Why am I (and why are so many other gay men) sexually attracted to men with muscles?
I can't figure it out. It's not that we need someone to do actual heavy lifting for us, or to physically protect me.
All muscles really mean is that someone is physically disciplined for a long period of time and has enough leisure time to go regularly to the gym.
|by Anonymous||reply 175||05/13/2015|
I don't like men with too many muscles.
Just one big one.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||09/08/2012|
I am older. Years ago most men had natural bodies and I was attracted to many types. Hairy, short, baby fatted. There was always something about almost any guy that I found appealing. A smile, pretty skin, big ass, thighs. I care not a wit for the usual gay male today. Pumped so they all look alike, shaven bodies and crotches. BORING. Give me something unique. An insanely hairy ass, sunken chest, nerdy , wimpy. RED HEADS, did I say red heads? Small dicks........I see a group of gym rats and don't really even look.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||09/08/2012|
Sexual dimorphism. You are attracted to an aspect of one sex that is least like the feature of the sex you are not attracted. Women don't typically develop large musculatures, but men do.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||09/08/2012|
Big muscles means a guy doesn't read or do anything else interesting with his time. They are blinking neon lights that say: M O R O N. And they're grotesque.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||09/08/2012|
A big butt is more important for me than big muscles. And a nice face.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||09/08/2012|
R6, So that theory isn't exactly true...
There is evidence that facially lesbians and bisexual women prefer more "masculine"-looking women. The women that straight women and straight men and gay men, on the other hand, find attractive are more feminine-featured. Straight women, straight men and gay men alike usually prefer masculine faces.
What's more, in low-pathogen and income-equal societies, women who are attracted to men find feminine men more attractive than masculine-featured men. So it's affected by environment as well as not entirely predicted by the intended's gender.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||09/08/2012|
big muscles, little brain, tiny dick
|by Anonymous||reply 10||09/08/2012|
A healthy body implies access to good nutrition and an active lifestyle.
A muscular body implies continuous access to good nutrition and repetitive, focused activity. It's visible proof the person is refraining from the traps of success - sloth and gluttony.
A hyper-muscular body (see Gigantism in Art) implies that if a muscular person is close to God's intended image of Man, a bigger physique is even closer.
Michelangelo Buonarroti was a size queen.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||09/08/2012|
I like a football player's build. Like Tim Tebow. Muscles, but a little bit of beef, too.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||09/08/2012|
I like skinny little twink bois
|by Anonymous||reply 13||09/08/2012|
The bigger the better! Football linemen are my favorite!
|by Anonymous||reply 14||09/08/2012|
They are gross, so I don't know why you are attracted to them.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||09/08/2012|
I like lean, a swimmer's body. Emphasis on TONE, not size.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||09/08/2012|
It's all of that, R19, plus it's the way you imagine how musky they'd probably smell. I see that pic of Tebow and it makes me want to lick the musky sweat off his body from head to toe.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||09/09/2012|
I like muscles, but a handsome face turns me on the most. This guy has both.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||09/09/2012|
Women seem less interested in muscles than gay men, but many women ike muscles, too. I think women are turned on by emotional things like love and attention, while men don't need love or caring to be turned on. It's strictly visual for us, and also sense of smell and touch.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||09/09/2012|
very interesting peek there at the end, R21...
|by Anonymous||reply 23||09/09/2012|
I sexualize someone that can protect me. I don't need a man to actually protect me, but the thought of someone who is able to do that is a total turn on. So, an older man who is naturally muscled and beefy does the trick every time. A total muscle queen does not equal protector to me. It equals a narcissist. Does nothing for me.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||09/09/2012|
As opposed to something like this, OP?
|by Anonymous||reply 27||09/09/2012|
For me it was a visceral thing. I was drawn to the images on the covers of bodybuilding magazines from my earliest memories.
They had a physical effect on me that I didn't understand until I was much older.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||09/09/2012|
Delicious in garlic butter
|by Anonymous||reply 31||09/09/2012|
r32, that sounds like bullshit pseudoscience to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||09/10/2012|
Apples and oranges, r35, apples and oranges.
