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Bisexuality Question

Though I am a 100% gay and love it,I have a question for genuine bisexual people.

Unlike a few gay people I actually think that there are quite a few bisexuals in the world,as opposed to closeted gay or person who says they are BI but is really gay.

My question is this.How do you manage your bisexuality when you are in a relationship or married? Does your partner know ? Do you play around or do you cut that part of yourself out? Are there periods when it comes out more than others?

by Anonymousreply 16704/19/2013

[quote]Males who say they are Bi- are just Gay men still working their way out of the closet, struggling with internal self acceptance issues.

I'm a bi male, happy with my male partner have amazing sex and we're engaged. Take your bullshit elsewhere, you stupid gay tool.

by Anonymousreply 603/27/2012

R4, you claim bisexuality is a female thing, yet you claim straight men have sex with guys? I love it. Too hilarious.

OP, first, no way on earf, yes I said earf, would a guy dating a female or getting married to one tell them he's bisexual. His purpose is to live a life to appease his family, religion -if he has one, and his own self-image. He most likely has self-loathing towards his homosexuality. Meanwhile, he will be out cruising for guy after guy hooking up with tens of millions of them. Yes, I'm exaggerating, but the amount of guys the male will cheat on his girlfriend or wife with is mind-blowing. It seems that when gay men marry women, the cheating increases to astronomical numbers. Way more than that of their heterosexual counter-parts.

Do they cut themselves off? That's funnier than R4's assertion that straight men have gay sex.

by Anonymousreply 703/27/2012

Whatever you say R6. If you think it's so, then it's so. Does the biology of your brain most likely prove otherwise? Probably. Hopefully, research will unlock a way for people to determine the truth behind their sexuality rather than just speculating...or lying. I do wish all gay people were born with horns on their foreheads, however. That way, you could never hide, and be forced to fight for gay rights.

by Anonymousreply 803/27/2012

Bisexuality ISN"T a mostly female thing at all, although I suspect more women act on their bisexual impulses. I'm a gay man, and have no interest in women at all. I've been with a few guys, though, who are clearly bisexual. They love sex with men, and they love sex with women. When it comes to committing to a relationship, however, most of the bi men I've known have chosen women, probably because it's just easier to have a relationship with a woman in the southern town I live in. I think MOST people are somewhere in between totally straight and totally gay, and a good many of them try both at one point. But when they settle down, they take the easier, more socially acceptable route.

by Anonymousreply 903/27/2012

R9, you're right. But, the sex with guys doesn't stop just because they get married. If anything, it encourages them. This is my experience, however, with every single gay or bisexual guy married to a woman. I'm sure there are some upstanding, stellar, monogamous "bisexual" men out there.

by Anonymousreply 1003/27/2012

OP bisexuality is so very complex. Some bi men love vagina, but they get off the idea of fucking a guy. They deal with it by imagining their guy has a vadge.

by Anonymousreply 1103/27/2012

Agree r 8 I think horns on your head is great,so gay people could not hide. On the other hand I am a size queen ...:)

by Anonymousreply 1203/27/2012

I think it's incredibly arrogant for someone like R4 to insist that he knows more about R6's sexuality than R6 himself. It reminds me of straight people insisting homosexuality is a choice.

by Anonymousreply 1303/27/2012

Bisexuals are just as monogamy challenged as everyone else.

No more. No less.

Bisexuality doesn't mean that one has to have sex with men and women. It means that the people one is attracted to can be either male or female.

There are gay people who are monogamous. There are gay people who are primarily monogamous but might on occasion consider having sex with someone other than their partner. There are gay people who have simultaneous (meaning over the same period of time, rather than serially) multiple sexual partners. There are gay people who have a great deal of sexual partners in a similar time frame.

There are straight people who fit into all of the above categories.

And their are bi people who fit into all of the above categories.

by Anonymousreply 1403/27/2012

I am always monogamous in relationships and my partners always know. Occasionally women have a problem with it and that's fine but not in a relationship; the men I date are either sensitive liberal boys who would at least never admit to being bothered by it, arrogant enough not to be threatened by it, or some combination of the two. I don't really miss men sexually when I'm with a woman. The reverse is not true but it's not a big deal - I've never had a problem with being tempted to fuck around on my partner and I'd probably make a great nun if they let you have porn.

I've only known one totally-out bi guy past college but based on the highly scientific case studies of a couple of oversharer FBs I do tend to believe that bisexuality in men is a lot more common than most people think.

by Anonymousreply 1503/27/2012

Female bisexual, always monogamous and my partners know I am bisexual. I have only dated lesbians and straight men myself, never dated another self-identified bisexual woman or a bisexual man.

I don't miss male/female-ness when I am with the other, just occasionally in a longterm relationship longed very occasionally for a bit of strange, as it were (though I have never cheated). It's more like R1 said about blondes and brunettes.

by Anonymousreply 1603/27/2012

Male bisexual its a living struggle i dont know for most but for me my attraction fluctuates on day i am more into guys than girls the next more into girls ,its such a turmoil and trust me bisexuality is not a myth ,i wish i could just pick a side to be attracted to but its not that simple ,so will gay people stop saying we are fake

by Anonymousreply 1703/27/2012

Well i'm bisexual and don't have any trouble.

I only take issue with peoples ignorance or the projection that everyone's experience of sexuality within the context of sexuality is the same.

