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Serious rimming question

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now and he has been rimming me for as long as we have been together. I love to get rimmed while he has always said that he just liked to do it but, didn't want it done to him. Which was perfect because the thought of me rimming someone just makes want to vomit.

However, now he has started asking me to rim him too at least "one time" as he puts it. I have refused but, he keeps bringing it up and now is saying that he is not going to do it to me anymore until I do to him. I am not going to be forced into doing something that I'm not into. What should I do? I'm beginning to think I'm going to have to end things.

by Anonymousreply 9012/16/2011

You're going to end it because you don't want to eat you boyfriend's ass yet you let him rim you and you love it.

Get the fuck over it. Its just his ass.

by Anonymousreply 112/08/2011

Broken trust... you need to consider couples counseling.

by Anonymousreply 212/08/2011

Shower and wash his manhole for him. Get it nice and clean, then tease him a little with your tongue. Just sort of ease into it. At least he knows you're trying.

by Anonymousreply 312/08/2011

Op, gurl...you dont deserve a boyfriend that has rimmed you for three years. Point. Blank. Period.

by Anonymousreply 412/08/2011

OP...Yeah, I can't do it either. But that's no reason to break up especially if you have an otherwise satisfying sex life and relationship.

I hate to get fucked--and never let my boyfriend fuck me. He asked a couple of times. I didn't want to do it. He didn't break up with me over it. He loved me. We enjoyed each other in many other ways.

by Anonymousreply 512/08/2011

It sounds like he just wants to try it. So either let me see what it feels like or just stop entirely. Sounds like a really stupid reason to end things.

I think rimming is nuts, it's just not worth the risks.

by Anonymousreply 612/08/2011

"What should I do? I'm beginning to think I'm going to have to end things." End things? Pun intended?

by Anonymousreply 712/08/2011

Tit for tat. Tit for tat.

by Anonymousreply 812/08/2011

End it. You sound like a couple of children playing games with one another. You're not ready for a serious relationship.

by Anonymousreply 912/08/2011

LICK....HIS....SHITTER!!!!

by Anonymousreply 1012/08/2011

I bet you could find someone to bring home and have a 3 way with who would love to rim him. It might really be hot to see him getting turned on my someone else

by Anonymousreply 1112/08/2011

Same problem with my boyfriend...he won't even suck my dick but loves having his sucked. I've asked him to do me just once, but he says it's nasty (But he'll put HIS ass up in the air for me). The only consolation is that we are both in love with each other and have been for the nearly 2 years we have been together. I love cuddling with him and he loves cuddling with me. I guess, I can't have it all.

by Anonymousreply 1212/08/2011

Get.Up.in.there!

by Anonymousreply 1312/08/2011

dental dam+lube=problem solved

by Anonymousreply 1412/08/2011

OP, I would at least try it. If he's willing to do that can't you at give it a shot? R3 gives good advice.

by Anonymousreply 1512/08/2011

OP, TRUST: Let him take a nasty runny shit in your mouth while he's got diarrhea. Relish the mud! Rejoice in his shit! Go crap crazy!

I promise, after being a human toilet once, rimming won't be so bad.

by Anonymousreply 1612/08/2011

Oh, just hire somebody ferpetessakes.

by Anonymousreply 1712/08/2011

It's threads like these that make me so happy to be a straight woman. I love you guys but I will never understand your obsession with eating shit.

by Anonymousreply 1812/08/2011

The bemusement is shared, R18. We'll never understand straight men's enthusiasm for lapping up your menstrual fluids.

by Anonymousreply 1912/09/2011

R18, don't fool yourself. Plenty of straight people rim.

by Anonymousreply 2012/09/2011

r18, really? You REALLY want to go there? Plenty of straight people eat ass, too. This is not exclusively a gay thing. What I cannot understand is how anyone could find anything sexually appealing about a vagina. Bleeding, slimy, fishy gash wound that never heals. But I would not, you know, POST THAT on a straight women's website.

by Anonymousreply 2112/09/2011

#First world problems.

by Anonymousreply 2212/09/2011

I bet R18 isn't really a straight woman.

by Anonymousreply 2312/09/2011

I bet R18 loves feasting on the turtle's head and gets wet wondering what brown can do for her today.

by Anonymousreply 2412/09/2011

Quid Pro Quo, OP.

