Straight or gay. Why do so many men reach 40 and then just let themselves go, never go anywhere, never do anything? They lose their oomph. Is there some rule that says they ALL have to wear Dockers khaki pants and generic label polo shirts, have a pot belly and little sticks for arms?
Middle-aged white men are the most boring people on earth
|by Anonymous||reply 57||08/16/2012|
It's estrogen. Middle-aged men start 'nesting' at that time.
No more fight in them, they become like twenty-year old girls looking for a cozy, warm, stable home to invest their lives in.
It's not their fault, we are all about hormones.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||08/15/2012|
How about middle aged black men? Do cast your oh so tiresome generalisations liberally.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||08/15/2012|
Nobody's met a middle aged black man. They're all in jail.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||08/15/2012|
Go fuck yourself, r3.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||08/15/2012|
OP, sounds like you have a story to tell.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||08/15/2012|
I see R4 is selective about generalisations to attack.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||08/15/2012|
Yep, typical PC fucktard agenda. It's not a stretch to think the whole purpose of the thread was to have an excuse to put "white" and "most boring people on earth" together.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||08/15/2012|
I don't understand the genesis for R2's question, but, R3, your response is idiotic. It's on par with the bullshit from Tea Party members, etc. I had a co-worker confess that she thinks gays have a tendency to be pedophiles and want to be women (she was fired for stealing company funds and I rejoiced). You remind me of her for her stupidity.
By the way, all middle-aged white men are not boring.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||08/15/2012|
You mean middle-aged white STRAIGHT men, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||08/15/2012|
And yet, we rule the world, and you do not, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||08/15/2012|
OP here. I'm 58, if it matters, and am no party boy myself. But I find it really hard to make friends with guys my own age because they BORE me. They don't keep up with the popular culture and have long since abandoned learning anything new.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||08/15/2012|
Gay men between 20-35 are more boring. No substance.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||08/15/2012|
[quote]They don't keep up with the popular culture
Oh we completely understand your problem, then. Having friends who don't watch "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo" or who don't know all the words to the latest Flo Rida and Carly Rae Jepsen songs is absolutely intolerable.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||08/15/2012|
They might be boring but some of them have nice asses and make good sex. Find one who went to Catholic school and he'll do anything you want to do (they often like to be spanked).
|by Anonymous||reply 14||08/15/2012|
OP, you obviously aren't in the gym saunas with them after they work out.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||08/15/2012|
[quote]they don't keep up with the popular culture
What are you referring to? Be specific. "Popular culture" is often used as nothing more than a euphemism for stupidity. In such cases, those of any age and race who reject it are just using their brains.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||08/15/2012|
OP displaying his "oomph"
|by Anonymous||reply 17||08/15/2012|
I will have you know that I was boring way before I hit 40.
I don't even slap random children. or set fire to cheerios.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||08/15/2012|
[quote]Why do so many men reach 40 and then just let themselves go, never go anywhere, never do anything?
OP, after a certain amount of time, which varies according to the individual, you want to relax. When you are young you like to go to bars, concerts, movies, parties, etc. When you are older it changes from nightly to maybe once a month or so. Your priorities change, you can't live as if you are 21 forever.
Plus your career takes a lot of energy out of you. When you are 21 you have a job. When you are 40, you SHOULD have a career, which can involve overtime. Factor kids into that and you have even less time and energy.
Life isn't one big party. I'm now happy with a glass of wine at home, reading a good book and gardening or cooking a new dish. It's as fun to me as the all night parties were in my youth. Maybe not as exciting, but a lifetime of nightly excitement would get very old very fast.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||08/15/2012|
[quote]OP here. I'm 58, if it matters, and am no party boy myself. But I find it really hard to make friends with guys my own age because they BORE me. They don't keep up with the popular culture and have long since abandoned learning anything new.
As far as learning something new, at age 62, I am learning the following:
Chinese architectural history
Over the past decade I have learned to make or done the following:
Maintained a high level of fitness with circuit training, cross country skiing biking and running.
Learned to make artisan gelato
Learned to speak Italian
I am constantly learning new things to keep up with research and technology in my profession. Continuing education is required to maintain a license.
I am single and interested in men my age or older who are interested in things I don't know. I also enjoy activities with guys of any age who are open and willing. My youngest friend is 19. My oldest friend is 85.
So how is that fascination with younger men and popular culture working out for you?
|by Anonymous||reply 20||08/15/2012|
Artisan gelato? I am intrigued.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||08/15/2012|
The poster who talked of artisan gelato could and should start a little business, either making it or teaching fraus to make it.
