Having Anal Sex For the First Time In a Few Hours And I need these Embarrassing Questions Answered
You can ask me why I'm a 22 yr old and now about to have sex (anal) for the first time after you answer these .
1. Any particular Positions I should be in for the first penetration .
2.The only Lube like thing i have around is a series of different body wash's and liquid bath spa's . Will it do ?
3. i last meal I had was like over 12 hours ago . Should I avoid food till after sex or is that really not a requirement .(Kinda hungry)
4.Is it going to hurt real bad ? Because even when I take A dump the hard ones its a little painful so the thought of his near 8inches thrusting into me frightens me. Anything I can do now while I wait to make a possibly painful experience less . Lol
And yes I do intend to se a condom .So please answer them before you ask me anything .
|by Scared Virgin||reply 76||11/25/2014|
1. find a comfortable position, doggy often feels best to newbies.
2. NO, get real lube.
3. Eat, but douche, always douche.
4. Maybe yes, maybe no.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 1||10/16/2012|
OP? Sounds like you better stay a top.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 2||10/16/2012|
Why didnt you tell the top to bring lube? It's the least he could do.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 3||10/16/2012|
R1 I live in africa They dont exactly sell "Lube" here .Give me some alternatives that will work Just fine or else I woud have to abort and remain an anal virgin till further notice
|by Scared Virgin||reply 4||10/16/2012|
There are no safe alternatives. Why are you just thinking of this now?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 5||10/16/2012|
Olive oil will work but you would have to take it raw.
Africa has condoms but no lube? Really?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 6||10/16/2012|
GOD DAMN, some people are stupid
|by Scared Virgin||reply 7||10/16/2012|
wIll JOHNSON'S BABY OIL work
|by Scared Virgin||reply 8||10/16/2012|
Here are some acceptable emergency based latex based home lube recipes:
1] If you can get to a pharmacist, buy a small bottle of glycerine and thin it with water.
2] Also at the drug store, Polyethylene glycol, sold in the US under the brand name Miralax, can be dissolved in water and used.
[It's funny to think but all those colonoscopies are made possible by drinking thinned out lube.]
And while lube is a newbie-necessity, the sensual preparation and digital stretching and preliminary finger-banging is also required.
If he is going to mount you, penetrate you and leave you may be setting yourself up for some back door damage.
Go slowly, go sensually and make him find the Monk in the Cave.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 9||10/16/2012|
r2 I am not even a top .I am a Virgin both ways
|by Scared Virgin||reply 10||10/16/2012|
Stay away from oil based lubricants.
No olive oil, no mineral oil, no Vaseline.
Even water based creams may have oil that degrades latex condoms.
What, are you morons posting from 1982?
If you have access to POLYETHYLENE condoms you can use oil based lube but NEVER USE OIL/GREASE BASED LUBE WITH LATEX.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 11||10/16/2012|
Africa? Oh dear. Make sure you don't eat da poo poo. They frown on that.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 12||10/16/2012|
r7 what is so stupid about the questions asked
r3 because the top doesnt even know we are taking it a step further .He thinks its the usual mutual masturbation
so baby oil will do just fine right
|by Scared Virgin||reply 13||10/16/2012|
You can't use oil with latex condoms. They'll break and you'll get the HIV.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 14||10/16/2012|
For fuck's sake, you think this has never been done before? That it stretches the limits of the possible? That millions of people take cock up the ass every day because "it hurts" and leaves them bloody and doubled over, writhing in pain, swearing that they will never do it again?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 15||10/16/2012|
I don't know if R7 is referring to the OP or to the people responding with advice.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 16||10/16/2012|
R12 has given the best advice so far. WW
|by Scared Virgin||reply 17||10/16/2012|
R9 glycerine has this Very warm sensation when it touches the skin why on earth would anybody want that down there
r11 thanks for the warning .
To everyone thanks for the advice I have decided against it . I called his phone and his baby mama picked it. Now thats not the turn off but the size of his dick . Do amount of lube will make taking 8inches any easier .
If and when I do have anal sex , the person has to have a small peen . At least smaller than me .
|by Scared Virgin||reply 18||10/16/2012|
r19 Surprisingly its Not . I couldnt make this shit up if I tried
|by Scared Virgin||reply 20||10/16/2012|
Because it causes a warm sensation, OP.
And because it works.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 21||10/16/2012|
Grape jelly is great for lube. Don't use strawberry jelly. Those little seeds are bothersome.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 22||10/16/2012|
This post seems really fake and, frankly, not worth responding to.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 23||10/16/2012|
what a wimp, take the dick
|by Scared Virgin||reply 24||10/16/2012|
[quote]This post seems really fake and, frankly, not worth responding to.
Is that why you didn't open this thread and didn't post anything?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 25||10/16/2012|
No lube in all of Africa? That's weird. I also find it weird that anyone living on the continent of Africa, which contains over 50 distinct, sovereign countries, would say they "live in Africa". That's like someone from New York saying they're from "North America" or a person from Hong Kong saying they're from "Asia". Yes, it's technical true but ridiculously vague. Why not just identify yourself as an Earthling for that matter?
