Is this really true about lesbians?
I have read that they have relationships, break up, go on to other women, etc and all of those women are likely a huge clan or extended family? So, like, a partyful of them means everyone has already slept with everyone else (pretty much)?
Men -- it's a definite: NEXT!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 76||01/27/2014|
Are you the idiotic "you 'mos" troll? Stopped by to take a few digs at lesbians as well as gay ment?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 1||01/05/2013|
No. I am being completely serious.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 2||01/05/2013|
OP, Just ask Martina Navratilova and Rita Mae Brown and Judy Nelson and Fannie Flagg and Susan Flannery.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 3||01/05/2013|
Ms. Behavior's book Explains It All For You
|by Confused 'mo||reply 4||01/05/2013|
Women are big into remaining friends after you've conjoined with them physically, emotionally and spiritually. That goes for straight women too. That "let's be friends" line can be so annoying to a straight guy after a breakup.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 5||01/05/2013|
Plus it makes pot lucks, kitty adoptions, and ride-sharing sooo much easier.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 6||01/05/2013|
I wouldn't know anything about that, OP.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 7||01/06/2013|
Who's making the bread pudding for our next get together?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 8||01/06/2013|
It's called a daisy chain.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 9||01/06/2013|
All the Michigan ladies have tasted from the same nutloaf!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 10||01/06/2013|
No, OP, and you're a cunt.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 11||01/06/2013|
Maybe I should have went to a better university but this post has left me lost. What is the question?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 12||01/06/2013|
The question is: is it true that at any lesbian get-together the women have all slept with each?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 13||01/06/2013|
Not being a lesbian I don't know but I would guess no. One should never use the word all.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 15||01/06/2013|
It has been calculated that, at the present rate of relationship building and disentangling, every lesbian on the planet will be in an active relationship of some type (current love interest, past love interest, working on love interest, returned to love interest, living with ex but dating another love interest, etc.) with every other lesbian on the planet on March 22, 2019.
You have been warned. Christmas gift lists will effectively bankrupt the lesbian community long before that, even though "en masse champagne holiday brunch" represents 42% of all gift giving in this demographic, owing to the difficulty of logistics.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 17||01/06/2013|
Didn't Alice in The L Word cover this topic with the chart. I loved that Alice.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 18||01/06/2013|
Thanks for the laugh, r10!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 19||01/06/2013|
Maybe in a really small town, but I have never experienced this myself.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 20||01/06/2013|
You're starting to cross some boundaries OP.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 21||01/06/2013|
I'm assuming you are gay male pretending to be a woman. If not, I simply asked about a widely-known lesbian stereotype.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 22||01/06/2013|
yes, maybe in a small town or some claustrophobic group, but that is all. Not a big city thing. And big city people are not "friends" after a break up.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 23||01/06/2013|
I am. A femme who looks and acts like a straight chick and dates the same
|by Confused 'mo||reply 24||01/07/2013|
I don't know if this specific issue about Lesbians is true, but I know the do most everything better than us gay guys. I really grateful for that fact.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 25||01/07/2013|
This is certainly the case in both Portland and Seattle, where I lived.
I don't stay friends with exes - but my position is considered "not playing fair".
|by Confused 'mo||reply 26||01/07/2013|
R26, did you ever go to the "Wild Rose" in Seattle?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 27||01/07/2013|
Coincidentally, I am from Seattle myself. Lotsa butch, femmes ... not so much.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 28||01/07/2013|
It's true, OP. It's true for lesbians who make thoughtful choices in partners to begin with. Our exes stay in our lives, for the most part. In this case, the stereotype is true. At least for older lesbians.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 29||01/07/2013|
So were do the most appealing/sexy lesbians live (in the US)?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 31||01/07/2013|
I would have a hard time getting in a relationship with a woman who is still close with her ex.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 32||01/07/2013|
My very male very gay ex is best friends with ALL his exes, myself included. We all call him Lesbian Pete behind his back and then compare war stories. He tends to like similar guys, so we all get along. Once the pain of the breakup subsided, it's been sort of fun. Maybe the gals are onto something...
|by Confused 'mo||reply 34||01/07/2013|
r32 why is that?
I found getting to know my partner's exes quite refreshing. I learned alot about my partner from them, at least what she/they were like before I met them.
Where do the most appealing gay men live? It's a matter of taste. (no pun intended)
|by Confused 'mo||reply 35||01/07/2013|
My album 'Ladies Of The Canyon' was about lesbians, but nobody got it.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 37||01/07/2013|
The dating pool was lower and no one changed the water!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 39||01/07/2013|
Tiny segment of the population, plus we don't really have the opportunities for no strings sex that men do (because of how women in general are).
That means if you know of an available lesbian already, you go for it, standards and "boundaries" be damned.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 40||01/07/2013|
How 'ready' is she, really?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 41||01/07/2013|
Sounds as though you wouldn't mind NSA action with certain ladies yourself, but they are the "oh no, we must process our feelings before, during, and after" types?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 42||01/07/2013|
There should be prostitues for lesbians or bicurious women. I'm thinking that is a huge market waiting to be explored.
I have a girl-friend who is in her forties and is constantly being hit on by older women, who are obviously widowed. It's at the supermarket, usually. She tells me that the women are kind of aggressive and seem desperate to be touched. I can see why that demographic would rather go for women because any man would be a gigolo and a risk.
I know of a few famous old women who have hired 'assistants' who just happen to be butch lesbians, just a random pick, huh!
It's too bad that lesbians cannot just meet up and have casual relationships and we all know straight chicks would like that too. But hookers that service men by and large are not appealing, yes?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 43||01/07/2013|
Prostitues is not the answer.