Just make sure he hasn't eaten any fava beans recently.

by Anonymousreply 2512/09/2011

R18 needs to go the fuck away

by Anonymousreply 2612/09/2011

r14 beat me to it. Oral dam, problem solved. Rim away.

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by Anonymousreply 2712/09/2011

saranwrap

by Anonymousreply 2812/09/2011

If you do not then do not be surprised if he finds someone else who will.

I am just saying.....

by Anonymousreply 2912/09/2011

toss that salad

by Anonymousreply 3012/09/2011

I honesty don't think "plenty" of straight people are into rimming. Of course in porn films everybody, gay or straight, does it. But I don't think the average staight person has no problem with licking assholes.

It's not an exclusively gay thing, but I think gay men are more into it than lesbians and straights.

I would give this advice to the OP. Get the boyfriend to take an enema and wash the whole area really well. If he's really hairy down there, he ought to trim or even get the area waxed. Try to make the experience as unoffensive as possible and take the plunge. There's no harm in giving it a try.

by Anonymousreply 3112/09/2011

OP, you are a selfish sack of dog mess. That's all I have to say. I hope you die alone.

by Anonymousreply 3212/09/2011

I did it a few times and got giardiasis, so ironically called Beaver Fever.

by Anonymousreply 3312/09/2011

Surely OP even if you really don't want to do it then you can cope with him no longer rimming you. I mean it can't be that big a part or surely you'd reciprocate. Plus throwing in the towel on a 3 year relationship over such a tiny issue that affects only the sexual part of your relationship just seems stupid.

by Anonymousreply 3412/09/2011

Do it once. If you love it, great. If you vomit all over his butt, he'll know that you tried and will love you for it; after which you can take the high road and say, "Honey, I really tried," or you can say "You bastard, you coerced me into doing something I didn't want to do and it's over." It's your choice.

I personally love to rim, but if you don't, you shouldn't be coerced into doing it. On the other hand, your boyfriend should be free to ask for what he wants as well.

If you are sexually incompatible - I once broke up with someone because I always had to be on top - then you are sexually incompatible and that's that.

But, I have to say, I'm always surprised to hear about the aversion to licking a little asshole on DL. You take a shower. You clean up, you give your boyfriend incredible pleasure and it's wonderful. Which is not to suggest that you shouldn't feel anything other than what you do or don't feel about it, but really what is the big fucking deal?

by Anonymousreply 3512/09/2011

[quote] what is the big fucking deal?

Hello

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by Anonymousreply 3612/09/2011

Is is the concept of rimming or rimming him that's the issue?

Not all holes are created equally.

I happen to have a cute little hole that guys love to rim, but some people I've let rim me I wouldn't go near with my tongue. But some guys who I don't particularly care about have had such nice holes that I couldn't resist.

by Anonymousreply 3712/09/2011

I've heard several people suggest using plastic wrap (SaranWrap, whatever) to cover the "recipient's" asshole while you rim him. Does that work?

by Anonymousreply 3812/09/2011

Just do it, get a dental dam if you want like someone suggested.

A huge part of a making a relationship work is having a healthy sex life with good communication. This is something your partner wants, if you care about him and the relationship then you'll do it.

The idea of rimming seemed gross to me before I ever did it. But you know you are doing it to make your boyfriend happy, who knows, maybe you will find you even enjoy it. You only live once, be adventurous.

by Anonymousreply 3912/09/2011

[quote]There's no harm in giving it a try.

Not true. Make sure you have hep shots beforehand. No matter how clean you think someone's ass is, it's harboring microbes. You can't see or smell them.

Make sure you don't slurp and swallow. Don't swallow your saliva at all. Let it just drip off your face. Ingesting it just increases the chances you'll pick up a bug.

A good friend spent several weeks in a hospital after a rimming a really hot guy who seemed clean. Cost thousands in lost income. If you get hepatitis you got it forever, and you can spread it, even if you have no symptoms.

Not worth it at all.

by Anonymousreply 4012/09/2011

Yes, of course there are "microbes" on asses.

There are also "microbes" on people's mouths, hands, genitals, and cellphones. And our mattresses are metropoli of dustmite feces.

It's called life.

by Anonymousreply 4112/09/2011

There are different microbes in the ass, idiot. When they get into your mouth they make you sick, perhaps incurably sick.

by Anonymousreply 4212/09/2011

r41, Do you put other people's mouths, hands, genitals, and cellphones in your mouth? Do you lick and suck their mattresses?

