Why am I (and why are so many other gay men) sexually attracted to men with muscles?
I can't figure it out. It's not that we need someone to do actual heavy lifting for us, or to physically protect me.
All muscles really mean is that someone is physically disciplined for a long period of time and has enough leisure time to go regularly to the gym.
|by Anonymous||reply 271||Last Saturday at 5:21 PM|
I don't like men with too many muscles.
Just one big one.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||09/08/2012|
Speak for yourself, hate muscle queens and remember , when you make love in front of a mirror, your both looking at the same person...and it isn't you!
|by Anonymous||reply 2||09/08/2012|
I am older. Years ago most men had natural bodies and I was attracted to many types. Hairy, short, baby fatted. There was always something about almost any guy that I found appealing. A smile, pretty skin, big ass, thighs. I care not a wit for the usual gay male today. Pumped so they all look alike, shaven bodies and crotches. BORING. Give me something unique. An insanely hairy ass, sunken chest, nerdy , wimpy. RED HEADS, did I say red heads? Small dicks........I see a group of gym rats and don't really even look.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||09/08/2012|
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|by Anonymous||reply 5||09/08/2012|
Sexual dimorphism. You are attracted to an aspect of one sex that is least like the feature of the sex you are not attracted. Women don't typically develop large musculatures, but men do.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||09/08/2012|
Big muscles means a guy doesn't read or do anything else interesting with his time. They are blinking neon lights that say: M O R O N. And they're grotesque.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||09/08/2012|
A big butt is more important for me than big muscles. And a nice face.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||09/08/2012|
R6, So that theory isn't exactly true...
There is evidence that facially lesbians and bisexual women prefer more "masculine"-looking women. The women that straight women and straight men and gay men, on the other hand, find attractive are more feminine-featured. Straight women, straight men and gay men alike usually prefer masculine faces.
What's more, in low-pathogen and income-equal societies, women who are attracted to men find feminine men more attractive than masculine-featured men. So it's affected by environment as well as not entirely predicted by the intended's gender.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||09/08/2012|
big muscles, little brain, tiny dick
|by Anonymous||reply 10||09/08/2012|
A healthy body implies access to good nutrition and an active lifestyle.
A muscular body implies continuous access to good nutrition and repetitive, focused activity. It's visible proof the person is refraining from the traps of success - sloth and gluttony.
A hyper-muscular body (see Gigantism in Art) implies that if a muscular person is close to God's intended image of Man, a bigger physique is even closer.
Michelangelo Buonarroti was a size queen.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||09/08/2012|
I like a football player's build. Like Tim Tebow. Muscles, but a little bit of beef, too.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||09/08/2012|
I like skinny little twink bois
|by Anonymous||reply 13||09/08/2012|
The bigger the better! Football linemen are my favorite!
|by Anonymous||reply 14||09/08/2012|
They are gross, so I don't know why you are attracted to them.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||09/08/2012|
[quote]I like a football player's build. Like Tim Tebow. Muscles, but a little bit of beef, too.
Amen! Perfect description, perfect example, R12.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||09/08/2012|
I like lean, a swimmer's body. Emphasis on TONE, not size.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||09/08/2012|
Because homosexuality relates more to warriors than hairdressers.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||09/08/2012|
Hey OP, I've often thought about this too and while I'm not a fan of "big muscles", I love the shape that man's body takes when he's been working out.
Their posture alone makes me grin - shoulders backm standing tall - they look more confident, their walk sort of struts.
I love the image from the back with wider shoulders, narrower waist, leading to a tight ass.
In the front, pecs fill out a shirt, and again the flat stomach keeps leading my eye to his crotch.
And I love chest hair on a fit guy... I think hair accentuates the dimensions a body takes on when a guy has been developing his body.
Non of that happens with unfit or fat guys.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||09/09/2012|
It's all of that, R19, plus it's the way you imagine how musky they'd probably smell. I see that pic of Tebow and it makes me want to lick the musky sweat off his body from head to toe.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||09/09/2012|
I like muscles, but a handsome face turns me on the most. This guy has both.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||09/09/2012|
Women seem less interested in muscles than gay men, but many women ike muscles, too. I think women are turned on by emotional things like love and attention, while men don't need love or caring to be turned on. It's strictly visual for us, and also sense of smell and touch.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||09/09/2012|
very interesting peek there at the end, R21...
|by Anonymous||reply 23||09/09/2012|
I sexualize someone that can protect me. I don't need a man to actually protect me, but the thought of someone who is able to do that is a total turn on. So, an older man who is naturally muscled and beefy does the trick every time. A total muscle queen does not equal protector to me. It equals a narcissist. Does nothing for me.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||09/09/2012|
I've always been into faces, but lately I've been checking out guys arms and legs. Big guns really send me and nice legs make me wet.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||09/09/2012|
As opposed to something like this, OP?
|by Anonymous||reply 27||09/09/2012|
r19, your post told no one anything about the relevant question. You just said you like muscles too. You've added zero insight.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||09/09/2012|
R28, you added nothing except pointless waste-of-time hostility.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||09/09/2012|
For me it was a visceral thing. I was drawn to the images on the covers of bodybuilding magazines from my earliest memories.
