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Is it too late to bottom?

I'm 31, pretty sexually active and never bottomed. I'd like to try it, but I'm nervous. The last time I tried I was too tight and I asked them to stop. Was thinking about posting an ad asking for someone to teach me how to bottom.

by Anonymousreply 5106/20/2015

Dude, why would you want to try it at your age?

by Anonymousreply 101/06/2013

Never too late to teach an old whore new tricks.

by Anonymousreply 201/06/2013

Because I'm getting old and tired of topping. I just wanna lay there and get fucked.

by Anonymousreply 301/06/2013

I was over 30 when I first bottomed. Loved it. The guy was divorced. Had a nice sized cock, not huge, not small. Used it perfectly. Patient, but steady. Really knew what he was doing. Great 1st time.

by Anonymousreply 401/06/2013

Try anal eaze OP. That shit works amazingly. I have never been a fan of bottoming (in my 30's too) but it was recomended to me by a FB. I have used it a few times, prostate massage and being fucked and I found it to be comfortable and downright enjoyable. You can get it on amazon and at adult toy stores.

by Anonymousreply 501/06/2013

Why don't you come up and see me sometime, op?

by Anonymousreply 601/06/2013

Look at this way - since you never did it before, you'll have the asshole of a teenager.

by Anonymousreply 701/06/2013

It is a little too late to do anything in Gay world. 30 is death.

(See QAF: Brian's Death Day episode for the details)

by Anonymousreply 801/06/2013

no, it's a stupid question, OP

by Anonymousreply 901/06/2013

Nobody wants an Elder Gay Bottom, unless cash is offered.

by Anonymousreply 1001/06/2013

What does your ass smell like OP?

by Anonymousreply 1101/06/2013

What does it taste like, op?

by Anonymousreply 1201/06/2013

Jesus Fucking Christ, just buy a cucumber and get it over with.

by Anonymousreply 1301/06/2013

[quote]I asked them to stop


by Anonymousreply 1401/06/2013

Cucumbers make a wonderful toy. Careful with the end, it can be rough, smooth it first. Use a condom to keep it clean for salad later....

PS Heat the cuke for a few seconds in the radar range, feels more lifelike.

PSS Don't let your eyes be bigger than your manhole! Start small!

by Anonymousreply 1501/06/2013

30 = eldergay? Wow.

With straightfolk, 30 is kind of the new 21 (ignoring Hollywood).

by Anonymousreply 1601/06/2013

If you haven't been using Clinique on your hole since puberty, nobody will want it, so your desire is futile.

by Anonymousreply 1701/06/2013

Yea that word jumped out at me too R14.

by Anonymousreply 1801/06/2013

Please do not use anal-eze. The pain is telling you something.

by Anonymousreply 1901/06/2013

OP, you should have at least had some experience when you were 25 years old. I don't know if your anus can take it at your elderly age. You don't need to bottom to enjoy sex, just go with the flow.

by Anonymousreply 2001/06/2013

[quoute]Sometimes, we fantasize during sex; we don't always think about the actual person, place, or thing we are playing with at that moment. Her fingers can be a rock hard cock, his tongue can be the tongue of a goddess, or that dildo could be a cop's nightstick. In erotic role-playing, the ability to fantasize is crucial. You know that "burglar" is really your lover, and you're not in actual danger. You need to suspend disbelief and go there for it to work. Fantasy is healthy; you want to feed your inner headmaster, nurse, or pervert, but you also want to connect with your partner and feel like you're in your body.

Someone needs therapy to get over reading mommy's sexual self help books from the 70's.

by Anonymousreply 2101/06/2013

[quote] Use a condom to keep it clean for salad later....

Please tell me you are joking.

by Anonymousreply 2201/06/2013

Who's joking? Haven't you read "The Joy of Gay Sex"?

by Anonymousreply 2301/06/2013

What, r22, you've never heard of post-anal salad?

by Anonymousreply 2401/06/2013

"I'm 31, pretty sexually active" I would say pretty sexually limited would be a better statement.

by Anonymousreply 2501/06/2013

Microwave those cukes, gurls!

by Anonymousreply 2601/06/2013

Are there children posting here? How can anyone think a 31yr old is too old to get laid or to try something new? Are some of you posting from your tree house on your big sister's iPad? Freaks.

by Anonymousreply 2701/06/2013

Hang it up Eldergay. Don't even go there. 30 years old is too old for sex, period. I'm only 21 but I promise that when I turn 30 my hole is closed forever and my dick will never touch another man. I'll prolly go straight. Guys over 30 who have gay sex are an embarrassment. Homosexuality does have a shelf-life. Know yours. Sad, but true.

by Anonymousreply 2801/06/2013

Self-loath much, r28?

by Anonymousreply 2901/06/2013

R28. I have to assume you mean this comment to be satiric--otherwise, you might as well hang it up now, as it would mean you are too stupid and shallow to live.

by Anonymousreply 3001/06/2013

anal eaze is the ticket!

by Anonymousreply 3101/07/2013

R28 You are a sad individual. You should go ahead and hang it up now. If you think anyone who is over 30 (FUCKING 30?) should give up their sex life and leave it to the "young and worthy", then you are a fucking idiot. Sex is something to be savored and enjoyed by people far over 30. Get over it.

by Anonymousreply 3201/08/2013

r28 is either being facetious or is some bitter old guy, trying to oppress the OP.