....It's not.

by Anonymousreply 1803/27/2012

It's like clockwork. The same bisexual troll starts these threads about every other week. Same kind of responses from the same jackasses.

by Anonymousreply 1903/27/2012

r19 mad for no reason

by Anonymousreply 2003/27/2012

R20=Got Terri Schiavo's brain in her will.

by Anonymousreply 2103/27/2012

Aww, R21. Bad day?

by Anonymousreply 2203/27/2012

R19 what part about 100% gay do you need help with.I am 100% gay totally utterly gay gay gay.

I also believe the whole black white straight gay misses out the grey and that is why I asked the question.

Hate the thread be my guest and fuck off thanks :)

by Anonymousreply 2303/27/2012

I don't get why an 100% gay or 100% straight person would ask this question. As was already mentioned, if one likes blondes and brunettes, does dating a blond make one crave for a brunette? Monogamous people, whether bi, gay or straight are not going to be looking for sex with someone who is gender or hair color different from their current partner.

If one is a non-monogamous sort-which there is nothing wrong with that as long as you are honest with the people you are involved with-then you might fuck around since you made no commitment. That's not about sexual orientation, that's about monogamy/non-monogamy which is outside of sexual orientation.

I'm bisexual and have dated bisexual men and women. During my slutty youth I fucked around with both men and women, sometimes it was a "women period" or a "men period", sometimes it was a guy on Saturday and a girl on Sunday.

Once I settled down and had monogamous relationships, my eye wasn't wandering toward someone of a gender I wasn't with since I was in a committed relationship that excluded the possibility of sex outside of it. Duh.

by Anonymousreply 2503/27/2012

R22 don't forget about your sex offender registration!

by Anonymousreply 2603/27/2012

In my life, I've fallen in love twice and had two, long term, monogamous relationships. One with a guy, one with a woman. Surprisingly, the emotional component of the relationships, the mechanics of how they did or didn't work was very similar. Sex with women (I'm female) is so much better though so I don't even consider guys anymore. Technically I'm bisexual (and fine with that) but functionally lesbian.

OP you're laboring under the tired old premise that bisexuality is a fifty-fifty deal. Half of you wants guys, half of you wants women, you're perpetually horny and both sexes are equally appealing. Robotic sexuality. It doesn't work like that. It's a much more nuanced and interesting experience.

by Anonymousreply 2703/27/2012

OP here r27 I like your reply.

No I didn't think you were 50/50 at all,sorry.What I suppose I meant was of course when you are in a monogamous relationship you don't stray but I wondered how do you discuss your sexuality with your partner and because it is all theory,do they accept it,do you ignore it.

I get the blond brunette thing ,though knowing me if I went out with a blond I would want a brunette or visa versa. However being gay I can turn to my partner and say " he's hot " and usually he agrees,but does that raise insecurities in your partner if you are talking about another sex.

Sorry I don't want to be offend,just curious;) Thanks for the replies.

by Anonymousreply 2803/28/2012

op dont worry about your topic , its a good one , you are curious and you have every right to ask after all what is this discussion board for

by Anonymousreply 2903/28/2012

Every time a guy told me he was "bi" I always thought it meant he liked both men & boys.

by Anonymousreply 3003/28/2012

It's actually the following response that is much more problematic than R4's:

[quote] Whatever you say [R6]. If you think it's so, then it's so. Does the biology of your brain most likely prove otherwise? Probably.

The most recent study on male bisexuality - by the same researchers who determined that it "didn't exist" - this time concluded that male bisexuality did indeed exist and that those men who claimed to be bisexual were physiologically and emotionally attracted to both genders.

[quote] Hopefully, research will unlock a way for people to determine the truth behind their sexuality rather than just speculating...or lying.

Bisexuals aren't "lying" about their sexuality, jerk.

[quote] I do wish all gay people were born with horns on their foreheads, however. That way, you could never hide, and be forced to fight for gay rights.

One of the reasons the UK allows same-sex immigration is due to a court case I (bisexual) fought with a same-sex partner, alongside other couples. Many of the leading gay right and lesbian pioneers/activists have been bisexual. Robbins with his "Good to be Gay" is another one. Susie Bright. Carol Queen. Even (I know I will get flack for this one) Lady Gaga.

by Anonymousreply 3103/28/2012

How do bi males deal with being in a relatiuonship with a gay man, are they honest about being bi or do they lie and just say they are gay?

I dated a bi guy, very early, but he did cheat on me with women, not guys, he said it was because I as man couldn't fulfill his sexual needs for women.

I let him have his way and said he could hook=up with women only, as long as he played safe, he asked me to join in in MMF 3somes with him a few times, I tried but it did nothing for me.

He ended up leaving me for a girl he got pregnant, and he left her once she had his kid for a female stripper. I guess have nothing against bi guys as people, but would never consider dating one or even hooking up with one.

by Anonymousreply 3203/28/2012

Bisexuals = the ultimate narcissists and you're boring too!

by Anonymousreply 3303/28/2012

This board is really a dinosaur. Out in the real world this is increasingly a 'so what' issue - especially with the younger generation. For what it's worth, there is no negotiation, you be honest - and that is it. Monogamy or not is a seperate issue. I've had relationships with straight guys, bi guys (closeted and not), bi women, intersex... whatever. It's something about the person. I'm happy with who I'm with. If I weren't I could see myself taking up with a butch lesbian or a straight dude who likes to wear dresses (not a queen) as these are present kinks but neither near strong enough to scuttle a good thing. Just like anyone else really.

by Anonymousreply 3403/28/2012

Wow r17 - As I read your post, I thought I had written it. I'm a fluctuator (?) too. There are days where I am incredibly horny for women and other days for men. And having traveled down these roads a ton of times - there's no fooling yourself. Being with a woman and man is so different and so satisfying on different levels. Because I have such strong urges for each of them, I unfortunately can't be monogamous. I've tried, believe me. Regardless if I'm in a relationship with a guy or girl, I'm always drawn to the other randomly. It's not the best of both worlds, it's almost a curse. And, I see a future of being by myself.

by Anonymousreply 3503/28/2012

But r35, that's you and r17, that's not indicative of all bi people. Just as incredibly horny people who want to sleep with a lot of people of only one sex aren't representative of everyone who shares their sexual orientation. Neither are people who are monogamous for that matter.