They had a physical effect on me that I didn't understand until I was much older.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||09/09/2012|
Delicious in garlic butter
|by Anonymous||reply 31||09/09/2012|
It's an evolutionary adaptation. Big muscles signify power, competence, confidence, masculinity. The attraction is innate, as R30 suggests, because the reptilian part of our brains understands that a strong/fit alpha male can offer protection/survival. Everyone wants to score first prize--the leader of the pack.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||09/09/2012|
[quote]R19, your post told no one anything about the relevant question. You just said you like muscles too. You've added zero insight.
I think we can assume that Porky at R28, can easily be mistaken for a sibling of Gayle Grinds and has never seen the inside of a gym.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||09/09/2012|
r32, that sounds like bullshit pseudoscience to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||09/10/2012|
That's what all the fundies say about evolution, R34.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||09/10/2012|
Apples and oranges, r35, apples and oranges.
I and almost all biologists can back up evolutionary theory. But you can't back up your bullshit claim at r32--you just pulled it out of your ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||09/11/2012|
r32, how is it survival of the fittest when this rock god can't impregnate us?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||09/11/2012|
He can keep you safe from harm if you are in his favor.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||09/11/2012|
Mmmm a good combination of muscles and fat YES. I need to feel jiggle and hardness in the right spots like Manuel Ferrara in his scenes with some jiggle on his stomach mmmmm lol.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||05/29/2013|
Tim Tebow may have an okay body, but his face could make a freight train take a dirt road.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||05/29/2013|
I've always been into muscular men particularly bodybuilders. That round ass gay men like is from muscles. When you develop a body like that you become more confident and you don't mind being naked. You are also happier because of the effects of working out.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||05/29/2013|
The muscle fascination is mainly an obsession of femmies (who make up an extremely tiny portion of all homosexuals). Most every gay guy I've ever met is NOT into that. Yes, some definition looks great, but when you start adding bulk and the face gets fat, it goes downhill.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||05/29/2013|
Man muscles make Momma's mussy as quivering and moist as a jello salad.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||05/29/2013|
LMAO. I think r44 has just confirmed r43 as correct.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||05/29/2013|
It's funny the dishonesty and denial on an anonymous forum about gay men's attraction to muscles. Anyone with eyes can look at the guys that get posted on the threads and all of them are muscular, usually swimmer-underwear model-fitness model physiques. But there have been bodybuilders.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||05/29/2013|
There actually have been studies on sexual attraction. The other posts were right. It has to do with looking healthy (even if its not) looking, strong, leader, energetic, futile etc. We project all these ideals onto people just based on their looks weather they are true or not. All subconsciously of course.
Symmetry is another one. We like things that look balanced. The Greeks built entire cites based off this theory (The Golden Section). Human body was part of is. Hence all the muscular statues of naked men in Europe.
Discovery did a thing on the face a while back. The results:
|by Anonymous||reply 47||05/29/2013|
R22, Many females like fit, athletic men (but not gym rats) because we assume they'll be more energetic in all areas of their lives.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||05/29/2013|
you posters who equate 'men with muscles' with roided out action figures need to sit down. sorry, don't sit down, you do too much of that already, go play outside and take a chill pill.
nothing wrong with putting some time and intent into taking care of your body. try it, you'll feel more better and less bitter.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||05/29/2013|
I go to the gym four times a week. Does that make me a Muscle Queen? I will admit I am proud of the condition I am in, especially for a man my age. Plus a lot of guys like my ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||05/29/2013|
Why wouldn't we be attracted to them?
|by Anonymous||reply 52||06/12/2013|
I got the bottoms when I bulked up and packed on some muscles. Pile drive it better too.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||06/12/2013|
Muscles are attractive (as long as they're not on roided out body builders). I don't know any gay male or straight female who doesn't like a fit, athletic man.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||07/02/2013|
IT depends upon how muscular. A lightweight bodybuilder is hot, a heavyweight bodybuilder is not.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||07/02/2013|
I think for the same reason some gay men are attracted to that whole "daddy" thing: Masculinity and affection mixed together is a very powerful and addictive mix.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||07/02/2013|
I like muscle, but not of the serious body building size which is well, freakist- too much. I like athletic bodies, proportioned etc. Why? Well I am a gay man and for some reason athletic moderately muscles bodies, well placed body hair, big cocks, deep voices and all the rest, turn me on- big time. I don't analyze it any more than that.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||07/02/2013|
I suppose it's for the same reason that almost all straight men like big breasts even if they're fake.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||07/02/2013|
In an era before PLAYGIRL and before adult book stores selling HONCHO, INCHES, BLUEBOY and MANDATE, bodybuilding magazines were the closest thing one could get to see a semi-naked man in print
|by Anonymous||reply 62||07/02/2013|
When you look at media and porn pre1990, you are struck by how small and unmuscular the so-called "beefcake" models were. Today, they would be considered scrawny.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||08/02/2013|
When I came out in the 70s, I was active in the gay community and none of the hundreds of gay men I knew aspired to having a muscular physique and nobody went to a gym. The media wasn't saturated with images of muscular men the way it is today. The widespread adoration of muscles really took hold in the gay community in the 80s and 90s.
|by Anonymous||reply 64||08/02/2013|
I sometimes wonder if, for me and my generation, it is connected to coming out as gay in "the Plague Years" (late 80s, early to mid 90s). In those years, among gay men, AIDS was hitting harder every year, more and more deaths. The sick and dying men were often very thin/frail. Skinny-ness began to be a feared thing. I have a tall/lean build, was very slim in those years and was often told, in so many words, that I'd better bulk up/beef up "just in case..." That was uncomfortable advice to receive; (a) it's downright morbid, and (b) how exactly should a whippet try to become a Rottweiler?
