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Who has NEVER had an STI?

Despite being a complete slut, you have never had an STI

How have you done it?

by Anonymousreply 9401/31/2016

Being lesbian :)

by Anonymousreply 101/02/2013

Does crabs count?

by Anonymousreply 201/02/2013

Easily avoided. Take precautions and don't be a "slut". You can still have tons of fun with a smaller stable of partners. I'm 49 and I have never had one (and hopefully never will).

by Anonymousreply 301/02/2013

Never (so far). However I always use a condom for anal and avoid cumming in the mouth for hook ups. I'm willing to be more lax in a serious relationship but those two simple things make hook ups a lot safer.

by Anonymousreply 401/02/2013

Save it R1. Cunts are full of disgusting bacteria. Don't play the superior card. It's absurd.

As for me, I have never had anything. I mean that literally as I am a virgin. I don't go for casual sex.

by Anonymousreply 501/02/2013

As a high school senior I had a case of tonsillitis so severe as to require hospitalization and I.V. antibiotics. I've always wondered if I actually caught something by sucking anonymous cock in the park.

by Anonymousreply 601/02/2013

being celibate since college. I am very STI-phobic.

by Anonymousreply 701/02/2013

In my 20's and early 30's I was a complete whore (I always used condoms, though) and all I ever got was crabs a couple of times.

by Anonymousreply 801/02/2013

I've NEVER had an STI/STD, OP. Admittedly I'm not a huge slut, but I've had my moments.

by Anonymousreply 901/02/2013

I've been with 500+ guys, but I only ever had crabs, and THAT was, as far as I could tell, from someone's bedding.

No STI or STD. But 90% of what I did was blowing dudes.

by Anonymousreply 1001/02/2013

Just crabs, so far

by Anonymousreply 1101/02/2013

r10, that is disturbing. Over 500 partners. Ewww, dude.

by Anonymousreply 1201/02/2013

I've had worms.

by Anonymousreply 1301/02/2013

R5 = VERY insecure

by Anonymousreply 1401/02/2013

R13 would be great on a fishing trip

by Anonymousreply 1501/02/2013

Just crabs, twice.

by Anonymousreply 1601/02/2013

[quote]However I always use a condom for anal and avoid cumming in the mouth for hook ups.

R4. Okay, of course I get the use of condoms, but how does you avoiding cumming in someone else's mouth save you from an STD?

You're still receiving the blow job, so what's the STD concern for you about shooting in your partner's mouth?

by Anonymousreply 1701/02/2013

I'm 32

I've been with 17 guys since the age of 18

I've had 0 STIs/STDs

I've only barebacked once (as a top), when I was 19, and I've only bottomed 7 times.

Sadly, I'm not even as sexually active as some of my friends and acquaintances, but I know for a fact that I get tested more regularly. Part of that has to do with the fact that I'm in the military; however, I'm also pretty vigilant web it comes to my health.

by Anonymousreply 1801/02/2013

The way I wrote it was unclear but I don't let other people come in my mouth on hookups. I don't make an effort to come in theirs either, but yeah that doesn't really make a difference to me if it happens. Who knows how important that actually is but at least it makes me feel safer.

by Anonymousreply 1901/02/2013

HPV and herpes often go undetected, as they are not part of a standard STI screening battery. Many, many gay men simply do not test for these or any STI other than HIV but are so very, very sure they are "100% clean."

by Anonymousreply 2001/02/2013

[quote]Many, many gay men simply do not test for these or any STI other than HIV but are so very, very sure they are "100% clean."

