as being the actual reality. Honestly, it use to depress me and still depresses me immensely, because, while I understand Gay Men who have done it once or twice out of pressure or because they felt they had to etc, all the other stuff just made me feel immensely confused and unable to ever properly and fully connect with another Gay Men.

Just recently, a Gay Guy I had been seeing for Two Months, told me he didn't want a female or a vagina and that he hadn't sex with females since he was 18. Because I fell in love with him and care for him deeply, I felt like I could actually be happy in the way I wanted to with another Gay Guy. He asks me if I have ever had sex or been sexual with a female, and when I answered no, he looks at me like I am abnormal because I never wanted to or needed to, or desire at all to do so. Then I find a Vagina Fleshlgiht him and his ex boyfriend would use, and which he still kept for a Year, and he tells me with a smile from ear to ear with the most brightest enthusiasm about how good it feels. My heart fell into my stomach.

by Anonymousreply 18009/14/2016

I'm a top and when I was younger until about my late 40's my sexual urges were strong. So I fucked whoever attracted me. HOWEVER most women do not attract me. I don't really notice women for the most part but every now and then I run across a women that I have crazy sexual chemistry with and I want to fuck the shit out of her. It's just chemistry and I don't let it fuck with my head. I actually appreciate it. I like knowing that in some small way I can connect to humanity and not just one segment of it.

by Anonymousreply 18109/14/2016

Hmm, poll says it is common for gay men to have had sex at least once with a woman. Comments say there are all kinds of reasons for that. Why don't people get to decide for themselves what they are? Why should someone who only ever tried sex with a woman once be called bisexual? Seems like bisexual should be reserved for people who feel attracted to both sexes.

To say "I only like to have sex with men, but I'm bi because once I had sex with a girl a long time ago" sounds ridiculous. It's more like, "I'm gay, but I did have sex with a girls once a long time ago."

by Anonymousreply 18209/14/2016

* with a girl (not girls)

by Anonymousreply 18309/14/2016

I learned all sorts of things on this thread, including that gay men are not "humanity" (cf r181).

I wonder if straight guys who only go women feel the same - that they're not connecting with "humanity".

by Anonymousreply 18411/25/2016

I've always been gay. But back when i was 19 i had my hetero virginity popped by a chick i met online. College was a bitch Paying for it (still is). I worked 2 part time jobs one at Burger king and at Walmart, both had shitty salary's. I used Craigslist to find any small side jobs. I remember finding an add of a girl searching for film/videography assistance that payed $400!! At the time i didn't remotely question the add i needed money quick. i just dialed the number and asked if anyone had already done the job. She said no but she asked for pictures of me. Like i said i didn't question i sent her 2 photos and got back an address . I get their and it turns out she was trying to fuck someone to put on her porn site . Obviously i said no im gay. But she insisted, she said a "gay guy? thats even better". I kept saying no to the offer. until she offered to pay me $650 for it. I knew i had my dorm rent coming up. So i said fuck it. It was so awkward at first Butt naked on a couch my dick hanging out and a girl looking at it through a camera lense while she set up. Luckily she was a stoner and offered me a couple hits from her pipe. she started by sucking my dick . Surprisingly that weed made it so much easier it felt like a guy was doing it but better cuz i was high, a good 10 min after sucking my dick she got up and slid right onto it. Not going to lie it felt surprisingly good like a super wet tight blowjob without any teeth. she did most of the work riding me and basically jumping up and down moaning excessively and looking back at the camera. 15 min into riding me i knew i was close to cumming and whispered in her ear im going to cum because we didnt use a condom. Idk if she heard me but she kept riding me and i couldnt hold it any longer. But cumming inside her pussy felt intense and amazing. i couldnt believe i had just fucked a girl. she kept doing me until my dick was completely soft inside her. Luckily after fucking she popped birth control and told me that creampies were her #1 requested videos but she wasn't ready to get pregnant, nor did i want to be a dad. after this I seriously reconsidered my sexuality was i gay or bi? But i find it more of a fetish now to simply fuck a vagina not out of physical or emotional attraction to a girl but to her genitalia. i still consider my self gay even though i do occasionally hook up with girls when im on drugs. I just like the way their insides feel but i Still prefer a relationship with a man. Im 21 now.

by Anonymousreply 18512/12/2016

Ive been questioning my sexuality. 2 months ago i got my dick sucked drunkenly by a girl in an alley. I was at a club and took some ecstacy. soon after it started making me really horny and out of no where started grinding with a girl who was next to me. being so horny we both stepped out for a fro (cigarette). I was high on drugs and she was drunk on god knows what. Jokingly i told her how bad i wanted to get my dick sucked. She started laughing and pulled me by the shirt into an alley 2 blocks down. sure enough she unzipped my jeans and started sucking away at my dick. It honestly felt awesome and she was performing a better job than most guys seeing as i have a bigger dick than most people. eventually she made me cum and even swallowed my load. after that night ive been considering being bi and have gotten at least 5 other blowjobs from girls since then.

by Anonymousreply 18612/12/2016

Yes, before joining my frat house in college my frat brothers knew that i was gay, i had to let a girl suck my dick before officially joining the fraternity. it was during rush week when it happened. A girl they picked blew me as they watched until i came . Since then i don't mind getting head from chicks i find that a blowjob is a blowjob no matter who is doing it. I'm just not emotionally attracted to girls in the way that i would want to date them.

by Anonymousreply 18712/13/2016
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