This created a reactive "big puffy muscley" type of uber-gaymale image that was prominent in gay porn and on go-go dancing stages in the bars. He - this big puffy muscley uber-homo - couldn't [italic]possibly[/italic] have AIDS. Not he. No, the big young muscley stud can be thought of as healthy, immune, safe.
The meds have come along and improved the HIV/AIDS outlook but the prevalence of this big beefy dude remains. He, as the ultimate desirable in homo imagery, still exists today, and he hasn't really changed much since then. Although today there is more diversity around the smooth/hairy thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 65||08/02/2013|
I think (R65) is partly right. But straight guys are into muscle building in a way they never used to be too. Most of the buff guys at my gym are straight. The muscular body seems to reflect a widespread admiration In the States for men who can tough it out in an every-man-for-himself economy.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||08/02/2013|
((hugs)) Torta because I haven't seen a post from him in a LONG time
|by Anonymous||reply 67||08/02/2013|
I'm not, I just like a partner who's fit and ideally lean.
|by Anonymous||reply 68||08/02/2013|
AIDS. They don't look like they're dying.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||08/02/2013|
Muscles connote strength, power, kiss buttness, aggressiveness, and masculinity.
|by Anonymous||reply 71||09/27/2013|
Muscles and athletic or strength ability is POWER.
More power than others to do anything physical.
It's not relevant to most people in the modern economy, but it sure was vital to humans for 200,000 years of our history prior to the Information Age.
It's primal power instincts kicking in. And YES, greater strength and fitness still allows you to do greater feats during sex. There's a thrill in being overpowered/ overpowering someone, and I don't mean rape. It's all the abilities of what you can do physically.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||12/09/2013|
When I was in my early 30s I started working out seriously and packed on a lot of pounds in muscles. I got laid so much more and ever since. I became a whore, darlings.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||12/09/2013|
I find men with big muscles to be too concern about their muscles than anything else (shallow), and the kind of dudes that think everybody has the same mindset as theirs.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||12/09/2013|
Can someone start a "Presenting Hot Muscle Dudes" Thread?
|by Anonymous||reply 76||12/10/2013|
Start a Muscle Dude thread for pics.
|by Anonymous||reply 79||01/01/2014|
I adore bodybuilders. In the sack there is nothing better, nothing even comes close especially if they know what they're doing. I think a lot of you are full of crap... everyone loves bodybuilders. Envy and narcissism are the problem with these big men. Lovable? They have to earn it just like everybody else but sexy over-the-top? Absolutely especially when they're blessed with good looks. Sigh...
|by Anonymous||reply 81||02/26/2014|
[quote]Plus a lot of guys like my ass. by: (relatively-fit) 55-year-old geezer
But now it's a draggin and a saggin.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||02/26/2014|
power and strength are sexy
|by Anonymous||reply 84||05/02/2014|
muscles = secondary sexual characteristic
|by Anonymous||reply 88||05/05/2014|
Muscles connote power and potency.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||06/19/2014|
It must be a new phenomenon. If you look at Playgirl or stuff from the 70s, people are so much less muscular.
|by Anonymous||reply 93||08/16/2014|
yeah, dudes in the 70s looked so tiny and undeveloped.
|by Anonymous||reply 94||08/25/2014|
not attracted to big muscles at all. Like in shape, in proportion and if they guy is muscled I like it to be relative to his frame.
There is something inherently insecure about the vibe many body builders [NOT ALL] give off.
|by Anonymous||reply 95||08/25/2014|
I hate large muscles, hate. I have no attraction to men who are the typical overly worked out obsessed muscle head who posts weekly updates on his progress via Instagram with comments like "getting there" making progress while sporting an 8 pack. I'm attracted to guys who look like they are in the gym once a week rather than hours a day. Slightly nerdy, glasses and some natural body hair. These shaved, tattooed muscle clones do nothing for me. I don't even get aroused by that muscled look.
|by Anonymous||reply 97||08/25/2014|
R81 "everyone loves bodybuilders" really? You are a brain dead moron.
|by Anonymous||reply 98||08/25/2014|
Silly queens like R44 make me happy I am not attracted to bodybuilders.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||08/25/2014|
Muscles meant that someone was strong so better able to take care of you and the children you make together.
Today, money means the same thing, so we are also attracted to rich people...
|by Anonymous||reply 100||08/25/2014|
I like skinny muscular men, like this:
|by Anonymous||reply 101||08/25/2014|
In my experience I am not sure most gay guys like big muscles as those of bodybuilders'. I have noticed most like moderately muscled bodies. Gregg Sulkin is a good example of the most popular body type among gay guys
But being a gay guy and liking muscles is completely normal and expected because when you are a gay guy you feel attracted to masculinity and muscularity is a visual display of masculinity.