I work in Health Care and HPV and Herpes are actually part of standard STI screening for Gay men.

by Anonymousreply 2101/02/2013

You are either a liar or ridiculously uninformed, r21. Look atcthe CDC recommendations. First, there is no HPV test for men. Second, herpes testing is not standard. You have to ask for it specifically, unless the doctor is especially vigilant. If they did, too many people would test positive - right now, 90% don't know they have it.

by Anonymousreply 2201/02/2013

I've had syphilis and gonorrhea, but other than that I'm clean as a whistle.

by Anonymousreply 2301/02/2013

Trust me R22, you are technically correct, of course but there is not a doctor in the city with even the smallest amount of gay partners who does not order every STD test for their gay clients.

by Anonymousreply 2401/02/2013

and r24 wins! Doctors treating gay men usually go beyond CDC standards. These same doctors do check regularly for the symptoms of HPV infection.

by Anonymousreply 2501/02/2013

If you are one of the people who have genital HSV2 (what people normally consider "herpes") but never have shown any symptoms/don't know you have it studies have shown you are "only" contagious about 10% of the time at least. Nothing to shrug at, but maybe some consolation considering that yes tons of people walk around without knowing they have herpes and it normally isn't tested in a standard STI test.

by Anonymousreply 2601/02/2013

R25, while you declare victors, you might want to examine your assumptions. First, you assume that all men who have sex with men live in New York or whatever "the city" means to you. Second, that they go to doctors regularly or at all. Third, that they disclose their sexual preference and activity. Fourth, that doctors who treat MSM actually test according to your model and not the CDC's for gay men. Your victory declaration should be taken with a grain of salt, since you describe a tiny fraction of a sliver of the population.

by Anonymousreply 2701/03/2013

Aren't you a sour little twat r27!

by Anonymousreply 2801/03/2013

The dude who slept with over 500 partners should disclose his promiscuous sexual history to every prospective partner so they can give informed consent. Such a person is an inherent health risk and should come with a warning label.

by Anonymousreply 2901/03/2013

What if those 500 each involved nothing more than frottage and mutual masturbation? Is he still an inherent health risk?

by Anonymousreply 3001/03/2013

You can get herpes from frottage, r30.

by Anonymousreply 3101/03/2013

[quote]I've been with 500+ guys, but I only ever had crabs, and THAT was, as far as I could tell, from someone's bedding.

No STI or STD. But 90% of what I did was blowing dudes.

Have fun with throat cancer.

by Anonymousreply 3201/03/2013

Crabs two or three times.

by Anonymousreply 3301/03/2013

R 21/r25/r28 doesn't seem very knowledgeable for someone working in health care. Checking for HPV or HSV symptoms is not conclusive. Many people having those STIs are asymptomatic. A visual screen is not the same as a test. Oh and name-calling doesn't support your argument at all.

by Anonymousreply 3401/03/2013

Look r34, we get it. As far as you're concerned everyone who has lots of sex automatically has lots of diseases. There is no safer sex and all gay men lie about having diseases. You're 48 and still waiting for the special someone who can 'take your flower' and while it seems like everyone else is having fun, you find solace in the fact that they are all disease infected sluts while you are a paragon of morality and clean living.

by Anonymousreply 3501/03/2013

Way to attack a total straw man, r35.

by Anonymousreply 3601/03/2013

I was trying to keep your odor out of this.

All of your arguments have been refuted (Most doctors DO routinely test gay men for Herpes and check for HPV symptoms)... even doctors outside New York City... they have access to the same literature.

Nothing left really but an attack on the straw man... It's okay. He's disease free.

by Anonymousreply 3701/03/2013

"I've been with 500+ guys, but I only ever had crabs, and THAT was, as far as I could tell, from someone's bedding."

Yeah, you got crabs from "bedding." Don't delude yourself, hon. You got them by fucking somebody who had them living in his crotch.

by Anonymousreply 3801/03/2013

R38 Judge much? I personally got them from bedding during a period of celibacy. My next door neighbor (female)bank analyst lol, also got them. We made popcorn and were watching a movie in my roommates bed while he was off being an "air mattress." She went to the nurse at JP Morgan because she had no clue, she was pissed....I bought Kwell. Other than that never caught anything and I had occasional unprotected sex in NYC during the 80's.

by Anonymousreply 3901/03/2013

I was a total slut back in my 20s, in the 70s.