Everyone is different.

by Anonymousreply 3603/28/2012

r36 - I didn't say it was indicative of all bi people. I was just astounded that r17's experience seemed so much like mine.

by Anonymousreply 3703/29/2012

If you actually read Kinsey's study, you find that it's all ranges. For example the number of exclusively gay people is 5% to 10% of the population. Bisexual people are 30% to 40%.

by Anonymousreply 3803/29/2012

Bisexual people are larger in the scale ? interesting

anyway R35 i alway feel that i am going to end up all alone cos i just cant stick to one side

by Anonymousreply 3903/30/2012

It's weird but when a bi guy leaves you for a woman it hits harder, maybe it's because homophobia is so rampant in society it has ties to that, but when a bi guy left me for a girl it felt so much worse then when it's another guy.

Most gay men feel the same, so it's just the way it is I guess, you feel like shit when a guy leaves you for a guy, but you feel like total, complete worthless shit when a bi guy leaves you for a girl.

by Anonymousreply 4003/30/2012

R31, gay and bisexuals lie all the time about their sexuality. I think the poster was hoping there was a way to determine if they are lying or not with facts, rather than speculation.

I don't see how that's problematic at all. Well, maybe to people who lie.

by Anonymousreply 4103/30/2012

Fucking dead r40 i am about to dumb a gay guy i am dating for a woman ..guy has too many issues and i cant deal with it

by Anonymousreply 4203/30/2012

I have never known a man leaving a man for a woman ever in my life. I have only experienced bisexual males leaving girlfriends for guys, or, dating girls for a very short-time, then immediately reverting back to males. And, the female pool is extremely light as compared to the male pool of the bisexual male.

But, this is my own experience.

by Anonymousreply 4303/30/2012

A friend of mine is representative of most of the bisexual men I've known. He's not closeted or in denial or self-hating. He simply enjoys sex with both men and women, but is only capable of a deep romantic/emotional relationship with a woman.

by Anonymousreply 4403/30/2012

And, does he have that R44?

by Anonymousreply 4503/30/2012

[quote]A friend of mine is representative of most of the bisexual men I've known. He's not closeted or in denial or self-hating. He simply enjoys sex with both men and women, but is only capable of a deep romantic/emotional relationship with a woman.

I hear these guys exist, but I have yet to meet one. They must be like Big Foot or the Loch Ness Monster. I hope to meet one soon one day.

by Anonymousreply 4603/30/2012

I think that is pretty typical of the vast majority bi guys r44 and girls I think bi girls prefer emotional relationship with other woman.

by Anonymousreply 4703/30/2012

R45. Yes, he has that. He's married to a woman.

by Anonymousreply 4803/30/2012

Does he fuck guys on the side, R48? Or, do you not know...

by Anonymousreply 4903/30/2012

r48 stop being foolish

by Anonymousreply 5003/30/2012

R49. He's faithful to his wife, as far as I know.

by Anonymousreply 5103/30/2012

"I'm a bi male, happy with my male partner have amazing sex and we're engaged. Take your bullshit elsewhere, you stupid gay tool."

r6, if you're a bi male and is engaged to your male partner... what does that say about you? You are GAY!

by Anonymousreply 5203/30/2012

R52 stupid troll

by Anonymousreply 5303/30/2012

I think most people are Bisexual, at least attracted to both sexes some surpress those attractions but its there. I've never had sex with a woman, but i'd be lying if I said I was never attracted to any. I just don't have a strong desire to sleep with them.

by Anonymousreply 5403/30/2012

That's cool, R51.

by Anonymousreply 5503/30/2012

"I'm a bi male, happy with my male partner have amazing sex and we're engaged. Take your bullshit elsewhere, you stupid gay tool."

Wait 'til you get bored and start checking out the new hot chick at work a little more than you should.

by Anonymousreply 5603/30/2012

Cher is now on record (at least on NNDB) as bi?

by Anonymousreply 5703/30/2012

I'm male & bi but a relationship and intense sex is something that so far has only happend with men. It's not really something I'd consider with a woman. I don't bother having sex with women anymore, as it's just fun sex when I do; nothing deeper than that. I do enjoy it, and not because it's about fucking as I don't have any interest in fucking a woman, but giving oral to a woman or creaming all over a sexy woman is totally hot, but not as intense as it is with a guy.

by Anonymousreply 5803/30/2012

I have communicated with his one guy who is bi. Now I have a question for you, his boyfriend is a bisexual married guy and his wife knows about it and thinks its great. He said he moved in with His boyfriend and his boyfriend's wife and 4 LITTLE CHILDREN isn't that wonderful! Does this mean they are having threesomes? I asked one time if he was having sex with his boyfriend’s wife before he moved in with them and he said no. He said his boyfriend told him he would never divorce his wife. However, again this question was asked before he moved in with them so I wonder if they are having threesomes of all three of them are living under the same roof? I feel very sorry for those kids because they have screwed up parents. Parents like that should not procreate!