I and almost all biologists can back up evolutionary theory. But you can't back up your bullshit claim at r32--you just pulled it out of your ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||09/11/2012|
r32, how is it survival of the fittest when this rock god can't impregnate us?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||09/11/2012|
Mmmm a good combination of muscles and fat YES. I need to feel jiggle and hardness in the right spots like Manuel Ferrara in his scenes with some jiggle on his stomach mmmmm lol.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||05/29/2013|
Tim Tebow may have an okay body, but his face could make a freight train take a dirt road.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||05/30/2013|
The muscle fascination is mainly an obsession of femmies (who make up an extremely tiny portion of all homosexuals). Most every gay guy I've ever met is NOT into that. Yes, some definition looks great, but when you start adding bulk and the face gets fat, it goes downhill.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||05/30/2013|
Man muscles make Momma's mussy as quivering and moist as a jello salad.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||05/30/2013|
LMAO. I think r44 has just confirmed r43 as correct.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||05/30/2013|
It's funny the dishonesty and denial on an anonymous forum about gay men's attraction to muscles. Anyone with eyes can look at the guys that get posted on the threads and all of them are muscular, usually swimmer-underwear model-fitness model physiques. But there have been bodybuilders.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||05/30/2013|
R22, Many females like fit, athletic men (but not gym rats) because we assume they'll be more energetic in all areas of their lives.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||05/30/2013|
IT depends upon how muscular. A lightweight bodybuilder is hot, a heavyweight bodybuilder is not.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||07/02/2013|
I think for the same reason some gay men are attracted to that whole "daddy" thing: Masculinity and affection mixed together is a very powerful and addictive mix.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||07/02/2013|
I like muscle, but not of the serious body building size which is well, freakist- too much. I like athletic bodies, proportioned etc. Why? Well I am a gay man and for some reason athletic moderately muscles bodies, well placed body hair, big cocks, deep voices and all the rest, turn me on- big time. I don't analyze it any more than that.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||07/02/2013|
I suppose it's for the same reason that almost all straight men like big breasts even if they're fake.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||07/02/2013|
In an era before PLAYGIRL and before adult book stores selling HONCHO, INCHES, BLUEBOY and MANDATE, bodybuilding magazines were the closest thing one could get to see a semi-naked man in print
|by Anonymous||reply 62||07/02/2013|
When I came out in the 70s, I was active in the gay community and none of the hundreds of gay men I knew aspired to having a muscular physique and nobody went to a gym. The media wasn't saturated with images of muscular men the way it is today. The widespread adoration of muscles really took hold in the gay community in the 80s and 90s.
|by Anonymous||reply 64||08/02/2013|
I sometimes wonder if, for me and my generation, it is connected to coming out as gay in "the Plague Years" (late 80s, early to mid 90s). In those years, among gay men, AIDS was hitting harder every year, more and more deaths. The sick and dying men were often very thin/frail. Skinny-ness began to be a feared thing. I have a tall/lean build, was very slim in those years and was often told, in so many words, that I'd better bulk up/beef up "just in case..." That was uncomfortable advice to receive; (a) it's downright morbid, and (b) how exactly should a whippet try to become a Rottweiler?
This created a reactive "big puffy muscley" type of uber-gaymale image that was prominent in gay porn and on go-go dancing stages in the bars. He - this big puffy muscley uber-homo - couldn't [italic]possibly[/italic] have AIDS. Not he. No, the big young muscley stud can be thought of as healthy, immune, safe.
The meds have come along and improved the HIV/AIDS outlook but the prevalence of this big beefy dude remains. He, as the ultimate desirable in homo imagery, still exists today, and he hasn't really changed much since then. Although today there is more diversity around the smooth/hairy thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 65||08/02/2013|
((hugs)) Torta because I haven't seen a post from him in a LONG time
|by Anonymous||reply 67||08/02/2013|
I'm not, I just like a partner who's fit and ideally lean.
|by Anonymous||reply 68||08/02/2013|
AIDS. They don't look like they're dying.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||08/02/2013|
Muscles and athletic or strength ability is POWER.
More power than others to do anything physical.
It's not relevant to most people in the modern economy, but it sure was vital to humans for 200,000 years of our history prior to the Information Age.
It's primal power instincts kicking in. And YES, greater strength and fitness still allows you to do greater feats during sex. There's a thrill in being overpowered/ overpowering someone, and I don't mean rape. It's all the abilities of what you can do physically.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||12/10/2013|
When I was in my early 30s I started working out seriously and packed on a lot of pounds in muscles. I got laid so much more and ever since. I became a whore, darlings.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||12/10/2013|
I find men with big muscles to be too concern about their muscles than anything else (shallow), and the kind of dudes that think everybody has the same mindset as theirs.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||12/10/2013|
Can someone start a "Presenting Hot Muscle Dudes" Thread?
|by Anonymous||reply 76||12/10/2013|
Start a Muscle Dude thread for pics.
