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I hate work so much that I wake up each morning nauseated

I usually spend 20 minutes just heaving over the toilet, sick. :( My dr. prescribed an anti-vomit medicine, Phenergan, but it makes me so sleepy that I have to take it at night and even then, I wake up in a haze and sleep right through my alarm.

My other option is to quit my job, but ... then I'll have no income! Not exactly an optimal choice, although honestly, it's beginning to look better than heaving over the bowl each day.

by Anonymousreply 8104/23/2014

It's time to look for a new job. I've been there and it will not get better. Plus you'll get off the drugs.

by Anonymousreply 110/23/2012

What do you do, sweetie?

by Anonymousreply 210/23/2012

OP, I've been there. Finally I was able to transfer to another division within the same company...made all the difference. All my new coworkers complain about the work, but compared to where I was before, these people are all saints.

by Anonymousreply 310/23/2012

Get to a therapist and get on meds. You're depressed and anxious and you're not thinking clearly. I was in your shoes six months ago and got on Zoloft and Ativan. The Zoloft helps with the depression and the Ativan helps me think clearly when I'm flipping out.

by Anonymousreply 410/23/2012

Are you late OP? You're not pregnant are you?

by Anonymousreply 510/23/2012

What do you do?

I've been miserable at work, but need to remind myself that I must earn a living and must pay my bills. I could never afford to just quit a job.

Put some gratitude in your attitude!

by Anonymousreply 610/23/2012

Phenergan is too strong. Get some OTC Dramamine. Take it at night. You can take only one, not two. They also have non-drowsy Dramamine

by Anonymousreply 710/23/2012

R1 here.

This depends on what you want to accomplish.

Do you want to mask the effects of your stress; if so, then take the drugs.

OR, do you want to remove the stress. If so, then look for a new job.

by Anonymousreply 810/23/2012

I've been stuck in a miserable job, with very negative and angry coworkers, and an incompetent boss. I tried to find something, anything, that would make me at least a little happy, so that I could get through the day. Finding another job may take time. If you quit you can't even get unemployment. Be practical.

by Anonymousreply 910/23/2012

Promethazine also works well and doesn't cause drowsiness. Having said that, the larger issue does seem to be dealing with your job. Good luck!

by Anonymousreply 1010/23/2012

[quote]Promethazine also works well and doesn't cause drowsiness.

Promethazine = Phenergan, what OP is taking now.

by Anonymousreply 1110/23/2012

I've walked off a few jobs. It's better to have another job lined up but I get by. I know what it's like to think, which is better? Going to work or suicide?

by Anonymousreply 1210/23/2012

Oops sorry about that. I guess everyone is different. I get drowsy from Meclizine (the ingredient in Bonine/Dramamine), but not from promethazine.

by Anonymousreply 1310/23/2012

What R4 said. Sounds like anxiety/depression.

Try SSRIs for four weeks. If you get better you know what was causing it. If you don't get better, see a therapist. (Or better yet, see a therapist and take medication.)

If you have no money, and if you live in an area that still has public health services, go to a mental health clinic.

by Anonymousreply 1410/23/2012

[quote] I get drowsy from Meclizine (the ingredient in Bonine/Dramamine),

The ingredient in Dramamine that makes you drowsy is diphenhydramine. It's also in OTC antihistamines like Benadryl.

by Anonymousreply 1510/23/2012

Fuck that. I'd walk out of that job and never look back.

You only have one life, OP. And all you have is time. If you spend that time making yourself miserable (which is what you do when you CHOOSE to work at a miserable job), what kind of life will you have??

I have always found that when I HAVE to do something, I can. I have quit any number of jobs without unemployment OR having another job, and I always get by. It's too easy to neglect looking for another job when you're already working -- trust me, really looking for work is a full-time job.

Plus, when you're working in a miserable place, all your energy goes into just trying to make it through the day -- you don't have anything left over at the end of the day to look for more suitable work.