BTW, this guy who moved in with his boyfriend and his boyfriend’s wife, is 45 years and was still struggling to make it in show business up until that point when he moved in with his boyfriend and his boyfriend's wife. I think this guy sold himself out because he isn't getting any younger and he couldn't find a guy to live with him. I stop talking to this creep because he said he thought it was great to sexually use women and dump them. He took pride in having sex with girlfriends of his friends as well. I just stop talking to the complete sleaze ball.

If someone could answer my question, I would appreciate it.

by Anonymousreply 5903/30/2012

R59 thats some messed up shit

by Anonymousreply 6003/31/2012

R60, he said he never wanted to speak to me again because I told him that I say this out of love you, and I'm not trying to put you down, but that is an unhealthy relationship. I told him many people are going to get hurt including yourself. When I said that to him he never spoke to me there after that conversation. I spoke his friends, and they acted like I had the plague. They said, they were thrilled for his "New Life". I guess they have threesomes? I don't know it’s just freaky.

R60, thank you for your comment because at least I'm not the only who sees this for what is. That guy and his friends made me think there was something wrong with me.

by Anonymousreply 6103/31/2012

I have a question i am bisexual ... do Bisexual people also live in the closest ..are we obliged to come out ??

by Anonymousreply 6204/06/2012

I have a female friend, married to a bisexual man. They meet couples online and at swinger clubs for sex, and the husband gets to have sex with other men. They are the happiest couple that I know, oddly enough. I always worry that one of the clubs will get busted, and they will be arrested, or that they will be killed by a stranger that they pick up. They have a child together, and it would be horrible if the kid was left without a parent.

by Anonymousreply 6304/06/2012

Bisexuality in guys is such a creepy and unattractive quality. There ids always, always something really "off about bi guys, really.

I wonder if bisexuality is a symptom of a personality disorder or is a personality disorder a symptom of bisexuality.

by Anonymousreply 6404/06/2012

It really is about who you love. Whoever gave the analogy of different hair colors was right! Keeping it in your pants (monogamy) is a different story. As for the story with the threesome living together; I wouldn't be that quick to judge. I am going to "imagine" the adults are acting as proper adults and caring for the children in an appropriate way. "it takes a village" is true with children & I can honestly see benefits of co-parenting IF everybody is on board and has some reasonable/realistic priorities and behavior. If you think or you have seen otherwise, you should report it for the safety of the kids. Sexuality IS fluid & it's really hard to make blanket statements. You need to figure out what works for you, what you can live with, not to mention (obviously) being safe. Personally, I am comfortable and want a one on one relationship, but I know others who don't have that need & are very happy.

by Anonymousreply 6504/06/2012

Lesbian here. I would never date a bi woman because most women who take the dick have STDs and I don't want that shit.

by Anonymousreply 6604/06/2012

I'm one of those slutty, non-monogamous bisexuals who give the rest of you a "bad" rap. The truth of it, though, is that I'm just not wired for monogamy and that would be just as true if I were gay or straight. I like a lot of variety and novelty and meeting new people and having to deal with the same person, day in, day out, makes me completely claustrophobic.

by Anonymousreply 6704/06/2012

Don't buy the whole bisexual theory. Perhaps it exist in say one one hundredth of one percent. I believe most bi's are gay an in denial.

Say what you want about me, F&F away. Won't change my mind.

by Anonymousreply 6804/06/2012

R68, you must have no imagination whatsoever.

by Anonymousreply 6904/06/2012

[quote] Lesbian here. I would never date a bi woman because most women who take the dick have STDs and I don't want that shit.

How do you know you haven't slept with bi women? And newsflash... lesbians have STDs too!

by Anonymousreply 7004/06/2012

[quote]How do you know you haven't slept with bi women? And newsflash... lesbians have STDs too!

It's next to impossible for a lesbian to contract an STD if she's never slept with a man. r66 is exaggerating, but a straight or bisexual woman is far more likely to have an STD than a lesbian.

by Anonymousreply 7104/06/2012

[quote] It's next to impossible for a lesbian to contract an STD if she's never slept with a man.

Totally disagree with this!

by Anonymousreply 7204/06/2012

Lesbian here. I would never date a bi woman because most women who take the dick have STDs and I don't want that shit.

by Anonymousreply 7304/06/2012

Gay here.

by Anonymousreply 7404/06/2012

Sorry for the double post. However I stand by what I wrote. I have many straight female friends and ALL have STDs.

by Anonymousreply 7504/06/2012

Jesus, r75.

What kind of people are you hanging out with?

by Anonymousreply 7604/06/2012

I think I'm somehow immune to STDs. I'm also not allergic to poison ivy and I had chicken pox 3 times when I was a little kid.

by Anonymousreply 7704/06/2012

I have three bisexual friends, all male.

One used his sex drive toward men to get jobs when he wss a singer (he's hung); his girlfriend knew he was bi. He never married her, but he married someone else and had two children. After she died, he took up with another woman. Now I don't think he sleeps with anyone.

The second one has been married for thirty years and whether or not his wife knew he was bi way back when, she knows now. I always suspected it but one night he was drunk and told me he had never figured out what he was. He and his wife are separated and he had a long, intense affair with another woman and was devastated when she broke it off. I don't blame her - she's young and probably wants a family and he and his wife and never going to get a divorce. I don't have any idea if he's involved with anyone now, but he definitely is attracted to both.

