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How Can I Convince Guys To Wear A Condom For Oral Sex?

I mean I don't want to get an STI from sucking. But guys don't want to wear a condom.

How do I convince them otherwise?

by Anonymousreply 10103/05/2015

Um, how about don't put a penis in your mouth until he uses one?

by Anonymousreply 110/24/2011

You can't.

by Anonymousreply 210/24/2011

Same as R2. If you like sucking on plastic, go buy yourself a dildo.

by Anonymousreply 310/24/2011

You know how many STI you can get from unprotected oral? Why don't more men want to wear a condom for their partner's sake.

by Anonymousreply 410/24/2011

Suck it, like a good boy.

by Anonymousreply 510/24/2011

I've never sucked a cock because I'm terrified of getting an STD. I always have canker sores...have had them since I was a I will not take a chance.

by Anonymousreply 610/24/2011

You just have to keep looking until you find a guy who doesn't mind. It just takes longer to find one.

by Anonymousreply 710/24/2011

[quote] Suck it, like a good boy.

I don't want to get an STI

by Anonymousreply 810/24/2011

Have sucked hundreds of cock - never once got an STD from them. (Only one I've gotten was from a supposedly monogamous bf, and he was doing all the sucking. And I mean, ALL the sucking in town.)

Condoms for oral are a dealbreaker. No interest in sucking on plastic. And it feels like nothing for the suckee. Find a boyfriend instead.

by Anonymousreply 910/24/2011

OP, dear, you need to put an Extremely Sensitive Trojan on his cock to minimize the taste of plastique.

by Anonymousreply 1010/24/2011

Ask if he would mind you dousing him with Listerine... shit that stings! Or better yet, why don't you rinse with Listerine afterwards. You know. Discreetly excuse yourself, go rinse and repeat. Obviously if you or your partner is sufferung from sores or lesions in the mouth, or if the sucker has a sore throat or a cold, it is inadivsable to do oral without a condom, but if everything is normal, then just disinfect afterwards.

by Anonymousreply 1110/24/2011

Have you ever received a blowjob with a condom on? Can't feel a thing. Just skip it if it bugs you that much.

by Anonymousreply 1210/24/2011

Old whore's trick. You put a super-slim in your mouth (after checking the guy's cock and genital area for hygiene and visible evidence of trouble) and surreptitiously roll it over his glans and top of his shaft with your mouth and lips when he's proceeding to receiver's ecstasy.

OP, if you're saying you don't want oral-genital contact at all without a condom, sorry. If you're trying to avoid semen, this will help.

Yes, HPV and Herpes are possible - but herpes is possible from kissing him on the lips and licking his face, too.

by Anonymousreply 1310/24/2011

What if you roll the condom down so that only the head is covered? This way he'll still feel your warm wet mouth on his shaft. This way you won't get any precum in your mouth, and he can pull out before he shoots.

by Anonymousreply 1410/24/2011

r13, those are 2 different herpes viruses you're talking about.

HSV1 = oral herpes, spread by kissing, you get cold sores. By age 50 about 75-80% of adults have antibodies

HSV2 = genital herpes, you get sores on your genitals/perineum/ass. Estimates are about 25% of us carry this one.

HSV2 can be more serious for females.

You can have and spread the virus without ever having an outbreak; some people have no symptoms at all.

by Anonymousreply 1510/24/2011

"What if you roll the condom down so that only the head is covered?"

I'd think one would be likely to suck the condom off and choke on it. And it won't help against many of the STDs OP is worried about, anyway.

by Anonymousreply 1610/24/2011

R6, you already have herpes, at least type 1. Congrats! You're free. Stop living in fear.

R16, while those are the typical forms of each, they can both appear pretty much anywhere on the body. I've seen simplex-2 on elbows, stomachs, in mouths and down throats... you get it where you got it. If someone comes on your eye, you won't get herpes on your dick. And most people get simplex-1 as a baby, when lots of people kiss you all the time. Most people reading this already have simplex-1, and they very well might have simplex-2, as its symptoms are often less frequent or severe than expected, and sometimes there are no symptoms at all.

by Anonymousreply 1710/24/2011

Slip a photo of a penis with a chancre sore and a condom through the glory hole. If anything comes back to your side, hold your nose, close your eyes, open wide,and think of England.

by Anonymousreply 1810/24/2011

[quote] I always have canker sores...have had them since I was a I will not take a chance.