Take the risk, OP -- it'll be worth it in the end. And I'm speaking from experience.

by Anonymousreply 1610/23/2012

The bigger question is why would you let work affect you to this degree? I'm not judging you, I've been in your shoes. I used to drive to work wishing the building had burnt down overnight.

You have to find other outlets and interests, and things to look forward to outside of work. Go in, do your thing, and get out. Do not give it another thought from the minute you walk out the door till you walk through it again the next day.

The longer you stay, the more beaten down you will become. This will make it harder for you to muster up the confidence and enthusiasm needed to find another job. Dedicate one hour a day to your job search. This will empower you and make you feel like you are taking control of your situation to improve it.

Good luck!

by Anonymousreply 1710/23/2012

Corporations have made sure that most jobs are miserable. If they see that you enjoy your job, they will fix it so that you won't.

I believe that it's being taught in business and management classes all across the country. Make sure your employees are alway unhappy. Management get raises for nit picking and harrassment.

by Anonymousreply 1810/23/2012

[quote]Do not give it another thought from the minute you walk out the door till you walk through it again the next day.

Many jobs now follow workers home -- most often through phone/computer, but I have seen bosses knock on people's doors at night. The gal who lived below me once answered her door and found her boss there at 9PM, demanding to know why she hadn't answered an e-mail and wanting an answer on some sort of work problem right then and there on the porch.

I came home in the middle of that, and as time went on, watched the once feisty little 20 something gain weight, lose the life in her eyes, and then finally abandon her job altogether.

I was in my 40s then, and it was the saddest sight of the Brave New post 9-11 World I had ever seen. Work used to be a lot of fun, or simple to keep neutral, but not any more.

by Anonymousreply 1910/23/2012

r19, that could be because your neighbor was in her 20s. I might have fallen for that bullshit too back then. Luckily, with age and experience comes wisdom. I've been in management for 25 years.

It's bad enough with smartphones and mobile devices where bad managers can abuse employees. My boss and colleagues know that if they need to reach me in an emergency - with emergency defined as an indictment, mass casualty, or hostile takeover -- to call me. I do not respond to emails after working hours. Even if I do to catch up or because I feel like it, I set them up to deliver in the morning. It's a good example to follow, and the sign of poor management where they expect you to be responsive 24/7. People have to set boundaries and speak up or they will be abused.

Anyway, back to the OP's problem. Stand up for yourself. Worst case scenario, if it backfires and you get fired, you can collect unemployment until you find a better job.

by Anonymousreply 2010/23/2012

Is Cheryl your only patient, Dr. OP?

by Anonymousreply 2110/23/2012

[quote] I have quit any number of jobs without unemployment OR having another job...

You've just walked out of "any number of jobs"? It sounds like R16 is the one with the problems.

by Anonymousreply 2210/23/2012

WHY all the friking Drugs! Get a Second Job Part time...Starbucks is Always Hiring! DRINK FREE MINT TEA AT WORK! Buy stock in the company, quit said job that makes you vomit. Voila! You still have job and you are not taking drugs that make you worse off, and not thowing up! Now you can look for a job that you can actually live with, and a little extra money to get a therapist. Or you could go to the same drug proffering doctor, they could make it up to you by writing a letter stating that your job causes Traumatic Stress Disorder and get Disability @ which time you could look for a more palatable job that doesn't make you puke! No family makes me feel that way...and I can barely get away from them....Seriously! Good Luck!

by Anonymousreply 2310/23/2012

My jobs haven't always offered health insurance. I have lost but on the other hand I've gain life experience. We can try to make our lives easy and problem free but life is not problem free and if your job is making you that sick. Time to take the plunge, could you end up on the street? Yes, I think so. But there is still life on the street, it's just different.

by Anonymousreply 2410/23/2012

I think that's true too, if you are miserable at work it makes it hard to find the energy to look for something else.

