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Got my HIV results today

I'm negative. I knew I would be, but I was still apprehensive opening the envelope in today's mail. It's a good feeling to know that I got tested, and everything is fine.

Anyone else get tested recently?

by Anonymousreply 7702/02/2013

Every six months. A great relief even when I have been safe.

by Anonymousreply 103/28/2012

Positive for twenty years. Im 40 now. Yikes.

by Anonymousreply 203/28/2012

Got tested 2 years ago, and was negative. But, haven't had sex in 15 years either.!

by Anonymousreply 303/28/2012

Yep, tested every 3 or 4 months.

I'm about due for one next week.

As a top, my risk is far more minimal than a bottom, but if I'm topping guys, it's important to be able to tell guys I fuck that I'm neg, and that I test frequently.

by Anonymousreply 403/28/2012

I'm very selective about who I have sex with, so I only get tested if I have to go to the doctor.

by Anonymousreply 503/28/2012

R5, it only takes ONE of your little 'selections' to get infected. It's important to get tested routinely.

And when you say 'selective', do you claim that you make everyone give you paper results? What does selective mean?

Guys who say they're negative, and who look great, clean, and everything, can also be Poz.

You should know better.

by Anonymousreply 603/28/2012

I am always sure that I'm safe. But getting tested and finding out for sure that I'm negative is great peace of mind.

by Anonymousreply 703/28/2012

When I got my results back I opened the envelope and it said

Viola Davis in "The Help"

by Anonymousreply 803/28/2012

The first couple of tests I ever took about 12 years ago freaked me out.

I finally 'got' that you can't get AIDS from masseurs who give out happy ending hand jobs.

I get them every so often now, but I haven't been fucked in a loooong time.

I would like to get plowed by this guy I know who kind of escorts on the side.

I know I'm playing with fire though and will probably chicken out.

by Anonymousreply 903/28/2012

I haven't had a test in three years, because I've been monogamous since then, but if I did I'd sweat it out as if I were at risk.

I'd do the same thing if I had a pap smear or a pregnancy test. And I'm a man. It's a test thing.

by Anonymousreply 1003/28/2012

Why would you get tested if you haven't had sex?

by Anonymousreply 1103/28/2012

R8 made me laugh.

by Anonymousreply 1203/28/2012

I don't think anyone's advocating that, R11.

by Anonymousreply 1303/29/2012

The hardest part in testing positive was when the Doctor said I should contact my past sexual partners to inform them of the potential risk of exposure.

I had to hire a call center in India to handle the sheer volume of calls required.

by Anonymousreply 1403/29/2012

I get one of those free anonymous tests from local AIDS organizations once in a while, but I never go back for my results. I figure, if I'm positive, they'll find me somehow, or remember me from last time.

by Anonymousreply 1503/29/2012

[quote] I get one of those free anonymous tests from local AIDS organizations once in a while, but I never go back for my results. I figure, if I'm positive, they'll find me somehow, or remember me from last time.

Wow, try not to overwhelm us with your investment in your own well being and health.

by Anonymousreply 1603/29/2012

Got oral cancer 5 years ago and the doc said I had to have a HIV test before they did surgery. I asked him if it came back pos would they deny me surgery. He said no it might just mean he would not do it. I walked out on him.

Negative here and knew it.

by Anonymousreply 1703/29/2012

A colleague's son was just diagnosed pos. He's 20. He has been in a relationship with someone for about a year, and per mom, the partner never told her son he was poz before they got together.

I'm sure it's possible these events are accurate, but I have my doubts.

What I find sickening is that two 20 year old are poz for no reason at all and it was clearly preventable.

by Anonymousreply 1803/29/2012

R17, he may have a compromised immune system like cancer. That didn't necessarily mean that he had an issue with your status.

R14, W&W.

by Anonymousreply 1903/29/2012

I wish I had a reason to be tested. :-/

by Anonymousreply 2003/29/2012

I received my test results last weekend. I got a scare when the condom broke and the guy came inside me.

by Anonymousreply 2103/29/2012

Yeah, R17 -- R19 is right -- maybe the Dr himself is pos & has to be careful about exposure.

I'm sure there are surgeons who are bigoted against gays, but I also think there aren't many of them. Doctors are scientists &, as a group, they tend to be objective (at least when they're at work).

by Anonymousreply 2203/29/2012

R17/ R19

That is inexcusable. He should be reported to the local medical board. ALL patients are treated with universal precautions, and if he follows those, he is not exposed.

This is clearly a matter of discrimination.

Many people are walking around with Hep C, which is far worse IMO than HIV because it can live for so much longer outside the body. I work with dialysis patients and am exposed to blood and body fluids all the time, and we have a very high patient population who have very contagious diseases, including HIV and Hep C.

I treat everyone exactly the same, and so should every other care provider.

Please report that asshole, R17. He is violating his oath.

by Anonymousreply 2303/29/2012

Never been. Never will.

by Anonymousreply 2403/29/2012

If the doctor himself were poz why would he say he might not do the surgery if you were poz. I do not see the logic in that.

by Anonymousreply 2503/29/2012

r23 - I didn't know much about Hep C until my coworker was diagnosed with it last year. She is currently going through the 6 month interferon treatment and it's hellish. The public needs to be a lot more aware of the risks of Hep C and get tested for it. It's scary stuff.

by Anonymousreply 2603/30/2012

LOL at R8.