Why were you such a whore as a kid but won't take a chance now?

by Anonymousreply 1910/24/2011

suck on his balls and let him come all over your face ~

by Anonymousreply 2010/24/2011

"No glove, no love."

by Anonymousreply 2110/24/2011

thank god OP doesn't suck cock.... herpes (cold sores) can be given by YOU to some poor unsuspecting receiver of your sloppy sucking. you need to be covered in plastic, not the man's cock.

by Anonymousreply 2210/24/2011

The only safe sex is to sit on opposite sides of the room and jack off looking at each other or watching porn on TV. Then clean up with paper towels and put them in sealed gallon size GLAD bags. Take them to a medical facility for disposal.

by Anonymousreply 2310/24/2011

Here, Shirly:

by Anonymousreply 2410/24/2011

OP, just charge him an extra $50.

by Anonymousreply 2510/24/2011


by Anonymousreply 2610/24/2011

Op, the real answer is to develop a written questionnaire, the type you fill out when you visit a new doctor for the first time. Have the guy fill out past ailments, STD's, HIV status, etc. Then have a special section for the guy to fill out what he may be harboring today. Put it on a clip board and simply ask him to fill it out in the bar or wherever you meet him. Then review his answers before deciding if you can risk sucking his cock, since the idea of putting a condom on it just won't work. What would be a cute motiff to continue the doctor theme would be for you to take him back to your place if he passes the questionnaire. Then make him sit in a chair in the living room and wait until he is called to your bedroom by a female friend of yours who agrees to put on a nurses uniform.

I am sure the average guy would be very excited to go through all this for you....wait! You did say you are exceptionally handsome, young, wealthy and incredibly well built, right>?

by Anonymousreply 2710/24/2011

I commend you, OP, for being concerned for your health. You just do what feels right for you and don't listen to all the jaded STD-riddled whores posting here.

by Anonymousreply 2810/24/2011

Is the HIV virus present in pre-cum?

by Anonymousreply 2910/24/2011

The solution is simple, just keep your mouth shut!

by Anonymousreply 3010/24/2011

R23 has it right.

Use a condom if you want to for oral sex but it's overkill and yes there are some men who will have sex with you if you ask them to use them but most bisexual and gay men are not going to want to use a condom for oral sex-it's like eating a steak in saran wrap, or for the vegetarians and vegans eating carrots in the plastic bag they came in.

The only time I have used a condom for getting oral sex was once when I was drunk, having sex with a stranger who I met in a bar who was also drunk, and I lived in an area where there was a very large syphilis outbreak at the time.

If you have canker sores which I sometimes get too OP just don't suck dick when you have them. If I ever get cuts or burns in my mouth I don't suck dick then either until they're healed up, and I don't suck after I'm immediately done flossing and brushing my teeth, or after I've had dental work done.

Personally I only give head to a boyfriend or male partner who I am in a relationship with, and it's fun to 69 too but I do this after we've been tested together and have talked about our sexual history.

I'm bisexual so when I give oral sex to a woman I only do it to a woman who I know and we get tested, talk about our sexual history, and I don't use dental dams.

I don't engage in rimming at all since it's not really something I'm sexually interested in but a friend of mine who does uses dental dams for that since he was exposed to Hep B that way.

If I don't know the guy or we're just dating and getting to know each other then I just get sucked off.

Whoever I'm having sex with I assume is HIV+ or has other STDs and I have safer sex with them. I don't really engage in anal sex at all but when I've put sex toys into men who I dated I just used condoms on them and washed the butt plugs, dildos, and vibrators after and then let them soak in a mixture of bleach and water.

I would like to fuck and top a man with my dick but only if he's a BF/partner and I'd use a condom during sex. For vaginal sex with women I use condoms and I don't do it raw or bare at all even if we are dating.

R28 as myself and others have posted it is entirely possible to be sexually active, have what's known as safer sex-without using condoms all the time for sucking dick or dental dams for eating pussy-and you can protect yourself from HIV and other STDs. No I'm not even that promiscuous but I have had sex with a fair amount of men and women over the decades and I know how to have safer sex.

by Anonymousreply 3110/24/2011

R29. Yes.

by Anonymousreply 3210/24/2011

[quote]I've seen simplex-2 on elbows, stomachs, in mouths and down throats... you get it where you got it. If someone comes on your eye, you won't get herpes on your dick. And most people get simplex-1 as a baby, when lots of people kiss you all the time. Most people reading this already have simplex-1, and they very well might have simplex-2, as its symptoms are often less frequent or severe than expected, and sometimes there are no symptoms at all.

