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Are you into threesomes/group sex?

It seems like most gay guys are into threesomes and/or group sex. The thought of having a threesome (or group) doesn't turn me on at all, and in fact makes me feel very uncomfortable. Am I weird?

by Anonymousreply 11906/12/2015

They don't appeal to me, either, op.

by Anonymousreply 112/21/2012

I fantasize about us having a threesome or group sex, but I know the reality is often far less rosy.

by Anonymousreply 212/21/2012

Most, OP? I know hardly any.

Nearly everyone who has had one will tell you that they're overrated.

by Anonymousreply 312/21/2012

No. One to one can be divine. I don't need less.

by Anonymousreply 412/21/2012

Sure, if the other two are the right two, i.e. hot. (At least I was in my past :)

by Anonymousreply 512/21/2012

Charlie... :)

by Anonymousreply 612/21/2012

The hottest night I ever had was when, after some whiskey cocktails, I was the center of attention for my boyfriend and another long-term couple literally all night long.

I fantasize about it probably every day.

Alas, because I don't drink anymore, it will never happen again.

by Anonymousreply 712/21/2012

Oh, R7 sweetie....Lol, you are cute.

You never know what tomorrow may bring. Keep dreaming and hoping.

Hug

by Anonymousreply 812/21/2012

I feel like many, many people are into them, regardless of orientation. The ones who don't have religious hang-ups, that is.

by Anonymousreply 912/21/2012

not so fast, the last time I was in one, one of the guys shit the sheets which kinda ruined it for me. The other guy kept going

by Anonymousreply 1012/21/2012

[quote]It seems like most gay guys are into threesomes and/or group sex.

Quit making broad generalizations about gay men, hon. Next you'll be onto "it seems like most gay guys aren't into monogamy" and "it seems like it's natural for gay guys to sleep around" and then "it seems like gay guys have no problem getting bottomed without a condom even if they're supposed to be in an exclusive relationship with another man." Slippery slope.

by Anonymousreply 1112/21/2012

I never went looking for a threesome. A few did find me along the way.

by Anonymousreply 1212/21/2012

I know a LOT of gay couples , longterm or otherwise that have a third once in awhile. and that's not even talking about what they do seperately!

by Anonymousreply 1312/21/2012

The only way 3ways or group sex works if all the players are attracted to each other.

One person that is not attractive to even one person, the whole thing falls apart.

by Anonymousreply 1412/21/2012

I'm single,a the moment, but seriously every gay nale couple I know has an "arrangement" that includes grabbing other guys for threesomes. I don't see anything wrong with it. It's just sex. These couples love each other and are emotionally connected, but they need variety when it comes to sex. I'd imagine most gay couples in urban areas are like this.

by Anonymousreply 1512/21/2012

^^^^^

by Anonymousreply 1612/21/2012

In both couples in which I was a third, I was simply the audience member for their melodramatic performance afterwards.

The sex would be great, then they'd start making digs at one another.

Usually, I'd choose one over the other and try to hook up on the sly with only one. Never worked.

by Anonymousreply 1712/21/2012

I've had a few. Only a couple really worked. Usually there is more of an attraction between just two, so the third, although they get off, kind of pick up on it. But I did get a couple of hot guys who asked me for one-on-ones afterward. The one-on-ones were a lot more fun.

by Anonymousreply 1812/21/2012

I've done it a several times.

I've been the third added to an existing couple (the invitee/guest). In both instances, I was attracted to one partner more than the other.

I've also participated in a few groups which were impromptu (chatting at a bar, and several of us adjourning to one's hotel room, or showing up at a group encounter resulting from a Craiglist post). I've enjoyed these much more as there seems to be no prior agendas.

The best sex has though has been at IML and MAL weekends just hanging out in the hotel lobby and being invited to groups. Again what I have really enjoyed is bringing together several men who love sex. We do not know each other before meeting, and we likely will not see each other again. Just pure piggish sex.

by Anonymousreply 1912/21/2012

Whores

by Anonymousreply 2012/21/2012

I've been in a few threesomes, even a 6 guy orgy but it was never by explicit choice. The times I found myself in these situations was because I was going after a guy that night and somehow our little party of two expanded into a clusterfuck of other dicks LOL.