Are those of you who get tested and worry about it in the interim the type who have unprotected anal sex?

by Anonymousreply 2703/30/2012

I get tested at my annul physical and I get the results before I leave the doctor's office.

by Anonymousreply 2803/30/2012

Don't get too confident, Mary OP.

Your test may be 'negative' but that sample was from a couple of weks ago...... what is your 'status' this moment? You might have 'caught AID$' in the interim!

The only way you can be sure you don't have AID$ is to get tested EVERY DAY!

by Anonymousreply 2903/30/2012

I'm not believing that Mrs PC got that much tail in Barcelona.

by Anonymousreply 3003/30/2012

R8 That's simply implausible! What a funny little tale. Glennie, is that you?

by Anonymousreply 3103/30/2012

Got my results today...

Came back negative (whew).

by Anonymousreply 3203/30/2012


by Anonymousreply 3303/30/2012


I'm sure most of you old pearl clutching queens will have no problem staying negative since that would require removing your caftans and earrings and engaging in actual sex with a real live person.

by Anonymousreply 3403/30/2012

[quote] I'm sure most of you old pearl clutching queens will have no problem staying negative since that would require removing your caftans and earrings and engaging in actual sex with a real live person.

Are you just being a bitch? Or are you implying that only sad boring old trolls stay neg? Not sure what you're being cunty about here, please clarify.

by Anonymousreply 3503/30/2012

I left it for ages and ages until one drunken encounter hammered home how stupid I could be and that, though I'd always insisted on protection and asking people their status etc. one just never knows.

Anyway I got the full shebang and I'm neg, also got tested for all the other nasties and was neg on those too. Then I got Hep B vaccination. The last dose is due in August.

I felt so silly that I'd been actively gay for 8 years and had never got tested/vaccinated.

It was no biggie at all.

by Anonymousreply 3603/31/2012


And we are Marshall - what's your point?

by Anonymousreply 3703/31/2012

Starting a thread to gloat about being negative. How lame.

by Anonymousreply 3805/03/2012

I will always remember my first test in the early 80's. I thought that if I tested negative I would feel very happy. But I didn't because it did nothing for my many friends who were positive and the 90 friends who had already died.

by Anonymousreply 3905/03/2012

If you want to be completely safe, just keep your damned pants zipped. Problem (and anxiety) solved.

by Anonymousreply 4005/03/2012

Let's hope they aren't still spreading HIV by the Hep B vaccine. The only reason you need more than one Hep B shot, ayb, is that the vaccine is not very effective, maybe 30%. So why do it at all, one wonders.

by Anonymousreply 4105/03/2012

I don't have sex, but yet I test myself on a regular basis for STDs to make myself look like a popular promiscious slut. It's like sending myself flowers at work for my colleagues to see that someone else is madly in love with me.

You have to make yourself look desirable in order for people to notice / desire you.

by Anonymousreply 4205/03/2012

Haven't been tested since 2 years ago, but haven't had sex in years. Btw, negative.

by Anonymousreply 4305/03/2012

I've never had anal or oral sex and I'm a 45 year old gay man. I'm too scared of catching a disease.

by Anonymousreply 4405/03/2012

I am concerned with people getting tested regularly, because it telegraphs the fact that they are having unsafe sex.

by Anonymousreply 4505/03/2012

I agree with R45. Anyone who gets tested regularly either has OCD or is doing unsafe sex.

by Anonymousreply 4605/03/2012

So who should have a Hep B vaccine? My doctor has never mentioned it.

by Anonymousreply 4705/03/2012

R47, gays who are sexually active.

by Anonymousreply 4805/03/2012

The sciene of how HIV is transmitted is pretty exact. Follow those guidelines and you should be ok. There no need to be so draconian.

by Anonymousreply 4905/04/2012

You had to wait for the results in the mail? This is 2012 - you can get results in 10 minutes. Much less agonizing.

by Anonymousreply 5005/04/2012

{quote}Anyone who gets tested regularly either has OCD or is doing unsafe sex.

Condoms make sex safer, not safe. Unless you are monogamous and certain that your partner is monogamous, you should continue to be tested no matter how scrupulous you are about safer sex.

by Anonymousreply 5105/04/2012

got my test results 5 days ago. It was a relief to find out the negative results because you can get HIV in more ways than one.Everyone should get tested once a year, just to know your staus.

by Anonymousreply 5207/10/2012

Is this a joke? Ever heard of condoms? Christ.

by Anonymousreply 5307/10/2012

Some of you guys seriously need to learn how to jerk off.

by Anonymousreply 5407/10/2012

I just tested negative with my best friend about two months back.

I'm acutely aware that as a 30 year old black gay male, I'm looked at as some sort of AIDS-bomb, but I remain neg.

Probably helps that I top 99.8% of the time, and practically always wear condoms. I've slipped up once or twice, always freak out, always test.