In my case, I find big muscles highly attractive, especially when the guy is a bodybuilder because the poses in bodybuilding naturally demand some degree of masculine attitude when performing them. :P
Everybody have different prefernces on this though.
|by Anonymous||reply 102||10/21/2014|
People who are attracted to males are attracted to masculinity, power, and strength. Muscles are a physical representation of those attributes.
|by Anonymous||reply 104||10/21/2014|
It is normal to like muscles if you are gay just like it is normal to like very feminine girls if you are a lesbian. That's what your sexual orientation usually makes you lean towards.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||10/21/2014|
I prefer the build of a swimmer or even a middle distance runner. Extremely muscular bodies just look deformed.
|by Anonymous||reply 106||10/21/2014|
I have a friend who is gay and muscular and I have noticed men both gay and straight check him out when he wears muscle shirts for example.. Don't kid yourself straight men will check out other muscular men as well not just gay men.
|by Anonymous||reply 107||10/21/2014|
Guys also check out themselves, but they cannot admit it or be too explicit because of hmophobia.
It doesn't matter if you are heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, many guys see other guys as rivals.
|by Anonymous||reply 108||10/21/2014|
I am a member in a forum that is 100% gay men-oriented and there is a threadfor bodybuilders. It is the least visited thread. Most people vitsit the other thread of fottballers, swimmers and even rgby players, but the one about bodybuilders is scarcely visited by members.
I have found out that even among us bodybuilders are not seen as attractive as society tends to think of us.
Regardless, a homosexual guy liking bodybuilders or muscle men in general is completely fine. Muslces are sexy^^
|by Anonymous||reply 109||10/26/2014|
Gee, maybe because we admire the male physique?
|by Anonymous||reply 110||10/26/2014|
As some have already stated, muscularity is a secondary sexual characteristic in men.
|by Anonymous||reply 111||10/26/2014|
"Footballers?" You American, bro?
|by Anonymous||reply 112||10/26/2014|
Muscles denote power, strength, and influence.
We all want to be affiliated with those.
It's the same reason we are attracted to rich people.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||10/27/2014|
Yep, I also noticed that straight dudes care more about other dudes' physiques than chicks. When I was skinny, friends and random dudes would always encourage me to work out and take supplements. They claimed that I could get "jacked" because of my structure and offered to work out with me. After I became more muscular, it was dudes that gave me the most frequent and fervent complements, almost always straight dudes. Straight guys would say stuff like, "dang bro, you must be on steroids now," or "looking good, brah," or "whoa, you're so jacked now." Sometimes, they would ask me to flex or to lift my abs. Rarely, would women say stuff, except as an aside comment about how my physique had changed. Some women even claimed to like me better when I was skinny. Walking around, I notice men checking out my bod more than women.
|by Anonymous||reply 114||10/27/2014|
It is natural that men will follow the muscular one because of all the attributes attached to muscularity culturally, socially and instinctively.
However, being homosexual doesn't mean that we only see muscularity in terms of sexual arousal exclusively, we also see muscularity as a sign of leadership just like heterosexual men do and also causes rivalry among homosexual men just like many heterosexual men envy the muscular ones.
It is a guy's thing, regardless of sexual orientation, to want to stand out from the rest and, for men, one of the ways for them to stand out is muscularity. The only exception is that we can also appreciate muscularity in erotic ways.
|by Anonymous||reply 115||10/27/2014|
because all men with muscles are bottoms.
|by Anonymous||reply 116||10/27/2014|
I think really intelligent guys are hot. Glasses are a real turn-on.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||10/27/2014|
The same reason people think tall men are smarter, more courageous, and better leaders.
|by Anonymous||reply 119||10/27/2014|
R101, the guy in that photo is beautiful, and not remotely "skinny." Why would you use that word to describe him? Were you joking?
|by Anonymous||reply 120||10/27/2014|
I think the better term is "leanly muscular."
|by Anonymous||reply 121||10/28/2014|
I like this bodybuilder in the picture. He is the sexiest bodybuilder for sure.
I love big muscles. Also, in my coutry there aren't black men so that makes him even more attractive to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||10/29/2014|
Feeling attracted to muscularity is normal for a gay guy. Now, if you cannot live without muscularity in order to get an orgasm then that is a problem.
I love muscles but I can live without a muscular body perfectly.
In my case, muscles are perfect for one night stand. You get to feel all the potential a muscular body has to offer. ti always add to the situation feeling muscles and all that stuff.
Now, I don't think I would like to have a bodybuilder as my boyfriend. Not that there aren't those who are more humble and less self-centered, but this activity usually demands a degree of self-absortion, narcissism, being overconcerned with food, body image, etc. Let alone the fact that many other guys would be hiiting on him, etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 126||10/31/2014|
Bisexual bodybuilders are hot
|by Anonymous||reply 127||10/31/2014|
Another sample of leanly muscular: Male model Hao Yunxiang from China:
|by Anonymous||reply 128||10/31/2014|
Muscles do not necessarily make a guy sexy. In my younger days I thought they did, but I was wrong about that.
|by Anonymous||reply 129||10/31/2014|
R109 spill some info on that forum so the rest of us can escape the fraus here
|by Anonymous||reply 131||10/31/2014|
Most gay men like extremes, they don't like ordinary. On one end you have drag queens, who push a feminine ideal to the extreme, then on the other hand you have muscle guys, who push a masculine ideal to the extreme. Both can be likened to cartoon characters.