So, no, this silly thread doesn't ring true. We also do this same "first time bottoming tips" thread every 3 weeks, for as long as I've been here.
And I love the poster upthread who listed several alternatives for when you don't have access to lube, all of which required a trip to a pharmacy. Hello? If you can get to a pharmacy THEY PROBABLY SELL LUBE TOO!
|by Scared Virgin||reply 26||10/16/2012|
[quote]I also find it weird that anyone living on the continent of Africa, which contains over 50 distinct, sovereign countries, would say they "live in Africa". That's like someone from New York saying they're from "North America" or a person from Hong Kong saying they're from "Asia".
I image OP is considering the profound geographical ignorance of Americans.
OP--for the first time, go with a top who knows what he is doing. He should prepare you with an increasing number of fingers and he should know not to press in before your inner sphincter muscle relaxes which should happen within a minute after it is pressed by the tip of his penis. And you must relax. It helps if you keep reminding yourself that you want to be penetrated.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 27||10/16/2012|
A nice firm face-slapping usually loosens up the prospective bottom
|by Scared Virgin||reply 28||10/16/2012|
[quote]I image OP is considering the profound geographical ignorance of Americans.
That may be R27. OTOH, if the guy is in an area where he has access to the internet, it seems there would be a place to buy some type of lube, lotion, or skin cream, etc.
I saw some villages in Sierra Leone, Gambia and Guinea Bissau where they had no electric power - no stores, either. I passed by one village where they had several outdoor lights and one TV for the whole village.
I think I'll agree with R26 on this thread's OP.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 29||10/16/2012|
[quote]Africa has condoms but no lube? Really?
Yes, protected-white-world poster, many areas of the world lack lube. Condoms minus lube are designed for fucking women who lubricate naturally. They're not designed for the small minority of openly gay men in Africa.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 30||10/16/2012|
Don't have anal sex. But if you do, make sure he wears a condom. And no, body wash is not lube. And even with lube, it's gonna hurt like a bitch.
You are not ready for anal sex. Kiss and suck and call it a night.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 31||10/16/2012|
[quote]Is this a troll post?
No, Rose, it's a preview of tomorrow's The View.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 32||10/16/2012|
[quote]If and when I do have anal sex, the person has to have a small peen. At least smaller than me. by: OP
He lost me at peen. Not so elaborate. 5/10
And let throw in an Oh, dear for smaller than me...
|by Scared Virgin||reply 33||10/17/2012|
Bitch, I don't care where you live. Africa or Asshole, Arkansas...if you have the internet, then you have a fucking drugstore somewhere. Buy lube.
Not that this is even a remotely real post, but still...
|by Scared Virgin||reply 34||10/17/2012|
I don't think 22 year olds announce that in posts.
I left my age off in a slightly similar post (it was a what to do thread) and responders thought I was much younger than I am.
The responses were kind of sweet; I wish people like that had been in my life when I was younger.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 35||10/17/2012|
I don't understand all the "it's gonna hurt" screeching. My first time was with a big-cock guy and I was as dumb and unready as a brick, but it hurt for a moment or two and then it was wonderful.
Of course a lot depends on the top and the position(s), the latter especially when starting out, but the BS reminds me of how women scare girls about the pain of childbirth and other ways the bitter hens try to peck pleasure from others beginning to enjoy life.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 36||10/17/2012|
They only do mutual masturbation now but he wants to jump into anal?
How about some nice blowjobs first?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 37||10/17/2012|
Hey guys serious post here even if it might sound funny. I have tried bottoming a few times and finally found a really patient guy. We're slowing getting further with it each time. He knows what he's doing and is good about it. Today (this was our 4th time working on having sex) he finally said something that I never heard before. He told me compared to the other guys he has been with, my anus is located higher up than theirs. Does anyone here know about that? I never realized that anus location on people can vary slightly. Obviously we all have it in the same area but apparently some are a bit higher while others are a bit lower depending on the person. It makes it harder for me to bottom because mine is a bit higher. Any thoughts on this?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 38||10/19/2012|
"High anus" is not a condition. It's where the Kennedy's summer.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 39||10/19/2012|
Wholly Pre-Lubed Condoms Batman!
|by Scared Virgin||reply 40||10/21/2012|
oh puleeze r38...how naive are you? Did he tell you that you have the tightest ass evah to?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 42||10/21/2012|
He's gonna walk in with tight jeans on and cowboy boots and when you are in position he's going to unzip and take out that 8 inches and ram it in with you grimacing and squinting and clutching the pillow with a squeak from you with each thrust until you have no ass left, it will be deflated like a pancake and all the gays at work will be pointing and laughing the next day. BWAH HA HA HA HA HA HA HA.........
|by Scared Virgin||reply 43||10/21/2012|
Just bite the bullet OP and take that big, African peen up your ass.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 44||10/21/2012|
Doesn't anyone know ass-sex McGyver style? Go into any grocery and buy some quality sausage (the kind with real pig gut). For an 8" peen, you're going to need 8" plus length enough to tie a knot on the end, so 13" of contiguous sausage will do. Don't buy spicey sausage because this will make your spider bark.
