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Nothing like finding out you've been cheated on

This is going to be a great weekend.

by Anonymousreply 12112/26/2013

Forgive him if he apologizes. Then dump him.

Then go out for drinks.

by Anonymousreply 111/17/2012

I know how you feel OP. If it makes you feel better I found out my (ex) partner had cheated on me the night my Mother died while I was at the hospital taking care of the arrangements - I asked him to come and meet me there and he said he couldn't because of a work commitment. We had been together for 8 years.

by Anonymousreply 211/17/2012

That's it? No details?

I need details. Are you a lousy lay OP? Frigid? No fun?

by Anonymousreply 311/17/2012

Kick his ass when he tells you. It will make you feel better

by Anonymousreply 411/17/2012

punch and delete

by Anonymousreply 511/17/2012

Mh my God, R2!

by Anonymousreply 611/17/2012

That is the WORST, R2.

Most men cheat, but that is unpardonably awful.

by Anonymousreply 711/17/2012

R2 here - yeah, he had arrangements for the tryst earlier in the week and must have been eagerly anticipating it. I'm not unrealistic - I know that after 8yrs together things got a little boring in the bedroom but the timing was unforgiveable. Even worse is that my Mother adored him and welcomed him into our family as one of her own.

by Anonymousreply 811/17/2012

These things happen.

by Anonymousreply 911/17/2012

You should have burned his house down.

by Anonymousreply 1011/17/2012

Nothing like always being attracted to the type of guys who cheat.

by Anonymousreply 1111/17/2012

r2 - when and how did you break it off? So sorry that happened to you. Now, spill.

by Anonymousreply 1211/17/2012

Call me, OP

by Anonymousreply 1311/17/2012

"Nothing like always being attracted to the type of guys who cheat. "

But how can you tell the ones who don't? I thought a homely guy would be safe, but apparently not.

by Anonymousreply 1411/17/2012

Are gay men ever surprised when they're cheated on? Don't we expect it on some level? I haven't met many gay guys who actually want to be monogamous or exclusive. Ultimately, most always seem to want to adopt some little bedroom buddy.

by Anonymousreply 1511/17/2012

Oh please please please let OP be a lesbian! This thread'll hit 600 in about four hours.

by Anonymousreply 1611/17/2012

Unlike most straight men, I don't think most gay men believe it's ok for themselves to cheat but not for their partners.

by Anonymousreply 1711/17/2012

I've been with my partner for four years and we were going to get married this spring. Had plans to spend our first Thanksgiving together this year. :(

by Anonymousreply 1811/17/2012

Actually cheating on the night of your mothers death makes sense. He needed an escape from the misery. Sex is a drug of escape.

by Anonymousreply 1911/17/2012

wow, [r2], hope you dumped that asshole.

by Anonymousreply 2011/17/2012

How did you find out, OP?

by Anonymousreply 2111/17/2012

Cheating is natural and unpardonable. What a pity men and women can't be faithful to a person and constantly feel the urge to fuck somebody else, don't you think? It's almost disheartening if you think this deeply. But so it goes. However, i would love to believe that not all men and women end up cheating their lovers just for the thrill of it, or just because they feel empty and bored.

by Anonymousreply 2211/17/2012

OP sorry to wishes to you. I hope you can meet up with a friend or some friends and hang out?

by Anonymousreply 2311/17/2012

[quote]Don't we expect it on some level?

No. We expect people want variety, and that's fine. But doing it behind another's back is just cowardly.

by Anonymousreply 2411/17/2012

I found out on New Years Eve when I found a homemade porn video on my boyfriend's laptop that he had made with some guy. And it later turned out the burning I had thought was a UTI (even though they're extremely rare in men)... Yep.

by Anonymousreply 2511/17/2012

Wanting sexual variety is one thing; lying, giving your partner a STD or worse, being selfish while wanting "sexual variety" in another.

Too many "men are by nature promiscuous" devotees are just apologists for unbelievably egoistic behavior at the expense of others.

by Anonymousreply 2611/17/2012

OP, I hope you find someone who's willing to give you the love and respect you deserve.