|by Anonymous||reply 79||01/01/2014|
I adore bodybuilders. In the sack there is nothing better, nothing even comes close especially if they know what they're doing. I think a lot of you are full of crap... everyone loves bodybuilders. Envy and narcissism are the problem with these big men. Lovable? They have to earn it just like everybody else but sexy over-the-top? Absolutely especially when they're blessed with good looks. Sigh...
|by Anonymous||reply 81||02/27/2014|
[quote]Plus a lot of guys like my ass. by: (relatively-fit) 55-year-old geezer
But now it's a draggin and a saggin.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||02/27/2014|
power and strength are sexy
|by Anonymous||reply 84||05/02/2014|
muscles = secondary sexual characteristic
|by Anonymous||reply 88||05/06/2014|
Muscles connote power and potency.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||06/19/2014|
It must be a new phenomenon. If you look at Playgirl or stuff from the 70s, people are so much less muscular.
|by Anonymous||reply 93||08/16/2014|
yeah, dudes in the 70s looked so tiny and undeveloped.
|by Anonymous||reply 94||08/25/2014|
not attracted to big muscles at all. Like in shape, in proportion and if they guy is muscled I like it to be relative to his frame.
There is something inherently insecure about the vibe many body builders [NOT ALL] give off.
|by Anonymous||reply 95||08/25/2014|
I hate large muscles, hate. I have no attraction to men who are the typical overly worked out obsessed muscle head who posts weekly updates on his progress via Instagram with comments like "getting there" making progress while sporting an 8 pack. I'm attracted to guys who look like they are in the gym once a week rather than hours a day. Slightly nerdy, glasses and some natural body hair. These shaved, tattooed muscle clones do nothing for me. I don't even get aroused by that muscled look.
|by Anonymous||reply 97||08/25/2014|
R81 "everyone loves bodybuilders" really? You are a brain dead moron.
|by Anonymous||reply 98||08/25/2014|
Silly queens like R44 make me happy I am not attracted to bodybuilders.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||08/25/2014|
Muscles meant that someone was strong so better able to take care of you and the children you make together.
Today, money means the same thing, so we are also attracted to rich people...
|by Anonymous||reply 100||08/25/2014|
I like skinny muscular men, like this:
|by Anonymous||reply 101||08/25/2014|
In my experience I am not sure most gay guys like big muscles as those of bodybuilders'. I have noticed most like moderately muscled bodies. Gregg Sulkin is a good example of the most popular body type among gay guys
But being a gay guy and liking muscles is completely normal and expected because when you are a gay guy you feel attracted to masculinity and muscularity is a visual display of masculinity.
In my case, I find big muscles highly attractive, especially when the guy is a bodybuilder because the poses in bodybuilding naturally demand some degree of masculine attitude when performing them. :P
Everybody have different prefernces on this though.
|by Anonymous||reply 102||10/21/2014|
People who are attracted to males are attracted to masculinity, power, and strength. Muscles are a physical representation of those attributes.
|by Anonymous||reply 104||10/21/2014|
It is normal to like muscles if you are gay just like it is normal to like very feminine girls if you are a lesbian. That's what your sexual orientation usually makes you lean towards.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||10/21/2014|
I prefer the build of a swimmer or even a middle distance runner. Extremely muscular bodies just look deformed.
|by Anonymous||reply 106||10/21/2014|
I have a friend who is gay and muscular and I have noticed men both gay and straight check him out when he wears muscle shirts for example.. Don't kid yourself straight men will check out other muscular men as well not just gay men.
|by Anonymous||reply 107||10/21/2014|
Guys also check out themselves, but they cannot admit it or be too explicit because of hmophobia.
It doesn't matter if you are heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, many guys see other guys as rivals.
|by Anonymous||reply 108||10/21/2014|
I am a member in a forum that is 100% gay men-oriented and there is a threadfor bodybuilders. It is the least visited thread. Most people vitsit the other thread of fottballers, swimmers and even rgby players, but the one about bodybuilders is scarcely visited by members.
I have found out that even among us bodybuilders are not seen as attractive as society tends to think of us.
Regardless, a homosexual guy liking bodybuilders or muscle men in general is completely fine. Muslces are sexy^^
|by Anonymous||reply 109||10/26/2014|
Gee, maybe because we admire the male physique?
|by Anonymous||reply 110||10/26/2014|
As some have already stated, muscularity is a secondary sexual characteristic in men.
|by Anonymous||reply 111||10/27/2014|
"Footballers?" You American, bro?
|by Anonymous||reply 112||10/27/2014|
Muscles denote power, strength, and influence.
We all want to be affiliated with those.