The third one has been with both sexes. When I first knew him he had a girlfriend. She broke it off and he had another one. Now he's with a guy and I think it's going well.

by Anonymousreply 7804/06/2012

r44 is accurate. I have only met one true bisexual man in my life.

r27 sounds like a lesbian desribing being bisexual.

a guy would go more for the guy just for getting off in casual non-relationship way, no strings and make out like it was just being adventurous to be with another man.

by Anonymousreply 7904/06/2012

R76, just normal average het girls who aren't slutty. Two have herpes, one has gential warts, three have HPV.

by Anonymousreply 8004/06/2012

Truman Capote's boyfriend Jack Dunphy left Truman for a woman. He had been married and was going through a divorce when he and Truman met. I know he was a very loyal friend to Capote up to the end, but he said the sex was never the important thing about their relationship.

by Anonymousreply 8104/06/2012

Lovely post, r80!

by Anonymousreply 8204/06/2012

R79, a bisexual male would marry a woman, and then cheat on her with men. A loveless, sexless marriage.

by Anonymousreply 8304/06/2012

r83, how is that different than a Gay man marrying a woman?

by Anonymousreply 8404/06/2012

Totally agree with r44. I'm not saying being bi is easy but I find the notion that 'it's harder to be bi than gay' to be borderline offensive. That simply is not the case. I speak as a gay man living in a part of the world where the whole gay rights movement hasn't quite caught up yet.

by Anonymousreply 8504/06/2012

Trust me its harder to be gay than bi ..imagine how difficult it is to be gay..multiply that by 3everything is not black and white with us ..and degree of attraction is not the same always ..its a real internal work being bisexual

by Anonymousreply 8604/06/2012

no such thing.....

by Anonymousreply 8704/06/2012

r87 Just like there is no such thing as being gay you fucking cunt

by Anonymousreply 8804/06/2012

you are gay just are having trouble accepting it...don't worry. You'll get there.

by Anonymousreply 8904/06/2012

They're the same R84. Both claim to be "straight" most times. Except every once in a while, the bisexual might have an agreement with his wife, as you have read on this thread, or the gay man is openly gay, but marrying the woman who's a friend for appeasement of his family, etc. I know of a couple like this currently. I don't really talk to him.

by Anonymousreply 9004/06/2012

Being able to have and enjoy sex with the same sex, does NOT make you bi. That's simply hormones at work. I don't truly think bisexuality exists for most people. Maybe 1% of the population can truly identify and bi/ambivalent. Having sex with the same sex and forming deep emotional bonds makes you GAY.

by Anonymousreply 9104/06/2012

LOL its FUNNY HOW YOU GAY PEOPLE .. are not accepting of sexuality that doesn't FALL in your frame BUT YOU get Mad When Straight People do the same ..clearly you deserve it you bigoted BI-PHOBIC idiots

by Anonymousreply 9204/07/2012

R92, few gay men have hate issues with bisexual men. More than anything else, it's a genuine disbelief that a man could love dick and vagine equally. More of a "Once you go dick, how can you possibly go any other way but gay?" At least in real life, from all the gay guys I know.

by Anonymousreply 9304/07/2012

OP, we all live in a world of temptations. That includes gay, straight, bi-sexual, transgender, etc. When people enter into a monogamous relationship, gay guys lust over many other guys while straight guys over many other girls. Yet, they all choose to honor their relationship. Curbing one's urges distinguishes us from animals (actually some animals consciously hold back their urges, too). Why do you think bi-sexuals are any different?

Also, monogamy is one kind of relationship among many many others.

by Anonymousreply 9404/07/2012

[quote] no such thing as being gay you fucking cunt

If you are bi.....woman should be afraid. Cunt? Really? sound like you really love women.

by Anonymousreply 9504/07/2012

This is R59. NEWS FLASH! Just the other day, the bisexual guy who was living under the same roof with his boyfriend and his boyfriend's wife, the whole set up blew up! I was told by someone I know that this ex bisexual friend of mine was living in the guest bedroom all of that time. Apparently, his boyfriend's wife flipped out for some reason, so, this guy packed up his things, and put everything in his car, and left. He was able to get his old apartment back again. This bisexual guy told his married bisexual boyfriend that he never wants to see him again. BTW, The arrangement lasted 6 months, and they are both mad at the wife! They have the nerve to blame the married bisexual ex boyfriend's wife! The children are victims because their father, like so many other bisexuals, seems like they have mental issues or they just can’t stay out of the closet and wind up hurting other people.

Bisexuals can't seem to lay their eggs like everyone else!

Also, those bisexuals on this thread who say their sexual temptations are like anyone else, please! I have known many bisexual people,and never again will I even go near those sleaze balls with a ten foot pole. Their temptations are on a much more broader scale than a straight guy or a gay guy because their sexual capabilities are no hold's barred. Many of them are very mixed up people who have mental issues.

by Anonymousreply 9604/07/2012

Bi men should really just say they are straight and be done with it.

They are just too fucked-up to deal with, bisexual drama is way too annoying to be involved in.

by Anonymousreply 9704/07/2012

[quote]bisexual drama

New DL meme.

by Anonymousreply 9804/07/2012

R97 who are you tell us how we should or should not live our life

by Anonymousreply 9904/07/2012

Oh please r99, bi guys are desperate for straight people's approval.

by Anonymousreply 10004/07/2012

Ah, no r100! I happen to be straight, but bi curious...very much a difference.

by Anonymousreply 10104/07/2012

I don't think in terms of sexuality, I think in terms of 'sexual'. That is, some guys are so fucking horny they'll fuck a light socket. I think 'straight' guys who hook up with other guys aren't necessarily looking for the emotional connection they might have with a woman - it's just a way to get off based on physical attraction.

by Anonymousreply 10204/07/2012

We're doing this thread again? Really?

by Anonymousreply 10304/07/2012

[quote]Being able to have and enjoy sex with the same sex, does NOT make you bi.