I got crabs once, and hepatitis. Those experiences convinced me I was not immune or immortal, so I became much more careful after that.

So I am still alive.

by Anonymousreply 4001/03/2013

I was never a slut but to make sure I didn't feel left out a former boyfriend kindly surprised me with a case of gonorrhea (which he caught from oral sex). The fool denied doing anything behind my back when I, concerned that my dick was leaking pus, asked him if he'd cheated, and he only came clean (so to speak) when I returned from the doctor's with the official diagnosis. Live and learn.

by Anonymousreply 4101/03/2013

I know someone who got crabs from a bathtub

by Anonymousreply 4201/03/2013

"Judge much?"

Who's judging? I just find it implausible that someone who's had 500+ sex partners got crabs from "bedding."

by Anonymousreply 4301/03/2013

I wish. I've always tried to be safe, but the first guy I had sex with excused himself and I thought he was going to get a condom and lube since we had met for oral twice before and he mentioned that he had condoms and since we were doing it in his and his wife's bed I assumed he wouldn't bareback. I previously told him I was a virgin. After we did it I said "you wore a condom, right?" "No." So, I think I got anal HPV from him although he said he and his wife didn't have HPV. I only bottomed for 3 other guys and they all wore condoms, unless I got it from being fingered or rimmed.

I hardly ever kiss, but I met some guy 2 years ago and he was hot but when he pulled his pants down there was a wet spot. Since I really try to avoid HIV I don't even want pre-cum in my mouth so we ended up kissing for 2 hours. I met him again 10 days later and we kissed again for a 2 hours. A week later I got more sick than I have in a decade and went to the ER on a weekend b/c I had a 102 degree fever. I emailed him to confirm that he didn't have HIV or STD's like he said, and he said he didn't have STD's but has herpes. So that fucker gave me herpes on my lips. I hate him.

There's a drug being worked on called DRACO that supposedly can cure any virus (HIV, HPV, Herpes) so I'm really hoping it pans out...quick.

by Anonymousreply 4401/03/2013

What's with all the judgment? We're all anonymous - rather than shame each other, wouldn't it be more interesting to get a more accurate picture of what we're all really doing?

by Anonymousreply 4501/03/2013

Exactly R45. The anecdotal posts are interesting and informative.

The judgmental ones are irrelevant and self-serving, and belong on some other thread.

by Anonymousreply 4601/03/2013

[quote] Third, that they disclose their sexual preference

Lost me there R27


by Anonymousreply 4701/03/2013

Sorry to offend your delicate sensibilities, r47. I missed the shift where "sexual preference" became a marker of homophobia, regardless of how many cocks one has sucked. While you fan yourself, the point remains the same - many, many men who have sex with other men do not disclose this to their doctors. Chill the fuck out.

by Anonymousreply 4801/03/2013

Was going to get the Subaru WRX STI but decided on the Legacy instead.

by Anonymousreply 4901/04/2013

I had frottage cheese once.

by Anonymousreply 5001/04/2013

Here R48, since you're clearly too fucking stupid to figure this out for yourself:

Preference implies choice.

I "prefer" blonde men over, say, dark haired. That's my preference.

But I am "oriented" towards all men in general.

Now, we fought against this for years because the straights kept telling us it was a choice. And they loved the term "sexual preference" because it was one more way to say that what we did was unnatural.

I hope this explains why some entitled message board cunt can kindly go fuck him or herself with this "preference" bullshit.

And you can get way the fuck over yourself and your whining, your perpetual fucking victim.

by Anonymousreply 5101/04/2013

Another twice crabs guy, and I would also swear once was not from sex.

Nothing else but I was always practicing safer sex when I was a slut.

And who are these people who find having sex with over 500 people "icky"? That's a low number for a lot of us, including me.