The fly-over states are another good example of ordinary that many gay men abhor.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||10/31/2014|
At a certain point, muscles have diminishing returns. I prefer average to lean, fit dudes. I usually don't find the bulkier guys to be very attractive. Biceps and whatnot don't really do anything for me. At the same time, I don't want a skeleton.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||10/31/2014|
I don't think most gay guys like the extremes. Drag queens are not pricesely what an ordinary gay guy might fall in love with, femininity is usually a turn-off. When it comes to muscles, big muscles tend to be a turn-off too. Most like something like Tom Daley, not too big; just the right amount of muscle mass.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||10/31/2014|
That's what I'm talking about r122! Dayum, that is a beautiful man.
|by Anonymous||reply 135||10/31/2014|
Sthenolagnia is the sexual arousal caused by the display of muscularity and strength.
Sthenolagnia is believed to be caused by the need to feel protected.
I think getting aroused by watching the display of muscles and strength is relatively common and normal as long as it doesn't become an obsession and the only way you can get sexually aroused.
|by Anonymous||reply 138||11/11/2014|
[quote]Man muscles make Momma's mussy as quivering and moist as a jello salad.
|by Anonymous||reply 140||11/12/2014|
"...so many other gay men) sexually attracted to men with muscles"
The attraction to Muscles is so strong for some gay men that they have surrogates sing songs about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 141||11/12/2014|
Women are also highly attracted to miscles, but they are not allowed to expresse it in public unless the situation allows it, otherwise they are called sluts for expressin sincerely their sexual fetishes.
There is nothing wrong with feeling attracted to muscularity as long as it doesn't interfere with a normal balanced lifestyle.
|by Anonymous||reply 142||11/12/2014|
It must be like a fashion. Muscles came into style and now are expected.
If you look at old photos from Playgirl and stuff like that from the 80s it is surprising how unmuscular the people are.
|by Anonymous||reply 144||11/13/2014|
Yep, r144. The male models and centerfolds before 1990 look so skinny and underdeveloped.
|by Anonymous||reply 145||11/13/2014|
Not me, give me a natural man, a little furry belly.
|by Anonymous||reply 146||11/13/2014|
Muscles are associated with masculinity and power. There are gay men who are muscular as well, so maybe ask them if they ever feel like they are being objectified for their muscles and that is the only thing they feel people care about. Straight men also admire men with muscles from afar and wish they could be just like them.
|by Anonymous||reply 147||11/13/2014|
Most people think all gay guys like muscles, but actually it is not as many as most think.
I have come across so many other gay guys who find big muscles a turn-off that I sometimes feel ashamed to tell that I like muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||11/13/2014|
Diana Ross may have sang "Muscles" but Michael Jackson wrote it. So he can't be into little boys as they aren't muscular.
|by Anonymous||reply 149||11/13/2014|
Men are supposed to be strong and powerful
|by Anonymous||reply 150||12/10/2014|
One theory I read says that attraction to muscularity stems from the need to feel protected.
|by Anonymous||reply 151||12/11/2014|
I could be satisfied with a guy built like this.
|by Anonymous||reply 152||12/11/2014|
Most people find the fitness model physique ideal, not bodybuilders. They want lean muscles, not big bulk.
|by Anonymous||reply 153||12/11/2014|
However, there are so many other guys that also love muscular bodies but they don't need to feel protected by them (muscles), instead they fantasize with dominating the muscular guy.
|by Anonymous||reply 155||12/12/2014|
Yeah, people like to be around masculine power
|by Anonymous||reply 156||12/13/2014|
I actually wrote the song about my pet snake.
|by Anonymous||reply 157||12/13/2014|
Because ya are, Blanche, because ya are!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 158||12/13/2014|
Perhaps it is just my personal perception but I have discovered that most gay guys don't find big muscles attractive.
I sometimes talk to other gay guys on chat and most of them don't like the bodybuilder look at all.
Contrary to the general perception that we are more attracted to big muscles than women...
|by Anonymous||reply 159||12/14/2014|
You know, your average straight teen starts with playboy, epxlicit nudity.
On the other hand your, average gay teen start with bodybuilding; erotic and suggestive; not explicit.
|by Anonymous||reply 161||01/02/2015|
"Women are also highly attracted to miscles"
is that like rocket riding?
|by Anonymous||reply 166||02/21/2015|
I'd say it's evolutionary biology. Muscles = Strength = Survival.
|by Anonymous||reply 168||03/02/2015|
I don't car for muscle men. OP I will be you are young.
|by Anonymous||reply 169||03/02/2015|
Men that say what I feel claim we are not telling the truth, but I could care less. When I see what has become of men ( young and old ) posting non stop selfies with almost no body fat it is a total turn off. I like natural men who have natural bodies. I like men who eat healthy not for vanity, but for health. I notice the more a man depends on his looks and body the less interested he is in other things including other people and the world we live. If had the chance to go on a date with a 8 pack or a cute natural man I would there would be no doubt natural would win out.
|by Anonymous||reply 171||03/02/2015|
I would guess it has to do with evolution and the subconscious.
I read somewhere that women love men with meaty asses. It isn't because the women necessarily want to do anything with those butts, but that it signifies thrusting power, which signifies virility and manhood.
Over millennia, a fit man is one who could survive, who could provide and protect.
So it makes sense that evolution gears us towards desiring that.
|by Anonymous||reply 174||05/12/2015|
Why are heterosexual men attracted to curvaceous women?