I am not a bottom, but if you are 31 and not psychologically drawn to it and haven't been fucked to pleasure then that is a clue.

But not a closure to the subject. Some guys love to be fucked for the power and feel and all that stuff, it's fine = but lots more get real physical pleasure from being fucked right and that spot being hit hard and deep and repeat, or a bit slower.... It is not an intellectual exercise.

Buy a smallish vibrator, or butt plug, don't ram yourself, see if you can get the prostate and dick connection. This is good advice. (With real dick a bit bigger is better babe)

If you do then look for a good candidate. Do lots of squats, your ass has to look good. So many guys out here make sex seem like a political human rights act. Na. Got to want it and for it feel good in some way. Passion, attraction and heat work best.

I don't have the love to get fucked physiology but I tested it out quite a bit. Lucky my bf is a wild ass black bottom with that wet ass and I got the big fat goods to hit the spot over and over and over. He is more a man than me in lots of ways but I love to fuck hard and long and I love to please him. It works.

You are not too old, crazy boy.

by Anonymousreply 3301/08/2013

What happens to the gay male anus after 30+ years bottoming?

by Anonymousreply 3401/13/2015

You guys are ridiculous. R28 was having some fun and you squares ruined it.

by Anonymousreply 3501/13/2015

Nothing R34. Many men take dumps the girth of a penis their whole lives and nothing happens to the sphincter.

by Anonymousreply 3601/13/2015

lube up and think of England

by Anonymousreply 3701/13/2015

OP. I say go for it. Just be ready for some side affects at first. You will probably leave shit on the guy's dick or end up crapping on the bed. Since you have never had anal and are 30+ (I call bullshit on being 30. you are probably more like 50) this is to be expected. To prepare, place a sheet of plastic on the bed then cover it with old blankets that you can throw away.

Also, expect to contract AIDS. It's also quite normal and is nothing to be afraid of. Today's medicines work wonders. And once you are positive, you can have all the unprotected sex you want (to make up for your 'dry years'_.

Good luck! Report back when your viral load is over 100,000 and your CD4's are below 200. We are rooting for you!!

by Anonymousreply 3801/13/2015

OP. Excuse my misuse of the word 'affects'. It should, in fact, be 'effects'.

Thank you, and happy 'getting fucked'.

by Anonymousreply 3901/13/2015

Older bottoms are hot kinky studs

by Anonymousreply 4001/13/2015

I've been having a problem similar to the OP's. I've tried several times & there is no pain with insertion but I I'm nervous so each time I start out as relaxed as possible but then I tense up and it shoots right back out once we get things going. I've only tried 3 times and it's getting better but am I doing something wrong?

by Anonymousreply 4106/13/2015

I didn't want to be crude but R36 said it all.

I prefer to top but bottoming can be great too, with the right man.

It may be uncomfortable at first if you've never done it, but bear with it. It's best with a bf so you can do it daily for a week. By the 7th day, it won't hurt at all; you'll really like it. Lots of lube.

Remember, unless he's porn-sized, he won't injure you, even if it hurts in the beginning. One thing: If it's too painful ask him to pull out for a minute or two, then try again.

I think a lot of guys who won't bottom at all had a bad first time with an asshole who intentionally (?) hurt them and kept going.

Give it a chance, though it may not end up being your thing (all puns intended).

by Anonymousreply 4206/13/2015

[quote]I think a lot of guys who won't bottom at all had a bad first time with an asshole who intentionally (?) hurt them and kept going.

That's what happened to me, I had no idea he got off on inflicting pain. I dumped him & was afraid to try again for years until recently.

by Anonymousreply 4306/13/2015

Unless you've become a pass-around bottom to one and all by the time you are 27, OP, your opportunities are very limited.

by Anonymousreply 4406/13/2015

I didn't know there was a bittoming expiration date in place.

by Anonymousreply 4506/14/2015


by Anonymousreply 4606/14/2015

Slut your ass out before 25, or you're finished, dearie.

by Anonymousreply 4706/14/2015

In the datalounge age poll last month, 80% of the respondents were over 35. Quantcast also shows the majority of people on this site are over 30. I can't imagine who these people are who are posting such bs... I've had more sex after 30 than I did before... way more & better.

by Anonymousreply 4806/14/2015

This is all ridiculous advice. I didn't learn how to really take it in the bum until my 30's. I bottomed but not with much pleasure.

You need both will partners, and your own dildos.

Inexperienced bottom should do a few things.

1) Learn how to empty and wash their asses. Deeply if the top is hung, by the way.

2) practice with dildos to get used to having objects in there. When you get the dick, you won't be surprised and may have already developed some ass control.

3) Hot lover who will turn you on then turn you out, but good.

4) no shame.

by Anonymousreply 4906/14/2015

5)Vibrating buttplugs while at work

by Anonymousreply 5006/14/2015

Bottom bump

by Anonymousreply 5106/20/2015
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