Uh unless you tested these people for HSV1 or 2, you have no clue what kind of herpes virus you saw. The lesions look exactly the same.

by Anonymousreply 3310/24/2011

R33, I was volunteering in a clinic, so yes, I know what kind of herpes virus they were tested positive for. Why did you think I was seeing all of that herp?

by Anonymousreply 3410/24/2011

R34, you date exclusively men who post on Datalounge?

by Anonymousreply 3510/24/2011

I agree with you because you sleep around and are gross.

by Anonymousreply 3610/24/2011

OP if you are THAT worried about HIV or STDs or you get canker sores, cuts, or broken skin in your mouth then don't suck dick, take someone else's cum in your mouth or swallow their cum.

by Anonymousreply 3710/24/2011

[quote]I was volunteering in a clinic, so yes, I know what kind of herpes virus they were tested positive for. Why did you think I was seeing all of that herp?

Yeah sure you did. A herpes type test is expensive and lesions are easy to diagnose in the genital and mouth area. I highly doubt you volunteered in a clinic that would test for herpes on the elbow or stomach.

by Anonymousreply 3810/24/2011

The fact is that almost all adults who are sexually active have the herpes simples virus. My doctor told me that years ago.

by Anonymousreply 3910/24/2011

I also think you're doing the right thing of putting your health first. No guy or sex act should come before your health concerns. I know guys who wish they had put their health first before performing orally without a condom. Five of my pals got diseases from jerks who lied about their health status (two got HVP.) It's very simple: if a guy (I don't care if he's as beautiful and sexy as Tom Selleck was in the 80's), will not honor your request to wear a condom for oral, etc., move on. There are guys out there who actually prefer having oral sex performed on them with a condom. In my opinion, it really says a lot about him and his sexual habits if he refuses. Good luck, keep loving yourself and stand your ground please.

by Anonymousreply 4010/24/2011

Oral sex is not meant to be performed using condoms.

by Anonymousreply 4110/24/2011

here's how, OP.

just slip it on and they IMMEDIATELY start giving the very best blow job ever, and literally make them cum right there from it. this will convince them to use a condom, and who knows, maybe they will they ram that rod right up your poop shoot spontaneously since it's already wrapped.

by Anonymousreply 4210/24/2011

I meant to say: two of my pals got HPV. The others got VD and Hep.

I'm curious OP: what's your age?

by Anonymousreply 4310/24/2011

I insist that my partner wear two condoms, and even then I won't perform fellatio without a dental dam, but he says that for some reason my face in a dental dam is a boner kill for him.

by Anonymousreply 4410/24/2011

op? You can't.

And why teh fuck would you want to?


I'd rather never have sex again than blow a guy (or be blown) with a condom on.

by Anonymousreply 4510/24/2011

You can get throat cancer from oral, so why aren't more guys using condoms?

Doesn't make sense.

by Anonymousreply 4610/24/2011

I read that having an abortion increases your chance of getting throat cancer from oral sex.

by Anonymousreply 4710/24/2011

R47 Medical experts have said getting an abortion increases a woman's chances of getting cancer.

by Anonymousreply 4810/24/2011

Yes, R15, I know. I work in STD control. Also called the real world. But thanks.

These sorts of threads devolve to the paranoids wetting their pants and sharing horror stories. Yes, terrible things happen. No, it's not wise to play with the odds, if the odds are not astronomical. But not everyone on the planet is a disease-ridden sore-pot, either.

by Anonymousreply 4910/24/2011

It is horrible R13 that Medical Health reports on you if you have an STD, phoning all of your friends to let them know that such individual has an STD.

What an invasion of privacy!

by Anonymousreply 5010/24/2011

The medical column in the Catholic Times reported a statistical link to condoms causing cancer.

by Anonymousreply 5110/24/2011

R38, haha, what? Why would I lie about that? I wasn't that aware of the administrative side of things but it was a basic culture, nothing too fancy. I'd be surprised if was as prohibitively expensive as you make it sound.

by Anonymousreply 5210/24/2011

OP, just stop being a whore, darlin.

by Anonymousreply 5310/24/2011

You can't convince anyone to do something that they don't want to do.

Most bisexual and gay men are not going to want to wear a condom while you suck them off or have you wear one if they suck you off.