But trying the anti depressant might not hurt?

by Anonymousreply 2510/23/2012

I think we should be able to sue companies for making our jobs horrible. Better to sue then to take a rifle to work.

by Anonymousreply 2610/23/2012

OP, start looking for a new job today. Something similar happened to me and after a while my stomach was so screwed up it was very hard to go on job interviews, because any stress at all would make me sick. You don't want this to become a chronic long term issue, it will screw up your whole system.

It took me about 15 years to quit having IBS at the drop of a hat every time I had to go to an employee review, job interview, or any meeting with my boss for any reason including low stress meetings like planning the office Christmas party. It affected my whole life for years even after I left that job. I know you feel sick, but find the strength to go look for another job now. Life isn't worth living like that, so actively take any steps you can to fix it. You'll feel better because you are doing something to improve your situation, even if it takes a while.

by Anonymousreply 2710/23/2012

Are you an architect?

by Anonymousreply 2810/23/2012

R22? Have you ever held a job in Florida? In ANY right-to-work state where they can fire you for no reason? Any non-union state where there are no laws to protect you, and the ones that do exist are routinely ignored?

Yeah -- I didn't think so.

Work under those conditions sometime. It'll make your NYC job look like a cakewalk.

by Anonymousreply 2910/23/2012

OP, somebody is trying to poison you, run for your life.

by Anonymousreply 3010/23/2012

[quote]I think we should be able to sue companies for making our jobs horrible.

It's not the jobs, usually. It's the fucking management.

People don't quit jobs, they quit management.

by Anonymousreply 3110/23/2012

Try the prescription drug zofran

by Anonymousreply 3210/23/2012

I feel sick about going to work tomorrow, too.

by Anonymousreply 3310/23/2012

I used to feel this way. My job is actually kind of awesome, but it's super, super stressful and relentless. And everyone always expects more work, more efficiency, more responsibilities and more productivity.

In the end - you spend a LOT of your life at work. Almost half of your waking life at your job. Treat yourself better in terms of how you view your job and let the chips fall where they may. Take a lunch break. Leave on time. Have some tea in the afternoon. Work at a brisk but reasonable pace. What gets done will get done, and what doesn't, won't. When you get called on it say you did all you could with the deadline constraints and resources allotted, and that other things had to take a backseat.

Managers (bad managers) will pistol whip the willing. If you are a good worker, once you start standing up for yourself (respectfully) they will likely try to find someone else to dump impossible demands on - someone younger, or someone who hasn't been there very long.

You might get fired - but if you are a good worker you may not because you'd be a bitch to replace. You may even teach your manager a thing or two about standing up for themselves to upper management.

It's your life - they can't make you be miserable.

by Anonymousreply 3410/23/2012



by Anonymousreply 3510/23/2012

We need a new thread to help others. What are your skills, what do you want to do? Can you afford to take a temporary pay cut?

by Anonymousreply 3610/23/2012

I don't want to go to work tomorrow and I hate where I live!

by Anonymousreply 3710/30/2012

Phenergan is indeed wrong for you. It is anti-nausea, you need an anti-depressant or mood elevator, something like prozac. My dying mother took phenergan for her nausea and while she wasn't nauseus anymore, she was asleep all the time.

Start looking for another job. Buy a lottery ticket so you can dream. Get some other interests.

by Anonymousreply 3810/30/2012

Where's the OP?

by Anonymousreply 3910/30/2012

OP, I hate my job too. Actually I hate some of my do-nothing co-workers and my boss that goesn't give a shit.

What gets me through the day is knowing that when I find another job I don't plan on giving any notice. My department will be screwed for months when it happens.

by Anonymousreply 4010/30/2012

R29 so true. Try working an call center at that.

So hideous but I need to pay the rent.

by Anonymousreply 4110/30/2012

R29 All states except Montana are right to work states, so likely everyone here has had that experience. You can still sue for wrongful termination but having an abusive asshole for a boss is, bizarrely, completely legal.

by Anonymousreply 4210/30/2012

OP, go register at a couple of temp agencies and then quit that fucking job. Then get on top of looking for a new job and take temp work to get by. You will have to scale back but no job should make you sick.

