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There's a guy at work that I like

He's VERY hot. All the ladies love him (and I suspect I'm not the only guy who thinks he's cute). He's the "golden boy" at work--he's won Associate of the Month and has been written about in the quarterly publication. He's married, and has given no kind of hint that he's even remotely gay (longish, styled hair aside). Should I drop a subtle hint or just admire from afar?

by Anonymousreply 6511/18/2012

[quote] he's won Associate of the Month...

Doesn't Wal Mart have issues with the gays? Oh, and get your ass back to work OP. Another rotund fatty dropped her milkshake on aisle 7.

by Anonymousreply 102/24/2012

Who does he look like who's famous?

by Anonymousreply 202/24/2012

He's married, and has given no kind of hint that he's even remotely gay ...

...You will be looking at a harassment charge and golden boy will get a promotion and maybe YOUR job...

... and never look back at you.

by Anonymousreply 302/24/2012

R2, think Scott Bakula with a dash of Ted Danson.

by Anonymousreply 402/24/2012

OP, you realize you are just a frau, don't you?

by Anonymousreply 502/24/2012

I'm far from it, R5. Your post made me LOL, though.

by Anonymousreply 602/24/2012

Don't shit where you eat, OP.

by Anonymousreply 702/24/2012

OP go to a gar bar and avoid the straight men at work.

by Anonymousreply 802/24/2012

Gar bar? LOL.

by Anonymousreply 902/24/2012

ok OP so he is old and so are you. this would have been cute if you were 20 something. please see r7

by Anonymousreply 1002/24/2012

Thanx for the advice, R10. He's early forties-ish, and I'm mid-thirties.

by Anonymousreply 1102/24/2012


by Anonymousreply 1206/09/2012

Don't do that with people at work, dumbass.

by Anonymousreply 1306/09/2012

My mom is a frau.

by Anonymousreply 1406/09/2012

[quote]He's married, and has given no kind of hint that he's even remotely gay

So, what part of that sentence -- which you wrote, OP -- did you not understand?

If he's married and has given no hint that he is even remotely gay then you should find a new love to pine over -- and preferably not someone else's husband again.

If you were thinking with your head instead of your dick, you would have been able to figure this out on your own.

by Anonymousreply 1506/09/2012

Fuck you very much, R15.

by Anonymousreply 1606/09/2012

Expose your hole. Be subtle, such as bending over to retrieve something from a filing drawer and having your tight slacks tear at the center seam exposing your secret starfish wish. "Oopsie" is the magic word.

by Anonymousreply 1706/09/2012

Stop being a creep.

by Anonymousreply 1806/09/2012

If he's early 40s, how is he a golden boy? Isn't he in the middle of his career?

by Anonymousreply 1906/09/2012

40;s with long hair? Sounds like a douche.

by Anonymousreply 2006/09/2012

[post by racist shit-stain # 2 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 2106/09/2012

Invite him out for a drink. Beer with shots! You buy. You drink that fake beer while he gets drunk.

You'll have your answer in about a hour.

by Anonymousreply 2206/09/2012

OP, must you really ask?

Yes. go for it. Begin by leaving coy little notes for him. Offer to do some of his tasks for him. After about 10 days or so, start giving him small gifts, such as cupcakes. Make sure to tell him that you baked them yourself, just for him.

Within six months, he'll have left his wife and the two of you will be running a B&B together.

Honest, it'll work.

by Anonymousreply 2306/09/2012

In his forties, with longish hair? Sounds hillbillie.

by Anonymousreply 2406/09/2012

I'm glad Rumpy got another job. I was worried...

Dear, if he's giving you any attention you are just feeding his ego...

i was attracted to a 'golden boy' at work until I started working more closly with him and realized what a phony he was and a disguting ass kisser to the bad people we call management,,,

by Anonymousreply 2506/09/2012


by Anonymousreply 2606/09/2012

Can you fill the coffee machine and throw out the old filters, OP? Thanks.

by Anonymousreply 2706/09/2012

Obviously, OP's longing is not to be acted upon in any way; even if he's closeted, he'd likely freak out.

But the pleasures of unrequited love are, at least for me, one of the great joys of gay life.

by Anonymousreply 2806/09/2012

Haven't seen him in a while, but every now and again I'll be walking down the hall and he'll suddenly come from around the corner and walk in my direction.

He always says "Hey buddy!"

by Anonymousreply 2906/09/2012

[post by racist shit-stain # 2 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 3006/09/2012

[quote]That is a clear sign that he wants to cum in your throat if I ever saw one.

THAT made me hot

by Anonymousreply 3106/09/2012

R17 = plagiarized "Dear Abby" from March of '71

by Anonymousreply 3206/09/2012

Either man up and talk to him or move on - this staring at him from afar bullshit works if you're in junior high, and that's it.

by Anonymousreply 3306/09/2012

True, R33

by Anonymousreply 3406/09/2012

[post by racist shit-stain # 2 removed.]

by Anonymousreply 3506/09/2012

love you r23

by Anonymousreply 3606/09/2012

OP, did you recently send him a text message about his commissions coming in?

by Anonymousreply 3706/09/2012

Are you the texter who just got his feelings hurt OP?

by Anonymousreply 3806/09/2012

Nope, the texter's not me.

by Anonymousreply 3906/09/2012

Hey buddy is his signal/codeword for you. Next time he goes to the restroom, follow him in, get in the stall next to you, write on a piece of paper, "It's me, buddy.", slip it under the stall and then drop your drawers leaving the door unlocked. He will be there in a heartbeat and bliss will be yours.

by Anonymousreply 4006/09/2012

He says "hey buddy" because it helps him fe he's the real man helping the sissy to be one of the guys.

by Anonymousreply 4106/09/2012

I like R40's idea.