For me, the problem is that I like to focus on one guy intensely. In threesomes and orgies there's just too much going on for me and I feel "spread too thin". It becomes more of a chore than a pleasure, really.

I don't even like watching threesomes or orgies in porn.

by Anonymousreply 2112/21/2012

Most gay guys are NOT into threesomes or group sex OP. YOU sound like a Jesus freak trying to justify your denial of equal marriage rights.

by Anonymousreply 2212/21/2012

You couldn't have read me more wrong, R22.

by Anonymousreply 2312/21/2012

Oh please. You name me one couple not into threesomes and I'll name you a gay caballero.

by Anonymousreply 2412/21/2012

Do not like three ways. I can barely manage one guy..

by Anonymousreply 2512/21/2012

r24, a lot of gay couples aren't into it because opening up that can of worms is a good way towards breaking the relationship. Jealousies often arise.

We're human beings. If we see our boyfriend giving it good to someone we perceive as hotter than ourselves, we start to question if we're still good enough. Plus once it happens once, the boyfriend will keep asking for it until your relationship is completely open. Yes, some men want an open relationship but many others don't.

I don't understand what's so hard to get about this.

by Anonymousreply 2612/21/2012

The only way to do a threeway is to be the guest star.

by Anonymousreply 2712/21/2012

r27 hit it right on the head.

It's much better to be the "guest star". You're the center of attention and it's a no muss, no fuss situation. No relationship bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 2812/21/2012

I don't understand the appeal of a threesome unless you are a bottom or a top with 2 dicks.

by Anonymousreply 2912/21/2012

Love them but being the 3rd is definitely best. I'd do them with my bf but I'm too jealous and he's more attractive than i am so he'd be the center of attention.

by Anonymousreply 3012/21/2012

It's a thing of interest to many types. To name just a few:

Straight men who get off pretending they're gang-banging a woman, straight women who like to feel "naughty", bi-curious women or men who want to try it with their friends (without it being so "gay")...

by Anonymousreply 3112/21/2012

I'm a woman who likes the occasional three-way with two guys. All the attention is on me and I get fucked twice. It's nice. I've not been in a three-way with tow bisexual men, just straight - though two bisexual men would be interesting.

by Anonymousreply 3212/21/2012

How do they happen, R32? Aren't most str8 guys too homophobic to be naked around each other?

by Anonymousreply 3312/21/2012

Hi, R33. I haven't found any issues with it. I do know they don't like touching one another so one's usually on one side of the bed, jerking off or playing with himself until it is his turn. Or I jerk him or suck him off until it is his turn. I don't know. I like it. I guess I'm a whore, darlin'.

by Anonymousreply 3412/21/2012

I'm not. I have had the occasional fantasy when jerking off, but no interest in doing it. The dynamic of more than one on one just seems diluted to me.

by Anonymousreply 3512/21/2012

Amen, R34, but you're no whore. I can only imagine the number of orgasms women can have from all that stimulation.

IMO, the only thing better than two dicks is three.

by Anonymousreply 3612/21/2012

[quote]Only a couple really worked. Usually there is more of an attraction between just two, so the third, although they get off, kind of pick up on it. But I did get a couple of hot guys who asked me for one-on-ones afterward. The one-on-ones were a lot more fun.

This is exactly the point. If the three way is so hot, why does it inevitably lead to someone wanting to go one on on with just one of the guys.

Also, if you're a couple that that's bored with just having sex with each other, it may be a sign maybe you should be breaking it off. But some people just like the status of being part of a couple I guess that they put up with these pseudo relationships where their partner is off having sex willy nilly with anyone and everyone and even falling in & out of love with some of them.