It's just hard to meet people, and the numbers seem smaller for lesbians. Plus everyone is hidden away, no one goes out. Even lesbian bars have closed, probably because of the internet.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 44||01/07/2013|
I thought lesbians have a wider choice with all those "straight" women who are open to swinging bi on occasion? I'm trying to picture older gay men hitting on guys at the supermarket, and it just ain't working!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 45||01/07/2013|
Gay bars in general have closed because its passe to drink--we're all health nuts now.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 46||01/07/2013|
The key (for gals) is an elite, or at least, sheltered, environment. This meant school or college for most.
Once out in the world, work is the next usual place, but since most professions have been swamped by straight women (and HR was created) asking other women out there has become dangerous. (it just takes one who gets "offended.")
Bars suck, better themed concerts (Lillith Fair was great for young gals to meet each other) but MichFest is too extreme for many.
The elderwomen in the supermarkets have taken the cow by the proverbial horns, but that makes for discomforted younger gals.
Best are conferences. Weekends away from home with a pre-vetted crowd and hotel included.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 47||01/07/2013|
straight women that want to swing bi are not that many, and they want to do it with other straight women and preferably in front of men
they are not the answer, either
|by Confused 'mo||reply 48||01/07/2013|
Also, you can't smoke in (most of) them anymore.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 49||01/07/2013|
I'm bi and I like to stay friends with everyone. If the split isn't amicable or was heartbreaking, I give it time...usually a few years. Never have romantic feelings returned for an ex with whom I've rekindled a friendship or had latent closure. So far, so good. I've been in relationships with mostly men.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 50||01/07/2013|
You know, I'm gonna stick by my lesbian call girl ring idea, thank you very much.
Okay, so the rich old ladies (many of whom are Jewish gals, by the way) who want to have a nice girlfriend are not going to introduce said pick-up to the family and friends, are they?
Wouldn't they just like to experiment with a nice gal who will hold them while they watch Downtown Abbey?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 51||01/07/2013|
I'm cordial with my exes, but don't socialize with them. Actually, I wouldn't be caught dead at your super-les potluck scenario.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 52||01/07/2013|
I've met all of my girlfriends in the paint department at Home Depot. Lesbians love to congregate around the paint mixer machine because of the vibrations. I've known many gals to have screaming orgasms right there in the store.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 53||01/07/2013|
Just to clarify, what 'type' would lesbians seek out as casual sex partners?
Kate Moss-y, or perhaps a Martina?
I'm just sayin for sex only.
Does pretty eyes matter?i
|by Confused 'mo||reply 54||01/07/2013|
subject-verb agreement matters, skeev
|by Confused 'mo||reply 55||01/07/2013|
Ladies, wait one second...
The question is not whether we stay friends with our exes, but if we sleep with our exes' exes: to wit, to use the OP's example, at a party, will all the ladies have slept with everyone.
I personally would never date one of my exes' exes: it gives me the shivers just thinking about it.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 56||01/07/2013|
When I know too many lesbians in a city and who they slept with, I move...preferably across the country!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 57||01/07/2013|
I'm not a lesbian, but I've been amidst some social circles where there seems to be SOME truth to this. Meaning, lesbians are bound to at least flirt with each other in an interconnected way; bisexual women hook up with each other in the same network, with no strings attached.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 58||01/07/2013|
Thanks! That is the stereotype I have read about, where lesbians have serial relationships among a ... closed set, in a "musical chairs" type style, until the partnership possibilities are exhausted.
To give a rather bizarre example among men, I knew a couple where they considered themselves exes (NOT an open relationship, but single); HOWEVER, not only were they roommates, they continued sleeping in the same bed. How's that?
|by Confused 'mo||reply 59||01/07/2013|
I live in LA and used to have a lesbian cut my hair and would tell me a about her social life. She had dated one of the women who started Girl Bar (I think that's what it was called) and I did get the impression that among her group of upwardly mobile lesbian friends many had shared the same lovers.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 60||01/07/2013|
lesbians are the new man :)
|by Confused 'mo||reply 61||01/07/2013|
[quote]I knew a couple where they considered themselves exes (NOT an open relationship, but single); HOWEVER, not only were they roommates, they continued sleeping in the same bed. How's that?
That is quite common among lesbians, at least of the older generation.
One of my lesbian friends was heartbroken when her partner started dating another. They were broken up, but still shared a bed, so my friend still considered them partners.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 62||01/08/2013|
Yes, I have been to the Wild Rose and, in its time, "The Easy."
|by Confused 'mo||reply 64||01/08/2013|
r63, when lesbian bed death occurs, many lesbians are OK with it. The cuddling and affection remain, and the love remains.
This is why some lesbians are confused as to when/if the break-up occurred.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 65||01/08/2013|
I knew several straight couples that had separated/divorced but continued to live in the same place and share the bed.
Financial comfort is usually behind all that.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 66||01/08/2013|
Any womyn can be a lesbian, says Alix Dobkin
|by Confused 'mo||reply 67||01/08/2013|
In Sydney, there were a couple of businesses that catered exclusively to women. They claimed to have "classy" lesbian sex workers who would do out calls only, and only do threesomes with all women. They used to advertise in the publication Lesbians on the Loose, aka LOTL. I wonder if the businesses are still going...
|by Confused 'mo||reply 69||07/21/2013|
Terry Castle mercilessly mocks Alix Dobkin in her essay collection "The Professor."
|by Confused 'mo||reply 71||08/10/2013|
[quote]Thanks [R62] -- among men this is downright freakish, as I would consider it if a straight couple did so.
R63, it is freakish among lesbians, too! Only strange lesbians do this!!
|by Confused 'mo||reply 73||01/27/2014|
And only strange lesbians do what OP said. It is cultish Mitchfest types.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 74||01/27/2014|
C'mon ladies, you know its true.
|by Confused 'mo||reply 75||01/27/2014|