It would REALLY appeal to women, especially younger women, so you'd want to have the classes on a weekend.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||08/15/2012|
FYI, Chaz Bono had a little gelato palace in the eighties.
is this a gay thing?
|by Anonymous||reply 23||08/15/2012|
[quote]I see [R4] is selective about generalisations to attack.
I see you're not American, but you most certainly typify the mindset of an entitled douchebag.
You apparently think claiming something as innocuous as "white men are boring and wear khakis" is on par with "black men are criminals."
|by Anonymous||reply 24||08/15/2012|
He R20: would you be interested in a 51-year-old straight woman? You sound great!
|by Anonymous||reply 25||08/15/2012|
r24, what's the difference?
That you think one is bad and one is good?
That one group should be shielded from criticism and one shouldn't?
That one is true and one is not?
|by Anonymous||reply 26||08/15/2012|
I think I made it clear what the difference was. One is i n n o c u o u s and one is not.
If someone had written that all middle-aged white men shoot up public places, then you'd have a point.
What you've just displayed is the very entitlement that I mentioned. You are under the delusion someone saying white guys wear khakis is as offensive as saying an entire race is in prison.
Are you playing stupid or do you genuinely lack introspection, R26?
|by Anonymous||reply 27||08/15/2012|
[quote] It's as fun to me as the all night parties were in my youth.
Especially if it was the 80s and you had to tolerate all that awful music (incl. Madonna & Michael Jackson).
|by Anonymous||reply 28||08/15/2012|
r27, you seem to be the stupid one. No one said an entire race is in prison. And I don't think anyone said ALL people of a certain category are boring. The suggestion in both cases was that each group had a disproportionate share of the the characteristic.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||08/15/2012|
80s music, bad? Compared to what?
|by Anonymous||reply 30||08/15/2012|
Bitch, I'm 55 and looking fabulous in Thom Brown. I don't even own khakis.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||08/15/2012|
[quote]No one said an entire race is in prison.
Oh, excuse me, R3 only insulted the middle-aged demographic:
[quote]Nobody's met a middle aged black man. They're all in jail.
[quote]the suggestion in both cases was that each group had a disproportionate share of the the characteristic.
You truly are an unbelievable bullshit artist. You're actually attempting to validate a racist comment pulled out of R3's ass and conflating it with a harmless comment about middle-aged white guys being boring and wearing khakis.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||08/15/2012|
I partially agree with the OP, having dated some over forty gay white men myself. I just can't anymore. R20 is a rare breed.
Now I don't expect a forty something year old man to know the lyrics to a Lady Gaga song, but shit, at least know who the fucking woman is. I know sixty year old white straight men and women who know Katy Perry, Rhianna and actuallly listen to their shit. So there's really no excuse.
The last one I dated completely blew off any conversation about Whitney Houston (we had our first date the day after she died). Sorry, but if you have no interest in something that big and shocking, then I have no interest in you. Nevermind that I creased his aviator jacket.
Middle aged black men and spanish guys are AWARE of todays culture. That's what we're talking about kids, being aware. They're also more exciting and fun to hang out with.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||08/15/2012|
Note to white men: khakis show it when you dribble pee. Please wear a darker color.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||08/15/2012|
It's interesting. I don't think it was necessary to mention skin color in OP's post. However, it appears to me that the OP is talking about his dating pool. He finds the (white) middle aged men in his dating pool or preference group to be boring and uninteresting.
That's debatable. People become more settled as they grow older and become less interested in trying new things or changing old patterns. I like how some people understood what the OP meant and attempted enlighten him by basically stating that they aren't boring and they live a full life; therefore, the OP's observations may not be entirely accurate.
Of course it wouldn't be DL if someone didn't attempt to bash blacks who seem to be the perpetual scapegoats for certain members of the gay community. And it's ALWAYS blacks. It's a mentality that one often finds among poor whites (except they thrown in more brown people and gays).
Although, both may be members of poor and/or disfavored groups they reassure themselves that they are superior to blacks by constantly demeaning them or via racial politics. Someone should really consider doing a legitimate study with regard to racial attitudes ( and particularly concerning blacks) in the gay community. It would be both insightful and interesting.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||08/15/2012|
[quote]You're actually attempting to validate a racist comment pulled out of R3's ass and conflating it with a harmless comment...
One is just as "racist" as the other. You just don't want negative things said about one group but you don't mind it said about others.
Where is the companion thread to this one? Oh that's right, it doesn't exist.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||08/15/2012|
BTW, R29, R26 is also R7
[quote]Yep, typical PC fucktard agenda.