Yes. It does. That's all it is.

by Anonymousreply 10404/07/2012

Sex is just sex, whether it's with a male or female.

by Anonymousreply 10504/07/2012

The "straight" is used solely for acceptance only. And, shame. Mostly shame. Bisexual men who marry women fuck around in their wives left and right. I see it all the time at my gym. I am tempted to go to the wives and tell them what their husband is doing and to politely have her ask him to stop following me around the gym looking for sexual favors since me telling him doesn't work. I am there to work out. I don't know who he thinks I am, but I know a lot of gay men view themselves as prostitutes because they have no self-respect and view them selves as inferior, and he may have had sex with a few of those degenerates, it I am not one of them. So, kindly put a leash on your husband.

by Anonymousreply 10604/07/2012

Alot of sweeping generalisations there R106

Although I identify as bi I have never actually been in love with a guy. I dont think I've ever actually pursued a guy even, forget him if I ask for a fuck & he says no. Girls on the other hand, I love the chase & the sex feels more.... connected? Definately softer & sweeter. I know I probably lean closer to straight but I'll tear up a guys ass if hes offering it for free. I've never cheated in a relationship but I have never been in a relationship other than fb with a guy so....maybe I would cheat with a woman. Idk.

by Anonymousreply 10704/07/2012

R107, sweeping generalizations? You pretty much describe what everybody described as bisexual men as having intimacy issues and being mental.


Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 10804/07/2012

All I know is there seem to be a WHOLE lotta 'straight' married guys cruising for men on Craigslist.

by Anonymousreply 10904/07/2012

@R108: Why? Coz I'll fuck you but wont buy you dinner? Like I said, I dont chase guys & I dont offer any promises. If they put out, they shouldnt be surprised that I move on. Maybe thats where girls have a head over guys, they know how to ration that pussy to keep you satisfied but motivated. In the end being with a girl is more fulfilling for me personally (theres nothing wrong with the reverse if thats you) but if I need to burst a hustle-free nut, then I'm on grindr. *shrugs*

by Anonymousreply 11004/07/2012

IKR? Girls are for real relationships, guys are for carefree, careless nut bustin'.

by Anonymousreply 11104/07/2012

Why so mad R111? Who broke your fragile little heart?

This is what confuses me about gay guys. I'm not married, never have been but I'll put down "married guy" as a descriptor on hookup sites. It draws the guys out like flies. Always. They must think they'll be the one to fuck me so good that I leave my fake wife. Like its their duty to win one more for the team. Guys just need to let go of the politics, enjoy the no-strings sex and move on OR just dont fuckin respond to my ad.

by Anonymousreply 11204/08/2012


by Anonymousreply 11304/08/2012

R106, there is a difference between married closeted guys and bi men. It's hard to tell the difference since they all flaunt their straight relationships while view gay sex and shamefull secret hook-ups.

And then they fucking wonder why gay men have no time for them.

by Anonymousreply 11404/08/2012

I am at times stunned at how stupid people can be, firstly sexual orientation is not a label, it's an orientation and everyone has one.

If you are a person attracted to a member of the same sex one's sexual orientation is homosexual.

If you are a person attracted to member of the opposite sex one's sexual orientation is heterosexual

If you are a person attracted to members of the both genders one's sexual orientation is bisexual.

And if you a person who has no sexual attraction or feelings one is a-sexual.

If you are a person attracted to both sexes and those that fall outside the conventional gender binary i.e. intersex, gender-queer, mermaids, aliens, whatever you are pansexual.

You are one of those, deal with it.

by Anonymousreply 11504/08/2012

I agree with R112. Gay guys are deeply irrational. I once dated a guy who told me that he wouldnt hold me to "old fashioned notions of fidelity because I'm not a chick". Thats a license to see others right? So I saw others, mostly women. He found out and threw a tantrum that any 4 year old would be proud of when he found out. Apparently the pass was to sleep with guys not girls. What the hell kind of logic is that?

by Anonymousreply 11604/08/2012

It's all about the drama.

by Anonymousreply 11704/08/2012

R116, you can't have your cake, and eat it too.

by Anonymousreply 11804/08/2012

R118; Why cant he have his cock and eat some pussy too? His boyfriend offered an open relationship. And open means OPEN.

by Anonymousreply 11904/09/2012

R107, R110, R112, R116---some of the most interesting and informative posts I've read here in a long time re. a bi-guy's perspective.

by Anonymousreply 12004/09/2012

It's simple, very open marriage where communication is key. I'm bisexual and I do not mind having a female lover, nor do I mind having a male lover, as long as we're all std free, open to it, and cool with it. No jealousy involved.

I personally don't understand the whole gay thing, it's weird.

by Anonymousreply 12104/09/2012

Oh yeah, and no one wants to have a secret relationship, unless it's like a mercy f**c***k.

Maybe it's just me but I've always enjoyed open flatting things, then again I've mostly dated couples, that being straight couples with a bi partner, or lesbians.

I don't like restrictions on who I can or can't sleep with. Just like I don't like being told what to eat at a buffet. That's just not going to work for me.