And it was fun!

by Anonymousreply 5201/04/2013

I've had WELL Over 500 guys. Or been had. And I'm a healthy professional in a long term relationship. Whoever is selling this prudish fiction is hilarious. We fuck; we love it.

by Anonymousreply 5301/04/2013

There seems to be some misinformation here regarding HPV. My assumption has to be that those trying to explain it all have had no experience with it as an active virus. First for those that need to judge, nearly everyone carries some strain of HPV, even nuns, so whether you're a "slut" or not is irrelevant. And condoms do not prevent contracting it.

What is relevant is whether you body can clear the virus, it just lies dormant or causes other problems. Very few people can't clear the virus. Even with a robust immune system, I'm one of the few that couldn't clear it. Mine was rectal. You're doctor should look for warts at regular check ups. If you have severe itching, unusual pain or bleeding get it checked. Make sure any wart has a biopsy done. Some can have high grade dysplasia, this will lead to sarcomas/cancer if not removed. Once removed it shouldn't be a problem but frequent check ups there after for the rest of your life are required. By the way,I've been in a monogamous relationship for 15 years, this started just last year at 48 years old. Judge away.....

by Anonymousreply 5401/04/2013

Thank you R54 - imagine how much healthier we'd all have if we could have frank discussions about body issues without all that "you're a whore, darlin'" nonsense.

Let's all be massive cunts to one another, but allowing each other to lie in medical misery is just cruel - and we're not that, right?

by Anonymousreply 5501/04/2013

R54, here again... Lying at an exam to your doctor is a joke. I thought I was having hemorrhoid issues. I said NOTHING to the colon-rectal doctor, he did the exam and asked if I gay/bisexual, or had existing problems with warts or HPV. Any competent doctor will draw conclusions and verify them with you. Why would you lie to a doctor? This doctor isn't gay himself, but was very matter of fact explaining the issues and procedures. He didn't judge, his job is to make his patients well. If you're uncomfortable being honest with you doctor, maybe you need a different doctor, its your health. But again, a good doctor will draw some conclusions simply from your symptoms.

by Anonymousreply 5601/04/2013

It's really pretty terrible that people on here think that having an STI makes someone less moral... or not having had one makes one more; that you can quantify someone's "purity" based on the numbers of partners or sexual encounters they've ever had.

It's sick shit... and it's also the reason why people don't talk with their doctors about their sexual histories in general or use many of the numerous medicines to protect themselves from STIs specifically.

The whole Truvada / PReP is regimen is going to cause major drama in the coming years.

by Anonymousreply 5701/04/2013

STIs mean you're a slut. You noticed how wild animals never get them.

by Anonymousreply 5801/04/2013


by Anonymousreply 5901/04/2013


"Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are on the rise in the U.S., to the point where even senior citizens are seeing upswings in infections. But STDs also occur throughout the animal kingdom, in species from mammals to insects to birds. And recent progress on a chlamydia vaccine for koalas may even lead to breakthroughs in vaccinating humans against sexually transmited infections."


by Anonymousreply 6001/04/2013

Not true at all, r58.

by Anonymousreply 6101/04/2013

I had AIDS once

by Anonymousreply 6201/05/2013

Stop living like animals controlled by impulses. Actions have consequences.

by Anonymousreply 6301/08/2013

Folks should stop sleeping around. IT is unhealthy

by Anonymousreply 6402/03/2013

"However I always use a condom for anal and avoid cumming in the mouth for hook ups"

How does avoid cumming in the mouth for hookups help keep you from an STI? Your cumming in someone else's mouth isn't going to give you an STI any more than penetrating the mouth to begin with. And you can get an STI in your mouth having a penis in it without that penis coming. If the guy has a urethral infection he doesn't have to ejaculate in your mouth to infect you. If you have a urethral infection you don't have to ejaculate in his mouth to infect him.

by Anonymousreply 6502/03/2013

No STIs - plenty of slutty periods in my life...

by Anonymousreply 6602/03/2013

r65, you can get gonorrhea just by receiving oral sex, assuming no condom used of course. The danger is especially present from deep throating. The head of the penis making contact with a pharynx is what's dangerous. The pharynx is a hospitable environment for gonorrhea.