Temp work is picking up and perhaps you can get seasonal work. I bet you get something new by January. Things are getting better.

by Anonymousreply 4310/30/2012

And OP, I have been there and Zoloft saved my bacon. I was such a mess and my self-confidence so erroded I couldn't interview without looking like a fool. I did end up quitting without another job and had some financial hardships, but don't regret it for a minute.

by Anonymousreply 4410/30/2012

It depends on what you hold important. I spent over two years getting a degree in Nursing and then after graduation and getting a job, realized I hated it and quit without having another one lined up. I knew that I was in danger of killing myself with stress or making a mistake that could hurt someone else. I hopped into another job which paid way less and at the time helped me at least eat. After a year of that, found an awesome job I love and was working both jobs part time until I realized that the job I took right after quitting nursing was a very toxic work environment so I left that one also.

I love my job right now, but its only 3/4 time with no benefits, but to be honest, I don't care. I am so happy everyday that it is worth the insecurity of no insurance and living frugally due to fewer hours. I would much rather cut back on expenses then work myself until I am so stressed out that I'm sick anyway.

It's all about choices, OP. You have to determine that you deserve peace, comfort, and happiness and trust that if you leap into the void and quit, sure, it might be hard, but if you work at finding something else, you eventually will.

To me, everyday happiness is top priority. For most of my friends who hate their jobs and feel trapped, they either have kids so they can't quit that easily, or they hold possessions as being more important than enjoying their lives, on some level. I've never been about gadgets or things, to me a good book and thrift shop clothes are perfectly fine.

by Anonymousreply 4510/30/2012

Zoloft or the even older, Prozac might be good.

by Anonymousreply 4610/30/2012

What is your new job r44?

by Anonymousreply 4710/30/2012

I envy the people who were lucky enough to get into college and stay long enough to get a degree in a field they love. Or people in entertainment who get paid an obscene amount of money for acting/singing/producing/directing/writing. I don't fall into either category so it's punching in and out for me. Maybe in another life.

by Anonymousreply 4810/30/2012

I wish there weren't so many people suffering in unhappy workplaces, shitty jobs, around shitty coworkers or supervisors. Wish we could be free.

by Anonymousreply 4910/30/2012

r 48, count your blessings. Paying off two degrees, neither of which have done me any good. College is not all it's cracked up to these days. You need at least a Master's to get a decent job and only people who are fairly well off tend to have those, although of course some do manage to get them if they are not.

by Anonymousreply 5010/30/2012

Are you still in nursing r45?

by Anonymousreply 5110/30/2012

If you have an unsatisfactory career, why not go to a career counseling center and take the test available. You will find out what you are best at doing, and you'll be guided toward the best career for you. After the lengthy test, usually takes all morning, you might find a night school which offers you the necessary tools to build a solid career of your own choosing. Age shouldn't matter as much as a change to a healthier personal life. It's not worth it to become an invalid languishing at a job you hate, just so you can pay the rent and eat.

by Anonymousreply 5210/30/2012

Sounds like you could be pregnant, Mary OP!

When were you last corn-holed bareback?

But cheer up, you may qualify for maternity leave from your job!

by Anonymousreply 5310/31/2012

No job is worth being misrable.

by Anonymousreply 5410/31/2012

I used to be right there with you OP.

IDK if this will help but I just tried this drink called Alo Exposed today, it should help calm your stomach and it tastes good.

Aloe Vera is good for your stomach.

by Anonymousreply 5510/31/2012

Man Has Stroke at Work, Spends 5 Days Alone, Dies

By CLARKE CANFIELD Associated Press

PORTLAND, Maine October 31, 2012 (AP)

A computer specialist had a stroke in his office but wasn't discovered until five days later, then died at a hospital, relatives and authorities said Wednesday.