I don't have a problem when two consenting adults having a relationship that satisfies both partners (opened, closed...whatever); however, nothing hurts like being deceived by someone you love. There's no excuse for 2 people having an inconsistent understanding about the true nature of their relationship.

by Anonymousreply 2711/17/2012

R25 You can't trust anyone really. It would be nice if everyone was honest. Should always use protection even with your BF cuz you never know whom he's doing on the side but I guess you know that. Sorry.

by Anonymousreply 2811/17/2012

[quote]You can't trust anyone really.

Do you really mean that? Or do you really mean "you can't trust GAY MEN really".

That's what it sounds like, and it's bullshit and anti-gay.

You can trust people who have earned your trust. Sorry you feel that no gay men can be trusted.

by Anonymousreply 2911/17/2012

A man is as faithful as his options.

by Anonymousreply 3011/17/2012

R29 do you think straight men are any more faithful?

by Anonymousreply 3111/17/2012

The trill of cheating is in itself, part of the allure.

by Anonymousreply 3211/17/2012

70% of married straight men cheat. 50-60% of married straight women cheat.

What fucking whores.

by Anonymousreply 3311/17/2012

Don't be a drama queen. This may be the best thing that could ever happen in your relationship. Forgive him, make him feel really bad about it (carefully make subtle references about him betraying you) and you will have an upper hand in the relationship in which, so far, you seemed to have been a naive doormat.

by Anonymousreply 3411/17/2012

I never liked the term 'cheating' so grammar school, unless you guys had some kind of contract.

still, I had been flirting with a hot guy at his job and it was harmless because after I learned he lived with his boyfriend I knew I didn't have a chance, so it was a running joke.

then I recently found out he actually thought I was attractive and that threw a monkey wrench into it for me. I went to talk about it with him at work and guess who walks in behind me?

I could tell because I had heard a description of him before, and they kissed. I hightailed it out of there and felt bad the rest of the week.

by Anonymousreply 3511/17/2012

Humans are flawed. We can't promise fidelity because we can't predict the future. All we can do is lessen the chances of straying by not putting ourselves in compromising positions (side eye to R35).

by Anonymousreply 3611/17/2012

What r26 said. After 25 years, I had to kick the parasite out. Have never been happier and I don't look back.

by Anonymousreply 3711/17/2012

R29 = queen of the non-sequitur

by Anonymousreply 3811/18/2012

r38 do you know what 'non-sequitur' means?

by Anonymousreply 3911/18/2012

Claim: You can't trust anyone.

Conclusion: No gay men can be trusted.

It does not follow.

by Anonymousreply 4011/18/2012

Actually, I'll revise that. If you take 'anyone' to be all inclusive, then I suppose that does include all gay men. But you see what I'm getting at.

by Anonymousreply 4111/18/2012

Actually it does follow if the first statement is true.

by Anonymousreply 4211/18/2012

OP, are you a gay man? If so, then if you're not the one doing the cheating, you're the one being cheated on. That goes with the territory.

by Anonymousreply 4311/18/2012

No details is right. I think this says it all about the poster: BORING. I suspect The boyfriend just got friggen BORED and split.

WTF? Do you honestly expect monogamy in a gay relationship? It's not gonna happen, dearie. I had a lover for 10 years and he screwed around with all our cocktail party guest friends, all the while staunchly insisting he wasn't up to anything (totally oblivious to that disease we all know and fear: HIV).

Now, thanks to my wanting a husband to avoid HIV, here I am sitting with full-blown AIDS!

I haven't had sex since 2003 and I'm fine with it. (Yes, girls, this is a TRUE statement, self-control. Don't want to put someone's life on the line with a condom, and besides I have pretty pussy cats to tend to and a lovely knitting hobby that keeps my mind occupied)

by Anonymousreply 4411/18/2012

[quote]my Mother adored him and welcomed him into our family as one of her own.