Maybe it's called 'your life' but sensible rational people don't ingest things are are likely to be teeming with microbes.

Now go lick some subway cars. Live life!

by Anonymousreply 4312/09/2011

R41 has shit for brains.

by Anonymousreply 4412/09/2011

R43, most gay guys i know kiss and suck cock so yes they put other people's mouths and genitals in their mouth.

If the OP thinks rimming will make him vomit, why does he love it when the boyfriend does it to him? What's so special about his ass? I don't blame the boyfriend for withholding it.

by Anonymousreply 4512/09/2011

That is what makes this post ridiculous.

You can't dare get upset about him not rimming you when you refuse to rim back.

by Anonymousreply 4612/09/2011

r45, the point is it's a useless distraction to harp on the word 'microbe' by dismissively saying they're everywhere so forget about it.

Microbes in someone's ass can be deadly when ingested.

by Anonymousreply 4712/09/2011

Oh for Christs sake, gargle afterword or use a dental rinse. don't you bitches practice good hygeine anyway after sex???

by Anonymousreply 4812/09/2011

None of my 7 straight sisters-in-law eat ass.

by Anonymousreply 4912/09/2011

Tell him to go on CL and find some gross pig who wants to eat his ass. Then dump him. Since he has been eating your ass he is a swimming bacteria pit.

by Anonymousreply 5012/09/2011

Ive rimmed for years. I love guys holes. Never caught any thing. Knock wood. But i dont every guy. Only really hot ones. Think you should try it. You might like it. Just have him shower first.

by Anonymousreply 5112/09/2011

r43, yes, of course, I put "other people's" mouths and hands in my mouth when I'm making love to them, if by "other people" you mean my partner - don't you make out with yours?

by Anonymousreply 5212/09/2011

and, of course I put my partner's genitals in my mouth also. Don't you put your partner's genitals in yours?

by Anonymousreply 5312/09/2011

[quote]None of my 7 straight sisters-in-law eat ass.

What the hell do you talk about with family at the holidays?

by Anonymousreply 5412/09/2011

This question is not about rimming.

by Anonymousreply 5512/09/2011

I never even HEARD of rimming until I came to DL -- and I've done SM "in the scene."

So don't even try to say "everybody does it."

OTOH, if you don't even want to give it a try after all he's done to you, you're a selfish prick. Saran Wrap really does work wonders.

by Anonymousreply 5612/09/2011

r41, you can't really be that stupid.

Stop confusing the issues.

Yes, microbes are everywhere. Microbes in a human rectum are much more deadly than most. Putting your tongue/mouth up someone's asshole is obviously a different level of risk. It's not the same as exposing yourself to microbes you get from kissing or oral sex.

by Anonymousreply 5712/09/2011

How about "Press-n-Seal" plastic wrap, OP? I love that stuff (for wrapping food, that is). It's got some sort of adhesive on it so it stays where you put it. You could slap it on his ass and it wouldn't move around while you did the dirty deed. It's a little thicker than the other stuff too, so it would probably protect better against all those horrific "microbes."

by Anonymousreply 5812/09/2011

r57, rimming doesn't necessarily involve putting your tongue up inside the rectum. That's why it's commonly called "rim"ming.

by Anonymousreply 5912/09/2011

Dearest fan,

In the first place, press and seal his anus with a swatch of itchy sackcloth.

Secondly, making the rimming as unpleasant as possible. Thrust your tongue repeatedly into his tensed sphincter. Then, continually spit in his dilated rectum and poke his taint with sharpened fingernails.

Lastly, make gagging noises and pull a trash can near so you can threaten to vomit every 2-3 minutes.

by Anonymousreply 6012/09/2011

I love being rimmed, but I hate to do it.

This is why I now turn it down when a guy offers to do it - simply because I will not reciprocate. I tell them that.

After that, if the other guy wants to rim me, he can, knowing full well that I will not be rimming him.

by Anonymousreply 6112/09/2011

Dear OP,

Let him cheat on you with a fuckbuddy who will rim him.

by Anonymousreply 6212/09/2011

Licking someone's asshole is disgusting!

by Anonymousreply 6312/09/2011

Use industrial bleach!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 6412/09/2011

I stand by what I said. Straight couples are not into eating shit.

by Anonymousreply 6512/09/2011

2 words: Doodie Love

by Anonymousreply 6612/09/2011

Who's into eating shit? Nobody I know, gay or straight.

by Anonymousreply 6712/09/2011

What a bunch of mincing little prisspots. I hope you uptight virginal twats all die alone.

by Anonymousreply 6812/09/2011

So, for those of you planning to use saran wrap as a dental dam, make sure to not use the microwaveable type - because it is porous and would allow the microbes to get through, defeating the purpose.