When one uses "PC," then you can pretty much summarize the type of person they are and their sense of entitlement.
I bet he's one of these people who whines about white guys being the last group on earth who others are allowed to attack/insult. :::eyeroll:::
|by Anonymous||reply 37||08/15/2012|
The problem is they all think they're Sooooooo fascinating. Who wouldn't want to hear an hour long story about their back surgery. Or their bbq pit they made from cinderblocks and railroad ties. Or finding a parking space at the big game. Or how they almost played for Alabama under Bear Bryant but blew their knee out in high school. Who doesn't want to hear an hour of that shit every fucking day?
|by Anonymous||reply 38||08/15/2012|
There are numerous threads with racist remarks towards black people R36.
Furthermore, if you're offended by this thread, then leave. There's nothing racist in what OP wrote.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||08/15/2012|
Jesus h christ. Yes, white men are the real victims here. It's nothing but reverse racism.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||08/15/2012|
r37, anyone who hates PC can be summarized as a truthful person. Unlike the lying racially obsessed idiot you are.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||08/15/2012|
R36? No it isn't racist in the same way. I already gave you an example of how it would be fair.
If someone stated that middle-aged white men are "all" child molesters (since many child molesters appear to be middle-aged white men) in a thread about middle-aged black men wearing bad cologne and watching Bruce Lee movies, would that be the same thing?
Would you think that talking about black men wearing bad cologne and watching Lee movies is the same as someone saying all middle-aged white men are child molesters? Is that the companion thread to which you're referring?
Ridiculous horse's ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||08/15/2012|
Guess middle-aged white men are also incredibly thin-skinned.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||08/15/2012|
This thread needs a post from charlie. Interested in his take.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||08/15/2012|
Aww, you pathetic victim, R41. Poor you.
What did I lie about?
How can I lie when all I did was point out false equivalency, you entitled, little cunt?
|by Anonymous||reply 45||08/15/2012|
[quote]Guess middle-aged white men are also incredibly thin-skinned.
Try a thread like this with young black women as the subject and we'll see who's "thin-skinned." Go ahead try it.
You lying sack of shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||08/15/2012|
Shut the fuck up and get back to the topic at hand.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||08/15/2012|
r3 = prison rape survivor.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||08/15/2012|
I agree. Middle-class people get dull and precious as they leave their 30s. They have the house and the job but they lose their spark - their sense of adventure - and become conservative, especially if they have kids. I'd rather be a tragic who never grows up. R28, underground dance music was going through one of it's most exciting and interesting periods during the 80s - only poptards think it was all Madonna and Tiffany.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||08/15/2012|
Sure, R46, because I'm sure it will be limited to talking about how boring they are and their clothing. It won't stray from those two "hard-hitting" topics, will it, asshole?
Way to reveal your true thought-process, hypersensitive tool.
Done with you idiots.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||08/15/2012|
Laughing out loud because this is so predictable. You people have no reservations about posting horrifically nasty comments and generalizations about women, lesbians, blacks, and other people of color ad infinitum. Yet, if somebody posts even a mildly critical comment about white gay men or white men in general, you cry foul and go into defensive and attack modes. If you can't take it (and evidently, you can't), don't do it to others. Zzzzzz...
|by Anonymous||reply 51||08/15/2012|
Hey, I am a 48 year old gay white male and I look damn good in my urban slim fit khaki's bitch. I also love all kinds of music and even some of the stuff the "kids" listen to. Jesus.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||08/15/2012|
[R35] You make some great points re racism and scapegoating of blacks by/in the white gay community. And as for some study of it, that's almost exactly what my partner's doctoral project is about. I'll tell him someone's looking forward to his work, as he slaves away on the dissertation!
|by Anonymous||reply 53||08/15/2012|
What about black guys who wear khakis, polo shirts and loafers? I could stand to lose some gut, but I've got some great arms...
|by Anonymous||reply 54||08/15/2012|
This thread is incredibly offensive and racist. I hope the webmaster shuts it down.
FLAMES AND FREAKS
|by Anonymous||reply 55||08/15/2012|
[quote] I know sixty year old white straight men and women who know Katy Perry, Rhianna and actuallly listen to their shit. So there's really no excuse.
So what's the excuse for listening to that (as you so aptly put it) shit?
|by Anonymous||reply 56||08/15/2012|
Mmmm, r52 you sound like the kind of boring, middle-aged white guy I've been looking for. I'll bet you look damn nice in a pair of camis or maybe some snug cowboy jeans, so good in fact, I may want to spank you. Maybe you like a nice Cock-tail with some interesting converstation too.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||08/16/2012|