Now I can see wanting a threesome without all the couple BS going on.

by Anonymousreply 3712/21/2012

I wish I could be a woman just for one day so I could let a frathouse full of men run a train on me. I'm not kidding.

by Anonymousreply 3812/21/2012

Somehow I don't think my theory that gay men are just slutty hets who are willing to settle for chicks-with-dicks wouldn't go over very well here.

Sorry, I can't help you on this one.

by Anonymousreply 3912/21/2012

R38,

That only happens to hot women.

Also if you were a woman you'd want the men to share their deepest feelings with you, not gangbang you.

by Anonymousreply 4012/21/2012

Couples shouldn't end just because one of both partners want to switch things up sexually. Especially if you've been a couple for years. It's natural to become bored with your partner sexually after you've fucked 10,000 times. It becomes a mindless function at that point.

It is probably better to have an open relationship when you can get the occasional "night pass" to go off with some *random guy* (NEVER A MUTUAL FRIEND!) but just for that night and the couple decides how often these "night passes" get handed out between them.

Doing a threesome, for me, is too in your face. I don't want to actually see my boyfriend fucking another man, nor do I want him to see me doing it. Out of sight, out of mind is better I think.

by Anonymousreply 4112/21/2012

[quote]Also if you were a woman you'd want the men to share their deepest feelings with you, not gangbang you.

Wrong. Women are just as capable of enjoying sex as men. We just have to live with potential for a scene to really bad more often because of assholes who want to abuse women rather than fuck them.

by Anonymousreply 4212/21/2012

r38/40, frat boys are known to gang rape pretty much anything with a hole in it, preferably after slipping it a roofie. I wouldn't advise trying to act out this fantasy, but I wouldn't rule it out as a possibility.

by Anonymousreply 4312/21/2012

Right, R43...but many times, frat boys fuck "anything with a hole in it" for the purpose of degrading it. Not because they're attracted to it. The power trip is what gets them hard. As long as the object of rape doesn't mind, I suppose.

by Anonymousreply 4412/21/2012

Bisexual male here, and I only like threesomes if it is MMF and the purpose is for me to help the female to seduce a mostly homosexual man, or for the female to help me seduce a mostly heterosexual man. It helps when you have the main object of their attraction helping you to seduce them, but alcohol is a big help also. I know that many of you "holier than thou" types are offended by seduction, but if I think someone is pretty, I'm going for it. But I like one at a time otherwise, and I would never go to one of the orgies which they advertise because I care very much about sanitary conditions and protection from STD.

by Anonymousreply 4512/21/2012

For just pure sexual lust a bath house is still good. You can have as many or as few as you like at once with no real drama.

by Anonymousreply 4612/21/2012

[quote]Aren't most str8 guys too homophobic to be naked around each other?

I'm not R32, but I just wanted to note that this type of comment irritates the shit out of me. Not every straight guy is like the bullies who beat you up in high school 40 years ago. "Most" straight men aren't THAT homophobic, particularly ones under 30 (though clearly you don't know any personally). And yes, I know a number of them who've been in threesomes with another buddy; they're focusing on the woman in such situations, not each other.

by Anonymousreply 4712/21/2012

Whatever, R47 - if you were correct, the towel dance wouldn't exist.

by Anonymousreply 4812/21/2012

Three???

Amateurs!

by Anonymousreply 4912/21/2012

If you're a mature couple then sex is about showing how much you care about each other and not just going after every cheap thrill. It's about knowing that your relationship ebbs and flows and that every itch doesn't need to be scratched. It's also about knowing the mindless fucking that's done is the ones done with all those faceless, nameless strangers and not with someone you supposedly love.

And if you're honest you'll admit that not all but some couples who're doing all the threesomes and the open relationships are doing it to desperately hold on to whats really dead or dysfunctional relationships because they fear being alone. Some involved in threesomes may even be secretly auditioning your future replacement.

by Anonymousreply 5012/22/2012

Obviously, many of you have a real problem with multi-tasking.

by Anonymousreply 5212/22/2012

Sex and love should not be considered as a job R52...

by Anonymousreply 5312/22/2012

[quote]It's natural to become bored with your partner sexually after you've fucked 10,000 times. It becomes a mindless function at that point.