It's the same reason we are attracted to rich people.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||10/27/2014|
Yep, I also noticed that straight dudes care more about other dudes' physiques than chicks. When I was skinny, friends and random dudes would always encourage me to work out and take supplements. They claimed that I could get "jacked" because of my structure and offered to work out with me. After I became more muscular, it was dudes that gave me the most frequent and fervent complements, almost always straight dudes. Straight guys would say stuff like, "dang bro, you must be on steroids now," or "looking good, brah," or "whoa, you're so jacked now." Sometimes, they would ask me to flex or to lift my abs. Rarely, would women say stuff, except as an aside comment about how my physique had changed. Some women even claimed to like me better when I was skinny. Walking around, I notice men checking out my bod more than women.
|by Anonymous||reply 114||10/27/2014|
It is natural that men will follow the muscular one because of all the attributes attached to muscularity culturally, socially and instinctively.
However, being homosexual doesn't mean that we only see muscularity in terms of sexual arousal exclusively, we also see muscularity as a sign of leadership just like heterosexual men do and also causes rivalry among homosexual men just like many heterosexual men envy the muscular ones.
It is a guy's thing, regardless of sexual orientation, to want to stand out from the rest and, for men, one of the ways for them to stand out is muscularity. The only exception is that we can also appreciate muscularity in erotic ways.
|by Anonymous||reply 115||10/27/2014|
because all men with muscles are bottoms.
|by Anonymous||reply 116||10/27/2014|
I think really intelligent guys are hot. Glasses are a real turn-on.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||10/27/2014|
The same reason people think tall men are smarter, more courageous, and better leaders.
|by Anonymous||reply 119||10/27/2014|
R101, the guy in that photo is beautiful, and not remotely "skinny." Why would you use that word to describe him? Were you joking?
|by Anonymous||reply 120||10/27/2014|
I think the better term is "leanly muscular."
|by Anonymous||reply 121||10/28/2014|
I like this bodybuilder in the picture. He is the sexiest bodybuilder for sure.
I love big muscles. Also, in my coutry there aren't black men so that makes him even more attractive to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||10/29/2014|
Feeling attracted to muscularity is normal for a gay guy. Now, if you cannot live without muscularity in order to get an orgasm then that is a problem.
I love muscles but I can live without a muscular body perfectly.
In my case, muscles are perfect for one night stand. You get to feel all the potential a muscular body has to offer. ti always add to the situation feeling muscles and all that stuff.
Now, I don't think I would like to have a bodybuilder as my boyfriend. Not that there aren't those who are more humble and less self-centered, but this activity usually demands a degree of self-absortion, narcissism, being overconcerned with food, body image, etc. Let alone the fact that many other guys would be hiiting on him, etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 126||10/31/2014|
Bisexual bodybuilders are hot
|by Anonymous||reply 127||10/31/2014|
Another sample of leanly muscular: Male model Hao Yunxiang from China:
|by Anonymous||reply 128||10/31/2014|
Muscles do not necessarily make a guy sexy. In my younger days I thought they did, but I was wrong about that.
|by Anonymous||reply 129||10/31/2014|
R109 spill some info on that forum so the rest of us can escape the fraus here
|by Anonymous||reply 131||10/31/2014|
Most gay men like extremes, they don't like ordinary. On one end you have drag queens, who push a feminine ideal to the extreme, then on the other hand you have muscle guys, who push a masculine ideal to the extreme. Both can be likened to cartoon characters.
The fly-over states are another good example of ordinary that many gay men abhor.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||10/31/2014|
At a certain point, muscles have diminishing returns. I prefer average to lean, fit dudes. I usually don't find the bulkier guys to be very attractive. Biceps and whatnot don't really do anything for me. At the same time, I don't want a skeleton.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||10/31/2014|
I don't think most gay guys like the extremes. Drag queens are not pricesely what an ordinary gay guy might fall in love with, femininity is usually a turn-off. When it comes to muscles, big muscles tend to be a turn-off too. Most like something like Tom Daley, not too big; just the right amount of muscle mass.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||10/31/2014|
That's what I'm talking about r122! Dayum, that is a beautiful man.
|by Anonymous||reply 135||10/31/2014|
Sthenolagnia is the sexual arousal caused by the display of muscularity and strength.
Sthenolagnia is believed to be caused by the need to feel protected.