I knew a mother who did this. And then she died.

by Anonymousreply 4511/18/2012

Oh, OP...that sucks, I know how you feel. Dump him, and move on. I guarantee that he will cheat again, if you take him back.

by Anonymousreply 4611/18/2012

[quote]I know how you feel OP. If it makes you feel better I found out my (ex) partner had cheated on me the night my Mother died while I was at the hospital taking care of the arrangements

Oh, man! Worse timing. I was dumped on Easter Day, after 2 years...and it was with another friend.

by Anonymousreply 4711/18/2012

It really does suck OP.

by Anonymousreply 4811/18/2012

So sorry, r44.

by Anonymousreply 4911/18/2012

I still cannot believe Anderson Cooper took Ben back. Anderson must be desperate.

by Anonymousreply 5011/18/2012

Details, OP. Was it just sex? Sex with love? Just one guy or multiple? Once or over an extended period of time? How much did he lie to you? For many people there are levels of cheating that are forgiveable. What's your dealbreaker?

by Anonymousreply 5111/18/2012

R29, assume much? R28 in no way stated that he/she felt that you can't trust gay men. Yet, you twisted his words and threw accusations out that had no basis in fact. Let me assume and say that by your reaction, R28 hit a nerve and you've cheated on your partners before.

R34, why would you want to have a relationship where you "have the upper hand" by making "subtle remarks" to make your partner feel like shit? What are we, in high school? Because the games you suggest OP play are games most of us stopped when we became mature adults.

by Anonymousreply 5211/18/2012

All gay men are cheaters.

by Anonymousreply 5311/18/2012

I'd just leave or make him.

by Anonymousreply 5411/18/2012

OP = Drama Queen

by Anonymousreply 5511/18/2012

R44: -10/10

by Anonymousreply 5611/18/2012

I hear ya, OP.

by Anonymousreply 5711/18/2012

R29 = the non-hearing, non-comprehending, anti-gay troll

by Anonymousreply 5811/19/2012

R50 you're changing the subject. and BTW Anderson is anything BUT desperate. Gay. straight, male, female...everyone wants the Silver Fox. He could have whomever he wants. And he loves Ben.

by Anonymousreply 5911/19/2012

Forgive and forget...

by Anonymousreply 6011/19/2012

"Don't trust anyone" is tacitly directed at gay men.

People never advise their parents or straight siblings to always use condoms because their partners can't be trusted.

You don't hear people say "What? You're pregnant? Didn't you use protection because 70% of men cheat and he could be giving you HIV or other STDs?"

But with gay men, even long term couples, it's always: Can't trust him. To rationalize it, someone inevitably someone talks about their many friends who thought they were in monogamous relationships until their skanky ho BFs gave them HIV.

by Anonymousreply 6111/19/2012

man r29 and r61 have issues! What poor victims.

by Anonymousreply 6211/19/2012

I certainly wasn't directing that comment at gay men R61. I'm sorry you interpreted it that way. I honestly don't think humans are meant to be monogamous. I think the opposite is the norm. And yes of course if someone gets pregnant accidentally people say "what? you didn't use a condom?". I know I'd say that. This is the 21st century and most people know about STDs and AIDs. Who would trust someone else with their health? Not me. And any man (gay or straight) who would risk their partner's life by having unsafe sex with an outside party and then not disclosing that fact is a pretty low form of life. But maybe that's why you are offended. There's nothing wrong with having an open relationship as long as both parties know about it.

by Anonymousreply 6311/20/2012

"Gay. straight, male, female...everyone wants the Silver Fox. He could have whomever he wants. And he loves Ben"

I don't think everyone. To me he is unattractive and too girly. His "career" entirely based on having been born into the right family.

by Anonymousreply 6411/20/2012

In everyone of my realtionships since 16yrs old I have been monogamous.

The realtionships have lasted from 6 months to 8 yrs and I never cheated once.

Not that I didnt have my chances, Im handsome, sucessful and in the hotel business where I meet guys everyday.

I sometimes think cheating has alot to do with insecurity issues.