It may be "natural," but it's not inevitable. Trying putting the same effort and imagination into reconnecting with your partner as you do searching for a cum-dumpster.

by Anonymousreply 5412/22/2012

Another straight girl here. Never been in one but have had offers from married couples. I'm not into women and their husbands were not attractive to me. One interesting thing is that they are all divorced now. I've come to a conclusion that for straight, married couples 3-ways and swinging are often the final death throes of their relationship. The women are not into it and are only doing it to please their men who are bored with them.

by Anonymousreply 5512/22/2012

No, it's too hard to concetrate.

by Anonymousreply 5612/22/2012

OP, what a tired template. EVERYBODY ELSE IS DOING IT (massive assumption), I MUST BE WEIRD.

What a stupid thread.

by Anonymousreply 5712/22/2012

Well thanks for visiting, R57! Have a splendid day!

by Anonymousreply 5812/22/2012

The one time I did it, I found it was the sexual equivalent of rubbing your stomach and patting your head. You find you'd rather focus on one thing at a time. I even find this about 69 with one person actually.

Exception -- the part of the threesome where both guys are going to town on your cock and balls. That I could manage.

by Anonymousreply 5912/22/2012

The only threesome I'd be interested in would be twins! But that's because that'd be like having two of the same person.

by Anonymousreply 6012/22/2012

In sex three is a crowd guys

by Anonymousreply 6112/22/2012

I've been in a few. I'm a bottom, so the best 3-ways were with two tops. The dynamic there is that as the bottom, you're the center of attention, which can feel really good. It sucks when one or both tops have that frat boy mentality that you're just a hole. Those I've walked out of.

The best sex I've ever had, however, has been one-on-one with someone I love. Nothing can ever compare to that.

by Anonymousreply 6204/17/2013

I've been loving 3somes the last five years or so. I now find one-on-ones boring. But I don't like groups bigger than 3.

by Anonymousreply 6304/17/2013

Love it as long as its with people who also love it, the voyeurism, the combination of sensations, the seeing everyone so turned on, love it with one or both genders.

by Anonymousreply 6404/17/2013

Had my first threesome at age 11.

by Anonymousreply 6504/17/2013

Hell yes. It's the most fun you can have.

by Anonymousreply 6604/17/2013

I vastly prefer group sex to one-on-one sex in every imaginable way.

by Anonymousreply 6704/23/2013

Hot true story: I was on a business trip in San Juan lounging by the pool drinking beers. I noticed two guys that I identified as a gay couple, so I moved to a chaise lounge near them, shot them some suggestive glances, stretched a few times in a sexual manner, adjusted my package etc.

After a short while one of the guys left and went up to their room, and the other guy with the bulging package in his swim suit joined me in the hot tub. We made some small talk and arranged to have a beer in their room. When I walked into the room and saw the single bed I knew that it was on!

We all got naked, sucked each other's cocks for awhile and then finally the hot tub guy said (since I had asked earlier if they had condoms) "I think he is ready for a dick in his ass" and I moaned my assent to that suggestion. So I assumed the doggy position and continued to hungrily suck the hot tub guy's big 8-inch cut cock. The other smaller-dicked guy put on a rubber and entered my ass doggy. When I asked for more lube, the hot tub guy playfully slapped my cheek with his big cock so I continued to give him head while being fucked up the ass by his boyfriend. The guy fucking me moaned and his boyfriend asked "Is he tight?" and the guy replied "Oh yeah..."