I think getting aroused by watching the display of muscles and strength is relatively common and normal as long as it doesn't become an obsession and the only way you can get sexually aroused.
|by Anonymous||reply 138||11/11/2014|
[quote]Man muscles make Momma's mussy as quivering and moist as a jello salad.
|by Anonymous||reply 140||11/13/2014|
"...so many other gay men) sexually attracted to men with muscles"
The attraction to Muscles is so strong for some gay men that they have surrogates sing songs about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 141||11/13/2014|
Women are also highly attracted to miscles, but they are not allowed to expresse it in public unless the situation allows it, otherwise they are called sluts for expressin sincerely their sexual fetishes.
There is nothing wrong with feeling attracted to muscularity as long as it doesn't interfere with a normal balanced lifestyle.
|by Anonymous||reply 142||11/13/2014|
It must be like a fashion. Muscles came into style and now are expected.
If you look at old photos from Playgirl and stuff like that from the 80s it is surprising how unmuscular the people are.
|by Anonymous||reply 144||11/13/2014|
Yep, r144. The male models and centerfolds before 1990 look so skinny and underdeveloped.
|by Anonymous||reply 145||11/13/2014|
Not me, give me a natural man, a little furry belly.
|by Anonymous||reply 146||11/13/2014|
Muscles are associated with masculinity and power. There are gay men who are muscular as well, so maybe ask them if they ever feel like they are being objectified for their muscles and that is the only thing they feel people care about. Straight men also admire men with muscles from afar and wish they could be just like them.
|by Anonymous||reply 147||11/13/2014|
Most people think all gay guys like muscles, but actually it is not as many as most think.
I have come across so many other gay guys who find big muscles a turn-off that I sometimes feel ashamed to tell that I like muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||11/13/2014|
Diana Ross may have sang "Muscles" but Michael Jackson wrote it. So he can't be into little boys as they aren't muscular.
|by Anonymous||reply 149||11/13/2014|
Men are supposed to be strong and powerful
|by Anonymous||reply 150||12/11/2014|
One theory I read says that attraction to muscularity stems from the need to feel protected.
|by Anonymous||reply 151||12/11/2014|
I could be satisfied with a guy built like this.
|by Anonymous||reply 152||12/11/2014|
Most people find the fitness model physique ideal, not bodybuilders. They want lean muscles, not big bulk.
|by Anonymous||reply 153||12/12/2014|
However, there are so many other guys that also love muscular bodies but they don't need to feel protected by them (muscles), instead they fantasize with dominating the muscular guy.
|by Anonymous||reply 155||12/12/2014|
Yeah, people like to be around masculine power
|by Anonymous||reply 156||12/13/2014|
I actually wrote the song about my pet snake.
|by Anonymous||reply 157||12/13/2014|
Because ya are, Blanche, because ya are!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 158||12/13/2014|
Perhaps it is just my personal perception but I have discovered that most gay guys don't find big muscles attractive.
I sometimes talk to other gay guys on chat and most of them don't like the bodybuilder look at all.
Contrary to the general perception that we are more attracted to big muscles than women...
|by Anonymous||reply 159||12/14/2014|
You know, your average straight teen starts with playboy, epxlicit nudity.
On the other hand your, average gay teen start with bodybuilding; erotic and suggestive; not explicit.
|by Anonymous||reply 161||01/02/2015|
"Women are also highly attracted to miscles"
is that like rocket riding?
|by Anonymous||reply 166||02/21/2015|
I'd say it's evolutionary biology. Muscles = Strength = Survival.
|by Anonymous||reply 168||03/02/2015|
I don't car for muscle men. OP I will be you are young.
|by Anonymous||reply 169||03/02/2015|
Men that say what I feel claim we are not telling the truth, but I could care less. When I see what has become of men ( young and old ) posting non stop selfies with almost no body fat it is a total turn off. I like natural men who have natural bodies. I like men who eat healthy not for vanity, but for health. I notice the more a man depends on his looks and body the less interested he is in other things including other people and the world we live. If had the chance to go on a date with a 8 pack or a cute natural man I would there would be no doubt natural would win out.
|by Anonymous||reply 171||03/02/2015|
I would guess it has to do with evolution and the subconscious.
I read somewhere that women love men with meaty asses. It isn't because the women necessarily want to do anything with those butts, but that it signifies thrusting power, which signifies virility and manhood.
Over millennia, a fit man is one who could survive, who could provide and protect.
So it makes sense that evolution gears us towards desiring that.
|by Anonymous||reply 174||05/12/2015|
Why are heterosexual men attracted to curvaceous women?
I think it is the same logic for us.
Curves enhance a woman's femininity and that makes them naturally more attractive for heterosexual men.
Big muscles are a secondary sexual trait in men and we are attracted to muscualine traits.
How curvaceous; how muscular, that depends on the person though.
|by Anonymous||reply 175||05/13/2015|