Unfortunately I can not say the same for my partners. The only regret I have is when I forgave and the guys just around and did it again!

by Anonymousreply 6511/20/2012

I wonder about Ben's taste in fuck buddies. The guy he's about to kiss is gross. His hair is greasy, he kisses with his eyes open and you can see his pale tongue protruding from his mouth before their lips even meet. I think he looks like a hustler. A cheap hustling rube. A walking STD. Ewww.

by Anonymousreply 6611/20/2012

[quote]In everyone of my realtionships since 16yrs old I have been monogamous.

"Everyone" is a pronoun. You mean "every one." To figure out which one to use, if you can substitute "everybody," then it's "everyone." If you can substitute "each one" then it's "every day."

[quote]Not that I didnt have my chances, Im handsome, sucessful and in the hotel business where I meet guys everyday.

"Everyday" is an an adjective. You mean "every day." Similarly, substitute "each day" to figure this one out if it should be two words.

So even if you never learn anything about picking men, at least you learned something here r65.

by Anonymousreply 6711/20/2012

OP are you Holly Petraeus? I knew you were a dyke!!! Welcome to the DL hon!! we are your people!

by Anonymousreply 6811/21/2012

[quote] I found out my (ex) partner had cheated on me the night my Mother died while I was at the hospital taking care of the arrangements

Are you my cousin, R2? She was dumped by her cheating husband, by phone, on the day that she was flying to another state to sit with her dying mother.

by Anonymousreply 6911/21/2012

Here I am spending Friday night on campus drowning myself in work in a lame attempt to take my mind off being cheated on.

This comes after recently learning that the person whom I considered to be the love of my life has not only been screwing someone else behind my back but that this third person in our relationship is a woman.

For the past three years.

He also made her pregnant and their son is about to turn two years old.He is the spitting image of his father right down to the dimples.

To say I am fucking fuming is an understatement.I have not told anyone else as yet about this and yet to confront him as he is currently out of state on business.

My head is fucked beyond belief.At this moment I cannot think straight even if my life depended on it.

Five years of my life down the toilet along with all the dreams I had for both of us.

I cannot imagine ever coming back from this gigantic clusterfuck.

by Anonymousreply 7011/15/2013

I agree about R19 about sex being a drug for escape. After a funeral that very badly affected me I was overwhelmed bu this urge to see and spend time with (and more) this beautiful woman, friend of the berieved (who was a very close mutual friend of ours). I'm pretty sure she felt the same way, she said give me a call. I couldn't go through with it in the end and never called her, but I thought about her for months. And I'm pretty sure it was a coping mechanism.

by Anonymousreply 7111/16/2013

R70, if you are lucky enough to enjoy your work, there's always that.

Personally, I like travelling and seeing landscapes/learning about history.

by Anonymousreply 7211/16/2013

Try to bear in mind that cheating is all about the person who cheated, not about the person who was cheated on.

THEY are the ones unhappy about some aspect of themselves and/or their lives and feeling helpless to change it in any other way, so they put a patch on the real problem by taking up with somebody new, who will gaze at them with adoration in their eyes rather than a less-enamored but deeper understanding of them as flawed people.

Of course it hurts like hell and will for awhile, but take comfort in the fact that it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

by Anonymousreply 7311/16/2013

Slap him, M'Lynn!

by Anonymousreply 7411/16/2013

Work can only take so much off your mind in this situation.

It is not easy when you have been madly in love with someone for half a decade and really believed you would both marry one day.

Only to later find out that everything you had shared was based on lies.

If that was not bad enough aleady....he had been leading a double life in Seattle and broke off all contact with his side dish....when she refused to have an abortion.

She apparently took for granted that he was straight given his "bedroom skills".

He is a lying cheater who is also a deadbeat father that has never contributed a single cent towards his own child.....impressive when you consider that he earns a six figure salary as an oncologist for big pharma.

I feel sick thinking about it since I have never known the love of a father.My partner also knows just how much this absence has affected me as a person.

He came out as gay to his family at his early twenties.He has their support and they accepted me into their lives when we began dating some years later.

In retrospect you only begin to take notice of signs when shit hits the fan.I feel like such a fucking blind asshole now as there were times I did see him subtly checking out women in ways that only a straight man would.

Love is blind and I was in fucking denial.

