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As you get older does you sex drive decrease

I hooked up with this guy last night, but all I could think about afterwards was how eventually when I'm older chances of hooking up with anyone will disappear. Lets face once your past a certain age in the gay world you become invincible .Even guys who are middle aged most of the time want younger guys. I'm 33 now nearly 34 and I enjoy my sex life but I keep on wondering how many years of casual sex is actually left.So how do gay guys from 45 to 70 deal with the lack of a certain point do you loose interest.

by Anonymousreply 3412/02/2012

Magic 8 Ball says, "Maybe."

by Anonymousreply 112/01/2012

Casual sex doesn't necessarily involve intimacy, intimacy doesn't necessarily involve sex.

by Anonymousreply 212/01/2012

You also lose energy. I'm tired all the time.

by Anonymousreply 312/01/2012

Yes, it does; but you don't care.

by Anonymousreply 412/01/2012

1. You mean 'invisible'

2. Yes, your sex drive eventually depletes as the amount of testosterone produced declines. Hormone replacement therapy has become very popular but it hasn't been around long enough to determine whether or not the treatment is worth a damn.

3. Your balls will eventually start sagging too. Merry Christmas!

by Anonymousreply 512/01/2012

Not necessarily. I had a fuckbuddy who was in his late 50s. Very fit, very athletic. He was like an Energizer Bunny in bed. We would finish fucking, had a really intense orgasm, and in an hour or so he would be ready to start again. I was the one, 20 years younger, who had trouble keeping up with him.

by Anonymousreply 612/01/2012

Your sex drive will decrease and believe me it just won't matter to you anymore.

by Anonymousreply 712/01/2012

[quote]Lets face once your past a certain age in the gay world you become invincible .

OP, you must mean "invisible" -- if you were to become "invincible", you'd probably attract lots of guys.

by Anonymousreply 812/01/2012

So you just trick with guys your own age. Next.

by Anonymousreply 912/01/2012

[r6] you are so credible

by Anonymousreply 1012/01/2012

Agree with r4, and in addition to "not caring" it is also a matter of a certain amount of relief. You just come to the realization that all the effort and sometimes drama of procuring sex partners is somehow far less worth it with advancing age. I have done all that I care to do sexually with men, anything else that comes along is just superfluous repetition and I have accepted the fact that as an aging queen of 58, I am no longer the spring chicken I was at 28 and in many ways glad of it. I'll keep my options open, but I'm not going to expect any knight in shining armor, I learned that lesson that all gay men must learn sooner or later a long time ago. Happy is the man who knows he has or has had enough.

by Anonymousreply 1112/01/2012

Thankfully, yes it has. Conversely, I enjoy sex much more now.

by Anonymousreply 1212/01/2012

Yes, my life goal is to invent stories to impress losers like yourself, R10. You got me there!

by Anonymousreply 1312/01/2012

You guys think 56 is old?

by Anonymousreply 1412/01/2012

My sex drive increased at 28, then peaked and started dropping again at 39, but at 42, I've found it increasing again.

I'll never be 18 again, but I'm surprised by my stamina and interest at this age, actually.

by Anonymousreply 1512/01/2012

There may be some truth to the saying that you are as young as you feel r14, but I would say 56 or 58, as I am, is "older". BTW, are you what one might consider "cute" at 70? I wouldn't hesitate to do you if you are (that is if you liked me and were willing to humor my sexual perversion)--I've always liked older men.

by Anonymousreply 1612/01/2012

I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was!

by Anonymousreply 1712/01/2012

[quote]Yes, it does; but you don't care.

My sentiments....

[quote]Your sex drive will decrease and believe me it just won't matter to you anymore.


by Anonymousreply 1812/01/2012

Why do you think Viagra was invented?

by Anonymousreply 1912/01/2012

I've been tempted r19, but isn't the "jury still out" on viagra? Besides I'm on a tight budget and can't afford frills like viagra.

by Anonymousreply 2012/01/2012

I am in my early 50's. Sex drive has decreased some and THANK GOD. It really frees you up to live a much fuller, richer life and be a person who doesn't think with his dick all the time. I am not rationalizing anything, either. Still love sex. Can still get an erection pretty easily. And I am still attracted to guys. But it doesn't rule my life and is not all that I think about. It's called maturity. Aging, too, of course, but now I can just smile at the idiotic things younger men do to get laid. All the stupid bad choices they make. The dumbass things they say. I know because I DID them, too. There is so much less drama in my life anymore and it is absolutely wonderful.

by Anonymousreply 2112/01/2012

I'm with r11. Mid-50s, look good, but I don't have the desire to go casing after sex partners the way I did as recently as five years ago. It's just not satisfying. I love sex and have a wonderful fuckbuddy friend I see about once every other week. We always have a great time and have dinner afterwards.

by Anonymousreply 2212/01/2012

CHASING, not casing...

by Anonymousreply 2312/01/2012

Same diff maybe, r23.

by Anonymousreply 2412/01/2012

Everyone is different. But, of course it does. On average, men are at their sexual peak at 18. It doesn't just subside, it continues to subside.

by Anonymousreply 2512/01/2012

Serious question. Does the penis change size as you age? I swear mine gets just as hard, but it's not as big as it once was. I know weight gain makes it look shorter, but I swear I'm losing both length and width.

Someone posted a few weeks ago about how prostate trouble can cost you an inch and a half, but there was no follow-up to that statement. True?

I've tried oogling about this the results are all scam Viagra websites.


by Anonymousreply 2612/02/2012

[R26] I used to have the biggest dick that everyone was hot for. I must admit that I do think it is smaller now and have pictures that support that

by Anonymousreply 2712/02/2012

Said who??!???

by Anonymousreply 2812/02/2012

It's a fool's game to try to predict how you will feel about things in 10-20+ years with the mentality and perspective you have today OP. People have a funny way of changing over time and in years to come you might find that casual sex doesn't really matter to you anymore. So just enjoy it now and don't get caught up in worrying about how things will be in the future.

by Anonymousreply 2912/02/2012

Lot of horny old queens in Palm Springs and Ft Lauderdale. I'm sure the availability of cialis and viagra helps.

by Anonymousreply 3012/02/2012

I am a Gay man in my mid 60's and have nearly as strong a sex drive as I did when I was much younger. I went to my physician complaining of lessened sex drive and lack of energy; she had me tested and discovered that my testosterone level was subnormal. I am now on a regular regime of testosterone injections which have revitalized me. Also, occassioanly I'll pop a Viagra, but I don't like the side effects (Back ache, weird blue vision, nasal congestion).

by Anonymousreply 3112/02/2012

R26, I feel the same way. I think that I just don't give a flying fuck, so when I do get off, it's a quick rub, not some drawn out sexing session.

by Anonymousreply 3212/02/2012

[r13] did you read what you typed out loud?

by Anonymousreply 3312/02/2012

r31: I have a very bad reaction to viagra as well - mostly dry eyes, blurry vision and a dull headache that takes forever to subside.

by Anonymousreply 3412/02/2012
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