I get to choose what I want on my plate.

by Anonymousreply 12204/09/2012

I have been bi all my adult life. The significant women in my life were aware of this fact, as I told them. Non had an issue with it including my wife of 25 years. I am not overly promiscuous, but do enjoy casual sex with men when the opportunity presents itself. Romantically I prefer women for long term partners. Sexually I am versatile with men. I am not opposed to kissing, but find women are better at it. I am not in the closet, but don't wear a sign either.

by Anonymousreply 12408/16/2012

I'm a lesbian who sees that men of all races are beautiful, however, the only men I have ever slept with were Jewish.

I'm not Jewish, but I find them to be the sexiest men on earth. Why?

I can't explain this. Other races are fitter, more athletic, etc.

But the only men I put out for are Jewish!

by Anonymousreply 12508/16/2012

I agree with r112 and r116. Many gay men are uber-competitive with straight women and deeply irrational as a result. I guess it's an ego thing.

by Anonymousreply 12608/16/2012

But, you're single, R124. Which is typical.

by Anonymousreply 12708/16/2012

Being bi-sexual is convenient. Period.

by Anonymousreply 12808/16/2012

If male homosexuality wasn't stigmatized as it is, you would find less bisexuality in males. "It" would still exist, but not as much.

by Anonymousreply 12908/16/2012

As a gay guy, I don't think my leeriness about dating a bisexual stems from an irrational sense of competitiveness with women. If a guy was equally-ish attracted to men and women, it'd only make sense that he'd probably end up choosing to be with a woman in the long-run. Not only because there are waaaay more women out there than there are gay men, but also because heterosexuality is still waaaaay more encouraged than male homosexuality. Even if he was into me enough to initially reject the path of least resistance, I'd always be expecting him to eventually start wanting what our culture tells him to want.

Given that as a gay man, I've worked hard to come to accept/value my sexual orientation in a world that still doesn't, getting rejected by a boyfriend in favor of a heterosexual relationship would be a real kick in the teeth on a few different levels.

by Anonymousreply 13008/16/2012

I feel the same way as R130.

I also feel that as a gay man, I want to be with someone who has the same orientation.

by Anonymousreply 13108/16/2012

Very few male bisexuals I've known are 50/50.

They are either primarily straight but are okay with occasionally being with men or primarily gay and are okay with occasionally being with women.

I'm okay with dating the latter, I sometimes think I might be one myself, but I agree I wouldn't want to do the former just because in all likelihood they are going to end up with a women.

by Anonymousreply 13208/16/2012

I third what R130 and R131 said. I think that's a very real fear of many gay men. This type of abandonment happens with some frequency too - it happened several years ago to me with a bisexual guy I was briefly seeing.

by Anonymousreply 13308/16/2012

im bisexual. Im 20 years old and literally told everyone that im bisexual. ive done everything with a girl and everything with a guy and i love both. i like sex with girls more, but i like relationships with guys more because i can feel sexy; where as with women, i have to always be the overpowering stud. I was confused at one point and thght i was gay, but i still liked girls. Ive figured out that I lean towards men mostly, not by a lot, but more so. I dont have problems in a relationship because i always strive to be faithful. I even it out by watching gay porn with a girl and well more gay porn with a guy lol. saying that most bisexuals are women and its their thing is completely idiotic. just because girls "think" every straight guy wants to see girl on girl doesnt mean its true. and they have proved that bisexuality is real and did tests and everything.

by Anonymousreply 13408/16/2012

R136 is trolling

by Anonymousreply 13708/16/2012

@[122] u are my god and my homie. i think u just spoke to my soul lmao

by Anonymousreply 13808/16/2012

Why do people even ask these kind of questions? UNLESS you are also going to ask, "so if you heterosexual and you marry, how do you handle your attraction to the opposite sex", it is a foolish question. The pool of potential opposite sex partners is so much larger than that of potential same sex partners. The answer is when you are in a monogameous relationship you are in a monogameous relationship. It is not as though you are addicted to the genitals of either sex, you are with the person you love/are committed to / to lazy to get rid of and start over. The process is the same. And I am so tired of people who proclaim "There are no Bi-men, only gay men who haven't come out or accepted it." Those people are absolute IDIOTS. Some of Kinsey's data collection methods have been called into question, but his underlying premise is absolutely correct. Sexuality is amazingly diverse, just like all biological variation. These "gay nazis" are almost the worst. The absolute worst are therapists who I have to interact with because of my professional ties who specialize in transgender patients.... they latch onto and confirm the patients identification with CULTURAL aspects of sexuality, aspects that are unique to this particular culture in this particular time, as though those things had some biologically determined aspect. I usually just point out that for the first 1700 years of Christianity and art, blue was the standard color for girls (it represents purity) and pink & red (red because it is a throwback to our cavemen ancestors who smeared themselves with blood from the hunt and pink is of course the diminutive of that color) for boys until it was flipped in fashion in the 1800's. They NEVER catch the analogy or implications, just go on pontificating.

by Anonymousreply 14608/31/2012

who the fuck is this gregpry troll

by Anonymousreply 14709/01/2012

Like anybody is gonna read that shit.

by Anonymousreply 14809/01/2012

I'm a hot bi guy. I prefer sex with men, but would marry a woman if the opportunity presented itself.

by Anonymousreply 14909/01/2012

r149 We decide if you are hot. Pic or you dont exist.

by Anonymousreply 15009/01/2012

I have a bisexual friend whose wife knew and was fine about it. I have another whose wife found out very late in the marriage, and he is definitely into both men and women.

by Anonymousreply 15109/01/2012

i wanna have sex with another guy thats got a huge cock can anyone help me

by Anonymousreply 15210/25/2012

I don't mind having a casual hook up with a bi guy, not often because my experience they are really bad a sex, they are really selfish sex and limited partners, but I guess that is to be expected.