I vividly remember asking him if he was bisexual.He looked me in the eye and adamantly told me "NO".

I believed him attributing it to paranoia.

I earned that right as mental as it may seem. He is one of the most gorgeous men I had ever laid my eyes on and was lucky enough to have.

Naturally I have had to put up with the advances of other gay men who thought they stood a chance.

I had even told my straight female friends who were smitten by him to eat their hearts out.

The fucking irony.

by Anonymousreply 7511/17/2013

R70, how did you find out?

by Anonymousreply 7611/17/2013

[quote]"What? You're pregnant? Didn't you use protection because 70% of men cheat and he could be giving you HIV or other STDs?"

I don't know who you socialize with, but I say that rather frequently.

by Anonymousreply 7711/17/2013

r70 is a good example of why one should not count his or her chickens before they've hatched.

by Anonymousreply 7811/17/2013

R73 is absolutely right. As someone who contemplates infidelity on a regular basis, it is absolutely about that. When you need a break from your life, when you are unhappy with yourself or your situation, you need a new gaze upon yourself. Something new, anything sometimes in fact. Someone who knows you too well reminds you of your flaws even if they don't intend to.

I haven't slept with my wife in years, although I have often wished to do so with somebody else. I just don't feel like having sex with her. It's like I need to take a break so I can go back. With time, it's getting worse. I'm afraid that when I do take a break I will be leaving her.

by Anonymousreply 7911/17/2013

Never forget "A Stiff Dick Has No Conscience."

by Anonymousreply 8011/17/2013

Too true, R80.

by Anonymousreply 8111/17/2013

Found CSS at my front door with a child support order in tow just before I headed out of our apartment on 08/11.

The custodial parent's details are on the legal documentation so I did not waste any time in attempting to get hold of her.

After all I was curious to find out if this person was a lunatic.

Not before rummaging through my partner's stuff in the hopes of finding anything that would point in that direction.

He has a password for everything.Most of them are unknown to me.

The reason behind this would soon reveal itself.

I communicated with her over the phone and via email for a few days.Sharing information back and forth.

She was well aware that I was suspicuous of her accusations from the very beginning so she forwarded me pictures of them together at the first opportunity she got.

They sure appeared to be having a fucking awesome time.

She lives up to the plain jane stereotype who by some miracle is able to get the great looking guys.

There was even a picture of them both in the midst of sex which she had taken where you can clearly see that he is using no protection.

Besides I am well acquainted with that particular dick and would notice it anywhere.

It was IT.

I did find it a little weird that she had amassed a detailed record of almost everything that occurred between them both.

Still it helps someone like me who has been in the dark for most of that time.

She found it hard to swallow that he was sexually attracted to men.

And damn good at it too.

The kid is an open and shut case.

Seen the pictures.

He is definitely his father's doppelganger as a toddler even if the paternity test is yet to happen.

I told his sister and two of my closest friends about this last night.

They are at a loss for words.

The bastard returns tomorrow after a two week business trip and I am figuring out just how to confront him without eventually calling the cops on me.

by Anonymousreply 8211/18/2013

I know I am in the minority here but I don't think cheatging is necessarily the worst think that can happen in a relationship.

by Anonymousreply 8311/18/2013

Thank you, R83.

by Anonymousreply 8411/18/2013

[]Are gay men ever surprised when they're cheated on? Don't we expect it on some level?

Yes, but not because it has to be that way.

Social conditioning encourages men to believe that they can't think beyond their base desires. ie., "Boys will by boys" "he thinks with his dick" etc. etc.

This coupled with deep seated internalized homophobia and a lifetime messages telling — both outside and insider of our own community— us that Gay couples don't exist, can't be "real", don't count and are just are NOT as good as straight families, lead gay men (and women for that matter) to believe that any struggle we face in our relationships must be because we're not meant to be monogamous.

by Anonymousreply 8511/18/2013

Good luck, R82. She'll win.

Move on? Easier said than done, as always. But you'll be better off without him is my guess.

by Anonymousreply 8611/18/2013

[quote]Unlike most straight men, I don't think most gay men believe it's ok for themselves to cheat but not for their partners.

