is being the rejector. Well, at least for me. Ive had to do it three times this year. I hate disappointing people. Almost four years after the fact, I'm still carrying the guilt of breaking up with my ex after being together for 8 years.
The only thing worse than being rejected...
|by Anonymous||reply 16||12/08/2012|
I agree. I felt like a criminal after I had to break off a relationship with a really sweet guy. He wanted things to move more quickly and I got scared. Fortunately, we've become close friends. He's a much better person than I am, and I'm sure I would have been a burden to him had our romantic relationship progressed.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||12/07/2012|
my therapist says that feeling guilt and pain about disappointing someone stems from the fear of being hurt yourself. the best way to help heal and move forward is to be confident and honest about your feelings...and the only way to make it not hurt is to be consistent and try.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||12/07/2012|
I feel like an absolute shit. A little over a month ago I made friends with a guy who relocated here from across the country and had no friends here. After a week or so he started dropping hints about how he felt about me. Instead of addressing that and letting him know that I didnt feel the same way about him, I pretended that I didnt hear what he said. Now, we dont talk as much as we used to and when we do, I can tell he is disappointed and is very vague and distant. The situation with me ex is even worse as he ended up getting Baker Acted this summer.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||12/07/2012|
[quote] fear of being hurt yourself.
That makes sense. Ive been rejected, had my heart broken plenty. It really sucks. But knowing that I am causing that hurt and pain in someone else really upsets me. Becoming a recluse and not putting myself out there anymore is sounding more and more like a good New Years Resolution.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||12/07/2012|
I don't believe OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||12/08/2012|
"Baker Act" ??
|by Anonymous||reply 6||12/08/2012|
involuntarily committed to a mental institution by police or authorities.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||12/08/2012|
I think having terminal cancer would also be worse than being rejected.
I think getting nuked would be worse.
I think being robbed at gunpoint would be worse
I think being forced to read stupid threads is worse
|by Anonymous||reply 8||12/08/2012|
We feel your pain.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||12/08/2012|
You need to get over yourself, honey. Stop hurting people. You screwed your 8-year relationship, nobody else. You're punishing others over this bullshit. Those guys you rejected were probably very nice and you hurt them by your queeny foolishness. STOP IT
And get a life.
I hate queens like you. You're an asshole. No sympathy here for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||12/08/2012|
OP: "Please don't hate me for being so desirable. I can't help it. But I vow I will never ever get involved with someone in my own league lest I be the one who gets dumped."
|by Anonymous||reply 11||12/08/2012|
[quote]Becoming a recluse and not putting myself out there anymore is sounding more and more like a good New Years Resolution
This is the path I chose. I simply don't date any more, and don't put myself out there any more.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||12/08/2012|
[quote] my therapist says that feeling guilt and pain about disappointing someone stems from the fear of being hurt yourself
That is nonsensical verging on moronic.
You need to find a smarter therapist.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||12/08/2012|
|by Anonymous||reply 14||12/08/2012|
I'm happy you feel like a shit, OP. No sympathy from me.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||12/08/2012|
Whiniest self-serving thread this year.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||12/08/2012|