I dislike my sister and it makes me sad. It'd be so much easier if I liked her.
Does it make you sad to dislike a family member?
|by Anonymous||reply 32||03/04/2013|
I disliked my uncle - and then he died.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||12/25/2012|
Intensely. My brother is really hard to get along with. He's intensely charming at times and the life of the party - and then hypercritical and controlling. You have to walk on eggshells ALL THE TIME.
I haven't talked to him in 4 months, which I feel guilty about but, there are only so many times you put your hand over a flame before you say OUCH, THIS HURTS!
|by Anonymous||reply 2||12/25/2012|
I don't like you either.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||12/25/2012|
You disgust me
|by Anonymous||reply 4||12/25/2012|
Hate is the new love.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||12/25/2012|
I hate my friend Julie. She's not a family member, but I hate that cunt just the same.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||12/25/2012|
It really does, OP. My dad spends half his time calling my mom beautiful and perfect to cover up the other half where he sneers at her and mocks her judgment and intelligence. My brother opines loudly and usually incorrectly, echoing FoxNews greatest hits. My mom smiled through it all, ready to explain how a life with Christ will offer eternal life. You can't change them, though showing them affection usually tempers the extremes.
So ready to go home. Flight is at 6.30.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||12/25/2012|
I neither like nor trust my sister, but I try to play nice for my parents' and niece's sake. She's a pathological liar and totally sneaky. I wish I could like her...unfortunately, I don't.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||12/25/2012|
No. I don't feel sad. I've no reason to like everyone on the planet. I just avoid those I dislike.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||12/25/2012|
Just to turn it around, how do you not take it personally when a family member hates you?
I know you can't control other people's behavior, but how do you not personalize other people's feelings?
|by Anonymous||reply 10||12/25/2012|
Someone hates me...boo hoo.
I can't imagine how you personalize it. Their feelings do not define me.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||12/25/2012|
When one is hated one at least knows they were noticed rather than never seen
|by Anonymous||reply 12||12/25/2012|
My family are all flyover trash. I love them, but they make every visit unbearable.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||12/25/2012|
I send holiday (Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween) cards, emails and bake and deliver cakes for birthdays for my four siblings and their four children. This year I received one card, from a sister. They are hateful, confused, miserable drunks (siblings) and cowering, angry defenders (niece and nephews).
And I send these things because they're the only family I have, and it honors my late parents. And it makes them crazy.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||12/25/2012|
R14 -- STOP NOW! They DON'T appreciate it!
|by Anonymous||reply 15||12/25/2012|
I hate this person at work and I am pretty sure it's reciprocal.
Mostly I try not to think about them.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||12/25/2012|
Sad? Unbelievably so.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||12/27/2012|
My father. I made the mistake of allowing him as a friend on Facebook of all places. Well, he doesn't like that I'm left liberal and gay.
So he started a little ad hominem and I promptly blocked his ass.
I also had enough of his shit and didn't want to talk to him anymore. So I told him not to contact me. Haven't spoken to him in over two years now.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||12/27/2012|
My cousin is a junkie, liar, troublemaker, and thief. Usually I'm the most compassionate, empathic, sensitive person ever, but I can't bring myself to feel sorry for her. She constantly lies and has spread vicious rumors about me. Still I'm bothered by my feelings toward her. I feel like a hypocrite.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||12/27/2012|
I'll always be mad at my parents for having children when they were far from suited for it. My mom begged my dad for a few years until he caved. She wanted a child in order to feel more "normal." It has not been pretty for anyone, and probably never will be. I grew up with no support, and I'm a much more tolerant person than either of them, yet I'm the one who's had to be homeless and learn lessons the scary-hard way. Not them. Although, they are the only people I know upon whom I'd wish my experiences.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||12/27/2012|
OP, If your sibling was not related would you still dislike him/her? You're probably better off permanently divorcing them, and avoiding further stress.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||12/27/2012|
R10 I agree.
My brother has had an intense hatred for me my ENTIRE life. I'm 22 now, and up until last year I loved my big brother. Last year something changed in me and I realized I didn't have to put up with all of his insults and selfishness. Not sure I'll ever get over it, because it did affect my self esteem (my own BROTHER said those things about me), but for the sake of a peaceful family I just cut him out of my life and stopped trying. He lost a sister, and I have my sanity back
|by Anonymous||reply 22||03/02/2013|
sometimes it is good to have an enemy....you can direct all your hate and dislike towards her and love the rest of the world.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||03/03/2013|
I think sometimes people are more sad about the fact they don't have family relationships (for whatever reason), than their specific relatives don't like them.
I'm not sad I hate the people, they really warrant it; I just wish I would've had any love and/or support.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||03/03/2013|
I cut off all communication with my sisters in 2009. They gossip about everyone ALL the time - thanks to them, I know which cousin had an affair with my uncle, which cousin spent time in a mental institution, which friend of theirs had a three way, which of their friends are alcoholics, suffer from depression, have kids are on drugs, and on and on. I knew they gossiped about me, too, but I didn't know specifically until 3 years ago. That was it for me, I forgave them but also knew I could never have a relationship with either of them again. I don't miss them at all, and it's a wonderful, liberating feeling when you transition from being hurt or sad to honestly not caring about them. It's very much like a divorce - once there were feelings, but those feelings are long gone.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||03/03/2013|
Yes, it makes me sad. If for no other reason than I adored my mother and I feel it somehow reflects poorly on her and she deserves better.
And I really did adore my brother but he is so unreliable (he didn't even show up for our sister's funeral or even talk to her son - his nephew - to expresss his condolences - none of his family did) and he has allowed his selfish wife's wishes to control his life and his son's.
There. I feel better now that I've said it. It is sad.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||03/03/2013|
It does make me a bit sad, but being realistic I just have to keep a distance.
I maintain civility for our mother's sake, but that's hardly respected. My sister has her own natural agenda of causing rows at will, an agenda always indulged by others. She's in a smug bubble of indulgence.
I've learned robotic civility to neutralise her games. Not nice, but necessary.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||03/03/2013|
You cut off your sisters for gossiping r25 but you just gossiped about them on a gossip site? Oh the irony!
|by Anonymous||reply 28||03/03/2013|
Knowing what many of you are like here, I'd bet $$$ that you are the difficult ones in your families, even though you pretend to yourselves otherwise.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||03/03/2013|
I know how it feels OP. Family members are supposed to love each other, yet you find some of them hardly lovable. It's sad.
From where I come from it is almost impossible to keep distance with my family members, which makes it worse.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||03/03/2013|
OP, Worst mistake was not ignoring the most hateful older sister in the world, who has no respect for me or my boundaries. For example she gave my unlisted phone number and address, which she got without my permission from another sister, to a man who wanted to date me. Worst experience ever. I should have stayed permanently divorced from her and her craziness. Everyone in my family shares my fantasy that I'm adopted anyway. I look, dress, think, and act way too uniquely, rather than following their rigidity.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||03/03/2013|
My oldest brother has always been manipulative and deceitful. When our father was alive he never missed an opportunity to try and turn him against my middle brother and I. But to anyone's face? As we say down here, "sugar wouldn't melt in his mouth." And even most people who know the truth about him fall for his shit. I almost never contact him. Only if there is a death in the family or something that would impact what's left of the family. He screwed around on his first wife and was verbally abusive to her, which resulted in a divorce and devastation for his children. He also finds amusement in trying to pit them against each other. So in short(I know---too late), he's NOT a nice man. It does sadden me that I've never really had an oldest brother, or what a real brother is meant to be.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||03/04/2013|