As for me, never had an STI. I've never barebacked. Condoms only. They work.

by Anonymousreply 6702/03/2013

R53, you just got plain lucky. Don't go around selling this shit that it's okay to be a slut and not reap the consequences. And what does being a professional have to do with being healthy? Oh yeah, my upper income prevents me from getting an STID.

I agree with the poster who said some doctors go beyond the CDC requirements for lab testing when it comes to gay men. They will order herpes testing and sometimes a hepatitis panel along with the routine STDs.

But everything relies on the patient giving an honest history to his doctor. I had a wife call me about her husband whom she noticed the "blisters" near his anal area.. She made him go to the doctor to check it out but he didn't mention one thing about it at his doctor's visit. His doctor ended up treating him for an anxiety problem only. In the meantime, the wife is freaking out about getting STDs and calling the doctor's office non-stop and asking about her risk from getting those "warts".. Since we cannot give out his information due to HIPAA, I had to retrieve her husband's chart and give it to the doctor to let him decide. We ordered STD tests for her. I don't know the follow up but I assume the doctor made her husband come back in for another appointment.

Obviously, the man was on the down-low but he should at least been honest with his doctor.

by Anonymousreply 6802/03/2013

yes, I understand that r67. That was exactly my point: ejaculation is not the issue.

by Anonymousreply 6902/03/2013

" you just got plain lucky. Don't go around selling this shit that it's okay to be a slut and not reap the consequences."

thank you, r68. just because you haven't reaped the consequences yet doesn't mean your behavior was any less unwise and unhealthy.

by Anonymousreply 7002/18/2013

James Deen the porn star says he has NEVER gotten an sti.

How is that possible. He's fucked hundreds of women bareback, the vast majority of whom are literal whores.

Is he lying or an idiot who doesn't know what he's caught? Porn doesn't test for herpes or HPV, right? And didn't the la county health dept do a survey that showed the porn industry is crawling with gonorrhea and chlamydia?

by Anonymousreply 7102/18/2013

No STDs says my tests.

by Anonymousreply 7203/09/2013

Never had one. Celibate with respect to dudes, and very monogamous with selective few women.

by Anonymousreply 7307/19/2014

Most people don't know they've got or had an STI. Often the infection is asymptomatic, particularly with HPV. So most of you so sure you've never in fact probably just aren't aware you did.

by Anonymousreply 7407/19/2014

Never, ever. And don't plan on ever getting one. And it's not because I abstain, I'm just very careful. And selective.

by Anonymousreply 7507/19/2014

A Slut In Need Is A Disease Indeed.

by Anonymousreply 7607/19/2014

Me! I Married and been monogamous since age 24

by Anonymousreply 7701/30/2016

I've never had one, but then I've had sex once in 9 years...oral only

by Anonymousreply 7801/30/2016

I haven't had many, and the only ones I caught were from women. I'm gay and safe now.

Most lesbians I know are herpes ridden

Glad I never caught that.

by Anonymousreply 7901/30/2016

I'm in my early 30s. Gay man. Been promiscuous since I was a teenager. Slept with probably close to 200 partners. I've been incredibly fortunate, but I haven't had any kind of STI. Not even crabs, not even so much as a dick rash. It probably helps that I top 90% of the time, only bareback with LTR partners and don't watch any of Ryan Murphy's shows.

by Anonymousreply 8001/31/2016

Yeah, I heard that not watching a Ryan Murphy show is recommended by the CDC for keeping disease free.

Meanwhile, sluts lie. All this "I've had sex with hundreds of guys and never got anything" bullshit is just that. The slightly more honest liars admit to crabs. And I'm sure guys who got "nonspecific urethritis" might actually not know they had chlamydia.