He came rather quickly and pulled out and my ass felt so empty. So I took the big cock out of my mouth and mounted him cowgirl-style facing him so I could stare in his blue eyes while I rode him. I was soon cumming all over his chest while continuing to ride the 8-inch cock bareback while his boyfriend watched. It was so hot!!! What a memory!

by Anonymousreply 6905/28/2014

I know one ouple who does this regularly, and by regularly I mean every weekend. They spend all week setting somehing up. They're real slobs. Anyway, without this they would fall apart. It's the premise for their entire relationship. I think people who make these accomodations in their relationships have committment issues and seek enabling partners. The same goes for open relationships.

by Anonymousreply 7005/28/2014

[quote]I vastly prefer group sex to one-on-one sex in every imaginable way.

I agree. Gay men who think they should only have one partner til death do us part, just aren't normal males. They've been damaged by religious hocus-pocus.

by Anonymousreply 7105/30/2014

r 68 Sounds romantic. Herpes.

by Anonymousreply 7205/30/2014

Tell us more Butt Boy R69.

by Anonymousreply 7305/30/2014

I've done it. Most times it just happened. It was fun; my rule though that I learned is to never do it with a couple or people you're friends with. People get freaking weird when their boyfriend/husband/partner is really into you. Once a friend left and I finished with the boyfriend.

by Anonymousreply 7405/30/2014

Tell us more R74.

by Anonymousreply 7506/06/2014

No way, dude

by Anonymousreply 7706/06/2014

The more the merrier!

by Anonymousreply 7806/06/2014

Three's company. Five is fabulous.

by Anonymousreply 7906/13/2014

I'm older now but did this several times when I was younger and would love to do it again.

It sounds more exciting than it is though. Usually you gravitate toward on guy and the other one feels ignored or just jacks off and watches. At least this was my experience.

This may be hard to believe, but I was with a couple and the one guy (I didn't like him much anyway) left, went downstairs, and baked a cake while his lover and I had hot sex.

Still would like to try it more but doubt my partner now would go for it.

by Anonymousreply 8006/13/2014

[quote]Still would like to try it more but doubt my partner now would go for it.

Why does he have to know?

by Anonymousreply 8106/14/2014

[quote]Love it as long as its with people who also love it, the voyeurism, the combination of sensations, the seeing everyone so turned on,

That part sounds good.

by Anonymousreply 8206/15/2014

r82's comment takes the cake.

by Anonymousreply 8306/15/2014

I did it once years ago with a guy I was sort of dating and a HOT dad of one of the guy's students. It was okay..until the guy I was dating passed out and the hot dad and I went at it.

I'd never do it with my boyfriend now...I'd get too jealous. The only wild thing we've done is one time out of town at a sleazy gay bar, three guys got down on their knees and blew me while my partner watched. He was into it more than I was, and it was fun, but I don't really feel the need to do anything with anyone other than him.

by Anonymousreply 8406/15/2014

[quote]The times I found myself in these situations was because I was going after a guy that night and somehow our little party of two expanded into a clusterfuck of other dicks

Sounds like fun.

by Anonymousreply 8506/19/2014

[quote]I was with a couple and the one guy (I didn't like him much anyway) left, went downstairs, and baked a cake while his lover and I had hot sex.

How did the cake turn out?

by Anonymousreply 8606/22/2014

I'd be worried about STDs. Condoms can cut down HIV risk but there's still a ton of other stuff you can get.

by Anonymousreply 8706/22/2014

[quote]I'd be worried about STDs.

You should be more worried about driving a car with the rate of accidents these days.

by Anonymousreply 8806/23/2014

[quote]Obviously, many of you have a real problem with multi-tasking.

You've got that right, R52.

by Anonymousreply 8906/24/2014

He knew you were cumming so he baked a cake at R80

by Anonymousreply 9006/24/2014

Only one-on-one for me or, say, 10. I find threesomes boring.

by Anonymousreply 9106/24/2014

Group gropes are fun.

by Anonymousreply 9207/04/2014

I left the gym (locker room) last night because my #1 grope buddy inadvertently invited a pudgy queen into our steam session, and I am not into sharing.

by Anonymousreply 9307/04/2014

The more the merrier.