You will still find people who will suck you off if you wear one so find them, or if you are going on sites just write how you want to do this in your profile, or if you meet people at bars bring condoms with you or tell people before you have sex with them.

by Anonymousreply 5410/24/2011

R17, canker sores are NOT herpes. They are not related to herpes in any way, shape or form. Canker sores are not contagious and may, in fact, be an autoimmune response similar to eczema.

Again, canker sores are NOT herpes. They are NOT contagious.

by Anonymousreply 5510/24/2011

One of the first guys I hooked up with in college insisted we use condoms for oral. He sucked and sucked and I wasn't getting anything out of it. Then I sucked him for about a minute and he came. It didn't seem to bother him at all. Maybe some guys can respond to oral with condoms, but I can't. And sucking a condom is not very fun.

by Anonymousreply 5610/24/2011


by Anonymousreply 5710/26/2011

Put it on with your mouth. You can get warts, herpes, and gonorrhea in your throat.

by Anonymousreply 5810/26/2011

New evidence also links HPV to mouth and throat cancers from oral sex.

So why aren't more men insisting on Condoms for oral?

by Anonymousreply 5910/26/2011

Leave your wedding ring on and explain you have to protect your wife. Duh. It will get him extra hot and bothered. Do I have to do EVERYTHING for you, Francis?

by Anonymousreply 6010/29/2011

OP, hon, please do suck on a condom because the chances are greater that you will inhale it and cause you a frightening death. In other words, kill yourself now before the fear of the unknown gets you.

We won't miss you.

Not in the slightest.

by Anonymousreply 6110/29/2011

Again New evidence also links HPV to mouth and throat cancers from oral sex.

So why aren't more men insisting on Condoms for oral?

by Anonymousreply 6210/29/2011

Is the person who claimed he has his partner use two condoms for real? Why not three, or 12?

BTW, two condoms are more likely to break than one. Condoms aren't made to rub against each other. They tend to stick together and tear that way.

I'm just saying this in case someone takes you seriously.

by Anonymousreply 6310/29/2011

I thought they busted a lot for a heavily marketed product. I always used that as the justification for the dental dam. I'd say "See!". He hates it, but I'd rather wear a Predator looking sex mouth device than get herpes or HIV.

by Anonymousreply 6410/29/2011

hi I do suck or give my dick to suck only with condom.I think it is better to have secure sex then later deal with health problems. I do live in north europe.I also looking for people that wanna have only safe sex.

any one can contact me.

I am 32 yo.

by Anonymousreply 6505/20/2012

Forget it. You 'mos won't wear a condom for the anal. It comes from a deep rooted psychosis, 'mos like yourself yearn to be punished and humiliated. The AIDS is the ultimate humiliation and punishment. A near death sentence and then of course you have to ask for the Food Stamps and the welfare, thus humiliation.

You are so ashamed of being anti-norm that you seek to actively destroy yourself. Much like the model who over eats seeks to destroy her career. Or Michael Jackson who dyed himself white because he hated being black. Then molested kids in another effort to destroy himself.

by Anonymousreply 6605/20/2012

You know, people, there are FLAVORED condoms out there!

In fact, some of them taste better than dick (and definitely better than cum)!

by Anonymousreply 6705/20/2012

I prefer to make sure that my gums are not bleeding and I don't have any open wound or infection in my mouth than to go down on a rubbery tasting cock.

To me sucking without a condom is a risk I am willing to take and remember: Life without risk is no life at all.

by Anonymousreply 6805/20/2012

Why would anyone want to suck on a dick in a condom ferchrisssakes? About the only thing remotely sensual might be the smell of the pubic hair, assuming there was some, likely not these days. Why even bother - buy a rutabaga and go down on it. Jeez Louise

by Anonymousreply 6905/20/2012


by Anonymousreply 7005/20/2012

I am 13 and I already fuck my friend every day and he has a big cock and I suck it all the time ;)

by Anonymousreply 7106/11/2012

OP, you are a weenie. Sucked cock for over 20 years with twice as many men at least. Choose wisely and you'll stay STD-free. Su.cking on rubber sucks, and not in a good way.

by Anonymousreply 7206/11/2012

Seriously, just wash your car real good and then lick the tires.

by Anonymousreply 7306/22/2012

Let them poz your arse.

by Anonymousreply 7406/22/2012

Yeah..for the tool that directed the OP to go buy a dildo...she's waaaay better off then your diseased arse and will also have a better time. Computers are taking over the World and plastic pleasures women more than a man ever could. Go home to mommy. :)

by Anonymousreply 7507/14/2012

Just get over it and take the pill. It's like taking a vitamin.

by Anonymousreply 7607/14/2012

Tell him you have HIV

by Anonymousreply 7707/14/2012

Again New evidence also links HPV to mouth and throat cancers from oral sex.