Now pick up a quart of full synthetic motor oil. I like the high viscosity stuff... like 10W40. I quart should last you quite a while.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 45||10/25/2012|
OP, if you're really in africa you should know that the standard lube there is elephant snot.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 46||10/25/2012|
Nobody says "I live in Africa." They say the country they're from.
I call bullshit.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 47||10/25/2012|
So much is questionable about the OP...
1.) Lube is readily available in 'Africa'. I've definitely seen it in Kenya, Nigeria, Ghana and SA.
2.) 'Baby Mama' answered the phone? Sorry but if this guy's on the DL, the woman answering is likely the wife. Believe it or not, co-habitation without marriage is not really common amongst the local populations; in SA it's not a big deal and it's becoming less taboo in Ghana but in other parts of Africa? Not at all easy to find.
3.) If you have any sort of an expat population in your region of 'Africa', then there's a pharmacy that carries lube.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 48||10/25/2012|
Just repose the question. What if you were stranded on a deserted island with another man sporting 8" of angry purple peen? What then?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 49||10/25/2012|
Coconut oil, on a deserted island.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 50||10/27/2012|
But R11, what if Polyethylene doesn't want him to use her condoms?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 51||10/27/2012|
What's with all the 14 y/o bad slash writers posting here lately?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 52||10/27/2012|
Bitch is going to be blowing bubbles from his pussy.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 55||10/28/2012|
I have a question: Just got into anal sex (started last year and finally began enjoying it) but I have developed bad hemorrhoids (mainly internal) I am now in discomfort bordering on pain. Could my hemorrhoids have been caused by anal sex? Also, if and when they heal is it advisable to continue being on the receiving end of anal sex? Is anal sex NATURALLY for everyone, as in my case?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 56||10/28/2012|
r56 Now that's really fucked up. I know for a fact there are physicians who specialise in gay health issues. If you lived in Palm Springs, I could tell you where to go. I'm sure a guy like that would have your answer.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 57||10/29/2012|
Obviously your ass doesn't like being fucked,so it responds with hemorrhoids,they are like speed bumps for the penis
|by Scared Virgin||reply 58||10/29/2012|
My FB had to cancel on me. He was going to open me up. I'm not sure I could have taken his dick, but even the prospect of his fingers was making me both nervous and giddy with anticipation.
I've put it off for years for fear of pain, disease, but now I've gotten to the point where I just want to experience it so I can check it off the list.
I'm leaving the ball (no pun intended) in his court to reschedule.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 59||10/29/2012|
The reason I said I live in africa instead of a specific african country was because I am still very paranoid and wouldn't want it to be zero In on my location , or to be discovered as crazy as that sounds .
lube in pharmacies , probably but again walking up to a pharmacy saying I am buying lube ,I dont want to be suspected of anything . When you live in such a antigay society , when getting discovered is a death sentence , you take everything extra seriously .
Honestly As much as i find guys attractive i am absolutely scared to death about anal sex.
So make fun of this post all you want , its not a troll post ,I am just being cautious with my postings .
|by Scared Virgin||reply 60||11/11/2012|
I WANT A MAN i'll be nice
|by Scared Virgin||reply 62||11/12/2012|
I live in Africa, South Africa. It just happens that my bf brings lube even oil based if we intend to do anal so I'm not sure which part of Africa does not have.
All i wish to say is, as long as you're ready and comfortable. Go for it.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 64||11/24/2014|
Just spit on it and go bareback unless he's a lose fag, then just run in opposite direction.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 65||11/24/2014|
[quote]Just spit on it and go bareback unless he's a lose fag
The deed has been done...did you see OP's 1st post + date?
Wonder how it went for OP...maybe he's been arrested.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 66||11/24/2014|
In the two years since OP started this thread, his hole is known as the Holland Tunnel and has adjusted to living life in Depends.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 67||11/24/2014|
Make sure you do El Poopo Grande
|by Scared Virgin||reply 68||11/24/2014|
[quote]I live in africa
Oh? Which part? The east side or the west side?
|by Scared Virgin||reply 69||11/24/2014|
Um don't shit on the dick or condom. I've never bottomed but a guy I use to fuck was really hot but he would always shit on my dick when he are at 5guysburgers by my apt. Maybe I'm a bad top or fuck too hard. But don't believe anyone that says a little shit isn't a turn off, it's a mood breaker and the smell usually hits first. Doesn't matter how hot u are. Shit is nasty
|by Scared Virgin||reply 70||11/25/2014|
OP, you posted a month ago. Tell us about "The Grand Opening?"
|by Scared Virgin||reply 73||11/25/2014|
R73, 2012 was two years ago.
|by Scared Virgin||reply 74||11/25/2014|
We're still waiting, OP !!!
|by Scared Virgin||reply 75||11/25/2014|
While we're on the topic, does anybody have a good eggnog recipe for a holiday party? TIA!
|by Scared Virgin||reply 76||11/25/2014|