And to the person who says plenty of straights do it.. well, I'm sure there must be some. But I, a woman, have had sex (including some kinky, bizarre sex) with about 40 men and have only been rimmed by 2 that I remember. I think I did it just once or twice for a bf as a teenager, long long ago.

I probably would try it again in the right circumstances, but after all I've read here, I googled rimming risks and am now disinclined!

by Anonymousreply 6912/09/2011

There's no way in hell I'd date someone who wouldn't rim me or let me rim him.

God, you people are so boring. You probably like watching solo jack-off porn, too.

by Anonymousreply 7012/10/2011

Well OP did you do it or not?

by Anonymousreply 7112/10/2011

Rimming is the reason that all gay men are now encouraged to get hep vaccines. That alone should tell you something.

r70 you're so modern and edgy. I'm so upset you would never date someone who prioritizes health and well being over risky sexual activities.

by Anonymousreply 7212/10/2011

Some guy tried to kiss me after rimming me. I told him to GTFO!

by Anonymousreply 7312/10/2011

[quote] Licking someone's asshole is disgusting!

Well, I think you're disgusting for kissing others on the mouth! Don't you know you can transmit mononucleosis by that wretched sexual perversion! It sickens me to think of the hoards who engaged in all the unclean sexual practices of pressing parts of their bodies against random parts of others and passing germs back and forth willy-nilly.

by Anonymousreply 7412/10/2011

The thing about rimming is, once you're past the smell you've got it licked.

by Anonymousreply 7512/10/2011

r74 are you seriously comparing kissing someone on the mouth to liking their shithole?

by Anonymousreply 7612/10/2011

r76, it's all a matter of degree. Mouths harbor many pathogens, and you must lower your standards enough to overlook that if you kiss someone. And trust that person to be healthy if you share their spit. Sexual encounters always involve some degree of risk and compromise. Rimming may not be your cup of tea, but don't call others sick just because they like things that you do not. There are always others who will condemn whatever you do as sick. My point was that one should be tolerant of others if you expect others to be tolerant of you.

by Anonymousreply 7712/10/2011

At least most gay guys keep themselves super clean. A lot of straight guys and lesbians just don't have very good hygiene habits.

by Anonymousreply 7812/11/2011

[quote]I love being rimmed, but I hate to do it. This is why I now turn it down when a guy offers to do it - simply because I will not reciprocate. I tell them that.

I would think letting a guy rim you and then kiss you full-on on the mouth immediately afterwards would carry almost the same risk as you having just rimmed him. Yes?

by Anonymousreply 7912/11/2011

r77 you are woefully misguided about what pathogens are likely to be found in your mouth vs rectum/colon.

Please talk to a doctor or someone with medical training. It's not a question of tolerance or calling people sick who engage in certain practices. It's a question of being informed about medical risks.

by Anonymousreply 8012/11/2011

Rimming is a talent,

Like everything else.

I do it exceptionally well.

I do it so it feels real.

I guess you could say I've a call.

by Anonymousreply 8112/11/2011

r80, let us know when you get TB from kissing.

by Anonymousreply 8212/11/2011

Or a close encounter with a leper.

by Anonymousreply 8312/11/2011

I RIMMED JOHN WAYNE GACY!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 8412/15/2011

Oh boy, our semiannual rimming thread!! Well OP you should check back on this regularly as you don't want to miss the upcoming discussion on giardia.

by Anonymousreply 8512/15/2011

R18 is either a straight cunt or a gay man pretending to be same.

by Anonymousreply 8612/15/2011

"What a bunch of mincing little prisspots. I hope you uptight virginal twats all die alone."

Oh shut up, you douchebag. You must be the same yammering idiot who goes on every sex thread and screams "mincing prisspots!" whenever anyone expresses dislike for a particular type of sexual behavior.

If you adore the taste and smell of shit, well, that's fine and dandy. But not all people share your love of scat.

by Anonymousreply 8712/16/2011

There is no rimming in my household since a disgusting episode that resulted in santorum all over the bedsheets.

by Anonymousreply 8812/16/2011
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