I was a slut and was in a lot of denial about the crabs, and chlamydia and the times I got "precautionary" doses of antibiotics for "possible" gonorrhea. I'm not saying you can't live it up and stay safe. But for years I was playing Russian roulette with my health and a lot of that involved anonymous sex with multiple partners.

by Anonymousreply 8101/31/2016

If you haven't had STD, you haven't been having fun.

by Anonymousreply 8201/31/2016

My physician friend at the CDC was talking about how gay men who get HIV today in the West are overwhelmingly in two categories: 1) Promiscous, usually already had other STIs when they contracted HIV; 2) substance abusers with compound mental health issues. He said that gay men Who do not get HIV longterm and lifelong generally have very different lifestyles than those who contract the virus. They tend to 1) have a much lower number of lifetime sexual partners ; 2) they tend to be very deliberate and selective in choosing partners and behavior; 3) they do not have substance abuse problems; and 4) tend to have stronger social networks, whether family, religious, organization. He says the problem with the AIDS lobby groups is that they don't want to tell the truth about the patterns of behavior that generally lead to HIV and don't want to try to get people to change their behavior to be healthier. We should be studying and exalting gay men who live clean, healthy lives instead of trying to protect pathology, he says.

by Anonymousreply 8301/31/2016

I believe I have HSV-Type 1. Sometimes I get these blisters or cold sores in my mouth area when I have a fever or when I am under severe stress.

by Anonymousreply 8401/31/2016

I think 99% of us have herpes virus

by Anonymousreply 8501/31/2016

People forget about pre-ejaculate during oral sex. So even if you virtuously say you didn't let him cum in your mouth, you're still swallowing something that might make you sick.

I have rosacea and sometimes I get bumps around my lips that look like the herps. Isn't that nice? I'm sure I have the virus because I've been alive and had sex. Thanks to a tip from a friend I missed getting crabs. I was about to go some with some guy and I was pulled aside and warned - and other people warned me too.

A co-worker who doesn't like condoms has to get tested every once in a while due to her HPV. She's in her 50s, never did the condom thing and has UTIs a lot. She just hooked up with a new guy - I hope there was some disclosure. Unless I was sure sure sure about a person and a relationship, I'd never go bareback. Condoms are cheaper than medical care!

by Anonymousreply 8601/31/2016

[quote]I only bottomed for 3 other guys and they all wore condoms, unless I got it from being fingered or rimmed.

You can indeed acquire anal HPV from fingering.

by Anonymousreply 8701/31/2016

Just the once

by Anonymousreply 8801/31/2016

After being dumped by my second serious boyfriend a few years ago, I decided to go out in a limb and visit a well-reviewed sex club in Vienna. I was tired of being a "sex negative" prude and figured it might be good for my self esteem. Big mistake.

Even though I ended up hooking up with only one guy (a mild-mannered closet case from a small village in Austria), I ended up getting genital warts. They didn't appear until last year and I've been using a cream to treat them for the past 2 months.

The fact of the matter is, most unabashed whores are carrying something even if they don't know it. And if they haven't caught anything, it's based on pure luck and nothing else.

by Anonymousreply 8901/31/2016

R40, me to. Getting hepatitis in 1982 prompted me to start using condoms. It may have saved my live from HIV.

by Anonymousreply 9001/31/2016

R89, please see a doctor. I don't think a cream will work.

by Anonymousreply 9101/31/2016

I recently insisted that my doctor take a syphalis and a hep C test, because they are silent killers. They do damage inside, before you know you're infected. He said if I had syphalis he'd have to write a paper, as it it so rare. Well, I was negative in both cases, but I wanted to know! I only got my only HIV test in 2007, also negative. Thank God! I have enough problems.

by Anonymousreply 9201/31/2016

These STIs are easily treated

by Anonymousreply 9301/31/2016

A question,

If you contacted STI, how do you tell all your partners or do you just keep quiet ?

by Anonymousreply 9401/31/2016
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