I know for a fact that I've hooked up with poz people in the past, too. One guy I found out about later, one guy I kind of figured out after when I put two and two together. Both condoms, no sweat.

Although last summer I was about to hook up with a very, very hot man who told me he was poz before and I got skittish. He won't even look at me now when I see him around, and I guess I deserve that, but I don't even see why he brought it up at all for a hookup.

I'd like to stay neg. HIV is just not a complication I need in my life, and I've discovered Magnum thins, which are the best condoms in the world.

by Anonymousreply 5507/10/2012

I tested positive (anonymously) at a clinic this June. I still haven't told anyone (besides my ex who was already positive) and I don't intend to.

by Anonymousreply 5607/10/2012

Someone I was in a serious relationship with and who I still love just tested posetive. Before it was confirmed he told me he suspected and I got tested, I'm negative.

He swears he did not have unprotected anal since that was something we promised was just for each other. He says the only thing he can think of was a few months ago he was on a business trip and blew some younger guy and swallowed his load.

Am i being naive to believe him?

by Anonymousreply 5707/10/2012

r57, despite what the whores here want to believe, it is possible to get HIV from oral sex. The chance is slim, and has to be a perfect storm (huge open, bleeding wound in mouth, high viral load in infected guy), but it is possible. I wouldn't necessarily not believe him.

by Anonymousreply 5807/10/2012

Yes R57. That's a very low-risk behavior to participate in and get infected by. Even if your ex is trying to protect your feelings he should just be honest.

by Anonymousreply 5907/10/2012

I am a little shocked and sad that this is an issue for so many in 2012.

by Anonymousreply 6007/10/2012

[quote]As a top, my risk is far more minimal than a bottom, but if I'm topping guys, it's important to be able to tell guys I fuck that I'm neg, and that I test frequently.

R4, you sound very sensible in your posts. Am I right to assume you always wear condoms?

by Anonymousreply 6107/10/2012

To some of you here:

If you do not have sex with anyone, isn't it wasteful to test for HIV and STDs? I mean, seriously.

by Anonymousreply 6207/10/2012

can you get HVI from a used sex toy?

by Anonymousreply 6307/10/2012

I only have sex with very clean smelling men, not too much cologne either. So that's how I know I am reasonably perfectly safe.

by Anonymousreply 6407/10/2012

I got HIV from riding a tractor in my bathing suit

by Anonymousreply 6507/10/2012

Should I push him to try to get at the truth or just let it go?

We have still been spending time together. Even jerked off together. I wanted him to still feel attractive because he told me he felt disgusting and wanted to die. He has been crying on my shoulder a lot. Yet there are also times he shuts me out and acts cold.

by Anonymousreply 6607/12/2012

Sorry R58 HIV through oral sex has ALWAYS been a theoretical not a real risk. Infectious disease experts put your chances of getting it at 1 and 10000 and they even consider that too high but they never want to say there is a 0% chance of getting in. In order to have even a chance of get it through oral sex someone would have to jizz on a huge,gaping, life threatening wound in your mouth. R58 do you really think someone with a life threatening wound is giving someone a blow job?

Everyone has microscopic cuts and wounds in their mouth from food, hot beverages, and brushing.

by Anonymousreply 6707/12/2012

I saw a photograph of a used sex toy once. Ever since, I've felt so dirty and at risk, but I just can't bring myself to get tested.

by Anonymousreply 6807/12/2012

lol r68

by Anonymousreply 6902/02/2013

[I will always remember my first test in the early 80's]

The virus wasn't isolated and confirmed until 1984 and the antibody test wasn't widely available until later in 1985. So, HIV testing really began in the mid-1980s. I was there.

by Anonymousreply 7002/02/2013

[quote] You had to wait for the results in the mail?

Where is it that people are getting mail results?

Every test I've ever taken required someone to get results in person. For someone to be told they are positive without any sort of offer for help, counseling etc could be really emotionally devastating.

That's just Healthcare and Mental Health 101 to not ever deliver that result in that way.....

by Anonymousreply 7102/02/2013

r71, there are ads on TV for home testing kits now. You don't get the results in the mail. Rather you call in for the results, and there's supposed to be a trained counselor on hand if the results are poz.

by Anonymousreply 7202/02/2013

I get that for a home test, R72, but otherwise I'd think most providers would do in person. I'd be surprised if someone was sent anything in the mail. The privacy/HIPAA on that would be impossible to guarantee.

by Anonymousreply 7302/02/2013

I'm not sure any of the home tests ever sent results by mail. These kits have been around for several years in various forms, and the results were always obtained by calling in, never by mail.

by Anonymousreply 7402/02/2013

Liar. Whore.

by Anonymousreply 7502/02/2013

Some of you seem to be over-testing. I've been tested less than a dozen times (since the first test in 1983, when they didn't have a real test so they shot 12 different fungi into my arm to see what my immune response would be) and it was more than enough to cover all contingencies.

by Anonymousreply 7602/02/2013

Oops, no that was 1982, sorry.

by Anonymousreply 7702/02/2013
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