So why aren't more men insisting on Condoms for oral?

by Anonymousreply 7809/02/2012

Some guys are really into the condom fetish, make it a part of sex play

by Anonymousreply 7909/02/2012

Sorry you have to "convince" partners to wear a condom OP. You'd think they'd insist on it. I know I would.

by Anonymousreply 8009/02/2012

[quote]Again New evidence also links HPV to mouth and throat cancers from oral sex.

The first major study of HPV related oral cancers showed that the number of women who came down with HPV oral cancer dropped from 1974-2004. I doubt less women were sucking dick in those years. Just about every sexually active person will get a strand of HPV in their lifetime and most will clear it in 2 years.

by Anonymousreply 8109/02/2012

I Fuck guys bareback. They nnever insist on a condom

by Anonymousreply 8209/02/2012

Don't be rediculous. You can't get nothing from sucking.

by Anonymousreply 8309/02/2012

[quote] You can't get nothing from sucking.

Oral and neck cancer is nothing.

by Anonymousreply 8409/02/2012

Oh just gargle with a bleach solution, silly.

by Anonymousreply 8509/02/2012

[quote]Don't be rediculous. You can't get nothing from sucking.

oh, dear

by Anonymousreply 8609/02/2012

[quote]Oral and neck cancer is nothing.

There are about 25000 HPV related cancers in the US a year (penile, cervical, vaginal, anal, and head and neck). Compare those combined totals to pancreatic, ovarian, breast, bladder, kidney, prostate, lymphomas, and colo/rectal cancers.

The same group that has done these studies has also done studies on oral HPV infections and the studies show that it is VERY rare and if you smoke you have a greater risk of getting it.

BTW some of these studies have been largely funded by Merck who manufacturers the gardasil HPV vaccine.

by Anonymousreply 8709/02/2012

oral sex is fine without a condom if you do not have bleeding gums or ulcers in your mouth. The penis can ejaculate in your mouth if it is healthy and you can chose to swallow or spit .. if the semen has been infected by HIV stomach acid will kill that .. it requires a direct link to the blood stream to infect. I suggest you try carrying an antibacterial mouth wash for after though as this may help to contain chlamydia

by Anonymousreply 8809/22/2012

I love how STD has become STI and how Global Warming has become Climate Change, and the people who use these revised terms/phrases are patronizing and obnoxious about it.

by Anonymousreply 8909/22/2012

If it's casual sex with random guy, make them wear a fucking condom. If they don't want to wear one, tell them to fuck off. As a guy I say it's still pleasurable but like others say it's not the same. I only have unprotected oral sex with a steady partner who has been checked. If I hook up with a random girl I would not think twice to not wear a condom.

by Anonymousreply 9009/22/2012

That's interesting, [R51], I didn't know that priests were using condoms.

by Anonymousreply 9109/22/2012

And of course you put some protection on your pussy when you want a guy yo go down on you, right?

by Anonymousreply 9209/27/2012

[quote]Don't be rediculous. You can't get nothing from sucking.

oh, dear

by Anonymousreply 9309/27/2012

[quote]how Global Warming has become Climate Change

that's because it Makes Sense, ignoramus

by Anonymousreply 9409/27/2012

risk is a risk

no glove no love

by Anonymousreply 9509/28/2012

At what point should you say this is one of your terms for oral? It'd be awful to have a guy travel to your place only to have to leave right away because of this.

You might even have to pay his cab fare.

by Anonymousreply 9609/28/2012

R96 you negotiate it before he comes over.

by Anonymousreply 9709/28/2012

Does this mean woman should start wrapping their crotch in cling wrap

by Anonymousreply 9811/18/2012


by Anonymousreply 9907/19/2014

Unzip and reveal your withered, misshapen penis. No one will want to out their mouths on that.

by Anonymousreply 10007/19/2014

If I just got sucked by someone, do I have to worry about STI? I didn't do anything but stand there and enjoy the ride.

by Anonymousreply 10103/05/2015
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