R41, I'm hardly a sissy, LOL.

by Anonymousreply 4206/09/2012

Next time he says "hey buddy" you say: it's Miss buddy, ok? and snap your fingers.

by Anonymousreply 4306/09/2012

I did something weird about three months ago after I'd seen that he'd gone into the restroom, but I'm not sure if I should share it.

by Anonymousreply 4406/09/2012

OP, I am confident you do something weird every day. You shouldn't share any of it. Freak.

by Anonymousreply 4506/09/2012

R45, you don't know me, so your little judgement call is more stupid than you obviously are. Oh, and fuck you.

by Anonymousreply 4606/09/2012

I love you bitches, you can always make me laugh even if I'm having a lousy day.

by Anonymousreply 4706/09/2012

R46, you are boring and the trivial details of your stalking life are dull. Please die.

by Anonymousreply 4806/09/2012

OP, just put him in the spank bank and accept the fact that sometimes good-looking straight guys will like you in a non-sexual way.

Meanwhile, please do share every sordid detail about your activities here.

by Anonymousreply 4906/09/2012

That's funny, R48. You came into the thread and read it, so if you find it boring, shame on you. Oh, and won't you please just throw a noose over a ceiling beam, loop it around your neck, stand on a chair and jump off, doing the entire WORLD (or at least Backwoods, Bumfuck USA) a really big favor.

by Anonymousreply 5006/09/2012

It involves hair, R49. LOL!

by Anonymousreply 5106/09/2012

Hey, SELF-HATE much, OP? THe guy is married. Right there you should stop. You sound like you are mentally not right. And you are obviously MORALLY not right. The "rules" are no different for gay people. You don't go after someone else's husband. You don't shit where you eat. You don't hook up with work people. Why don't you seek available people? Oh YEAH, for a thousand issues that you have never addressed or resolved.

Gay men who lust after straight men (to the degreee that they actually pursue them) are toxic, self-hating fools.

by Anonymousreply 5206/09/2012

R50, don't take it out on me because you threw yourself at some coworker who barely gave you a "buddy." I hear caftans come in lovely colors these days - go shopping!

by Anonymousreply 5306/09/2012

[r52]really needs to untuck. Also,his wig is too tight.

by Anonymousreply 5406/09/2012

Oh R52, just calm the hell down you bloviating, posturing maroon. I never said I WOULD go after him, nor have I said that I DID. It's just more fantasy than anything. Anyway, who are you to talk? I'm sure you live in a great big ol' glass house.

You sound really repressed yourself. Or, in the very least, constipated.

by Anonymousreply 5506/09/2012

R53, where did I ever say I threw myself at him? We say "Hi" to each other. He's cute. I have fantasies. That's it. Some of you people need to get over yourselves!

by Anonymousreply 5606/09/2012

Yes indeed, R54! That bitch gives new meaning to the term "tightly-wound".

by Anonymousreply 5706/09/2012

How come your posts in February when you wrote this doesn't match trolldar in June. Are you the OP imposter?

by Anonymousreply 5806/09/2012

LMAO, R1! I worked at a Wal-Mart subsidiary as a summer job during college, and I actually won Associate of the Month. It might be kind of stupid, but being referred to as an associate was actually kind of an ego-stroke for an 18 year old.

Anyway, OP...give the damn thing a rest. Do you think famous actors or actresses want to hear from every fan who thinks they're attractive? If somebody attend a wedding and the bride to be is pretty, should they admit what they'd do to her in the bedroom? Somethings are best enjoyed in the privacy of your own mind.

by Anonymousreply 5906/09/2012

Not sure, R58. I've heard that Trolldar can act up at times. But I am the OP. Just curious--what made you hit Trolldar on me?

by Anonymousreply 6006/09/2012

Trolldar seems to be based on IP address. Many people can share an IP address. And your IP address can change every so often (as often as ever few days or weeks) unless you pay extra for a "static" IP address.

So trolldar is not very accurate, especially when going back in time more than a day or two.

by Anonymousreply 6106/09/2012

Just saw him again the other day. It was great!

by Anonymousreply 6207/15/2012

It is easy to obsess over someone from afar and to make them the "man of your dreams." However, once you get to know him the dream is killed, therefore you come up with any reason to avoid the problem of professing such feelings. He isn't available which makes a perfect recipe for the fantasy. Just admit that you don't want to actually date or fuck him, but prefer to fantasize over him. You have a tame version of erotomania.

by Anonymousreply 6307/15/2012

Would you be OK with losing your job if things didn't work out the way you wanted? In the meantime, be very smart. Not feeling like going into work? Fantasize you'll run into him. Just got chewed out by the office jerk, and feel like quitting? You can't, because then your mind won't be as "stimulated."

by Anonymousreply 6407/15/2012


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