How often have you surprised yourself with what you actually CAN DO?
Every now and then I find myself doubting myself so thoroughly until suddenly I realize how I'm the only one completely psyching myself out.
I remember back when I was applying to college, I thought there was no way in hell I would get it and could afford it. I was absolutely convinced that education was not my lot in life. My Mother- who NEVER encouraged me outwardly— told me, "Yes, yes, you can do this." I did. Today I have an advanced degree and I've paid my loans off. I'll never regret it.
Last summer my partner and I decided to put in hardwood floors. Neither of us had any experience. We did some research, watched a lot of videos, read a lot of articles and DYI magazines, asked some friends who knew what to do --- and we did it. We still can't believe how good it looks and we did it ourselves.
What are your lightbulb moments of self-empowerment?
|by Anonymous||reply 19||11/07/2012|
[quote] How often have you surprised yourself with what you actually CAN DO?
Drinking wise, I surprise myself often.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||11/06/2012|
Years ago my partner had advanced cancer. We were young, and I had never dealt with illness at all, really not dealt with much. I was scared to death that I wouldn't be able to handle it. I found surprising strength and met the challenges of caring for him for five years, with little help. He died. There has been very little fear on my part since then about what I can do.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||11/06/2012|
And here I was, so proud of myself that I lost 20 lbs and am now able to do 40 pushups :/
|by Anonymous||reply 6||11/06/2012|
R6 you should be proud.
Didn't mean to come off like a plaster saint, but that time in my life was formative. The rest of my life has been pretty easy to handle.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||11/06/2012|
And I get what you mean. Two of my brothers have died under terrible circumstances, and when you go through shit like that, and what you have gone through, it seems like everything else is a cakewalk.
(and when people bitch about tiny little inconveniences, I want to slap them)
|by Anonymous||reply 8||11/06/2012|
I have bipolar, have just got through a year of bullshit at work, culminating in a particularly poisonous and twisted character leaving before his hearing for dismissal due to bullying.
I'm still there and well respected and progressing in my field. I have got through all the bullshit and worked my ass off which is now paying off.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||11/06/2012|
Op you're cute.
For me it's bodybuilding. Was a scrawny little guy until my late 20's. Always admired and yearned to be like those muscle heads I saw from time to time, but had never stepped foot inside a gym.
Then.... I got over it.
Hired a trainer, changed my diet and eighty pounds later, I feel and look great. I know it's shallow, but it changed my life and I sometimes can't believe I did it.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||11/06/2012|
Scrawny guys are cute, R10. Such a shame.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||11/06/2012|
Way to make a guy feel better about himself, R11. Do you know the definition of rug-pulling?
|by Anonymous||reply 12||11/06/2012|
Haha, thank you r12. I respect what r11 is attracted to. It's just not what I wanted to be.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||11/06/2012|
hardwood floors OP or laminate?
|by Anonymous||reply 14||11/06/2012|
I'm surprised I'm maintaining a great GPA while pursuing a graduate degree at a reputable school.
I'm surprised people consider me a great public speaker even though I'm shy as hell.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||11/06/2012|
I have stopped smoking.
And it has been easier than I was led to believe.
Green tea helps
|by Anonymous||reply 16||11/06/2012|
I ran a marathon. Granted, my time was horrible but there were many times I wanted to quit but I kept going & finished. I've gained some weight since then & I still can't believe that chunky me ran a marathon.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||11/06/2012|
Congratulations r10. My partner had issues with going to the gym too. Now we're regulars!
|by Anonymous||reply 18||11/07/2012|
[quote]when people bitch about tiny little inconveniences, I want to slap them
After working in some Third World nations, I had a difficult time adjusting to life at home because inconveniences no longer bothered me. It bothered others that I didn't care. I think they wanted to slap me for not paying close attention to matters.
After being among people who lived in huts made of grass or palm fronds, with no electric power, no doors in door openings and nothing in window openings, I no longer was bothered if the power went off for a few hours, the refrigerator broke, the TV cable was messed up, the car needed brake pads, etc., etc. When things go wrong in a household, others in the household expect you to be equally upset.
Moving into a job that would send me to rural places in Africa and South America was a bit daunting and I wondered if I could carry it off. It was a shock to experience the poverty but it was so damn satisfying to know you could help.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||11/07/2012|