David Norton, 45, of Portland, was barely alive when police found him Oct. 10 inside his University of Southern Maine office. He died Oct. 15 at Maine Medical Center.

Norton had a stroke the Friday before Columbus Day and was found in his locked office by USM police the following Wednesday after a co-worker reported he'd missed a meeting and couldn't be reached, said Norton's mother, Linda Norton, of Kingfield.

She's asked USM to develop a policy for police to check every university office every day.

"Would you want your son laying there for five days? He laid there for five days after having a massive stroke," she said. "The way you treat a massive stroke is the sooner the better. You have those magic few hours, and it's not five days."

Norton was employed by the University of Maine System as a senior communications specialist, working on computer networks across different campuses.

Norton was single, so he didn't have a wife who would have reported him missing, his mother said. He also was known to sometimes take off on hiking trips and leave his car in a university parking lot while he was gone, USM spokesman Bob Caswell said.

USM police put three parking tickets on Norton's car over the Columbus Day weekend for illegal overnight parking in a school parking lot, he said.

In the wake of the tragedy, university officials are reviewing the school's policies and procedures to determine if changes are warranted, Caswell said.

"I can't speculate on what those changes might be, but this situation certainly warrants a review to make sure we're doing all we can to ensure the safety of our students, faculty and staff," he said.

USM has 75 buildings and nearly 1,300 offices on its campuses in Portland, Gorham and Lewiston, Caswell said. The USM Police Department has a chief and nine officers.

by Anonymousreply 5610/31/2012

R47 I'm now a consultant, employed with a consulting firm. I work on HRIS projects. Making more money, better benefits, ridiculously awesome employer. The best part; no matter how toxic the company I consult with, I know I am only there for a year or less. It's very freeing.

by Anonymousreply 5710/31/2012

I thought it was just me, OP.

On Monday mornings I always have dry heaves.

by Anonymousreply 5810/31/2012

Labs are alot of work. Between walking them and cleaning up their drool and all...

by Anonymousreply 5910/31/2012

I'm surprised there aren't more workplace shootings.

Of course, I first thought that in the 90s.

by Anonymousreply 6011/01/2012

At the end of the day, a paycheck is a paycheck. Here's what's helped me so maybe it can help some of you who need to focus on the (one) positive even if you overwhelmingly despise your job. I programmed 8 alarms in my phone each hour from 9-5, each titled how much money I'd made in the day to that point. So at the end of every hour I get a little reminder about how much money I just put into my pocket. It's really helped me tolerate a job I hate. Just make sure you set the alarms on silent mode so your phone isn't beeping every hour, lol.

by Anonymousreply 6111/11/2012

'Mos and there sense of self entitlement.


Not only must I get a job it must be a high paying job that treats me like a queen or I'll quit and go mooch off of Uncle Sam.

by Anonymousreply 6211/11/2012

Troll struck again at r62

He's stirring up shit in these threads and dumping cookies, so I'm showing you where he is.

And to my fellow REAL Dataloungers, please let's jump on each and every one of these idiot posts not with reactions or anger or even acknowledgement of their "argument" just keep repeating the essence of what I am posting. Let's turn our collective backs to them and say nothing except "Your shit don't work NO MORE".

by Anonymousreply 6311/11/2012

Where the fuck is the OP?

by Anonymousreply 6411/11/2012

Would be curious to know what kind of employment you have and why you hate it. I felt much the same for much of my working career. One day I went raving into the night. I managed 40 people with 3 supervisors working under me. One day I just got up and walked out.

Years of near poverty ensued and a few of frank poverty. Working for myself was the key to my happiness. I eventually became very successful at something I was very good at and loved to do.