I think it is the same logic for us.
Curves enhance a woman's femininity and that makes them naturally more attractive for heterosexual men.
Big muscles are a secondary sexual trait in men and we are attracted to muscualine traits.
How curvaceous; how muscular, that depends on the person though.
|by Anonymous||reply 175||05/12/2015|
There is a fraction of heterosexual men who have a fetish with muscualr women. We are not the only ones who crave muscles, except, for a gay guy liking muscular men is perfectly normal, it is part of liking men, but it is kind of weird when a heterosexual men alsolike big muscles in women.
|by Anonymous||reply 176||07/01/2015|
I don't care for them myself.
|by Anonymous||reply 179||09/25/2015|
Exceptions don't vitiate the rule, dude
|by Anonymous||reply 181||09/25/2015|
Being a gay guy who likes muscles is common and normal. What's very uncommon is when heterosexual men like women with big muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 183||09/25/2015|
Look at this fucking huge muscles! :P
|by Anonymous||reply 184||09/27/2015|
I like beefy muscles just fiine, but I'd rather be with a guy with a belly than some lean gym queen constantly complaining about carbs. Such a turn off.
|by Anonymous||reply 185||09/27/2015|
Well, yeah, the wrong personality may turn muscles into such a turn-off and just imagone thei reinforcement of self-absortion at the gym among the muscle peers.
I prefer muscle men/bodybuilders for one night stand and not for a long-lasting relationship. I don't think I could ever have the second with a bodybuilder because, well, I love muscles, but I don't like the obsession that they may trigger in these men.
There is a group among bodybuilders who basically do it just to increase their sex appeal and many of them are not narcissistic as you think they might be. I mean, they love showing their muscles and turning someone on, but they don't look down on you as narcissists tend to see others. They enjoy it when you enjoy it in egalitarian terms.
|by Anonymous||reply 186||09/27/2015|
Hopefully they'll protect us from bashers.
|by Anonymous||reply 187||09/27/2015|
R187 You can always make fun of them by pointing out how homoerotic bodybuilding is n_n
Most studies on homophobia have shown that about 80% of homophobes are actually repressing their same sex attraction. That number must be very rpresentative of homophbes in bodybuolding, after all, this is about watching other men nearly naked doing suggestive things on a stage for other men.
|by Anonymous||reply 188||09/27/2015|
R189, are you the guy who dredged up the Trevor Adams thread?
|by Anonymous||reply 190||10/24/2015|
Gyms are filled straight dudes trying to get big muscles. It is not just a gay thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 192||12/05/2015|
Yep, muscles matter more than ever.
|by Anonymous||reply 193||12/08/2015|
Guys with big muscles are generally dumb, dumb, DUMB.
|by Anonymous||reply 194||12/08/2015|
Why wouldn't we be attracted to this?
|by Anonymous||reply 195||12/11/2015|
I don't know why I am, but I am! I am! I am!!!!! ....may I have tissue, please?
|by Anonymous||reply 197||12/11/2015|
This is a question whose answer is so logical, nothing really mysterious.
Now, what I find more intersting to know is if muscularity/bodybuilding makes you embrace an exhibitionist attitude. Do they like to draw attention to their bodies?
|by Anonymous||reply 198||12/17/2015|
I've been protecting you all along, bitch! But you can't handle the truth!
|by Anonymous||reply 199||12/17/2015|
What's not to like. . . .
|by Anonymous||reply 200||12/17/2015|
He photoshops his own photos. He enhances the size of his muscles. R200
|by Anonymous||reply 201||12/17/2015|
Bisexual orientation. Big body building men have women's shapes and walks. They no longer have the straight, masculine gait but a woman's waddle.
|by Anonymous||reply 202||12/17/2015|
Because secretly you really want to be the woman with a big, strong man to protect you and make you feel desirable in bed. In your mind, it will also help alleviate the feelings of low self esteem you probably suffer from as a result of living in a heterosexual world, and vindicate your sexuality as a gay man as well, showing the straights, "Look what I can get."
|by Anonymous||reply 206||01/04/2016|
I work in a clinic that sees many gay men. I am noticing that gay guys in their twenties are not going to the gym the way older gays do. I asked one of the younger guys about it and he said the muscled look was old fashioned. So, perhaps a new look is developing. My generation went from the disco to the gym in about 1983. I suspect it was in response to the epidemic.
|by Anonymous||reply 208||01/04/2016|
Society has pathologised an attraction to a body type that is actually natural and expected if you are attracted to men. There's nothing wrong with liking muscular men, it is simply your sexual orientation manifesting itself and that's normal.
No one pathologises heterosexual men's attraction to big breasts and butts simply because it is acceptable and expected that men like women.
|by Anonymous||reply 209||01/07/2016|
There is nothing natural about 80% of them r209,...... steroids, HGH, etc.......
|by Anonymous||reply 210||01/07/2016|
R210 Sexual arousal is not something rational, it just happens if someone meets the criteria. Your brain doesn't ask how a muscular body was achieved in order to tell you to lust after him or not; it just happens because we are hard-wired to lust after muscles, it is in our nature the same way heterosexual men are hard-wired to lust after women with big breasts even though most women don't have big breasts like those they see in XXX mags.