I was at a charity function once and one of the elder gays was making bets on how long a newly formed couple would be together. We've turned it into sport. This is true of gay men and lesbians.

The truth is that within our own community the expectation of relationship doom is pervasive. How often do people ask us, "Are you still with ___?" after not seeing us for a while?

This is not something people ask of married couples and straight people. It's rude it assumes that the possibility of your being single is imminent.

by Anonymousreply 8711/18/2013

I got cheated on when I went away for a weekend to my friend's wedding. Luckily the relationship was only a couple years in and I had my own apartment to move back to immediately.

It took me a long time to get over it though, I was young at the time. It takes a while to get over being cheated on, especially when you have genuine feelings for someone else.

But in the end, it was for the best, they were already falling in love and it wasn't just about the sex. They are still together now, I still speak to my ex if I see him out but I can't get on with the bf. I've forgiven them both but I'll never forget.

by Anonymousreply 8811/18/2013

sorry, r2

by Anonymousreply 8911/18/2013

Beyond cheating....he lied to me about his sexuality and knocked someone up in the process.

I wish he would have been more honest with me from the get go.

I think I deserved at least that much.

So does his family.

He has a lot of backtracking to do since he openly called himself "gay" fifteen years ago.

He is masculine and would not ping unless he becomes overtly suggestive.

I am way more sensitive.

Yes I may be gay but I have never cheated on anyone which explains why this is so hard for me.

by Anonymousreply 9011/18/2013

OP, you need to get away from this situation and FAST... otherwise Molly, you in danger gurl.

by Anonymousreply 9111/18/2013

Will it be easy for you to kick him out of the house, R82 R91?

by Anonymousreply 9211/18/2013

I agree with what a lot of people are saying. It isn't the wanting to sleep with other people which is the problem, it is the dishonesty that is the problem.

Communicate honestly we can talk about it, fool around behind the back while lying to my face. Kick your ass to the curb.

by Anonymousreply 9311/18/2013

r2, I am so sorry that happened. I hope you kicked his sorry ass to the curb.

by Anonymousreply 9411/18/2013

r82, was your partner a narcissist? It is hard to fathom how someone could behave that way and not have a personality disorder.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

by Anonymousreply 9511/18/2013

My partner and I have been together almost 26 years. We just got married a few days ago.

I have never once been tempted to cheat on her. I don't believe she has either.

I love her very, very much.

by Anonymousreply 9611/18/2013

Yes, but you're a lesbian. I'm not sure women cheat as much as men, R97.

by Anonymousreply 9711/18/2013

Cheating may be OK if the marriage is sexless and the marriage cannot be easily dissolved due to family and financial issues...

by Anonymousreply 9811/18/2013

Thanks R97, we are all very happy for you, but some of us live in the real world, where hearts are broken, people cheat, people fall in an out of love. Your life is not what most of us go through. I'm not demeaning you, just be grateful you haven't had to deal with OP's situation.

by Anonymousreply 9911/18/2013

R82, why don't you just write him a letter, and go somewhere else while he arrives? Try to take a few days off before confronting him, so that you can calm down and, above all, talk to a few people who might help you to put everything in perspective.

I'm sorry that this has happened to you. To say that he is a piece of shit is an understatement. However, it's positive that you have found out now, before it's too late - five years isn't that long and, if he has been capable of deceiving you so shamelessly, and has treated his own son with such cruelty, imagine what he's capable of. It's been better to find out about it now that you can still rebuild your life, before he decides that you don't matter anymore and simply discards you. I know that you don't believe me, but the pain you're feeling at the moment is nothing compared to what you would feel then.

And then, they say that bisexual men are not deceiving, conniving, exploitative and evil creeps.

by Anonymousreply 10011/18/2013

I wish it were that easy to have the last say and kick my partner out but he owns the apartment that we live in.

If anyone's leaving it would have to be me.

I realized this morning after some reflection just how fucked up one's thinking can get after having thought the world of somebody only to later find out that you were blindsided by them.