I wish I could have an orgy every week. Hell, every day if I could. Group sex is the best.

by Anonymousreply 9407/04/2014

I vastly prefer group sex. To the point where I'm just not interested in one-on-one sex any more.

by Anonymousreply 9511/20/2014

Once you've tried threesomes, you won't want to go back to one on one.

by Anonymousreply 9611/23/2014

Not at all.

by Anonymousreply 9711/23/2014

m/f when things get loose can get very hot. I'm there for the pussy, but I like when the husband rubs my ass while I fuck his wife. When it's over I run out of there like Madonna at the end of Justify My Love.

by Anonymousreply 9811/23/2014

Nothing says "there for the pussy" quite like describing yourself in terms of Madonna videos. Hail, hetero fellow well met.

by Anonymousreply 9911/23/2014

There's no chance I'll experience such things again, but some of the best times and best sex I ever had were group situations. They're great memories. And no, I didn't catch anything. I did make a few good friends though.

by Anonymousreply 10011/24/2014

The more the merrier. Seriously, the more guys involved, the more fun I have. Alas, it's been ages since my last group experience, and I'm old enough now (and out of shape enough now) that I'll likely never experience it again. But damn, I sure did love it.

by Anonymousreply 10106/09/2015

I wonder how many of these guys so into group action are like those sad pot bellied wasted burnouts you see in the group scenes on Xtube.

by Anonymousreply 10206/09/2015

OP you are not weired. I find the thought of threesomes skeevy too.

by Anonymousreply 10306/09/2015

Weired?

by Anonymousreply 10406/09/2015

In my experience, R102, none...all the guys were relatively hot or at least decent looking. They were also nice and fun. I know you want to believe the worst of people who are sexually adventurous and have fun with sex... but your stereotypes aren't all 100% true. I'm sure the people you describe exist (I mean, they're on video!), but they hardly typify everyone into group sex.

by Anonymousreply 10506/09/2015

Those who play with fire over and over are eventually consumed by it R105.

by Anonymousreply 10606/09/2015

You say that. But I know dozens of people who never were. So... yeah. A few do, certainly.

But you're sounding alarmist, like that "Reefer Madness" hysteria about pot.

It's kind of ignorant and more than a little bit fear-mongery.

by Anonymousreply 10706/09/2015

I wish. It's been years and don't get around much now with my husband. We're both up for it but haven't had the chance. I'd love to see him get super turned on.

by Anonymousreply 10806/09/2015

Love threesomes when I'm getting fucked by one guy while I'm sucking off another. Feels so fucking good

by Anonymousreply 10906/09/2015

I've never been the group/3-some type, I'm far too shy and self conscious and I want to feel special to someone not like a human sex toy.

by Anonymousreply 11006/09/2015

My first three-way was with guys that were cousins. Donald Bailey and Tony Sargent.

We had smoked some pot in the woods behind my house and Donald fucked my while I sucked Tony.

by Anonymousreply 11106/09/2015

I find one-on-one porn kinda boring. Gimme the group scenes!

by Anonymousreply 11206/11/2015

There was a poll about this, the majority of people had been involved in a threesome. Which isn't surprising, most gay men I know have.

by Anonymousreply 11406/11/2015

I'd be too worried I'd be the odd man out in a threesome.

by Anonymousreply 11506/11/2015

Yes.

by Anonymousreply 11606/11/2015

Are there any bisexual men here who are into a 3 way with a bisexual man and his bisexual wife?

There seem to be a pretty fair number of men in the real world who are, but because DL is so women hating, perhaps that's not the case here. My husband and I get down that way, and I like seeing him with other men. He doesn't bottom though, and usually, but not always, I fool around a little with the third.

by Anonymousreply 11706/11/2015

Two of my exes were into threesomes, so I was a good sport about it and agreed to it a few times. I had to be attracted to who he wanted though.

by Anonymousreply 11806/11/2015

Sounds way to ripe for complications if everyone isn't really on the same page.

by Anonymousreply 11906/12/2015
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