During the lean years sometimes I felt sorry for myself because I didn't live in a nice house, I had to worry about paying the bills and keeping a car on the road. I had a profession I could go back to and from time to time would ask myself if I was willing to go back to it in order to buy a house or a new car and the answer always reinforced my resolve to almost suffer.

by Anonymousreply 6511/11/2012


Okay, I'll bite--what was the ex-profession?

by Anonymousreply 6611/11/2012

R66. you will bite? I wasn't baiting you.

by Anonymousreply 6711/12/2012

Presumably you're posting on the board because you're trying to add to the conversation or would like someone to read your comments. You complained about your ex-job--as a curious DLer, I would like a little context, hence my question.

by Anonymousreply 6811/12/2012

R68 You did not want to tell me what kind of work you did or why you were unhappy but were willing to insult me with the taking the bait comment.

What I told you is what I DID about my unhappy work life.

by Anonymousreply 6911/12/2012

... and pointless bitchery

by Anonymousreply 7011/12/2012

My rule used to be that if the job was not out of my brain one minute after quitting time, it was time to quit.

Good rule.

by Anonymousreply 7111/12/2012

R65 has it right.

My three years of "stable" employment were the worst of my life. Drank a fifth of vodka every night to deaden the nerves.

Went into business for myself and averaged maybe a fifth or two a year ever since, with some years never even touching a drop.

by Anonymousreply 7211/12/2012


The attitude you decry is the correct one.

Every asshole in the world loves to act like we have to work, or that they're doing us a fovor, when in fact the opposite is true.

Treat me right or I'll just take those government checks as well. Leverage sucks, I know.

by Anonymousreply 7311/12/2012

R71 Some of us have careers in fields we chose, fields we have interest in where we find a sense of purpose and receive gratification from our accomplishments.There are always work stresses and success comes, as most else in our lives with what we do about things, how we handle those aspects of our life.

by Anonymousreply 7411/12/2012

Back when: I was always overwhelmed by the thought of living according to someone else's rules and regs, namely any employer. Then I started to meditate, twice a day. For the past 38 years. I wake up and do that, and again in the evening, and am never overwhelmed by the stress of the day. It isn't too new-agey, it isn't precious or culty. It is just effective, and I live life fully.

by Anonymousreply 7511/12/2012

OP, you'll be able to deal with it if you start up a second small business on the side. You'll see your current job as just a necessary evil on your way to your real goal. A second part-time job can buffer your situation so you won't feel trapped. You'll be able to replace the main job easier with this cushion. Good luck.

by Anonymousreply 7611/12/2012

OP, are you a gay male gynecologist?

What were you THINKING?

by Anonymousreply 7711/12/2012

I don't wake up nauseated, but I do wake up feeling like the life has been sucked out of me knowing that I have to go to a job where many of the people make it a point to exclude me from things and ignore me. I've been there half a year now, and no matter how nice I am, a lot of these people are still total assholes to me. From now on, I'm not even going to bother trying to be nice or make friends since they keep being assholes anyway. It's not worth the energy.

All day I feel so empty and lonely and like an outsider. I've always made friends easily at all the other places I've worked, but this place changed everything. I wish I could work somewhere else, but unfortunately, I live in a town with a small job market, so I'm kind of stuck.

by Anonymousreply 7804/23/2014

Try working in a call center.

by Anonymousreply 7904/23/2014

I was in the same boat and quit without anything else lined up. I've never looked back. It's a bit uncomfortable explaining to prospective employers why you just quit a job without having anything else but it's still better than going into that oppressive hellhole every day.

by Anonymousreply 8004/23/2014

Why do we congratulate expectant mothers, and mothers who have just given birth? I have always wondered that...I mean, congratulations for bringing a child into the world who is born to suffer? I'm unemployed at the moment, but have never had a job I liked, and am all too familiar with the aforementioned IBS and dry heaves, unfortunately. Wish I had a magical solution, but there is none. I have actually temporarily stopped applying for jobs because I literally sh*t my entire insides before any interview. Living off meager savings, soon to run out.

by Anonymousreply 8104/23/2014
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