But still, even if a man achieved his body using drugs there is nothing wrong with lusting after those muscles. Whether or not a man is using drugs to get that body is not the topic nor is it an axcuse to shame people who lust after muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 211||01/07/2016|
Actually, I do have some heavy lifting I need done.
|by Anonymous||reply 212||01/07/2016|
Many complain about bodybuilders looking huge and ripped and say their bodies are a turn-off. Put the same bodybuilder on the stage in a night club and everybody will drool over those same muscles. A funny fact of life is that many bodybuilders are actually strippers.
Does context influence the way we perceive things?
|by Anonymous||reply 213||01/09/2016|
Someone feels like a troll, that's R215
|by Anonymous||reply 216||01/10/2016|
R65 Yes, it was the hiv/AIDS thing initially. But then the pumped look became more normal for het/gay and male/female. It's like whitened teeth - just part of the landscape now.
|by Anonymous||reply 217||01/10/2016|
visually appealing, unless you like dad bod or muffin top.
|by Anonymous||reply 219||01/10/2016|
Muscles connote power, dominance, Alpha Maleness, strength, vigor, vitality, physical self-maintenance, training, athleticism, and virility. Why wouldn't people be attracted to them?
|by Anonymous||reply 220||01/11/2016|
I don't think physical self-maintaincance is perceived as attractive/erotic because it sounds more pretentious than erotic. But the other qualities I agree.
When I was younger I used to wonder why muscle men looked for other muscle men and not guys that were their opposite as it happens with heterosexuals, you know, one is the big and strong and the other the delicate and defensless (so to speak), but then I realised that homosexuality doesn't necessarily works like that and that homosexual males are more or less attracted to the same qualities that we define as masculine regardless of you having muscles or not.
|by Anonymous||reply 221||01/13/2016|
Because you don't have any of your own?
|by Anonymous||reply 222||01/13/2016|
Are bi dudes as attracted to muscles?
|by Anonymous||reply 223||01/13/2016|
I found these funny videos from Japanese guys. The section is called 筋肉がみたい which means "I want to see muscle". I don't speak Japanese, I still need some practice, but from what the host was saying I understood that flexing releases pheromones. Can someone confirm this?
|by Anonymous||reply 224||01/13/2016|
R47 : "futile"??? Did you mean fertile? If so, how does that apply to gays?
|by Anonymous||reply 226||02/20/2016|
I disagree with the stereotype that muscled men are idiots. I personally know 2 doctors who are body-builders in their free time. they workout everyday because they enjoy it but their lives don't revolve around it. for example instead of sitting on DL for 2 hours they'd rather hit the gym.
|by Anonymous||reply 227||02/20/2016|
Half his life revolves around the idea of building muscles because it demands a lot of time, R227
|by Anonymous||reply 228||02/21/2016|
R65 / Torta : This was true in my experience. I was friends with Tyler Regan (porn actor) in the 90s. He was HIV+, and took steroids and other stuff in order to be bulky and muscular. And then he suddenly died in the fall of '93. He was so muscular and healthy looking nobody could believe he had HIV, let alone die of AIDS.
|by Anonymous||reply 229||02/21/2016|
Pheromones attract gays to the muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 230||02/22/2016|
It's about POWER and masculinity
|by Anonymous||reply 231||02/28/2016|
But if a woman were powerful and masculine it would not have the same effect on gay men.
Our brains are programmed to find the muscular male figure sexually attractive. And I also think that this hardwiring of our brains make us also respond to non-visual stimuli such as male pheromones, etc. Have you ever caught yourself smelling the jacket of your partner when he left it in your house?
|by Anonymous||reply 232||03/01/2016|
OP, the same reason women do. You wish you were born a woman. Easy peasy.
|by Anonymous||reply 233||03/01/2016|
r232, I tend to be attracted to dainty but athletic fit women, and big buff muscular men. I like women and men that are ideals of gender stereotypes.
|by Anonymous||reply 234||03/02/2016|
So they can beat up any man who picks on me.
|by Anonymous||reply 236||03/11/2016|
What's not to like about these always-horny pieces of hard meat?
|by Anonymous||reply 237||03/11/2016|
That is why one would marry a lawyer, not a muscle queen.
|by Anonymous||reply 238||03/11/2016|
I don't know because big muscles are so ugly.
|by Anonymous||reply 239||03/11/2016|
Sometimes you just want to be submissive. With all the stress and worries of daily life, and always usually carrying the weight, you just want someone bigger than you who can take control.
|by Anonymous||reply 240||03/11/2016|
r238 I was married to a lawyer. I think I'd rather have the muscle queen.
|by Anonymous||reply 241||03/11/2016|
I don't want a muscle queen, I want a muscle dudebro.
|by Anonymous||reply 242||03/11/2016|
Most would pick the muscle man for one night stand. Most don't consider muscle men for a long-term relationship. It's probably the big muscles that make people thinnk they care more about themselves and their muscles...
|by Anonymous||reply 243||03/11/2016|
[quote]Most would pick the muscle man for one night stand. Most don't consider muscle men for a long-term relationship
I know. No one will ever love me.
|by Anonymous||reply 244||03/11/2016|
The same reason straight and bi guys like big titties. Its apart of the overall allure of the person you're attracted to. Are you serious OP. Every other day theres one of these stupid inquiries about sexual dersire/attraction. What gives? It ain't rocket science.
|by Anonymous||reply 245||03/11/2016|
Or the other way round, R244
|by Anonymous||reply 246||03/11/2016|
Actually, yes, attraction to muscle men doesn't need to be questioned; it is natural for people attracted to men to like the male figure in many of its shapes, especially when it comes to muscularity.
|by Anonymous||reply 247||03/12/2016|
Today I learnt heterosexual women touch heterosexual guys' arms in order to find out whether or not the guy has developed biceps. It happens for example, when they (men) tell a funny story and she goes like "oh, haha, really?" and that thet very moment she puts her hand on the guy's arm.