That you would actually be willing to look past their indiscretions no matter how colossal it is.

For a split second I actually believed that if I leave him....I will never find somebody who is as beautiful a man and successful as he is.

To the outside world my partner has always come across as "perfect".

He is aware of his aesthetic appeal and being held in high regard by many because of his line of work.

I cannot even count the number of times I have been told by numerous people "just how lucky" I am for getting someone like him.

It's not like I am nothing without him.I have great things going on in my life including a PhD in progress from one of the best schools in the country.

Until now my partner has been percieved to be a measure of my personal success.

But....neither am I going to tolerate his constant stream of lies and infidelity any further.

No man is worth stooping that low for.

Which is why I have packed some of my stuff and will be heading over to my mom's place after campus today.

The emptiness should be a welcoming sight when he returns back this evening.

by Anonymousreply 10111/19/2013

Wow, R102! Good luck! The situation is completely effed up... However, you are proving that you have both dignity and courage.

I hope that you can find someone worthy of your love and respect soon enough. He is obviously not it, no matter how "beautiful" he might be on the outside.

by Anonymousreply 10211/19/2013

"Cheating" = Lying.

There is no excuse for it.

Dump him.

by Anonymousreply 10311/19/2013

There are some pretty effed up stories here. It makes you wonder whether having a relationship is safe at all - most men appear to be deranged psychopaths who are only waiting for the best time to completely mess your life and leave you high and dry. It's just horrible.

by Anonymousreply 10411/20/2013

What gay hasn't been cheated on by a boyfriend? It comes with the territory.

by Anonymousreply 10511/20/2013

OP, how ya doin'?

by Anonymousreply 10612/10/2013

R102, your life will be fine. It might take a while, but it will be sooner if you dump him immediately.

by Anonymousreply 10712/10/2013


I think you're right

by Anonymousreply 10812/10/2013

You think you're sadand angry now OP?

Just wait 'til the herpes and anal wart clusters start to appear.

by Anonymousreply 10912/10/2013

I cheat on R67. Can you blame me?

by Anonymousreply 11012/10/2013

You were surprised? In the gay world, cheating is the norm. When I see a guy, I expect him to cheat. It's called being realisic. I only expect that he not do anything high risk and that it not be with someone we both know.

by Anonymousreply 11112/10/2013

[quote]I vividly remember asking him if he was bisexual.He looked me in the eye and adamantly told me "NO".

Welcome to the Burned by a Bisexual Club. I will never date a bisexual again, but of course devious bisexuals often lie about their sexuality to get what they want. You have to be very leery of them.

by Anonymousreply 11212/10/2013

well, what happened OP?

by Anonymousreply 11312/10/2013

Sorry R102. but you're just a temporary blip on this guys' life radar...just one of many failed,meaningless relationships(as far as he's concerned)an asshole like him is destined for.

He'll have a new face, penis and hole in place in time for the New Year....anyone's "replaceable" to a narcissist like this.

by Anonymousreply 11412/10/2013

So R102, what has finally happened? DO you have any updates to share with us?

To be honest, he sounds like a MASSIVE son of a bitch, and I agree with R115, he is a narcissist who uses everyone around him int he worst possible way.

I hope you're OK. It must be terrible to find out something like this.

by Anonymousreply 11512/11/2013

R111, if you don't want R67, can I have him? (Unless, of course, that posting was mine. After this post appears, I'll check with troll-dar and find out.)

I do realize that your cheating on him doesn't mean that you don't want him. But if it is indeed my posting, and you're cheating on me, I don't want you.

Where is Pirandello, now that I need him?

by Anonymousreply 11612/11/2013

What gay man has not been cheated on? I've been cheated on many times and done my fair share of cheating. In our world, that's life.

by Anonymousreply 11712/25/2013

I've been cheated on several times.

I've never cheated on anyone.

by Anonymousreply 11812/25/2013

X2 - Been cheated on; haven't cheated.

by Anonymousreply 11912/25/2013

If you catch your boyfriend in bed with another man, do what most gay men would do. Strip and join in on the fun.

by Anonymousreply 12012/26/2013
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