However I would never dated a bi guy, it would be just a waste of my time.

by Anonymousreply 15310/25/2012

Hello, I'm a Bisexual male! I'm sorry for yelling, I need to get it out, I'm no stereotypical gay as in fluoro shirts and tight pants showing your ass But I love this boy and girl, but I'm worried of coming out And if I were in a relation ship I would tell that I'm bi

by Anonymousreply 15411/09/2012

I am a married bisexual. I have a beautiful wife that turns me on. I do not get the amount of sex i'd like, and i really seldom look at men, and feel attracted to them. However, i have been with other men sexually, and i have a taste for it. I am selective in the men i feel like being with, and i very much enjoy giving oral and being bottom. I do not think i would rather have a male relationship than a female relationship, but i enjoy the sex, and truly it is as intense as a good female sex.... and no, neither replaces the other... It is different, but i like them both... Maybe that is why older civilizations enjoyed both...

by Anonymousreply 15511/27/2012

As a gay male I wonder. If your bisexual why in the hell would you be with the same sex? A man can offer nothing that a woman can. Its almost envy to think my bf, who is bisexual, can be with a woman. Why would he choose me? I feel like telling me to go on and live his life. Makes no sense to me and I wish I was bi- I wouldn't be where I'm at now.

by Anonymousreply 15712/05/2012

Im Bi, Sex with men and women is entirely different. Only ever loved women have no desire to love either men or women anymore. I just want both for sex nothing more.

by Anonymousreply 15801/17/2013


by Anonymousreply 15902/03/2013

There might be a number of situations that cause a person to be homosexual, but for most of us it is a gender disorder. We grow up as "sissy" boys or "tomboy" girls. But the vast majority of people are heterosexual with some homosexual interest "on the side", this male bisexuals don't exist bullshit is utter foolishness. Lock 'em up in prison without women, and see how fast they become bisexual. Men and women are exactly alike in regards to bisexuality, and the idea that all women are bisexual and no men are bisexual is the invention of male pornographers. So-called "straight" men are all different in what they will or will not do, but back when it was rare for women to suck cock, unless they were paid whores, and a huge number of women would not put out at all without marriage, then it was all most universal that "straight" men were anxious for a queer to suck him off. They just wanted to be sure that nobody would ever know about it.

by Anonymousreply 16102/03/2013

bisexuals are just whores! that's all.

by Anonymousreply 16202/03/2013

Honestly? Not much more differently than someone who is straight or gay would.

I'm a bisexual female. I'm very straight-forward about the fact I am bi with my partners. If they have a problem with it they can get the fuck out.

I enter into (mostly) monogamous relationships. I say mostly because I have a tendency to propose occasional three-some to spice things up. Occasionally in these they are the opposite gender of my partner in which case I get the extra advantage of a taste of my other favorite ice cream. If they don't want it. Cool not a big deal.

Where I tend to have problems is the fact people tend to make assumptions. The two most common ones are:

1) You are really a heterosexual female who is posing as bisexual to attract males. Wrong! If I had to choose a lovelier gender the ladies would win.

2) You are actually a lesbian woman who is in denial. Wrong. Though ladies are prettier I like the dick too. That's not changing. Ever.

The fact is people expect you to be one or the other. I'm not, never have been and never will be one or the other. That's like telling me that I can only like cherry-vanilla ice cream or mint chocolate chip ice cream. I can choose to have only one, that's not the issue. The issue I have is just because I choose to have only one doesn't mean I will stop liking the other. Both are tasty.

by Anonymousreply 16304/17/2013

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by Anonymousreply 16404/17/2013

I'm a bi-male. I hate being bi. I wish I could be gay but I don't feel romantic feelings with/for men. I'm sexually attracted to men. I have sex with men.

My first sexual experiences were when i was a boy, with males. it formed my sexual desires. i don't know what it's like to NOT be sexually drawn to men. I feel like a straight male with a "gay fetish". As it is for someone who's into bondage or feet, but instead I like gay sex.

Also, for me, sex with men isn't romantic. It's primal and animalistic. There's no "feelings" or "emotion". Just desire. And frankly, men love to have sex, and that turns me on.

But I've only fallen in love with women. It sucks. I feel like i'm going crazy sometimes.

by Anonymousreply 16504/17/2013

R165 Do you like having sex with women too?

by Anonymousreply 16604/17/2013

[R166] Yes I do. But it's different. It's very fulfilling(girl) vs. gratifying(dude).

Think about a guy you've dated, long term, and how great the connection was during intimacy vs. some 'hook up' with some random dude that led to nothing deep and meaningful. THAT is the difference. Sex is usually better when there is a connection

Since I cant feel 'deep and meaningful' with a guy, I need women to fill that void in my soul.

But many times, I've been naked with a woman, and thought "man, i wish there was a dude in bed with us-- that would be amazing!" (I know, it's fucked up. it makes no sense.)

Physiologically, vagina feels better. But ass is tighter. I've never been bare with a man so I wouldn't know what the full effect is. Pussy feels amazing on my cock because I've only been bare with women.

by Anonymousreply 16704/19/2013
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