Do some gay guys also do that when meeting a guy?
|by Anonymous||reply 248||03/17/2016|
There is a research paper posted in the annals of DL that answers this.
It also describes why gay men prefer more masculine facial features.
However, these preferences are "average" - meaning not EVERY SINGLE GAY MAN ON EARTH wants muscles. I have to put this in all caps because it seems to be an issue that is severely confused by people.
Gay men are the same as straight men. They want the most sex-typical features. Straight men want a 0.7 waist/hip ratio and big breasts...very feminine characteristics. Gay men want a V shaped torso and muscles...masculine characteristics. With regard to the face, straight men want feminized versions of average females...and gay men want more masculine versions (wide jaws, larger brows, etc...) Women, when ovulating, like more masculine and muscular men. When not ovulating, they like the opposite.
|by Anonymous||reply 249||03/17/2016|
You want gay men sexually attracted to men with vagnia, womenly boobs, womenly ass.?!
|by Anonymous||reply 250||03/17/2016|
But physical attraction doesn't necessarily match or influence romantic feelings. I mean, you can be highly turned on by muscular men but you don't need or desire your potential boyfriend to be muscular.
Most of the time we desire muscles for irelevant sexual encounters in which you can live your fantasies, but your idea of a boyfriend doesnt necessarily include developed muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 251||03/17/2016|
Men want to be big and strong and powerful
|by Anonymous||reply 253||04/17/2016|
Women like muscular dudes too
|by Anonymous||reply 254||04/30/2016|
They are extremely hot, R255. Thanks!!
|by Anonymous||reply 256||05/15/2016|
Testosterone model the way men will look and estrogen model the way women will look. If you are homosexual it means that your brain has been hardwired during gestation to identify the physical traits that characterise men and desire the, sexually, your reaction to them is then sponatenous and natural. The human eye has a tremendous capacity to spot both the evident as well as the subtle characteristic of the human body.
Let's imagine a hypothetical scenario where relatively strong developed muscles could mean the survival of humans in communities. Perhaps, when nature created homosexual men it made them lust after muscles as an incetive to increase the chances of them becoming athletic to protect their community and it made them romantically attracted to men to avoud conflict among them so that they work togetehr as a group.
|by Anonymous||reply 259||10/28/2016|
My typing was horrible above >.<
|by Anonymous||reply 260||10/29/2016|
OP, muscles might mean a guy works hard in a physically demanding job rather than posing at the gym. In your circles probably not however. And lots of women don't like loads of muscles. Arnie, Seagal, Van Damme etc were never major sex symbols for women.
|by Anonymous||reply 261||10/29/2016|
Really? I was under the impression that Jean Claude Van Damme was a sex symbol for women during his young muscular days. He wasn't that big at the time, he had the right body to promote him a sex symbol.
|by Anonymous||reply 262||11/04/2016|
Van Damme seems tiny by today's standards
|by Anonymous||reply 263||11/05/2016|
R223 : Yeah, because they're attracted to EVERYTHING.
|by Anonymous||reply 264||11/05/2016|
Muscles imply access to meat, an advantage for breeding healthy butt babies!
|by Anonymous||reply 265||11/05/2016|
From a homosexual point of view, the breeding part does nothing for us though so that point doesn't count in the discussion at all.
|by Anonymous||reply 266||11/05/2016|
I like a skinny guy with toned arms, a big dick, a big brain, a good sense of humor and a kind heart. And hairy legs and nice chest/stomach fur.
|by Anonymous||reply 267||11/05/2016|
I would also make the case and I think it is undeniable that heterosexual men in bodybuilding are also fascinated with the erotic connotations of bodybuilders' bodies.
When they call bodybuilders flattering names such as "monster", "beast", etc there is an implied meaning of sexual attractiveness and sex potential. It doesn't necessarily mean that they want to go to bed with bodybuilders, but definitely they are fascinated with the eroticism of the muscular body. That's why they like to look at other men exhibit their muscles with fascination and enthusiasm.
There's actually a book that briefly states that for both, homosexual and heterosexual men who like bodybuilding it cannot be discarded an erotic interest in a bodybuilder's body/muscles.
|by Anonymous||reply 268||11/23/2016|
Hetero women and gay men seem to experience the male body and the essence of male nature differently...
Men usually seem inclined to like sports, athleticism and strength. For gay men this is also true with the aggregate that we are able to feel the erotic side of athleticism and strength coming from a man's body. We usually classify those attributes as masculinity and we seem more fascinated with masculinity.
Women, on the other hand, seem less interested athleticism and strength. Not that they don't like to look at an athletic man, it is just that it seems to do less for them for some reason...
We can only speculate and say, for example, that we are men and as men we understand male nature and the male body more than women and perhaps we like to explore how intricate and surprising male nature can be....
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